Classically Abby - 5 Ways To Be Sexy That Have NOTHING To Do With The Way You LOOK!

00:00:00.000 Hello, Classic Crew, and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about

00:00:04.320 five ways you can be sexy that have absolutely nothing to do with the way you look.

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00:01:01.860 wanted to mention that before we get into the bulk of today's video. So in today's video, I want to talk

00:01:07.640 about five ways that you can be sexy that have nothing to do with how you look. I think we get

00:01:12.360 really bogged down in trying to look a certain way, focusing on our hair, on our makeup, on our clothes,

00:01:17.960 and that stuff is, I think, important. But what's even more important is you and who you are. And being

00:01:25.360 sexy isn't just about the way you look. It's also about how you present yourself and your personality.

00:01:30.940 So I'm really excited to share these five ways you can be sexy today. I hope you guys enjoy it. So

00:01:37.500 let's just get right into it. Okay, number one, be down for anything. So what I mean by this,

00:01:44.880 something that my husband always said about me when we first got together was he loved that I was

00:01:49.260 down to try new things, that I was always interested in what he had to talk about,

00:01:52.960 and that I was game. That was always the phrase he used, that I was game. I was game to do anything.

00:01:59.980 And there's something really sexy about that. There's something sexy about a woman who isn't 1.00

00:02:05.260 so self-conscious that she won't try new things, or a woman who's just really kind of laid back enough 0.93

00:02:13.660 to allow there to be a plan B. Sometimes when you are just a little too type A, and I'm like that,

00:02:20.860 I can be type A. It means that you also are not flexible, and it means you also are not open to

00:02:26.500 new experiences. And it's really fun and exciting and sexy when a woman is much more open to these

00:02:36.540 things that she's never tried before, or to trying something her husband is excited about, like going

00:02:43.220 to a baseball game if she's never gone, or listening to a new song that he really likes, and being open

00:02:49.160 to hearing it. Just being the kind of woman who isn't always like, everything has to be on my terms,

00:02:54.780 on my schedule, and instead is a little bit more laid back. It's like, yeah, let's try something new.

00:03:00.320 I've never done that. That's really cool. I want to try it. And just getting excited about new experiences.

00:03:07.920 I think that one of the sexiest things that a woman can do is to be excited, to be happy about 0.94

00:03:17.640 being alive. That is just so attractive, and it really attracts a man's attention, is a woman who's

00:03:25.200 excited to be here, and just wants to enjoy life. So that is number one. Number two is be a good cook.

00:03:34.020 A woman who knows her way around the kitchen. Now that's pretty sexy. I think nowadays, a lot of 1.00

00:03:40.920 women take this sort of sad pride in not being able to cook. They're like, oh my, I've never picked up 1.00

00:03:47.460 a pot or a spoon and made, you know, a delicious meal. I don't know how to do that, and I prefer

00:03:54.280 takeout. But there's something so sexy, but also just nurturing, lovely, about a woman who knows how to

00:04:03.580 make a good meal. Everybody knows that men like to be fed. It is like very important to them. They

00:04:10.740 always say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. So if that's the case, it's really

00:04:16.820 lovely and sexy when a woman knows how to do that. And so buy some books or watch some YouTube videos,

00:04:25.060 teach yourself how to cook if you don't know already. It's a skill that you will always need

00:04:30.700 that is so valuable, and it's also very sexy. Number three is be confident in who you are.

00:04:37.880 Honestly, this is probably the most important thing. It doesn't matter how you look. It doesn't

00:04:42.880 matter how your hair looks that day or if your makeup is done or what clothes you're wearing.

00:04:46.920 But if you are confident in your personality, and if you are confident in who you are and in what you

00:04:53.380 look like, then that is the sexiest thing. Again, it comes down to that laid back thing. If you are

00:05:00.920 laid back enough that even if you don't have everything completely done up, you still feel

00:05:06.160 good about yourself, you still know that you are kind of a great person to be around and you are

00:05:12.260 beautiful, then that is sexy. That laid back feeling of I am confident in who I am regardless of how I

00:05:20.680 look today, regardless of, you know, whatever else, that is a very sexy thing. So being confident in

00:05:27.660 who you are, in your personality, and in the way that you look no matter what you do look like that

00:05:33.900 day, that is going to be the sexiest thing. Number four is be straightforward. I think that a woman who 0.99

00:05:41.740 knows what she wants and who can speak to it and knows her views, but also can talk about her feelings

00:05:48.040 openly and doesn't try to beat around the bush or be passive aggressive. That's a very sexy thing

00:05:54.080 because not all women do that. A lot of women are passive aggressive. A lot of women don't speak 1.00

00:05:59.880 their minds. The truth is a lot of men are passive aggressive too, but there's something very sexy

00:06:04.200 about women and men when they can actually just speak honestly and be straightforward and say what's

00:06:10.960 on their mind because you don't have to be constantly stressed about trying to figure out what

00:06:14.700 that person is saying. You don't have to be like, what do they mean? What do they mean? No, you just

00:06:19.500 get it because they're telling you. And that gives you a sense of security that's very sexy. And I know

00:06:26.380 that sounds weird because security doesn't seem to go with being sexy, but the idea is, again, it comes

00:06:30.700 to that feeling of being laid back. You can be more laid back when the person you're interested in,

00:06:36.220 when the person you're married to is straightforward, is able to just tell you what they're thinking.

00:06:42.160 Okay, so here's kind of the interesting thing about this laid back idea. The reason that being laid

00:06:50.260 back is sexy is because sex is more fun when people are relaxed. Sex is more fun when people are able to

00:07:00.420 just go with it and have like a good time. If you are stressed out, if you are type A, sex is not going

00:07:07.220 to be as fun. So that's why this laid back quality that is kind of a through line through everything

00:07:13.660 I'm talking about is what's going to be sexy. That's why. Last but not least is number five, which

00:07:20.880 is retain some mystery. When I think it's an interesting thing because when I say all of the

00:07:28.420 things I've talked about, it's very straightforward, right? It's very confident and sharing your thoughts

00:07:35.000 and your feelings, being very open. And I think a lot of the time people think of sexy as mysterious

00:07:41.120 as like you're not really open and you're not really sharing what you're feeling. And it's kind

00:07:46.380 of like film noir in a sense. But the truth is that that mystery is not sexy beyond like day two.

00:07:55.020 It's okay up until then, but then after that it's just stressful. There are some things though

00:08:00.480 that you should retain some mystery about. For example, not going to the bathroom in front of

00:08:05.380 each other. My husband and I have been married for five years and I still don't use the restroom

00:08:09.820 in front of him. I just would never do that. That's not something he ever needs to see. And I think

00:08:15.320 that that retains some sexiness between us because there are some things that are like, I don't really

00:08:20.220 want to see my wife doing that. Fair enough. I don't really want him to see me doing that. And it just

00:08:24.960 makes it a little bit too, too casual. And it does remove that element of sexiness that is important

00:08:32.620 to like being attracted to one another. So retaining some mystery, stuff like that. I can probably give

00:08:40.280 more examples, but we'll use that one for today is important to being a sexy woman. So those are my

00:08:47.640 five ways that you can be sexy that have nothing to do with the way that you look. Let me know your

00:08:52.940 thoughts in the comments. What other ways do you think you can be sexy without having to talk about

00:08:58.100 the way you look, your hair, your makeup, your clothes, whatever else it is. I'd love to hear

00:09:02.120 your thoughts. Thank you guys so much for watching today's video. If you'd like to subscribe to my

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Classically Abby - January 26, 2023

5 Ways To Be Sexy That Have NOTHING To Do With The Way You LOOK!

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