Classically Abby - October 27, 2021


5 Ways To Start Being Classic RIGHT NOW! ⧸⧸ Dealing with your emotions, becoming a good listener...

Topics
embracing femininity
Hosted by
Abby Shapiro
Mentioned
Jacob
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Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

200.97

Word count

1,733

Sentence count

87

Harmful content

Misogyny

4

sentences flagged

Hate speech

4

sentences flagged


Summary

Summaries generated with gmurro/bart-large-finetuned-filtered-spotify-podcast-summ .

In this episode, I talk about 5 ways you can start being more classic today, right now, by embracing your femininity. Being classic is about being the best version of yourself and embracing your womanhood and femininity, and so I like to talk about easy ways to start that process and things that will start making you feel better about yourself as you improve.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
Topics generated with Qwen2.5-3B-Instruct.
Hosts, guests, and mentioned names generated with spaCy (en_core_web_sm), reconciled against Wikidata.
00:00:00.000 Hello, Classic Crew, and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about
00:00:04.240 five ways to start being classic now.
00:00:12.340 As you can see, I am not at home. I am actually in a very cold climate. It's snowing right now.
00:00:18.100 I'm sitting outside. Jacob and I are taking a little trip together, and it happens to just
00:00:23.400 be gorgeous outside. It's very Christmassy. It's been snowing on and off. If you don't already
00:00:28.580 know, I'm Jewish, but I think that Christmas is such a fun time of the year, and I love seeing
00:00:33.580 other people happy, and the seasonal decor is really pretty, and this all makes me feel very
00:00:38.820 cozy and warm, and also Hanukkah season is coming up, which I love too. So I'm just enjoying being
00:00:44.500 here. Getting to film outside in this snowy weather is super fun, and that's why I'm outside here. I
00:00:51.580 don't know if you can see my breath on camera, but I can see it, which is always really fun. As a kid,
00:00:56.260 I used to love that. I don't know if anyone else used to do that when they were kids. They would
00:00:59.960 just stand outside and into the air to see their breath start to steam. So now that we've got that
00:01:06.140 out of the way, I want to talk about five ways that you can start being classic today, right now,
00:01:13.280 whatever you're doing. Being classic is about being the best version of yourself and embracing your
00:01:17.860 womanhood and femininity, and so I like to talk about easy ways to start that process and things that
00:01:23.900 will start making you feel better about yourself as you improve. So I'm really excited to share these
00:01:29.080 five things with you today. If you haven't already subscribed to my channel, make sure to do that now.
00:01:34.260 You definitely want to keep following, and make sure to subscribe to my Substack newsletter where
00:01:38.480 you'll get access to a ton of exclusive content. By the way, if you hear anything in the background of
00:01:43.260 this video, it's because I'm outside, so you might hear people or something else. So now let's get into it.
00:01:49.060 So the first thing that you can start doing to become more classic today, right now, is to start
00:01:55.760 being more feminine. Now, I think that we don't understand the idea of femininity very well in
00:02:01.500 our modern day and age. Femininity is not just about your outward appearance. It's not just about
00:02:07.220 trying to feel beautiful and all of that kind of thing. It's also about an inward femininity, which is
00:02:13.400 trying to embrace the feminine qualities that make women different from men. So one of the things that 0.71
00:02:19.980 I try to work on, for example, is being more gentle. Trying to approach problems with a gentle hand as
00:02:27.100 opposed to being very harsh and asking things of people in a way that isn't really conducive to good
00:02:33.160 results. I did a whole video on my channel all about five feminine mistakes I was making that weren't 0.80
00:02:39.540 really feminine, that I thought were feminine at the time. And as I've realized what femininity really
00:02:45.140 is about, which I will be honest, I think that the best way to understand femininity is to read about
00:02:50.980 the woman of valor, then I started to understand how I could improve myself as a woman. And so one way to
00:02:58.100 start being more classic is to embrace your femininity. So from an outward appearance perspective, 0.75
00:03:03.940 you'll want to take care of yourself. You'll want to shave. You'll want to put the right kind of creams
00:03:10.020 and oils in your hair so that your hair looks healthy. You'll want to learn little tricks that
00:03:14.980 you can use for your makeup to accentuate your best features. You'll want to choose clothing that
00:03:19.060 accentuates your features without being immodest. That's the outward appearance of femininity. And I
00:03:25.380 love doing that. I think it makes me feel so beautiful and put together and it keeps me on track
00:03:31.540 on days where I'm really not feeling great. But that inward femininity and trying to understand 0.57
00:03:36.980 how you can be more womanly is definitely the first step to being more classic. So check out that 1.00
00:03:43.220 video that I mentioned about five feminine mistakes. I think that'll clarify a little bit more about what
00:03:47.620 I mean when I talk about femininity on the inside. And start incorporating more femininity into your life. 1.00
00:03:53.620 Number two is make friends that share your values and your interests. Once you've found a good friend group,
00:03:59.460 I think you can start to embrace being classic a lot more. When you're surrounded by people who
00:04:03.540 are skeptical of being more classic, people who are skeptical of self-improvement, and people who
00:04:10.980 are skeptical of your classic interests, it's really difficult to pursue them. It's really difficult
00:04:15.940 to actually want to be more classic. But once you find people who share your values and share your
00:04:21.460 interests, then you can do it as a group. You have a support system, you have a support team, and that's a
00:04:26.340 really wonderful, beautiful thing. Having a group of friends that you love, trust, and know that you
00:04:32.260 can go to them for advice, that is just invaluable and will really help you in your process of becoming
00:04:38.980 a classic woman. Number three is read a book that teaches you something. I used to only read fiction
00:04:45.460 because I love fiction. I love getting sucked into a different world and falling in love with characters.
00:04:50.420 I just, I absolutely love reading fiction. It's amazing. But I think something that's really helped
00:04:55.620 me improve is reading books that taught me things, is reading books that informed me or taught me to
00:05:00.740 think differently, or even just taught me to think better. I think that reading nonfiction is really
00:05:06.260 great because it does give you tools to enter the world. Now that's not to say that there is no value
00:05:11.860 in fiction. I think there is a lot we can learn from fiction, but sometimes it's good to like directly
00:05:16.740 learn. And when we're not in school anymore and we don't really have access to education in that way,
00:05:23.060 we have to make our own education. So taking the time to read books that inform us and that teach us
00:05:27.860 something different, teach us how to think, that's a very classic thing to do because it makes you better
00:05:33.060 and it makes you a more rounded person and someone that feels comfortable in many situations because
00:05:38.580 you'll just know more. Number four is center yourself and your thoughts. Keeping calm and collected is
00:05:44.180 something that I think is imperative to being a classic woman. Letting your emotions run away
00:05:49.060 with you is not something that you should allow yourself to do if you can help it. I think a lot
00:05:53.860 of the time we think that our emotions are justified and therefore we can act in any way that we want,
00:05:59.460 but that's just not the case. A lot of the time our emotions are not justified and even if they are,
00:06:05.540 our behaviors that come out of them are definitely not justified. And it's really important for us as
00:06:10.420 classic women to try and understand our emotions so that we can behave in the best way possible 1.00
00:06:15.540 and keeping calm and collected is the best way to do that and learning how to keep calm and collected.
00:06:19.700 So it's not about repressing your emotions, it's about understanding them and then taking better
00:06:25.140 steps to respond better to those emotions. I think something that I've really had to learn is that you
00:06:30.100 don't always have to take your emotions to the nth degree. You can often stop them in their tracks or just
00:06:35.460 learn how to deal with them in a much more productive way. And keeping calm and collected
00:06:40.580 always means that you're going to end up with a much better result at the end of the day
00:06:44.980 because you'll be able to think a little bit more clearly. So understanding your feelings,
00:06:49.220 understanding your thoughts and then taking steps to actually learn how to respond to them so that you
00:06:54.180 can keep collected under pressure and then accomplish more at the end of the day is another way that you
00:06:59.620 can start being classic now. The last thing that you can start doing to be classic right now
00:07:05.220 is to start listening in a really good way. It's very easy to be the kind of listener who
00:07:11.860 wants the conversation to move in a certain direction and so you listen but you're listening
00:07:17.860 so that you can come up with a response as opposed to just listening and then the response will come
00:07:24.100 naturally because you're listening to someone and you're hearing what they have to say. It is such a
00:07:28.580 wonderful thing being around a really good listener and if you're going to be a classic woman you need to 1.00
00:07:33.940 be a good listener because then you're actually engaging with the other person you're talking to
00:07:38.500 as opposed to sort of having almost parallel conversations where you're each trying to think
00:07:42.820 of what to say next. That's never as good of a conversation as when you're each listening to one
00:07:47.780 another. So learning how to listen, learning how not to stress about what your next response will be
00:07:53.540 will make you more classic over time and that's something again I've definitely had to learn. I'm
00:07:58.180 somebody who loves to have a good conversation and often I thought a good conversation just meant that it
00:08:02.900 went on for a long time and there were no awkward pauses but that also meant that I wasn't listening
00:08:07.620 as well as I should have. So learning how to listen, focusing on what the other person has to say without
00:08:12.660 worrying about what you need to say is going to make you more classic overall. So those are the five ways
00:08:18.420 that you can start being more classic today. Let me know in the comments what you think. Thank you so
00:08:23.620 much for watching today's video and make sure to subscribe to my channel if you haven't already. If you
00:08:27.620 aren't already subscribed to my Substack newsletter make sure to head over to classicallyabbey.substack.com
00:08:33.140 and I'll see you guys in my next video. Bye!