Classically Abby - 7 Ways To Be CLASSIC Lady! ｜｜ Conservative Women, Here's Your Guide

00:00:00.240 Hello beautiful ladies and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about 1.00

00:00:04.480 seven ways to be an incredibly classic woman. 1.00

00:00:10.540 A few months ago I did a video called five ways to be more classic and I'll link that

00:00:15.040 up above here but the reason I did that was because I talk about being classic all the

00:00:19.040 time but I thought I should give you guys some sort of guide to how to be a more classic

00:00:24.660 woman and today I thought I would give you seven more ways to be classic and I'd love

00:00:28.640 to make this into a series I think there's a lot of different ways that we can be classic

00:00:32.600 I think I could do a series just about how to do your makeup in a classic way or how to

00:00:36.020 dress in a classic way but I really like the idea of there are some basic things that we

00:00:40.880 as women can do to be the most classic version of ourselves. 1.00

00:00:45.640 So let's get into it.

00:00:46.860 The first thing I want to talk about is to eat like a lady. 1.00

00:00:50.800 Now I think that if you want to be a classic woman eating like a lady is very high on the 1.00

00:00:55.320 list.

00:00:56.320 So what does that mean?

00:00:57.320 Well it definitely means a few things.

00:00:58.960 I think the first thing is to eat in a way that's mindful and healthy for your body.

00:01:03.200 Now that doesn't mean that you can't ever order a burger or that you can't have a slice

00:01:07.120 of cake every now and then.

00:01:08.700 Absolutely not.

00:01:09.700 I have a really bad sweet tooth so I'm not saying that you can't indulge in that every

00:01:15.640 so often or even more than every so often but it really comes down to trying to eat in

00:01:20.320 a way that's healthy and mindful for your body most of the time so that you're actually

00:01:24.880 taking care of yourself because that is the most classic thing is taking care of yourself.

00:01:29.800 But outside of what you're actually eating let's talk about the way that you eat.

00:01:34.080 Something I think is really important and something I've been made more aware of getting married

00:01:38.260 and it is burping. Burping is not ladylike at all. When I was in college I used to think

00:01:44.500 it was hilarious to burp really loudly and it wasn't until I decided that I wanted to

00:01:49.060 be more of a classic woman that I realized you know what that's not a ladylike thing to 0.99

00:01:52.740 do. It's kind of gross. No one wants to hear it and it's kind of only funny to you. 0.90

00:01:57.580 So burping is one of those things that if you can't avoid it do and if you can't burp

00:02:03.460 into your hand or into your napkin so that it doesn't draw attention to itself. I say

00:02:07.620 this because I have a little bit of trouble with burping. If I drink anything that has

00:02:11.340 carbonation for some reason I burp a lot so I have to be really careful about this.

00:02:15.940 So this isn't something that I say oh it's easy don't burp. It's not about actually burping

00:02:20.940 it's about drawing attention to your burping and making it like a whole thing. Don't do that.

00:02:25.180 Not ladylike. Another way you can eat and be more ladylike is putting a napkin on your 0.97

00:02:30.040 lap. Putting a napkin on your lap will make it so that if you spill it doesn't get on your

00:02:33.560 dress or your pants and that's not something that you have to deal with later. And also

00:02:37.760 it just kind of looks like hey I take care of my clothing. I take care of myself and I

00:02:42.800 don't want to get food on me. So of course anybody can spill so it's really just taking

00:02:48.080 precautions. Eating like a lady is kind of outdated in a lot of ways. You see a lot of 1.00

00:02:53.260 these kind of female empowerment things all about eating whatever you want whenever you 1.00

00:02:57.080 want and eating like a slob. And I just hate the whole idea of that. Of course you're hanging 1.00

00:03:02.880 out with your husband. It's a late night. You guys are watching a movie together. Yeah you're

00:03:06.960 going to eat pizza in your pajamas. But most of the time if you're dating or even if you're

00:03:12.080 around people that you're friends with you don't really want to be the kind of person who's

00:03:15.640 getting pizza sauce on your pajamas. It's not really a ladylike thing. You want to be the kind of woman that if a man wants to take a 1.00

00:03:23.240 you out to a fancy restaurant for date night he's not worried that you're not going to know what to do.

00:03:27.800 One of the things that's probably not necessary but I just absolutely love is the whole idea of elegance

00:03:33.640 and kind of knowing what fort goes with what. So one of the fun things you can do if you want to invest time in ladylike manners

00:03:42.040 is learning what each of the pieces of cutlery is for when you have a full set out on the table.

00:03:47.560 So basically you mostly just want to work your way in. So whatever's on the outside is what you start with.

00:03:52.120 So that's what the first course is for and then the next course. And I think that if there's a spoon

00:03:55.720 on the top of the plate that's for dessert. So that kind of stuff. Kind of fun to know. Makes you feel

00:04:01.380 more like a lady if you're out at a fancy event and you're worried about it. And it's kind of just

00:04:05.740 something nice. Makes me think of Downton Abbey. And I personally loved that show so I would absolutely

00:04:11.480 love to know which fork goes with which course. My next piece of advice is to find a hobby. Now I have

00:04:17.880 a whole video about feminine hobbies and classic hobbies and I just absolutely love the idea of

00:04:23.640 having something that you want to invest your time in because you just enjoy it. It's a very classic

00:04:28.760 thing to have interests and not just to kind of waste your time on your phone. Because hey, I'm the first

00:04:35.240 person to say that I waste time on my phone. So that is not a criticism. That is a recognition of it's a very

00:04:40.840 attractive thing to want to do. You want to be on your phone all day. But having feminine and classic 0.85

00:04:46.120 hobbies is something that is just a beautiful thing for a woman to do. You have these passions, 1.00

00:04:52.200 these interests, and you know a lot about them. Or they're very calming and you have something to show

00:04:56.440 for your work at the end of the day. I think that gardening or sewing or painting, writing, drawing,

00:05:02.760 all of those kinds of things, if you find one of those things is interesting to you, really taking the

00:05:07.720 time to learn about it, get better at it, practice it, maybe even picking up an instrument. All of

00:05:13.320 those things are just so classic and they'll make you more of a classic woman because it's so nice to

00:05:19.000 go out to lunch with someone who has a bunch of interests, who knows a lot about things. Actually,

00:05:24.040 funnily enough, my husband has so many interests and that's one of the reasons I absolutely love going

00:05:29.400 to lunch with him. I feel like we're never going to run out of things to talk about. And being the kind of

00:05:33.480 woman who has a lot of interests, who invests time into her passions, and spends time on her hobbies,

00:05:39.000 that'll make you a really classic woman. Number three is take care in designing your home. Now I 0.99

00:05:45.400 love interior design. I think it is so much fun and I love how much of a difference one couch can

00:05:51.880 make from another. And so I think one of the things that's very classic is spending time and thinking

00:05:57.480 about what will make your house a home and how to make it beautiful, welcoming, and very much in your

00:06:04.360 style. And not just picking up the easiest thing that you can and not really putting any thought

00:06:09.080 into it. I do want to say of course we all shop at Ikea so it's not to say that it has to be expensive.

00:06:15.240 It just means don't pick up the first thing that's there and it's just utility. You want to pick up

00:06:20.040 things that are actually going to fit together so that when people walk into your house they can tell

00:06:23.880 that you put thought into it and that you actually care about what goes on your walls or what you put

00:06:28.600 your books into. Or if you have a chest maybe it has some meaning to you. And all of those things will

00:06:34.040 make your house look and feel classic and will make people want to come again and again. Having a home

00:06:40.280 that's really welcoming, well thought out, very much your personality and it's reflected in your furniture,

00:06:46.600 your art, everything around you is just going to make it feel like you actually know who you are and

00:06:52.600 what you want and what your house to look like. So having a classic home and really taking the time

00:06:57.400 to make it feel like yours and really just thinking carefully about each piece that you bring into

00:07:02.920 your home is going to make your home feel so much more classic and so much more you. Number four is

00:07:09.720 wear jewelry. Ah, I love jewelry. I don't know if you guys know this about me but I do. I love jewelry.

00:07:16.360 I think it is so much fun and I love being able to pick out certain things every day.

00:07:21.080 But sometimes jewelry is not people's favorite thing. If you are not the kind of person who loves

00:07:26.200 jewelry and who really just needs something that they can put on and never think about,

00:07:30.040 that is absolutely fine. But just taking the time and picking out those pieces that you really love

00:07:35.960 and that will add to your wardrobe and make you feel more feminine and classic, it always makes you

00:07:40.360 look like you've put in just a little bit more thought into your outfit. If you have a whole outfit on

00:07:45.480 but no accessories, it doesn't necessarily feel like it's completed. But if you have on a pair of

00:07:50.520 earrings or you picked a purse that matches or you have a nice pair of shoes on that really goes,

00:07:55.080 that really makes it look like you have thought about the entire thing from head to toe. And that

00:08:00.360 is very, very classic. If you're the kind of woman who doesn't want to think about your jewelry, 0.74

00:08:04.520 then just get a small pair of maybe silver hoops. You can just keep them on forever. You don't even have

00:08:08.600 to think about it. And you can sleep in them, which is also really nice. And another thing you can do if you

00:08:12.440 don't really care so much about your accessories is just a small silver necklace or gold necklace

00:08:17.320 that won't tarnish or make your neck turn green. Those kinds of things will go with pretty much

00:08:21.880 everything and will look really nice just over time. It makes it look like you've invested that

00:08:26.280 little bit of extra time to make sure you look completely classic. And if you're more into accessories,

00:08:32.360 let's talk about it. Leave it in the comments below. What are your favorite kinds of earrings,

00:08:35.960 necklaces? Do you like big statement necklaces? Do you like hoops or dangly earrings? Oh my gosh,

00:08:40.200 I love jewelry. I love jewelry so much. And you can choose things that go with the outfit for each

00:08:45.960 thing. So you can have bigger earrings if you're wearing something that's a little bit more

00:08:49.000 understated or you can have smaller earrings if you're wearing something that's very showy

00:08:53.000 and it will just match. So that also works and you can have just a lot of variety in your jewelry

00:08:59.400 wardrobe. Now my last piece of advice for wearing jewelry is wearing a watch. I think wearing a watch is

00:09:05.400 like the most classic thing you can do as a woman. I love wearing watches because think about it like

00:09:10.840 this. When you're at dinner with somebody you don't want to pull out your phone when you're sitting

00:09:15.080 with them to check the time. If you're wearing a watch you can just subtly glance to see what time

00:09:19.880 it is and they don't even know. There's a lot of great things about having a watch on. You don't have

00:09:25.080 to grab your phone which immediately turns into a distraction. You don't have to check your phone

00:09:28.520 at the table which can be rude. You just have something on that you can check the time and it's a really

00:09:33.320 pretty accessory piece. You can find a few if you like changing out your accessories or you can just

00:09:37.880 find one that goes with everything. And I love watches. I think that they go with pretty much

00:09:41.800 every outfit and you'll never regret having one on. Number five is learn to be good with children.

00:09:48.040 This is such a big one. I think that a lot of women nowadays are scared of having kids and it is so

00:09:53.640 classic and feminine if you are good with children. It's never going to be a bad thing for you to be good

00:09:59.400 with children. So if you are afraid of children you should learn to face that fear and hang out

00:10:04.120 with them. They're actually really fun. Babies are so cute. And if you're just at someone's house

00:10:10.200 they really don't take that much attention at all because they really just need to sleep in your arms.

00:10:14.120 Of course if you actually have a baby that's a whole different story. You have to clean up to them, 0.83

00:10:17.640 wake up with them in the night. But if you're just at someone's house and you know that you're a

00:10:20.840 little bit anxious about children ask if you can hold a baby. And then as they get a little bit older,

00:10:25.080 two, three, four, kids are really fun. You can play games with them, tell stories, just learning

00:10:31.320 how to act around kids so that you feel more confident when you are going to be a mom is a

00:10:36.280 lovely thing. And also it's attractive to men if you know how to hang out with kids. It's not saying

00:10:41.000 that you necessarily have to love hanging out with kids that aren't yours because a lot of women 1.00

00:10:45.160 don't have fun with kids until it's their own. But being good with kids, being able to handle being

00:10:50.200 around kids is really important as a woman. And like I said, it's never a bad thing. It's just a

00:10:55.640 thing that you should be comfortable with because you're gonna be around kids in your life. It's gonna

00:10:59.880 happen. Even if you decide not to have children, you're gonna be around kids in your life at some

00:11:04.200 point. So being afraid of them, probably not the best idea. Being good with them will end up being

00:11:08.520 really a good thing for you and will make you a very classic woman. Number six is be a good hostess. 1.00

00:11:15.000 And I mean that if you're having a meal or if you're having guests. Being a good hostess is so

00:11:21.000 important and I love hosting so maybe I should do a whole video about it. Let me know in the comments

00:11:26.200 below if you'd like to see a whole video about how I like to host, if I'm having guests sleeping over,

00:11:30.760 or if we're just hosting a lunch or a dinner or something. Let me know if you guys would like to

00:11:34.520 see something like that. But being a good hostess is so classic and there are so many great ways you can

00:11:40.120 do that. Just making people feel welcome in your home and keeping a clean home when people come

00:11:45.240 over. That is so important and I think it's something people discount. But when you walk

00:11:50.040 into a house that's messy, I know that I feel a little bit uncomfortable. I'm like, are they prepared

00:11:54.760 for me to come over? Are they a little bit busy? Should I really be here? But if I walk into someone's

00:12:00.040 home and it's clean, then I know that they were expecting me and I know that they were prepared.

00:12:04.360 So if you are hosting people, do the same courtesy to them. Keep your house clean for them and just

00:12:10.520 imagine if you were staying at someone all the little amenities you would like to have. So when we

00:12:14.600 have people over for dinner, I like to offer a glass of wine just to set people at ease right away

00:12:19.480 and I like to tell them that if they need anything, they can absolutely come and ask me

00:12:23.800 and I like to set the table in a really beautiful way, that kind of thing. Or if we're hosting people

00:12:28.840 for staying over and they're going to be sleeping here, we like to keep that room really clean

00:12:33.720 and welcoming and having a cup of water available for them if they need it. Almost as if you were

00:12:39.000 hosting at a hotel or a bed and breakfast what people would like to have. Because hey, sometimes

00:12:44.360 it's awkward to ask if you can have a towel or something, but if it's already out for you,

00:12:48.120 then you don't even have to worry about it. So even leaving a little snack for them if you think

00:12:52.120 that they're going to be spending a lot of time in their room and just making people feel welcome and

00:12:57.080 at home. Because there is a chance when you're staying at someone's house, it can be a little bit

00:13:01.080 awkward. You're taking up a lot of space in someone else's home. But if you make it clear

00:13:05.480 that you don't feel like they're taking up space, that you want them there, that you're prepared,

00:13:09.640 that's a really good way to make people feel comfortable. And that will make your guests feel

00:13:14.200 like they're staying in a classic ladies home. My last piece of advice, and I am saying this to 1.00

00:13:20.120 myself so I'm not just saying it to you guys, is get off your phone. Getting off your phone is the

00:13:26.040 first step to being classic. Your phone is a distraction pit. And I know it because I'm

00:13:31.480 staring at my phone right here and I have it on airplane mode so that the mic doesn't get messed up.

00:13:36.600 But I know myself how easy it is to waste time if you're on your phone all the time. And one of

00:13:42.760 the best things about being alive is all of the other experiences we get to have. So if I'm going for

00:13:47.800 a walk, I actually have to work hard to convince myself not to take my phone with me and listen to a

00:13:52.440 podcast, maybe I just want to take in nature. And that is so nice when you actually do it.

00:13:58.440 And turning off your phone sometimes just to read or to draw or whatever it is, is such a relief.

00:14:04.760 Your brain can disconnect from social media, disconnect from all of the stuff that's distracting

00:14:09.480 you and just really focus. Now, if you want to use your phone to play music, that I think is fair enough

00:14:16.600 and I understand it, but it's sometimes just having your phone on at all can be the major distraction.

00:14:22.280 So consider taking some time off during the day and keeping your phone in the other room or turning

00:14:27.480 it off so that you can actually focus on something without that pull towards the distraction of your

00:14:33.960 phone so you can do all of the other things that make you classic. So you can read or go to museums

00:14:39.720 or play the piano or whatever it is that makes you feel really classic. The phone is not going to

00:14:45.400 help with that. Now, as I said before, I struggle with this. I try to stay off my phone as much as

00:14:49.480 possible, but I actually am not great about it. So I am constantly working on this. But I know that

00:14:54.360 the days that I don't go on my phone as much, I actually feel like more of a classic woman.

00:14:58.840 So let me know in the comments if you struggle with your phone, if you feel like you waste too

00:15:02.440 much time on your phone because, hey, we all do. I know that I do. Thank you guys so much for watching

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Classically Abby - May 29, 2020

7 Ways To Be CLASSIC Lady! ｜｜ Conservative Women, Here's Your Guide

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