7 Ways To Be CLASSIC Lady! ｜｜ Conservative Women, Here's Your Guide
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A few months ago, I did a video called 5 ways to be a more classic woman. I think there are a lot of different ways that we can be a classic woman, and I d love to make this into a series. But I really like the idea of there are some basic things we as women can do to be the most classic version of ourselves.
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Hello beautiful ladies and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about
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A few months ago I did a video called five ways to be more classic and I'll link that
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up above here but the reason I did that was because I talk about being classic all the
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time but I thought I should give you guys some sort of guide to how to be a more classic
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woman and today I thought I would give you seven more ways to be classic and I'd love
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to make this into a series I think there's a lot of different ways that we can be classic
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I think I could do a series just about how to do your makeup in a classic way or how to
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dress in a classic way but I really like the idea of there are some basic things that we
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as women can do to be the most classic version of ourselves.
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The first thing I want to talk about is to eat like a lady.
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Now I think that if you want to be a classic woman eating like a lady is very high on the
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I think the first thing is to eat in a way that's mindful and healthy for your body.
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Now that doesn't mean that you can't ever order a burger or that you can't have a slice
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I have a really bad sweet tooth so I'm not saying that you can't indulge in that every
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so often or even more than every so often but it really comes down to trying to eat in
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a way that's healthy and mindful for your body most of the time so that you're actually
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taking care of yourself because that is the most classic thing is taking care of yourself.
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But outside of what you're actually eating let's talk about the way that you eat.
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Something I think is really important and something I've been made more aware of getting married
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and it is burping. Burping is not ladylike at all. When I was in college I used to think
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it was hilarious to burp really loudly and it wasn't until I decided that I wanted to
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be more of a classic woman that I realized you know what that's not a ladylike thing to
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do. It's kind of gross. No one wants to hear it and it's kind of only funny to you.
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So burping is one of those things that if you can't avoid it do and if you can't burp
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into your hand or into your napkin so that it doesn't draw attention to itself. I say
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this because I have a little bit of trouble with burping. If I drink anything that has
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carbonation for some reason I burp a lot so I have to be really careful about this.
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So this isn't something that I say oh it's easy don't burp. It's not about actually burping
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it's about drawing attention to your burping and making it like a whole thing. Don't do that.
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Not ladylike. Another way you can eat and be more ladylike is putting a napkin on your
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lap. Putting a napkin on your lap will make it so that if you spill it doesn't get on your
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dress or your pants and that's not something that you have to deal with later. And also
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it just kind of looks like hey I take care of my clothing. I take care of myself and I
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don't want to get food on me. So of course anybody can spill so it's really just taking
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precautions. Eating like a lady is kind of outdated in a lot of ways. You see a lot of
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these kind of female empowerment things all about eating whatever you want whenever you
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want and eating like a slob. And I just hate the whole idea of that. Of course you're hanging
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out with your husband. It's a late night. You guys are watching a movie together. Yeah you're
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going to eat pizza in your pajamas. But most of the time if you're dating or even if you're
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around people that you're friends with you don't really want to be the kind of person who's
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getting pizza sauce on your pajamas. It's not really a ladylike thing. You want to be the kind of woman that if a man wants to take a
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you out to a fancy restaurant for date night he's not worried that you're not going to know what to do.
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One of the things that's probably not necessary but I just absolutely love is the whole idea of elegance
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and kind of knowing what fort goes with what. So one of the fun things you can do if you want to invest time in ladylike manners
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is learning what each of the pieces of cutlery is for when you have a full set out on the table.
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So basically you mostly just want to work your way in. So whatever's on the outside is what you start with.
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So that's what the first course is for and then the next course. And I think that if there's a spoon
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on the top of the plate that's for dessert. So that kind of stuff. Kind of fun to know. Makes you feel
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more like a lady if you're out at a fancy event and you're worried about it. And it's kind of just
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something nice. Makes me think of Downton Abbey. And I personally loved that show so I would absolutely
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love to know which fork goes with which course. My next piece of advice is to find a hobby. Now I have
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a whole video about feminine hobbies and classic hobbies and I just absolutely love the idea of
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having something that you want to invest your time in because you just enjoy it. It's a very classic
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thing to have interests and not just to kind of waste your time on your phone. Because hey, I'm the first
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person to say that I waste time on my phone. So that is not a criticism. That is a recognition of it's a very
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attractive thing to want to do. You want to be on your phone all day. But having feminine and classic
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hobbies is something that is just a beautiful thing for a woman to do. You have these passions,
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these interests, and you know a lot about them. Or they're very calming and you have something to show
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for your work at the end of the day. I think that gardening or sewing or painting, writing, drawing,
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all of those kinds of things, if you find one of those things is interesting to you, really taking the
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time to learn about it, get better at it, practice it, maybe even picking up an instrument. All of
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those things are just so classic and they'll make you more of a classic woman because it's so nice to
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go out to lunch with someone who has a bunch of interests, who knows a lot about things. Actually,
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funnily enough, my husband has so many interests and that's one of the reasons I absolutely love going
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to lunch with him. I feel like we're never going to run out of things to talk about. And being the kind of
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woman who has a lot of interests, who invests time into her passions, and spends time on her hobbies,
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that'll make you a really classic woman. Number three is take care in designing your home. Now I
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love interior design. I think it is so much fun and I love how much of a difference one couch can
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make from another. And so I think one of the things that's very classic is spending time and thinking
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about what will make your house a home and how to make it beautiful, welcoming, and very much in your
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style. And not just picking up the easiest thing that you can and not really putting any thought
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into it. I do want to say of course we all shop at Ikea so it's not to say that it has to be expensive.
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It just means don't pick up the first thing that's there and it's just utility. You want to pick up
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things that are actually going to fit together so that when people walk into your house they can tell
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that you put thought into it and that you actually care about what goes on your walls or what you put
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your books into. Or if you have a chest maybe it has some meaning to you. And all of those things will
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make your house look and feel classic and will make people want to come again and again. Having a home
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that's really welcoming, well thought out, very much your personality and it's reflected in your furniture,
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your art, everything around you is just going to make it feel like you actually know who you are and
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what you want and what your house to look like. So having a classic home and really taking the time
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to make it feel like yours and really just thinking carefully about each piece that you bring into
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your home is going to make your home feel so much more classic and so much more you. Number four is
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wear jewelry. Ah, I love jewelry. I don't know if you guys know this about me but I do. I love jewelry.
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I think it is so much fun and I love being able to pick out certain things every day.
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But sometimes jewelry is not people's favorite thing. If you are not the kind of person who loves
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jewelry and who really just needs something that they can put on and never think about,
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that is absolutely fine. But just taking the time and picking out those pieces that you really love
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and that will add to your wardrobe and make you feel more feminine and classic, it always makes you
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look like you've put in just a little bit more thought into your outfit. If you have a whole outfit on
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but no accessories, it doesn't necessarily feel like it's completed. But if you have on a pair of
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earrings or you picked a purse that matches or you have a nice pair of shoes on that really goes,
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that really makes it look like you have thought about the entire thing from head to toe. And that
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is very, very classic. If you're the kind of woman who doesn't want to think about your jewelry,
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then just get a small pair of maybe silver hoops. You can just keep them on forever. You don't even have
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to think about it. And you can sleep in them, which is also really nice. And another thing you can do if you
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don't really care so much about your accessories is just a small silver necklace or gold necklace
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that won't tarnish or make your neck turn green. Those kinds of things will go with pretty much
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everything and will look really nice just over time. It makes it look like you've invested that
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little bit of extra time to make sure you look completely classic. And if you're more into accessories,
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let's talk about it. Leave it in the comments below. What are your favorite kinds of earrings,
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necklaces? Do you like big statement necklaces? Do you like hoops or dangly earrings? Oh my gosh,
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I love jewelry. I love jewelry so much. And you can choose things that go with the outfit for each
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thing. So you can have bigger earrings if you're wearing something that's a little bit more
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understated or you can have smaller earrings if you're wearing something that's very showy
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and it will just match. So that also works and you can have just a lot of variety in your jewelry
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wardrobe. Now my last piece of advice for wearing jewelry is wearing a watch. I think wearing a watch is
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like the most classic thing you can do as a woman. I love wearing watches because think about it like
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this. When you're at dinner with somebody you don't want to pull out your phone when you're sitting
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with them to check the time. If you're wearing a watch you can just subtly glance to see what time
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it is and they don't even know. There's a lot of great things about having a watch on. You don't have
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to grab your phone which immediately turns into a distraction. You don't have to check your phone
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at the table which can be rude. You just have something on that you can check the time and it's a really
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pretty accessory piece. You can find a few if you like changing out your accessories or you can just
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find one that goes with everything. And I love watches. I think that they go with pretty much
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every outfit and you'll never regret having one on. Number five is learn to be good with children.
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This is such a big one. I think that a lot of women nowadays are scared of having kids and it is so
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classic and feminine if you are good with children. It's never going to be a bad thing for you to be good
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with children. So if you are afraid of children you should learn to face that fear and hang out
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with them. They're actually really fun. Babies are so cute. And if you're just at someone's house
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they really don't take that much attention at all because they really just need to sleep in your arms.
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Of course if you actually have a baby that's a whole different story. You have to clean up to them,
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wake up with them in the night. But if you're just at someone's house and you know that you're a
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little bit anxious about children ask if you can hold a baby. And then as they get a little bit older,
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two, three, four, kids are really fun. You can play games with them, tell stories, just learning
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how to act around kids so that you feel more confident when you are going to be a mom is a
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lovely thing. And also it's attractive to men if you know how to hang out with kids. It's not saying
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that you necessarily have to love hanging out with kids that aren't yours because a lot of women
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don't have fun with kids until it's their own. But being good with kids, being able to handle being
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around kids is really important as a woman. And like I said, it's never a bad thing. It's just a
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thing that you should be comfortable with because you're gonna be around kids in your life. It's gonna
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happen. Even if you decide not to have children, you're gonna be around kids in your life at some
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point. So being afraid of them, probably not the best idea. Being good with them will end up being
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really a good thing for you and will make you a very classic woman. Number six is be a good hostess.
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And I mean that if you're having a meal or if you're having guests. Being a good hostess is so
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important and I love hosting so maybe I should do a whole video about it. Let me know in the comments
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below if you'd like to see a whole video about how I like to host, if I'm having guests sleeping over,
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or if we're just hosting a lunch or a dinner or something. Let me know if you guys would like to
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see something like that. But being a good hostess is so classic and there are so many great ways you can
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do that. Just making people feel welcome in your home and keeping a clean home when people come
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over. That is so important and I think it's something people discount. But when you walk
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into a house that's messy, I know that I feel a little bit uncomfortable. I'm like, are they prepared
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for me to come over? Are they a little bit busy? Should I really be here? But if I walk into someone's
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home and it's clean, then I know that they were expecting me and I know that they were prepared.
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So if you are hosting people, do the same courtesy to them. Keep your house clean for them and just
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imagine if you were staying at someone all the little amenities you would like to have. So when we
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have people over for dinner, I like to offer a glass of wine just to set people at ease right away
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and I like to tell them that if they need anything, they can absolutely come and ask me
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and I like to set the table in a really beautiful way, that kind of thing. Or if we're hosting people
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for staying over and they're going to be sleeping here, we like to keep that room really clean
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and welcoming and having a cup of water available for them if they need it. Almost as if you were
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hosting at a hotel or a bed and breakfast what people would like to have. Because hey, sometimes
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it's awkward to ask if you can have a towel or something, but if it's already out for you,
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then you don't even have to worry about it. So even leaving a little snack for them if you think
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that they're going to be spending a lot of time in their room and just making people feel welcome and
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at home. Because there is a chance when you're staying at someone's house, it can be a little bit
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awkward. You're taking up a lot of space in someone else's home. But if you make it clear
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that you don't feel like they're taking up space, that you want them there, that you're prepared,
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that's a really good way to make people feel comfortable. And that will make your guests feel
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like they're staying in a classic ladies home. My last piece of advice, and I am saying this to
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myself so I'm not just saying it to you guys, is get off your phone. Getting off your phone is the
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first step to being classic. Your phone is a distraction pit. And I know it because I'm
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staring at my phone right here and I have it on airplane mode so that the mic doesn't get messed up.
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But I know myself how easy it is to waste time if you're on your phone all the time. And one of
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the best things about being alive is all of the other experiences we get to have. So if I'm going for
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a walk, I actually have to work hard to convince myself not to take my phone with me and listen to a
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podcast, maybe I just want to take in nature. And that is so nice when you actually do it.
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And turning off your phone sometimes just to read or to draw or whatever it is, is such a relief.
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Your brain can disconnect from social media, disconnect from all of the stuff that's distracting
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you and just really focus. Now, if you want to use your phone to play music, that I think is fair enough
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and I understand it, but it's sometimes just having your phone on at all can be the major distraction.
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So consider taking some time off during the day and keeping your phone in the other room or turning
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it off so that you can actually focus on something without that pull towards the distraction of your
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phone so you can do all of the other things that make you classic. So you can read or go to museums
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or play the piano or whatever it is that makes you feel really classic. The phone is not going to
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help with that. Now, as I said before, I struggle with this. I try to stay off my phone as much as
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possible, but I actually am not great about it. So I am constantly working on this. But I know that
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the days that I don't go on my phone as much, I actually feel like more of a classic woman.
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So let me know in the comments if you struggle with your phone, if you feel like you waste too
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much time on your phone because, hey, we all do. I know that I do. Thank you guys so much for watching
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