Classically Abby - How To Be The PERFECT Guest 🧳 ｜｜ You'll be invited back again and again!

00:00:00.160 Hello beautiful ladies and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about 1.00

00:00:04.480 how to be the perfect guest.

00:00:09.520 So a couple of weeks ago I did a video on how to be a great hostess and I thought I would follow

00:00:14.400 up that video with how to be a great guest. Now if you've ever stayed at somebody's house it can

00:00:18.480 be a little bit tricky figuring out how to navigate how to be a great guest not be in the way

00:00:22.960 and just make the whole experience pleasant for everyone so I thought I would share some of my

00:00:27.360 tips and tricks for how to be the perfect guest that people feel comfortable inviting over and

00:00:31.760 over again. Now here I'm primarily talking about being an overnight guest so if you're staying

00:00:36.160 over at a friend's or with a family member I'm not really talking about how to be a great dinner

00:00:41.120 guest but I can throw in some tips and tricks here and there about that too. So let's get into it.

00:00:46.400 Now most of my advice for being a good guest in somebody's house falls under the category of being

00:00:50.880 clean. So a lot of it is just different ways that you can help the hostess by cleaning up after

00:00:55.680 yourself so they don't have a huge mess to take care of when you leave and it's always good to

00:01:00.640 kind of have an idea of what that entails. Now what I will say is that for myself I didn't do a lot of

00:01:06.160 overnight stays with friends and family when I was growing up so I really didn't know all of these

00:01:11.200 tips and tricks to be a good guest. I wasn't the best guest at people's houses because I really didn't

00:01:15.520 know and it wasn't until I stayed with my husband's parents quite a bit that I learned all of

00:01:20.160 this stuff so don't feel bad if you haven't done this before because I definitely wasn't the best

00:01:24.880 guest up until the past couple of years. So being a good guest doesn't necessarily come innately to

00:01:30.080 people it's something you kind of have to learn which is why I really wanted to share this with

00:01:33.200 you because I didn't know it I kind of had to learn on the job and luckily I have wonderful in-laws so

00:01:38.800 my mother-in-law was wonderful about teaching me how to be a good guest and how to be a good hostess

00:01:43.360 but it wasn't necessarily something that I knew just off the bat. So the first thing to keep in mind is just to

00:01:48.640 clean up after yourself. So let's take the example of staying with your in-laws. If you're at their

00:01:53.200 house and you're able to go into their kitchen make food and it's just kind of flexible you're allowed

00:01:57.360 to go into the kitchen and do all of that don't leave things out put everything away or if you're

00:02:02.320 going to use dishes put them in the sink or in the dishwasher. Don't necessarily leave things just

00:02:08.320 out willy-nilly don't leave your belongings willy-nilly everywhere just so that the hostess doesn't

00:02:12.800 constantly feel like she has to pick up after you so just kind of keep things in their place maybe keep

00:02:17.360 everything in your room also it'll make things easier for when you leave you won't have to be

00:02:20.960 looking everywhere for your stuff it'll just all be contained in your bedroom. Another thing you

00:02:25.760 should definitely be doing is making the bed. Every day you get up you should make the bed. Now it's not

00:02:30.480 that the hostess is necessarily going to be popping her head into your bedroom because most of the time 1.00

00:02:34.400 that's not happening but there's something really nice and important about keeping that bed made so that

00:02:38.960 if accidentally you do leave your door open or something like that or if she needs to get something from

00:02:43.840 that room or put something in there for you it's not a mess when she goes in there it feels like

00:02:48.080 you're taking care of the hostess's house and of her things so just making your bed keeping your room

00:02:54.080 somewhat clean even though it is your room will just make everything nicer and easier and make the

00:02:59.600 hostess feel like you respect her space. Now this one is something that you can definitely keep in mind

00:03:04.160 even as a dinner guest but it's also important for if you're staying at someone's house help with the

00:03:08.720 dishes. Make sure that you are always at the ready to help wash the dishes because dishes as we all

00:03:13.760 know is a terrible chore it's not fun and if there's extra people in the house there's going to be

00:03:19.360 extra dishes too so leaving that all for the hostess really isn't very nice. Now a lot of hostesses may 1.00

00:03:24.800 not ask you to help but if you go out of your way to say I'd really love to help I'm going to go out of

00:03:29.920 my way to do this for you or even just doing it before she makes her right to the sink of course 1.00

00:03:34.560 don't invade her space make sure that it's all very respectful but make it known that you are

00:03:39.280 happy to help that it's not something that's a burden on you that you're really there and you

00:03:43.520 understand that this is a big ask to ask someone to wash so many extra dishes when you're staying

00:03:48.400 there so just make sure that you're constantly washing the dishes that you're putting them in

00:03:51.600 the dishwasher and if you're at someone's house for dinner you can put your stuff in the sink and

00:03:55.200 then put it in the dishwasher too of course ask their permission make sure that you're not in their

00:03:59.280 space and that it's all okay but you absolutely should try and help if you can because it's a very

00:04:03.920 nice thing for you to do so that the hostess doesn't have more work to do next up is offer 1.00

00:04:08.560 to help set the table this is true again if you go for dinner or if you're just staying at someone's

00:04:13.040 house if you guys are all doing dinner together make sure you offer to help to set the table

00:04:16.800 help make dinner do whatever you can to make the hostesses life easier just make sure that you're 0.85

00:04:22.160 constantly there recognizing that you can make the whole experience so much easier by not really

00:04:27.600 invading the space and making it feel like you are a stranger there but more that you're there and

00:04:32.000 you're willing to help and of course when you're visiting someone make sure that you take enough

00:04:36.400 space now the hostess may not tell you that she wants you to have some space alone but i will tell

00:04:40.800 you from experience having that little bit of time alone and separate will make sure that there's

00:04:45.760 not a ton of tension building up where you never have alone time alone time is kind of essential

00:04:50.400 for everybody even if people don't recognize it so just taking those moments alone and taking

00:04:56.000 that time so that you're not in each other's faces constantly will make everything a lot easier

00:05:01.360 now when you arrive at the hostess's home make sure that you bring a gift now this can be for

00:05:06.160 dinner or for staying at someone's house if you're coming for dinner make sure to ask if you can bring

00:05:10.400 a side dish a dessert a wine some sort of thing to take some burden off of the hostess again and of 0.64

00:05:16.160 course you can always bring something extra you can bring something nice for the house a dish or

00:05:20.080 whatever or you can just bring wine and dessert whatever you want to bring you definitely should it'll just

00:05:25.680 be a nice show of oh we're at somebody else's house i'm a good guest and i really want to respect

00:05:31.600 their space and that they invite us into it and then of course if you're visiting somebody's house

00:05:36.160 for a few nights bring a gift for them as well in that case so you'd want to bring maybe a bowl

00:05:41.360 again you could always bring a bottle of wine anything that's almost like a housewarming gift but

00:05:46.000 you can also get something that's very tailored to the person you're staying with if it's someone

00:05:49.520 that you love and you know and is a good friend you can always give them something that's a little bit

00:05:52.400 more tailored for them like a book or a notebook or something that just means a lot to them do that

00:05:58.880 or let's say you have a friend who's really good at gardening maybe bringing them a new plant things

00:06:03.200 like that are really meaningful and people will really enjoy it now when you leave there's a very

00:06:07.920 important step of stripping your bed and if you can putting those sheets in the laundry now you don't

00:06:13.600 necessarily have to do that because some hostesses aren't comfortable with you going into their laundry 1.00

00:06:17.520 room but if you get permission it would be so nice for you to at least throw your sheets

00:06:22.240 into the washer because if you don't make it into the dryer that's okay but stripping the bed making

00:06:26.640 sure that the hostess can make the bed for the next guest that they have over makes everything a 0.99

00:06:31.280 lot easier and it's very nice and it also just takes that step away of having to clean up the big mess

00:06:36.800 after guests come so anything you can do to limit that mess so that having guests is a much more

00:06:41.840 enjoyable experience is fantastic and of course make sure you take off the pillowcases too now another nice

00:06:47.840 thing you can offer to do is to make dinner when my husband and i went to my in-laws house we actually

00:06:53.520 had a big talk with the whole family because everybody was staying in the same house for a while

00:06:58.160 and my mother-in-law said okay we're all going to take turns and we're all going to cook dinner and

00:07:01.520 i thought that was a great idea it took some burden off of her it was a fun experience for us

00:07:06.000 each to take a night cooking and kind of experiment and kind of see who cooked and what they made and

00:07:10.880 it's a fun kind of interesting addition to the family vacation but even if your hostess doesn't

00:07:16.560 say okay we're each going to take a night and cook dinner maybe offer to cook dinner if you're

00:07:20.160 staying there for an extended amount of time even if you're there for four days maybe ask if one night

00:07:24.960 you could cook dinner just take some of the burden off and it's just a nice thing to do last but not

00:07:29.840 least don't forget to leave a thank you note you always want to make sure that your hostess feels very

00:07:34.880 loved and that she knows that you're grateful that she gave you the space to stay and that you guys enjoyed

00:07:40.000 your time together because maybe she saves those thank you notes or something like that and it's

00:07:43.280 just a nice gesture so don't forget to leave a note maybe on the bed or just hand it to her as you're

00:07:48.240 leaving and just make the whole event really nice so that's my advice for how to be a really good guest

00:07:54.080 at somebody's house i think it's a good skill to be good at being at someone's house so that they want

00:07:58.640 to invite you back because again you're in somebody's space so you want to make sure that you're being

00:08:02.960 the best version of that and i think it's a nice way to show that you are classic so let me know in the

00:08:08.960 comments below what you guys think about being a good guest how to be a better guest at somebody's

00:08:13.520 house what you should do so that your hostess has a little bit of the burden taken off of her i'd love

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Classically Abby - July 10, 2020

How To Be The PERFECT Guest 🧳 ｜｜ You'll be invited back again and again!

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