Classically Abby - How To Turn Your Apartment From A TURN-OFF To A TURN-ON!

00:00:00.000 Today, let's talk about how your apartment is making it impossible for you to meet the right

00:00:06.060 woman. Hi, and welcome to my channel. My name is Abby, and if you are new here, I would love to

00:00:15.480 have you join and subscribe. So many men have an apartment that really indicates that they are not

00:00:21.160 ready to get married, and I want to share with you five ways you can up your game. Make your 0.56

00:00:26.900 apartment look like a really welcoming, wonderful place, and make it a place where women are going 1.00

00:00:31.940 to think, hey, that's a guy that I could definitely see a future with. Now, if you are new here, you

00:00:37.940 might not know that I believe you should wait to have sex until you're married. So your apartment 0.94

00:00:41.920 is not supposed to be a place where you're going to get a woman into bed, and then that's the end 1.00

00:00:47.140 of it. But when you're dating, you're probably going to end up seeing one another's apartments

00:00:51.120 when you guys are together, and I think it's important that your apartment is a good reflection

00:00:55.160 about who you are, what you can provide in a relationship, and the stability that you could

00:01:00.200 have moving forward. So I'm going to share with you five ways to make your apartment the best

00:01:06.820 argument for why you will be a great husband. Let's just get right into it. Number one is get your bed

00:01:13.520 up off the floor, aka decorate your apartment. So there's kind of this joke online that men just have

00:01:20.060 their mattresses on the floor and don't even think about getting a bed frame. Don't be that guy.

00:01:25.140 Decorate your apartment. Make it look like you put some thought into it. That doesn't mean you have

00:01:29.620 to spend a ton of money on pieces that you're not going to keep forever, but having like a nice bed

00:01:34.500 frame, even thrifting for some furniture makes such a big difference to the look of your apartment.

00:01:40.460 If everything looks like junky and looks like you've had it since your college dorm room,

00:01:44.900 it really gives off a vibe like you aren't going to be able to support and provide for a woman.

00:01:51.020 It makes it look like you haven't put any thought into the space in which you live. And the space in

00:01:55.520 which you live is very important, right? It sets the tone for your day, for your life. And I think if

00:01:59.800 you can buy furniture that's more a reflection of who you are, and again, it doesn't have to be

00:02:03.720 expensive. You can find things on Amazon. You can find things at the thrift store. You can find things

00:02:07.840 at Ikea even. As long as it looks clean, reflects you a little bit, and doesn't just look like college

00:02:14.280 furniture, you are giving off an aura of you know who you are, what you can do, and that makes a woman 1.00

00:02:21.400 feel a lot more comfortable and confident. I think if a woman walks into an apartment, and she sees that

00:02:26.520 the guy doesn't even care what kind of space he lives in, it really doesn't make her feel like, oh, I would

00:02:32.200 like to live with this person. But if she comes into an apartment that definitely has its own unique style,

00:02:38.520 even if it's different from hers, then she's going to think, oh, well, he cares. And a guy who cares

00:02:43.960 is a really attractive thing. Number two is clean your bathroom. And what I mean by that is really

00:02:49.680 clean your apartment. But your bathroom is such a good place to start. Because if you have your

00:02:54.120 entire house cleaned, your entire apartment cleaned, and you come into a bathroom, and there's hair in

00:02:58.980 the sink, and beard shavings on the floor, and dust in the corners, like, it's really unattractive.

00:03:06.300 It's really gross to come into somebody's bathroom and have it be disgusting. Because theoretically,

00:03:11.000 a bathroom is supposed to be where you get clean. So I would say start with your bathroom. And if a

00:03:16.840 girl comes in and sees that your bathroom is clean, she's going to be like, this guy has got it figured

00:03:22.120 out. I remember seeing somewhere that if the base around the toilet is clean, like where the little

00:03:28.680 knobs are on the bottom that hold the screws in, that's how a woman knows that a guy's really got it 1.00

00:03:34.520 together. So if you can even clean around there, around the baseboards, make sure your bathroom looks

00:03:39.720 clean most of the time, that is going to make a really big difference to how you present yourself

00:03:45.960 to somebody. But that applies to your whole apartment. Clean your kitchen, clean your bathroom,

00:03:51.080 clean your bedroom, keep the house tidy, mop and sweep the floors, and really keep that bathroom clean.

00:03:57.080 Because if you can keep your bathroom and your home clean, it means you have enough time to dedicate

00:04:02.440 to being an organized person. It means you don't live in chaos. And that is such a chef's kiss for

00:04:09.160 a woman to see in a man is like, oh, he has got it together. Number three is stock your fridge with 1.00

00:04:15.800 real food. If a woman looks in your fridge and all she sees is takeout boxes and garbage, like she's 1.00

00:04:22.680 gonna think, oh, he doesn't really know how to cook for himself, take care of himself. But if she looks in

00:04:27.640 your fridge and she sees Tupperwares of meal prep, she sees fresh fruit and vegetables, she sees

00:04:33.960 seltzer cans that are like kind of organized. Wow. That is a very attractive quality in a guy,

00:04:40.280 because that means he knows how to take care of himself physically, he's eating well, he's providing

00:04:44.840 for himself. As opposed to the guy who is spending a ton of money on food that he can only eat once,

00:04:50.520 right? Take out. A guy who's ordering so much food out that he doesn't even care about what he's really

00:04:55.720 putting into his body, right? He's not thinking about health. And if you know how to cook a little

00:04:59.720 bit, that's also going to be helpful in a future relationship, in a marriage. So it's really lovely

00:05:04.200 when a woman looks into a guy's fridge and sees what he actually has, right? What he eats, what he

00:05:09.880 cooks, instead of just another box of Chinese food. All of these things, kind of like the way you look,

00:05:16.440 also show to a woman what you have going on in your life. So decorating your apartment, keeping your 0.99

00:05:21.960 bathroom clean, and having a fridge that's well stocked with good and healthy foods are all going

00:05:27.160 to convey to a woman that you've got it figured out. Number four is put up pictures. Now when I'm

00:05:32.840 saying put up pictures, obviously art would fall more into the decor category. But I'm actually

00:05:37.800 talking about having pictures of your friends and family. When I first went to my husband's apartment,

00:05:42.520 I remember that he had so many photos of his family put up all around his apartment. And it really just

00:05:49.800 warmed my heart. It made me feel so good to see how much he cared about the people in his life.

00:05:55.880 And it made me think, wow, he's a guy who's really rooted, has good connections, cares a lot about

00:06:01.080 people. If you have photos of your family and friends, you should definitely put them in frames

00:06:05.720 and display them. It just shows how stable you are, how much a part of something you are. And it makes

00:06:11.880 a woman feel like, oh, this guy isn't just a lone wolf. He's really like part of something bigger than

00:06:16.760 himself. And any guy who considers himself in terms of relationships, rather than just as an

00:06:22.840 individual, is also going to make a really good husband and father. So seeing photos of you with

00:06:27.880 your family, seeing photos of you with your friends, is a real good encouragement to a woman that you are

00:06:34.360 tied down in the best way. You are tied down to the people around you, the people you love,

00:06:39.480 and you want that moving forward. So that is a really good way to convey what you care about.

00:06:44.920 And it's also lovely just to have photos of your friends and family around because they make us happy,

00:06:48.760 don't they? Number five, and last but not least, is have more than just your TV as a center of

00:06:55.560 entertainment. I think that a lot of the time when we live alone, we have a large television,

00:07:00.600 and that is kind of like the focus of our living room. And it seems like that's all you do for

00:07:05.160 entertainment in the evenings. And it can kind of feel, especially as a woman when you walk into a

00:07:09.400 guy's apartment, like, doesn't he have anything else he's interested in? Does he only play video

00:07:14.360 games? Does he only watch TV? It's not that there isn't a place for those things, but is that all he

00:07:20.120 does? So having some board games kind of displayed, or just having to play, or having some books on

00:07:27.640 shelves to show that you read, just having other things available around in your apartment that show

00:07:34.280 your multitude of interests, because I'm sure you have many, is going to show a woman that the TV 0.99

00:07:38.840 isn't the epicenter of your life. I know this sounds funny, but it can be a little, like, exhausting as

00:07:45.320 a woman to see yet another television that is taking the attention of your boyfriend or your spouse 1.00

00:07:52.680 away. And so saying, okay, well, I have a TV, yes, and we like to use it sometimes, yes, but we've got

00:07:58.440 other things to do that we can use to spend time together, and we are interesting people, and it's not

00:08:03.960 just consuming content, but rather it's doing things and creating things. That's something

00:08:09.240 women really like to see. So those are five ways you can make your bachelor pad into your story and 0.99

00:08:16.840 mood board in a sense of, like, here's why you should date me, here's why I'm a good fit for you,

00:08:23.240 and here's why I would be a good husband and father. These are the kinds of things that people don't want

00:08:27.560 to talk about, that first impressions make a really big difference. And so if you can take the time

00:08:33.160 to make a first impression that's really good, then you might end up convincing that girl you

00:08:38.040 really like that you are a chance worth taking. So I hope you guys enjoyed today's video. Let me know

00:08:42.520 your thoughts in the comments below. And if you watched all the way till the end of today's video,

00:08:47.240 leave a lamp emoji. I think that exists, and that'll tell me that you watched all the way to the end.

00:08:52.680 Thank you guys so much for watching. Make sure to subscribe, and I'll see you guys in my next video. Bye!

00:08:58.440 Bye!

Classically Abby - June 05, 2024

How To Turn Your Apartment From A TURN-OFF To A TURN-ON!

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