In this episode of the Freshman Podcast, I talk about why you should not live with your girlfriend. Also, we have a live event coming up in Miami on the 22nd of Feburary where we are hosting a meet and greet and after party. I also talk about how Rumble is going to take over the world.
00:23:51.000But we definitely want to go ahead and give you guys the content that originally started this channel in the first place and not deviate too much from the roots.
00:24:25.000Speaking of Valentine's, today's topic is going to be why you should never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever live with your girl in the same crib.
00:24:50.000And if you've got game, you've got some, like, some riz, whatever you want to call it, she might come to your crib and stay a day or two or three or four or five days at your crib.
00:25:00.000You're like, damn, this is actually pretty good.
00:26:16.000I really do try to, you know, take it from remedial all the way to fairly competent.
00:26:20.000So you guys get an idea of what's going on here, because I do understand and I'm sensitive to the fact that some of you guys might not be aware of some of the geopolitical topics I cover.
00:26:29.000So I try to, you know, cover it all so you guys are able to understand it.
00:26:34.000And if you want to speak on it at a basic level, if you choose to.
00:26:45.000Alright, so moving on smartly, we got like five topics to cover today regarding why you should never live with your girlfriend, long term at least.
00:26:52.000Now, number one, this is pretty simple, pretty basic, but how about everybody?
00:26:56.000You could be white, black, Asian, tall, short, doesn't matter.
00:27:00.000You lose frame control over a period of time.
00:27:03.000Now, you could be the biggest, most, I guess, tallest, most masculine alpha out there.
00:27:10.000We got even our friends at Tate's that live in Romania.
00:27:13.000And they don't live with their girlfriends or wives.
00:28:12.000Bend the knee to her will or her way at some point.
00:28:15.000Now, when it comes to frame, if you have a girl in your life that you're going to be with long term, she has to miss you.
00:28:22.000She has to want to be with you when she's not with you, of course, which means, for example, she's at her crib, she's at work, whatever.
00:28:28.000But if she lives with you and she's actually with you all the time, which is number two, obviously it makes her heart grow fonder, especially with time.
00:28:36.000It's because You're going to be with her all day, non-stop.
00:28:40.000It means you wake up, you get breakfast, you know, she knows when your alarm goes off, she knows what you want to eat, where you go, who's calling you.
00:28:47.000All these things take away the mystery of you being that guy for her.
00:28:50.000Which means, automatically, you become pretty much like a friend or roommate.
00:28:54.000Not lover, not her man, but a roommate.
00:28:57.000The problem is, guys, that this dynamic here is not made for men to progress and succeed successfully because you're going to be becoming a casualty of Circumstances living together.
00:29:10.000I want to say the word cuck, but you become kind of complacent because when you live with a woman, bro, you become almost like in this weird way under her spells.
00:29:22.000I know it sounds crazy, but I can't put it into words, but it's more like you become lazy in a way.
00:29:27.000Which I think is why you should live with your brothers or live with someone that's a man because you're a competitive spirit back and forth or just live by yourself.
00:29:50.000But at the same time, man, living with your girl, guys, I'm telling you right now, we've seen it thousands of times on the show, outside the show, you lose frame and control over a period of time.
00:29:59.000And I think for most people here, if you want to actually have a girlfriend long-term or wife long-term, yeah, you want to test out how things are together.
00:30:05.000But living together for a long period of time, it's never a good idea.
00:30:08.000So number one, again guys, you lose control and frame over a period of time, you don't want that at all in your lifestyle.
00:30:16.000Yeah, look man, I think it's very important for guys to realize that when you live with your girl, what's going to end up happening is you're going to start to inevitably become lazy, softer, you know, convenience breeds familiarity.
00:30:32.000Familiarity breeds contempt when it comes to females.
00:30:35.000You know, girls want a guy that they can't rein in, that they can't control, that is mysterious.
00:30:38.000And a big part of you being able to maintain that attraction is by you not being too available.
00:30:43.000And I know some of you guys are like, what the fuck are you talking about, Myron?
00:30:48.000Female attraction, guys, doesn't make sense.
00:30:50.000This is why so many men struggle with women.
00:30:54.000Because if you look at things from a logically sound perspective, you would think...
00:30:59.000The better you treat her, the more you wait night, the more you be a gentleman, the more time you spend with her, the more you invest, right?
00:31:09.000When it comes to women, women is the one endeavor where the more time you invest, the more resources you put in, the more attention you give it, it actually is detrimental to you, right?
00:31:18.000And this is contrary to everything you've been taught as a man.
00:31:21.000Since the time you were a little boy, what did they do?
00:31:29.000If you do this and you're diligent for 10 to 20 years, you're going to end up becoming successful.
00:31:33.000So everything about the masculine journey is about putting in effort, having merit, and being patient and having delayed gratification.
00:31:40.000The only thing that doesn't abide by these universal laws of success is females.
00:31:47.000Because, ironically enough, the more time and effort you put into them, The more likely you are to lose your investment.
00:31:53.000And I know this is completely backwards, but this is why so many men struggle, especially guys that are smart, mathematically sound, engineers, etc.
00:32:01.000They struggle the most with women because they can't figure them out because it doesn't make sense.
00:32:05.000And the problem is because the female is an emotional creature.
00:32:10.000They're not subject to the familiarity of a math equation or 1 plus 1 is 2 or things making sense.
00:32:18.000Women don't abide by these universal laws of Logic.
00:32:21.000So, with that said, I think step one is to recognize that you're dealing with someone who, quite frankly, doesn't make sense in their sexual strategy.
00:33:32.000So what we say is, look, for a majority of you guys, you're going to almost always be better off not living with your girl.
00:33:38.000girl, you know, outside of some extreme circumstances where like you're someone like Donovan Sharp who lives and breathes this stuff.
00:33:44.000Your wife is intimately involved in your business.
00:33:46.000So it makes a lot of pragmatic sense for her to be living with you because she's literally running a lot of your social media platforms and that convenience helps you run your business better.
00:33:54.000But outside of, you know, circumstances like that, most of you guys, 90% of the time should not be living with your woman.
00:34:00.000Also, to your point, people will choose the wrong girl to live with.
00:34:03.000For example, Donovan knows his woman very well.
00:35:17.000And I think just in general, what Myron is saying here, you're not going to find the right person, maybe.
00:35:23.000And even if you do, the chance that you keep in frame the whole time will be definitely lower because, again, it takes experience and time.
00:35:30.000And to be honest with you guys, it's a chance you're taking.
00:35:33.000So, I would say, in that sense, guys, avoid living with a girl long term.
00:36:34.000She has things come to your house naturally.
00:36:36.000She has the right to do this because she lives in your house, and she's obviously a resident of your house.
00:36:40.000So by default, her even just being there can cause you issues because she has the option to do it to you.
00:36:46.000Now, at the same time, guys, we can't predict what she's going to do anyway, but what I'm saying is the fact that she can actually do it with an option is crazy.
00:36:55.000So my thing is having her in your home...
00:36:58.000For an extended period of time or getting a meal to your house, it's definitely going to be out for you no matter what as well.
00:37:05.000Alright, we could hit some chats here?
00:37:46.000Sluchu says, related to tonight's theme, it'd be cool to discuss strategies on how to build local communities of black men and men, in which we could eventually run the local governments and politics.
00:39:11.000Many of these westernized, first world, common law countries have very strict domestic violence laws.
00:39:20.000And what that basically means is if the police show up, let's say you guys get into an argument and neighbors overhear it, right?
00:39:27.000What ends up happening is the cops show up.
00:39:29.000In many states, guys, and in many jurisdictions, the police have to effectuate an arrest, or they can't leave the premises.
00:39:36.000It didn't always used to be that way, but after so many spouses were killed because police didn't respond to DV calls seriously, what ended up happening is a lot of these jurisdictions mandated laws where one of you has to get arrested that night at least to separate them.
00:40:49.000Because there's laws out there, like the Lautenberg Act, where if you're convicted of a misdemeanor crime of violence, you can't carry a gun anymore.
00:41:08.000So these domestic violence issues, though it could be a misdemeanor, can absolutely have catastrophic implications on your life and in your future, guys.
00:41:18.000So that is something also that you avoid by not living with your woman.
00:41:22.000We had a girl on the show after hours that had a...
00:41:25.000Well, I think it was a boyfriend or her husband.
00:42:34.000Keeps you distracted from your goals and purpose and mission.
00:42:37.000Slow guys actually have goals in place, or they should have goals in place, and having a girlfriend in your life isn't a bad thing, but she's always in your quarters, your living quarters, always next to you, always around you.
00:42:49.000You end up almost like letting things pass by and just go.
00:42:55.000Like I mentioned earlier, you end up saying, oh, you know what?
00:43:12.000But you kind of put things on the side that you should be putting as a priority because, remember, again, if you don't work your job, work your business, guess what she's going to do?
00:43:21.000So, at that point, you put things to the side and put her as a priority, which isn't a bad thing.
00:43:26.000But the problem is that if your business is not a priority or your work is not a priority, you're going to become a lasting horizon anyway.
00:43:32.000So my thing is, like, in that case, guys, remember, if she's a priority in your life before your business and your work, that's an L. And as well, your goals are important.
00:43:40.000But all your goals and your ambition, where are you going to go?
00:44:12.000You want to have her be able to enjoy the relationship.
00:44:15.000So you're going to maybe forego things.
00:44:18.000Thinking that it benefits you and the relationship by doing so, but what you're actually doing is you're actually hurting yourself in the long term.
00:44:24.000So in the short term, when she tells you, oh, don't go to the gym, eat ice cream with me and watch this movie, you might say, okay, I could take one day off the gym.
00:44:31.000You take that one day off the gym, you're eating ice cream with her and hanging out.
00:44:34.000So she's happy right then and there, but what ends up happening is you've actually hurt yourself because what you've done is you've instituted almost like a bomb that's going to explode later on that's going to fuck you up in your mind where you now have created a habit where You're okay with bailing on something you had planned for short-term pleasure with your girlfriend.
00:44:53.000Now, this is all good and dandy the first day, second week, third month, you know, maybe even a year.
00:44:59.000But what ends up happening is you slowly become a bitch the more you do this.
00:45:04.000Now, what's going to happen is you're going to do it more and more because human beings are naturally lazy and naturally want to go ahead and follow the path of least resistance.
00:45:11.000So, when she offers you something like movies and ice cream over you going to the gym and grinding, It's going to be, you know, a welcome distraction.
00:45:18.000And most of you are not going to be able to deny it.
00:45:22.000So it takes a very strong-willed person with an enormous amount of discipline to be able to look at their girl and say, no, no thank you.
00:45:29.000A lot of you guys are going to bend and be like, okay, I watched this movie with you eating ice cream, not knowing that you've basically just created a very bad habit that you will continue to repeat.
00:45:37.000Because if you give up on your goals once, right, it always starts with something small.
00:46:09.000All she's going to do is make you a shell of your former self, make you fatter, stupider, weaker, less strong-willed, and she's going to tell you, hey, delayed gratification is lame.
00:46:30.000This is why it's so important for you guys to get a woman when you're older in life and you have some things established because then you can actually enjoy the fruits of your labor.
00:46:37.000But if you and your wife or your girlfriend are tight in age, she's in her 20s, you're in your 20s, guess what?
00:46:42.000She carries way more sexual market value than you do in the 20s.
00:46:44.000And on top of that, right, you already got her more than likely by the skin of your fucking teeth, especially if she's attractive.
00:46:52.000So you need to be even more 10 toes down on your fucking goals because if you're not, you're going to lose her.
00:46:57.000So the point I'm trying to make, Is this, guys.
00:48:32.000We had to bring in Donald Trump, a fucking president, to literally make an executive order so that men can't compete in women's sports anymore.
00:48:40.000That's how badly these trans people were fucking these bitches up.
00:48:44.000Even being on hormone suppressants, they were destroying them in all athletic regards.
00:48:50.000We have to sign an executive order to fucking stamp it out and make it obvious for everyone.
00:48:55.000Meanwhile, they want to go ahead and call me a fucking misogynist or sexist for acknowledging biological reality where the president had to fucking come in and make a law to keep you bitches from getting your asses whipped by trainees.
00:50:26.000So in essence, guys, having that space in itself gives you the opportunity to work on your craft, your business, or your actual career.
00:50:34.000And you can say no and set a time when you can see her.
00:50:38.000If you live with her, You can still do that too, but it's kind of hard because she'll be like in your face non-stop and it's kind of annoying.
00:51:18.000We all want to boost from our brew, not the bus.
00:51:22.000But many people unknowingly suffer the side effects of low-quality coffee anxiety, insomnia jitters, acidic stomach aches, headaches, and even heart palpitations.
00:53:10.000And number 5, the last one on the list.
00:53:13.000She will expect marriage or be entitled to it at some point.
00:53:17.000So, living with your girlfriend itself is obviously has its issues, but the main thing is that she's going to feel entitled to be your wife next.
00:53:26.000It just means that right now, when you're living with her, she's planning the season of like, I'm going to be his wife.
00:53:32.000Even though she may not have the actions to actually be a wife, in her head she's a wife.
00:53:36.000So by default, when she's entitled to this wife mentality, she's going to say, well, you should know what to do, or you should know how to maneuver, and at some point marry me at the right time.
00:53:48.000Obviously most women want marriage, they want to find a guy that's going to take care of them, be with them, and be a provider.
00:53:53.000But, if you live with her, that kind of exacerbates everything, because now she's like, oh, I live with this guy, he's taking care of everything, the bills, I'm going to be his wife soon.
00:54:02.000So let's say, for example, the time frame was maybe like two to five years.
00:54:20.000The issue is that like right now, how things are, you need to vet a girl properly, which is why we say, guys, don't live with a girlfriend because you need to give at least a year to even live with her.
00:55:20.000But you definitely imply that by living with her as well.
00:55:23.000She might try to put the pressure on you to marry her by you doing that.
00:55:27.000And again, man, you guys forfeit a lot of your power when you live with a girl, man.
00:55:31.000Men don't have the same leverage or relationships that we used to, man.
00:55:34.000So you really got to protect all the angles.
00:55:38.000That you have leverage in the leadership because, quite frankly, she can replace you a lot faster than you can replace her in today's modern sexual marketplace.
00:56:06.000Versus, you know, if a guy comes in and says, you need to date like women and you need to treat them as expendable commodities, well, you get banned off TikTok for that.
00:56:13.000And I know that specifically because I got banned off TikTok for saying, date like a woman.
00:56:16.000Treat them like expendable commodities.
00:56:17.000But if a woman does a video and says, oh yeah, like, just use men.
00:56:28.000Like, exploiting men is completely socially acceptable for women.
00:56:31.000Matter of fact, if I line up 100 women, 90 of them plus are probably going to admit that they've been on a date with a guy that they don't like just to do it.
00:56:40.000For food, maybe an experience or whatever.
00:56:42.000Like, a majority of women have absolutely been on dates with men that they don't give a fuck about or don't like.
00:56:47.000But why are they able to do that and why are they able to do it?
00:56:49.000It's because society incentivizes and encourages women to leverage their options and enjoy life and if that means that a guy's got to foot the bill, who cares?
00:57:27.000Some of you guys sit there and cope and say, no, we're just friends or whatever, but you're over here helping her out, doing mechanical work when she calls you, helping her fucking change the smoke detector and shit.
00:57:37.000Like you're doing all this boyfriend shit, you know, lying to yourself, saying, no, we're just friends.
00:57:41.000But deep down, you know you want to sleep with her, but you're too much of a fucking bitch to admit it.
00:57:44.000So I'm here to tell you guys, do not allow women to use you, okay?
00:58:45.000So this is why marriage in most cases is just a bad fucking deal no matter how you split it.
00:58:51.000The only way that I could see getting married to a woman as feasible in the United States is you need to do it without the state involved.
00:58:59.000You need to do it through a religious ceremony and just go from there.
00:59:02.000But using the state to get involved...
00:59:04.000It's extremely problematic and puts you at a significant disadvantage because we have an entire industry, we have an entire pop culture, we have an entire family court that is created to rob you of your resources and transfer to the woman.
00:59:17.000And the reason why is because they know that the man most of the time is the higher earner, so therefore he is going to be the target of the financial exploitation.
00:59:24.000These people, family judges, family lawyers, family courts, etc., they all exist because men pay.
00:59:37.000So they have zero incentive to help you or protect you when it comes to maintaining your resources.
00:59:44.000And that's what the Marriage Institute does.
00:59:46.000It puts you into a predicament where you are now in a situation where you're in a business deal with an individual that has zero incentive to make it work.
00:59:55.000But they have every incentive to divorce you and ensure that the courts strip you of your resources and allocate it to them.
01:01:34.000Mine's just fucking Chad for free, not living in his house.
01:01:37.000And before you know it, you're out of the house, and Chad is living in your house.
01:01:41.000So it's scary, man, because that could become you at any point in time.
01:01:45.000But even before that, living with a chick, guys, we listed to you five things that will happen to you, and it can happen to any guy, no matter who you are.
01:03:33.000Bro, every guy I know that has lived with a chick, personally that I know, he either had a DV case against him, has either lost a lot of money and time and progress, or lost his career.
01:06:38.000Fresh did it one time, and he said never again.
01:06:40.000Me, I personally don't like it because I think it's important that women respect you, and if you're going to go and pay for sex, she can't respect you while you simultaneously pay her because when you pay her for sexual access, what you're inferring is your time is more valuable than mine.
01:06:55.000Therefore, I must give you a value-loaded exchange, and I give you money on top of my time.
01:08:05.000I talked about this probably yesterday, actually.
01:08:07.000Nines and tens, bro, are community property, guys.
01:08:10.000Also, the problem is, bro, the dude before you that smashed her day in and day out, busts inside of her guts nonstop and gave her an experience that you can't give her, that guy's always going to be there.
01:08:22.000So let's say you wife her up, bro, and she's like, oh, this is my new man.
01:10:37.000You guys get to talk to us once a week just by being a cast club, which is a crazy deal because anybody else is going to charge y'all a bunch of money for this type of shit.