304s STRUGGLE To Stomach This Fact
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Summary
In this episode, the brother and sister duo of the and discuss cheating and mental health in the modern era. Is cheating the norm, is it the exception, and what is the difference between cheaters and cheaters?
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like millionaires they're not cheaters because they have this this this and that
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like there is that and that like in life there is everything of everything like it's not like
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oh because they're millionaires because they think logically or because they have a certain
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lifestyle they don't do that because they are saints that's not like do you know what i mean
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see it's it's interesting because i actually i sort of see both sides on this because like
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where i grew up the cheating just wasn't really that big to be honest um where i grew up and i
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grew up in a pretty like well-off community but at the same time the numbers don't support
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you like at all um it's like the cheating rate is one and this is just self-admitted it's
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one out of four um until you get over 250 000 then it ups to 50 and that's just self-admitted
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so it's probably higher hmm yeah 100 sadly but you know people don't like giving their
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their realities away but what but then it's like then you ask the question how reliable
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as a self-report you know you know okay so go ahead go ahead can i just ask have we moved
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on from that original question no i just want to bring it all the way back because i need
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to give my perspective before we even move on like me as a man forget all of that and
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i'm glad i'm glad what you said my brother go ahead you get me because i feel like every
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time i get my point across people say i'm wrong but i feel like the past the past is very important
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you know i'm trying to say some things build your character some things are part of you
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yes and to be fair it does i'm sorry because if i don't want to do i'm sorry
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no it's true you know what i'm trying to say what you've done you've done so now what i've
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got to pick up baggage i've got to deal with luggage i'm sorry so yeah man for me i don't
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judge anyone i've done a video myself as a man you love the hoes appreciate the hoes
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nothing's wrong with them nothing's wrong with them but for me now marriage i'm sorry but listen
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there are two types of hoes though so basically no no no no and i'm not being i'm not being
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disrespectful there are some people who have been through traumas and sex is their is their
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way of coping so that's how they become a hoes now if they're becoming a hoes from mental
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traumas all right i would like to i'd like to just add one thing what i'm hearing what i'm hearing
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here right here wait wait is an excuse thank you no no no no no no no no no no no no okay okay
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who's who's ad-libbing who's ad-libbing there are some people that if you if you read documents
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and all that they get raped and all that they get oh say grape say grape say grape
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uh-huh they get graped and because i'm saying grape i'm forgetting but but remember they get
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graped so then they kind of they feel depressed and they go through a lot of things and they don't
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they don't they don't respect themselves and that's when that comes out when that comes
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is this the exception or is it the rule no it's not it's not an exception now there's another type
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of hole which they're they they know what they're doing they're sleeping around and they're happy just
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to live that but here's but here's the problem with even the first how the world doesn't owe you
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understanding yeah there's some people that go through that and don't make those choices
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and so if you if you choose to make those choices like it's still the choice you made
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and you can't whine about that but pearly do you know what that's what people underestimate but some
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people we all we all have different hearts we all grow up differently we all go through different
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experiences but it's not and we don't know no but but as as human beings as people we should be
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understanding you can be understanding and treat them with respect and politely but that doesn't
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mean that other men have to date you know but some people actually heal some people when they get love
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and care you know i have to be honest i have to be honest wait before i started this show um i really
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thought healing meant something else i really thought when women like healed they went to therapy
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but i just found healing is like another word for just sleeping around and then they write in their
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journals and they do some meditating guys guys guys stop stop interrupting me stop stop they do some
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meditating and now they're healed no yes no i don't think healing works like that i think healing
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works with actually self-reflecting challenging yourself and think okay how can i how can okay
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i've done this this wasn't very nice and you self-reflect and you figure out how you're going to heal how
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you're going to get through how you're going to treat a situation differently next time i do agree with
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you there's there's learning from experience right um but it's like how many times you got to have the
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same experience before you learn you know what i mean it's like not one two three 20 30 40.
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what about by what i've seen i'm i don't know why but always stranger girls come and talk to me
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and they tell me their whole lives and and what i find sad is and that's why i say like it's so
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important for us as humans to be understanding because some people mentally they're not built like
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that so i i think that we should be less understanding yes no i think i think i think okay i think it's good
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no no i think it's good to be understanding when it comes to mental health but if it's too much no i
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feel like i think that okay nowadays everybody's got a mental health everybody everyone's got anxiety
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everyone's got yeah i remember i remember when oh you know what my least favorite word is now trauma
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trauma trauma trauma used to be about war not your ex-boyfriend cheating on you three times that's not
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trauma that's you but that's yeah that's what i said too but now now this is my trauma i've gone
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through trauma because my ex-boyfriend like no it's supposed to be war because you took me back three
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times so you're the kids yeah but i don't think i don't think i mean go ahead go ahead are you saying
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in most cases when people talk about relationship trauma they're only talking specifically about the
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cheating no they're just hopefully not the money yeah it's it's it's always talking about the
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experience the heartbreak giving no because you know what oh this is giving every giving no pause
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no pause giving giving not giving opportunities giving but this is this is not for them to man up
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when you say when you say when you say when you say giving when you say giving okay one man up what
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about woman up okay it's like yeah it's always the man needs to be better it's like it's like okay
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when you have trauma and it's not even from relationships who's more who's who's more traditional
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men make more than women at large for a lifetime men make more than women women way more than men
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and they have higher body counts than men so so who needs to man up or women in general have higher
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body counts than men yes sorry sorry guys guys guys one person at a time here there's a lot over
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talking support because at the end of the day so one person at a time let the moderator pick the
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person who's talking thank you one out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the
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past year have one out of three women are they virgins or haven't had sex in the past year
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i couldn't it's a bit both i think the world is going um transsexual i need to just say this like
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you've heard stories where men have gloated about oh absolutely 250 women you would never hear a
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woman say that unless she's from only fans you know i'm sorry i've just never experienced that
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conversation yeah because women are going to brag about that stuff and one percent but it goes back
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to a small percentage of men are having a lot of sex that's what he was saying earlier so a small
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percentage of men they're the biggest whore or you know they're man whores right and so you're right
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there are a small percentage of men that are having more sex than women but by and large women are having
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more sex than men i don't know that's scary i'm scared i'm telling you it's all them it's all them
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products i don't be i agree with her you know why because what she's saying i think is that the
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chances of a woman to get more men and hiding it is measured than a man getting a woman and you know
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can i say something please go on sorry sorry carry on i'll say after i'll say after no because
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think about every woman here yeah yeah think about think about your dms yeah think about now think
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about your dms yeah yeah now think about if you really wanted to you could have at least well good
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looking women anyway not saying no do you know what i mean you could you can have at least actually i'd
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like to kind of correct just one thing one thing i'm gonna correct then you can finish um an average
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woman gets more matches on our dating apps than a top one person guy this is what i was just about
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to say if you look at your dms you know for a fact if you rang if you just rang someone or just said
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yeah come true how many geezers could you have as many as you wanted exactly that's what i'm saying so
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realistically women probably do have the more sex we could do if we wanted to yeah but you don't know
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yeah but what she's trying to say is that you don't actually know how many women they say it out loud
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how many men no that's what i'm saying but no i'm just i'm just agreeing with what she said because
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it's the truth because realistically it's done it's the women it is it's literally when you think
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about your dms because this is this crazy place it's a crazy place no one looks at the dms but it's
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also if you if you if you if you walked into a bar and you just you stood in the bar and you said
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i will every geezer here imagine how many would do imagine how many how many members they've done that
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on youtube before so yeah so they have like a girl go up to guys and a guy go up to girls and it's
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like over half the guys are like okay like because she was a cute girl and they had a hot guy go up to