JustPearlyThings - June 11, 2023


He DESTROYED Her With One TRUTH


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Length

9 minutes

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212.80133

Word count

2,048

Sentence count

168

Harmful content

Misogyny

21

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Hate speech

15

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Summary

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Why do men cheat? Why do they do it? How do they cheat? What are the top 5 reasons why men cheat and why does it happen? What is the biggest thing that keeps a man from cheating? Why does a man cheat?

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00:00:00.000 I have a very burning question that's been asked.
00:00:02.480 Okay, one second.
00:00:04.160 Sneeko has to go. 0.66
00:00:06.100 Thank you.
00:00:06.760 Yeah, thanks for coming.
00:00:07.880 I wanted Sneeko to answer this question.
00:00:09.740 Real quick, real quick.
00:00:10.700 Okay, I have a very burning question that's been answered a million times, but I really need to, like, I still don't understand.
00:00:16.740 Why do men cheat?
00:00:18.180 Like, what are the top five reasons to why?
00:00:21.580 It's just on our DNA.
00:00:23.380 It's never going to stop.
00:00:24.300 I don't even think it's worth asking that question.
00:00:26.240 Just accept it.
00:00:26.900 If you want that level of guy, you got to accept it.
00:00:29.740 So there's no reason.
00:00:30.780 It's just a natural thing that they just cheat.
00:00:32.500 It's natural for us to do that, yeah.
00:00:34.320 Could you expand on that?
00:00:36.140 Well, the first thing I want to say is that a man will, you call it cheating.
00:00:39.420 I think a real man is going to tell you how he's going to be from the jump.
00:00:41.900 There's honesty.
00:00:42.580 It's the deceit that's the problem.
00:00:43.820 Every woman knows that if a man could, he would, you know. 1.00
00:00:47.380 So I think the deceit, and not only deceit, is that a lot of times what happens is the man himself is not even showing up how he's supposed to.
00:00:56.400 He's supposed to make this commitment to provide and protect and make your life this wonderful place.
00:01:00.720 And he doesn't.
00:01:02.020 And on top of that, he's a liar and he's a coward because he was scared of you to tell you. 0.64
00:01:07.360 You know what I'm saying?
00:01:07.900 Like, that is the most deceitful thing on the planet because a lot of times when the man is shit, the woman expects sexual exclusivity. 1.00
00:01:15.000 But they don't really expect it from, like we talked about yesterday, they're not really expecting it from Drake now, are they?
00:01:19.740 You know what I'm saying?
00:01:20.580 So it's when a guy doesn't show up, he lies, and he's a coward, where a woman's like, okay, I'm leaving, for sure leaving.
00:01:27.840 But if a man were to sit down, tell the truth, be bold, and a woman is based enough to say, you know what? 0.86
00:01:33.560 Any man on the planet, if he could be rich, powerful, handsome, whatever it is, he would absolutely have all the women that he wanted.
00:01:41.660 I think the thing that women mistake when it comes to the subject of infidelity or sleeping with women is that they feel like he must love her or that they're on the same level as the other woman. 0.88
00:01:54.780 Because a lot of times a woman is less attractive. 1.00
00:01:56.820 That's not true.
00:01:57.620 It's just different.
00:01:59.920 And men and women, women often tend to have sex when they have true feelings for a man.
00:02:05.860 Men are just not that way.
00:02:07.140 You know, so it's the difference between the sexes, but I think what's, I think women already know that. 0.91
00:02:13.320 It's the deceit and the cowardice and the lack of performance from the man that makes a woman leave for that.
00:02:20.200 Because if you've got a real good man, that's a real good father, a real good husband, a real provider, a real partner, a real ride or die,
00:02:26.580 like somebody that'll sit down with you when you're crying about it and like really be there for you and hold it, not cry with you because we ain't crying around here,
00:02:33.220 but be there for you truly and you know that they got you in every way and you trust them and look up to them
00:02:38.240 and they're building you and making you better.
00:02:40.120 Dude, you're not leaving that guy.
00:02:41.580 No way.
00:02:44.380 Even if it hurts and even if you're going to say no right now, I've experienced it enough to know that I'm right.
00:02:50.680 Do high value men cheat?
00:02:52.200 Every one of them.
00:02:54.400 No, that's not true.
00:02:55.660 That's actually not true.
00:02:57.220 99%.
00:02:57.900 Thank you for giving that 1%.
00:03:03.420 I appreciate it.
00:03:04.600 I don't want to cap.
00:03:05.660 I think 99% though, yeah.
00:03:07.660 Oh my God.
00:03:08.180 Can we get 95?
00:03:11.440 95 plus Pearl's dad.
00:03:14.040 Thank you.
00:03:14.720 Thank you.
00:03:15.940 And my dad.
00:03:17.040 And that's the thing though, because it used to trigger you a year ago, right?
00:03:19.920 When we'd have this conversation.
00:03:20.940 We've done whole shows about this.
00:03:22.440 Yeah.
00:03:22.720 And now it doesn't.
00:03:23.660 And I think that you see it through a whole other lens.
00:03:25.480 The whole show last night was about it.
00:03:26.680 In the beginning of the show, the girls were pissed. 1.00
00:03:28.180 By the end, they were like, I'd stay.
00:03:30.860 You know?
00:03:31.240 And it's just this ugly truth about the world.
00:03:33.300 I don't like it.
00:03:34.320 I told every girl last night, I would pay a million dollars to cut that feeling off.
00:03:38.300 It is in us.
00:03:39.940 I saw something, a podcast the other day where a man said, if a man cheats, women shouldn't take it personal.
00:03:45.200 They should just suck it up.
00:03:46.500 Do you agree?
00:03:47.880 I don't think.
00:03:48.640 Well, so I don't like that idea of just sucking it up.
00:03:51.300 If she's like truly, truly hurt by it, I think you need to sit in it with her and be there for her.
00:03:56.920 Look, a real man can slit a throat and hold a baby in the same day. 0.73
00:04:02.160 That's my definition of a man.
00:04:03.760 So you have to be able to do both.
00:04:05.940 You know, you need to be hard, hard, hard and loving.
00:04:08.940 And there's no problem being vulnerable with a woman or like, hey, being there for her.
00:04:12.420 There's no problem at all.
00:04:13.220 Because if you're really strong, if anybody tries to take advantage of your vulnerability, you fucking crush them.
00:04:18.160 So wait, there's not one woman on this earth you can fully commit to? 0.68
00:04:23.000 No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:04:24.340 Yes, there are women that I can fully commit to. 0.89
00:04:27.420 As in you only see her?
00:04:28.840 Sexually?
00:04:29.580 No.
00:04:30.160 There's no, no.
00:04:31.060 And there's no man that would want to.
00:04:33.240 If you lined up every man on the planet and you said, hey, listen, I got this red button.
00:04:38.240 I've said this on podcast before.
00:04:40.500 Nobody's looking.
00:04:41.280 Nobody's going to judge you.
00:04:42.420 Truly, nobody's here.
00:04:43.420 Every man in the world.
00:04:44.500 They said, you can be a great husband, a wonderful father.
00:04:48.080 You can go home, tuck your kids at night, possibly sleep with other women and then go home and hold your wife and tuck in your babies and provide and be a good husband and father.
00:04:56.360 Every man on the planet would look left, they'd look right and they'd hit that button.
00:04:59.260 Do you think cheating is a good thing?
00:05:01.840 No, but it is just naturally part of the male psyche.
00:05:05.980 It's what I think the point is, he can absolutely love the woman.
00:05:11.680 You know, she can be his absolute queen. 1.00
00:05:13.500 She is like the top, but he's always going to have that propensity to what variety.
00:05:19.720 That's what it comes down to.
00:05:20.940 And like Justin said, the other woman doesn't even need to be that good. 1.00
00:05:24.900 She doesn't even need to be as attractive. 0.94
00:05:26.520 She could be ugly. 1.00
00:05:27.540 Yeah.
00:05:28.080 I think girls really miss that. 1.00
00:05:30.280 And that whole time, the one he actually loves has the ability probably to break his heart.
00:05:35.040 Yeah.
00:05:36.100 And girls often ask, well, what's the difference?
00:05:38.680 Because I always thought that if a man cheats, he truly doesn't love her.
00:05:41.720 Oh, no, that's not true at all.
00:05:43.700 That's not true at all.
00:05:44.960 That's not true at all.
00:05:45.760 You know, look, I'm going to tell you right now, hungry and horny to a man is the same thing.
00:05:49.760 You have filet mignon at home, but sometimes you just eat a corn dog because it's different.
00:05:53.420 So would you say a hole is a hole?
00:05:56.900 If it's female, like, well, I got certain standards, right? 1.00
00:06:01.000 So, you know, no, a hole is not a hole.
00:06:04.240 But at the same time, you would be surprised at how far down the totem pole a man would go for variety.
00:06:12.940 And they don't love, they don't love these women.
00:06:15.240 They don't even want them in their bed. 0.92
00:06:16.280 What if a dude got another girl pregnant? 0.90
00:06:19.640 Do you think that the girl should leave? 0.59
00:06:22.220 No.
00:06:23.160 No, because it's really about him showing up the way he's supposed to show up.
00:06:26.800 Women know men are this way. 0.66
00:06:28.660 All women in their gut truly know men are this way. 0.82
00:06:31.720 And a lot of times it's acceptable.
00:06:33.280 Man, there's so many rap songs out there talking about infidelity and fucking hoes and bitches. 1.00
00:06:37.320 And the girls are in the club just dancing. 0.99
00:06:38.820 What do you think are valid reasons for women ending relationships? 1.00
00:06:42.340 A man not holding the correct frame, not being the man of the house, being weak, being in a position where he's not being a leader, not taking responsibility, not stepping up, not being a man. 0.89
00:06:53.520 Can I have a specific, like, example, just, like, in a day-to-day relationship of how that would play out?
00:06:57.860 Day-to-day relationship.
00:07:00.060 I'll give you a great example.
00:07:02.020 Men get married every weekend in America.
00:07:04.620 They stand in front of the church, God, and both families and commit to the woman.
00:07:09.040 And they tell her they're going to, basically saying they're going to give her the best life.
00:07:12.860 They've made an agreement for that man to work his ass off.
00:07:15.060 He comes home.
00:07:16.180 He's complaining about his job.
00:07:17.900 But instead of getting out there and hustling and create a better life for them and to be a better father and a better husband, he pops open a beer, smokes a J, and turns on the Xbox.
00:07:26.660 And he's just emotionally vomited all over his wife, which puts her in a position of feeling fearful.
00:07:34.200 Like, this guy, he's coming home, complaining about his job, not doing a fucking thing about it, and then dumping it on me.
00:07:42.060 Now I have to work so we can make the mortgage.
00:07:44.700 Now our kids might have to go to a lesser school than they would have.
00:07:48.060 Our whole situation is fucked because this guy didn't make a commitment.
00:07:50.840 And he's fine with that because he's going to trade off sex, right?
00:07:53.940 But here's a newsflash.
00:07:55.520 His ass will cheat on you, too. 1.00
00:07:57.320 And when you find out, you're going to leave him.
00:07:59.080 But the guy that's taking care of business every way, making you feel safe, giving you a life that you would have never had otherwise, is committed to you and your happiness, and even is there when you're emotionally upset or feeling pain, that's the kind of man you want.
00:08:11.980 A man, again, my definition as a man is somebody that can slit a throat and hold a baby in the same day.
00:08:18.740 And that really sums it up because he's got to be hard, he's got to be strong, but he can still be delicate if it needs to be because he's so strong that he knows that he can snap out of that really, really fast.
00:08:29.700 And that's it.
00:08:30.620 I still think cheating is disgusting.
00:08:32.620 Of course.
00:08:33.520 Agreed.
00:08:34.100 If a woman cheated on you, would you stay? 1.00
00:08:36.000 Fuck no.
00:08:37.180 No, it's a complete double standard.
00:08:38.680 It's not fair at all.
00:08:39.900 I agree.
00:08:40.360 It's a complete double standard.
00:08:41.980 It's not fair at all.
00:08:42.900 But you know what I know?
00:08:43.940 What?
00:08:44.480 If a woman truly loves a man, she doesn't even see other men. 0.86
00:08:47.860 She can't even see them.
00:08:49.260 Not true.
00:08:49.880 I think it's true.
00:08:50.700 I agree with that because there's been times when I've really liked someone and it doesn't matter how attractive another person is.
00:08:56.020 See straight through them.
00:08:57.020 They're just not interested.
00:08:58.580 Yeah.
00:08:59.060 But a man that creates an atmosphere of being a real man creates real genuine desire.
00:09:05.000 And it takes genuine desire to make other men invisible.
00:09:07.860 When other men are invisible, that's when you're doing it right. 1.00
00:09:10.020 When I have a Facebook account full of wives sliding in my DMs, I know all those dudes aren't doing it right. 1.00
00:09:16.380 Oh, yeah.
00:09:17.260 Facebook's the worst.
00:09:18.200 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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