JustPearlyThings - Arrogant Single Mother Admits To This

00:00:00.000 look at step parents of um that my parents had divorced my mom and dad had divorced

00:00:05.840 my culture is indian back from india like my dad is from india my mom was born here whatever right

00:00:12.160 but um i was my correct story is crazy as well like hers but that's due to my mom's boyfriend 0.82

00:00:21.840 abusing me as right and that shows why women shouldn't leave because it puts their kid at risk 1.00

00:00:27.520 but that's why you're proving my point no she's not she's gonna do my thing i'm not

00:00:34.720 here are you guys both married are you guys both married well they're coming in that

00:00:40.240 no comment oh so you guys are not married well maybe i don't know i'm not married

00:00:46.640 so it speaks to the facts like step parents that's the most likely person to abuse your children is a

00:00:56.320 guy that you bring into the house that's the most likely stat yeah like my mom's boyfriend when she

00:01:02.000 brought him into the house in the beginning well what happened was obviously my mom was doing my 0.96

00:01:07.280 dad wrong and i chose to go with my dad because my dad and my mom both oxed us like me and my brother

00:01:14.560 who we want to go with i chose to go with my dad and then i'm the one that took him to

00:01:21.600 my nan's house because he had nowhere to go and i was like let's just go to my nan's house because

00:01:26.160 not sleeping on the road so from there i was staying with my dad and my dad started acting

00:01:31.040 differently towards me right and i was a kid myself going through my parents being divorced

00:01:36.800 and he was all about my brother my brother my brother and i'm here trying to go to school and come

00:01:41.760 back and make sure my dad is okay right and then i don't know what happened like why he chose to

00:01:49.440 abuse me well actually i do know why it's because i never asked my mother a question that he wanted

00:01:54.800 me to ask because she kind of realized that my dad was telling me what to say right so then my dad

00:02:01.440 assaulted me and i chose to go back to my mother i went there her boyfriend was when you say assaulted

00:02:09.760 he like what he hit you yeah and then my um multiple times or how yeah my grandparents came

00:02:14.960 to stop him well my granddad wasn't home but my nan and my uncles um had to get him off me

00:02:21.680 so after that i chose to go back to my mom's right and i'm not gonna lie like even though my mom did

00:02:28.640 my dad wrong i was missing my mother a little bit i was like i'm gonna put my hand up i was missing her

00:02:34.560 so i chose to go back to um my mom and i also thought maybe my dad will start caring more about

00:02:41.280 me like how he did with my brother right went there her boyfriend's moved in he was nice in the

00:02:47.280 beginning and everything you know how it be because they want to you know be like oh we care about you

00:02:52.800 we care about you then slowly slowly i started to see his true colors and it did not go well it did

00:03:01.440 not go well i got kicked out as well i got kicked out at 16. i didn't want to be thrown out but i got

00:03:08.960 kicked out because of my mom's boyfriend because she chose to listen to her man and um an incident

00:03:16.640 happened right i'm not going to go too much into it but there was a thing that he wanted to happen

00:03:25.360 through me right and my mother was going along with it i found out and i was in a relationship

00:03:32.640 at the time with my children's father was in a relationship with him and then they tried to split

00:03:40.160 us up because obviously her my mom's boyfriend wanted that thing to happen and like a sexual 1.00

00:03:47.280 thing no it wasn't a sexual thing no no no no no no it was not a sexual thing i can clear that now it

00:03:53.440 was not a sexual thing at all it was just regarding something which i don't really want to say just in

00:03:59.680 case and um illegal is it legal did you say it was illegal yeah actually you can say it was illegal

00:04:06.720 because i was only 16 wasn't i yeah so i was 16 so you can class it as illegal but i'm not going to

00:04:12.480 go too much into what it was but um they tried to split me and my children's father up and because

00:04:18.560 it did not work i'll come back from school so they tried to split you you guys they tried to have you

00:04:23.680 guys break up yeah because so his thing could be successful in what he wanted so so the the stepdad 0.97

00:04:31.200 could be successful yeah he could be successful so whatever he planned can happen but um so he

00:04:38.160 wanted to set you up with someone else uh kind of like that but not in this kind of illegal yeah

00:04:46.240 not in this country if that makes sense so like an arranged type marriage don't go into it but 0.92

00:04:52.880 i'm not gonna go into that i'm not yeah i'm not gonna go into that at all but basically what happened

00:04:57.680 it seems like the theme here is like you guys don't listen to your parents no i used to listen

00:05:02.400 i actually used to um well when my when i okay i'll start from the beginning when i was growing up

00:05:10.080 my brother was always the favorite right and because he's a boy who cares he was a boy so he was always

00:05:17.440 the favorite i always felt left out so i was always going to my grandparents house yeah they always like

00:05:21.680 the boys yeah yeah it didn't bother me because i was my grandparents favorite so i was like how shame

00:05:36.720 but yeah you got it you got to go think of where you can get it yeah yeah i'm getting stuff from them

00:05:41.280 you can carry on you know whatever it is but fathers always love their sons more like come on my mom as

00:05:46.960 well my mom loves to my brother more as well but um your brother sounds like a great guy maybe he's

00:05:52.320 just a really cool dude maybe he's just a cool guy oh if he was you know my brother is my my parents

00:06:00.320 favorite and i get it i'm like he's a cool dude right yeah there's a thing right like if your sibling

00:06:05.040 is your parents favorite that's fine i don't have a problem with that but my brother's not a cool guy

00:06:11.280 i'll put my hand up to that he's not a cool not a cool guy no he's not if he was i would say yeah my

00:06:16.640 brother's you know we've got a tight relationship i love my brother he's amazing with my children i

00:06:21.520 would say that okay he's not but he's not a cool guy so he didn't deserve favoritism

00:06:26.640 i don't care if you don't if he didn't it doesn't it just seems like there's a lot of problems here

00:06:32.560 that would go better like if we just listen to our parents so if i listen to my parents

00:06:38.000 i'll be dead hold on a second i used to listen to my parents and my mom allowed

00:06:42.640 her boyfriend to assault me it also seems it also seems like it also seems like life would be easier

00:06:48.480 if family stayed together because your mom's boyfriend wouldn't be in that position and maybe

00:06:52.800 i'm not really talking about you personally like i'm just talking about in general i just think it's

00:06:57.120 better if family stay together yeah if my dad stays with my mom it'll be better 100% if my dad stays with my mom

00:07:03.280 so why don't you why don't you marry your kid's father well you should i did oh okay oh you're 1.00

00:07:10.160 maybe not you're married you never know okay well i just don't see your ring exactly tell him about

00:07:16.080 that you need to get that damn ring back i'm not married okay so you're not married you know i ain't 0.94

00:07:21.200 gonna do so it sounds like he's working it sounds like it sounds like he's working right he's got a job

00:07:27.200 so you're attracted to him you two kids with him he's got our two kids okay he's got two other kids

00:07:33.120 yeah before her before her okay well you can't really change the past you already made the new

00:07:39.120 kids with him right yeah so why don't you why don't you get married they need to change certain things 0.97

00:07:43.680 first yeah yeah but you probably need to change certain things i definitely do yeah and i have

00:07:48.960 changed that so i'm just i'm just curious like why don't you guys work on it together you need to put

00:07:53.040 more effort in i can't work on it on myself well maybe you need to put more effort in but this is

00:08:01.840 this is the thing it's like always it's like kind of an arrogance like yeah i am very young i can i'm

00:08:08.000 very arrogant i can't did you get married very young no not young eight years you say you've been 0.73

00:08:13.920 married eight years i've been married for eight years we've been together for eight years

00:08:16.720 okay well there's no zimbabwean he's not zimbabwean no why they'd be they'd be they'd be married by

00:08:24.560 that they'll be married if it wasn't no i would not marry zimbabwean sorry never but it sounds like 0.93

00:08:29.600 that would be better right what's the alternative you know what i mean it's like we we it's like you

00:08:38.880 either stay together as a family or you bring random men into your kids lives or they bring random women 1.00

00:08:44.560 into no both correct i think both are both ways you know um so i'm just curious the situation is a

00:08:51.200 you know for someone that this is zimbabweans i would think that you're married and have a husband 1.00

00:08:55.840 that has you know kids just with you but it seems like you just ended up in a situation just like

00:09:00.720 the one before like your circumstance your parents circumstance exactly that's the thing i didn't

00:09:06.080 want that to happen to me but you know when you feel like you're going you're repeating the cycle

00:09:12.080 it's like whoa yeah why didn't you break the cycle then how can i break the cycle i can't work

00:09:16.400 on it by myself you can only do so much you can only do are you no responsible for your life since

00:09:22.320 you i am responsible for my life and i choose i can pick and choose what i want to do for my life

00:09:27.280 right yeah you can choose to break the cycle yeah and i can i can choose to make sure that my children

00:09:31.520 don't go through certain things right so that's what i'm going to do if i feel like certain things

00:09:36.160 of certain person you're gonna you're gonna not put your kids through certain things by putting

00:09:40.400 them at every single statistical disadvantage you possibly could i would rather they have a better

00:09:46.080 future but now they're more like they're more likely to go to prison they're more likely to be in a

00:09:53.040 mental institution this is the thing i've done hundreds of these shows like hundreds like i've

00:09:59.040 literally interviewed hundreds of women every woman thinks their kid's the exception but every adult you

00:10:03.280 talk to will talk about how much it hurt that their parents weren't together of course it's gonna

00:10:07.360 hurt it will right but that's what i'm saying like it's not about you guys anymore and i'm not really

00:10:12.000 even talking about you personally i don't know you guys's situations but like the whole point is

00:10:15.840 you're dissing a culture that that talks about keeping

JustPearlyThings - June 12, 2023

Arrogant Single Mother Admits To This

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