JustPearlyThings - Aunty Jenny DEBATES Man on Modern Woman

00:00:00.000 women that sleep around that are not virgins they will say that women that have lots of sex that 1.00

00:00:05.660 will turn around they will say that because they want to find men they need a man that's what 0.95

00:00:09.700 they're going to turn around and say purity don't matter because it can't matter where you've lost

00:00:13.620 it because that's one thing you can't get back that you're giving away your virginity so that's

00:00:17.340 why you have to say that you have to say it don't matter so that you can get a man you know you can

00:00:20.740 get operations now just say all right oh god then go go and become a made again virgin honestly what

00:00:26.100 what i was saying before was like i really don't i really don't buy this idea i think this is like

00:00:30.400 one of these weird things that where like traditionalists pretend that like the past

00:00:34.820 was some great place and everyone was super happy all the time everyone made these decisions monogamy

00:00:39.760 was the perfect for everyone everyone was really happy in their marriage and i think it's a bit more

00:00:43.980 nuanced than that i've seen a lot of examples um enough for me to question that narrative that like

00:00:49.760 maybe maybe the first or second guy you got with a married wasn't the best fit maybe you know do you

00:00:55.020 know something right in the back in those days you made your bed you lie in it yeah you made your bed

00:01:00.160 you lie in it and once you lie in it you make it work it wasn't about happiness it was about

00:01:04.620 the difference is we took away consequences now so now now women have no consequence for any decision 1.00

00:01:10.880 they pick i'm sure i'm sure women back then there were ones that wanted to leave and probably could if 1.00

00:01:14.980 there wasn't a consequence you know something right years ago if i had sex and i got pregnant i'm stuck

00:01:19.400 brilliant think about it and if that was a if that was a consequence now and women knew that every 0.94

00:01:26.020 time they sleep with a man they can get pregnant you think they'd be messing about and sleeping around 1.00

00:01:30.200 so much so you can't say that you know things have changed now that that was back in the day that

00:01:34.680 they won't happen because they made it work and the thing is everybody all the modern people now

00:01:40.860 they think that i'm gonna get with a man and it's gonna be more rosy you know i mean 32 years is

00:01:46.920 bloody hard work i've been through some shit and it's hard work you make it work if that was the 0.87

00:01:52.380 case it's too easy to turn around and say you know what it don't work for me i'm gonna leave 1.00

00:01:56.020 you never had that back in the day because if you turned around and you had sex with a man and you 0.98

00:02:00.660 got pregnant and you didn't make it work you were a failure i like the way i like the way how you 1.00

00:02:06.180 dropped that i love that but thank you i love that well i but surely surely there are cases so so i get

00:02:12.820 that in the past relationships had you know they had to just deal with it and it had to be

00:02:16.540 pragmatic and and stoic and that has its benefits right but surely that's not what fits for every

00:02:21.920 situation surely there are situations where women having the freedom to choose another path 1.00

00:02:26.320 albeit you know maybe a path that in the in the end would lead her to be a single cat lady 1.00

00:02:30.720 surely there's situations where you could say all right that wasn't a good marriage and maybe this

00:02:36.260 is not one of them this is where societies let women down i'm the last of them when i had my son 0.99

00:02:42.520 and i was a single parent it wasn't like now i put shame on the family so it wasn't a matter of

00:02:48.080 fact of saying oh i'm gonna go out there and i'm gonna have a child and then it don't work for me

00:02:52.760 it's not a fit because if you didn't if you went out there years ago and you had a child it didn't

00:02:57.680 fit you know what you didn't fit in society you did not fit everybody's talking about the modern

00:03:02.800 women everybody's talking about the leftover women do you know what they're not talking about 0.72

00:03:05.620 spinsters and you know what that's what you don't know what a spinster is someone who pretends to be 1.00

00:03:11.140 no google it so that i don't get it wrong and that is what no no no that is what the modern women 1.00

00:03:18.240 nowadays are going to end up to be a good old fashion it's an old-fashioned word believe you me

00:03:23.440 a spinster and years ago you did not want to be a spinster just as nowadays you shouldn't want to be a

00:03:29.580 leftover woman what's a spinster pearl um an unmarried woman typically an older woman beyond

00:03:35.320 the usual age for marriage oh what what age okay what age was considered a spinster spinster the word

00:03:43.200 spinster was used to refer to a single woman between the ages of 23 to 26 while thornback is reserved for

00:03:51.160 those 26 and above nowadays people are getting insulted with the word leftover years ago you'd get

00:03:57.560 insulted and feel shame if you were called a spinster that's the only difference exactly it's

00:04:02.380 the same thing but for me now i didn't know nothing about this modern woman i knew that to be a cat 1.00

00:04:08.040 woman or a dog lady you were a spinster okay i i i do get where you're coming from i i would say i

00:04:14.160 differ in the fact that i i think we let women down in society down by promoting the wrong we we don't 0.65

00:04:20.600 promote like the right values now i think we encourage women to be masculine and we tell men to be weak 0.98

00:04:25.860 and you to be emotional and everyone should have their their space in the victory you know something

00:04:29.580 i don't think i think that's what i think that we're not us but yeah the big people at the top

00:04:33.960 who want us you have the message thank you i think i think that's that's the real issue in it because if

00:04:38.460 you were promoting the virtues of being a woman of being agreeable of being pleasant of being someone

00:04:43.720 who can coexist who adds value and synergy to a man if you're promoting resilience in men and saying

00:04:48.360 listen life happens you've got to be stronger hit the gym work on yourself be someone strong a strong

00:04:53.420 man will naturally settle down because we don't have time to mess around but you know something

00:04:57.200 back in the day the men were hot sexy and muscular and they never had no gym and the women never had 0.99

00:05:02.520 no flabby arms you know why because they never had no gym they didn't have no microwave they didn't

00:05:07.220 have no washing machine they didn't have no rice cooker they did they had to go and wash by hand and

00:05:12.760 you see what nowadays i've seen people like doing um i can't correct if i get it wrong like gary and

00:05:18.300 food for they're doing it in a blender in the microwave years ago you had to get it there and

00:05:22.700 that's why you got rid of all of this you know i mean you got rid of all of that so you didn't have

00:05:26.660 to go to no gym yeah you didn't have to go and the men didn't have to go to no gym the men were

00:05:31.420 naturally toned and good because they have to work with their hands and modernization has caused people

00:05:37.960 to be lazy yeah my point is that it's it's not giving women more freedom i think that that's i don't

00:05:44.400 think that's why we've gone wrong i think we've given them more freedom and then promoted the

00:05:48.420 wrong paths so it's like nah i feel like we should get rid of freedom for women and i feel like i feel 0.94

00:05:55.560 like i feel like the first of the vote we could wait then if we if we're just the villain if we're

00:06:00.000 if we remove freedom for women let's remove options there's too many options these days as well 1.00

00:06:03.700 everyone thinks that everyone is replaceable like before you said every you make your bed you lie in

00:06:08.840 it yeah that's your thing you take it you pick to you choose it you take it go okay what would

00:06:15.300 happen if divorce was illegal divorce is not illegal it's having a 50 percent sale can you not see what

00:06:20.300 would happen yeah what would happen if divorce was illegal uh i bet it used to be you see that you

00:06:26.660 you make better choices what what would happen if you you were legally married to anyone you had a

00:06:31.940 child with wait say that again what would happen if you were legally married to anyone you had a

00:06:36.860 child with condom sales and divorce was illegal yeah you would you would make better choices i really

00:06:43.040 believe in the mange marriages you do i believe in the old-fashioned range marriages where the cultures

00:06:49.340 i don't care what culture it is where you get the the mummies and the daddies and the aunties

00:06:53.700 and they come together and and then a lot of people i've got a lot of engine i call them in my

00:06:59.320 children some of them i have love marriages some of them i had the range marriages and a lot of

00:07:04.080 people think the main marriage is like that's the man that's you you're gonna go together but there's

00:07:09.160 a lot of work that goes into it and i've seen it in africa and i've seen it my african friends as well

00:07:12.740 where they all get together and they decide you know what if this is the man you like let's check out

00:07:16.980 his family let's check out his background let's come together and talk and the weird thing is i was in

00:07:22.600 barbados and my nephew was having a baby with a girl and my sister my late sister was oh i'm going

00:07:30.940 to meet the family i'm like what do you mean oh well he's having the baby we need to go meet the

00:07:34.260 family my first view is hang on a minute they never called you when they were having sex how come now 0.59

00:07:37.880 they're pregnant you're gonna go meet the family but apparently it was their thing that you got my 0.92

00:07:43.000 daughter pregnant or my daughter allows you to get her pregnant and all the family they come together 1.00

00:07:47.980 and they sit down and they discuss what's going to happen and i'm talking not like 50 years ago

00:07:54.680 i'm talking this is happening like five ten years ago and it still goes on in certain societies where

00:08:00.460 you get pregnant or you get together we're going to get together and talk and i think

00:08:04.640 there needs to be a village it can be done that village that that village needs to be there that

00:08:09.240 village and that's what's missing because everybody's doing their own thing and saying that this is right

00:08:14.220 and that is not wrong but if they have the old village together to get together and help them

00:08:17.840 make decisions because i even know like um i had african people and when they were having a

00:08:22.640 problem in their relationships before all this social media i'm like where you go oh i'm going to

00:08:27.160 see my uncle i have to speak to the elders we have problems i have to go i don't know what do you

00:08:32.200 mean or if the girl gets pregnant where are you going i'm going my mother is coming i'm i'm having 0.98

00:08:37.300 a baby i'm like what do you mean nope it's tradition you go and you take either the mother

00:08:41.800 come i thought it was weird but it works out and i understand it now i had african friends and when

00:08:46.600 i have a baby the mother-in-law moves in yeah for three months at least you see what i mean and

00:08:51.420 and that was fantastic because she would show her how to cope how to cook you can do all of this

00:08:56.300 and all of that while she's having the children the mother-in-law and she helps and teaches her

00:09:02.200 while she's having the baby and nowadays it's like i'm gonna have a baby and i'm gonna have this

00:09:06.440 where your parents where is that and i'm not talking about years ago because i saw this happening

00:09:11.500 like 20 years ago yeah and it works to me it works especially with the african societies but now you

00:09:18.780 get these new modern african people and they don't want to go to their elders it'd be great if you got 1.00

00:09:23.880 a problem rather than go on social media and talk about it go to your elders that is what is that is

00:09:29.420 what is good about some of the tradition is that they're there for your backup and i'm so used to like

00:09:34.580 my african friends going and talking to their elders or i used to find it really weird like you and

00:09:39.500 your husband having problems and you're having this meeting you go in the house it's like the

00:09:42.640 whole room is full of all these old people and you're sitting down there discussing your problems 1.00

00:09:46.740 and it works because the ultimate foundation of society is family and family the family structures

00:09:53.580 are lacking these days unfortunately because me as well till today there's a problem my dad would

00:09:58.760 be like i'm calling your uncle i'm calling your aunt yeah like and i'm like oh god but because

00:10:03.080 society has now made us very self-absorbed my feelings my feelings my feelings we don't want other

00:10:08.040 people to you know intrude and the thing is because you know that all your whole family is

00:10:13.740 getting involved don't that change your behavior absolutely shim thank you so there's certain things

00:10:18.920 that you won't do or there's certain things you won't let them know about you can't you can't bring

00:10:22.820 like the the come up like rapper back to your dad and say oh no no no my own is straight up if you're

00:10:29.180 coming into my house anybody who meets my dad be ready to marry me no that's that's what i'm saying

00:10:33.320 like because girls will go for like the bad guys that they're 20 but i'm saying i'm saying like

00:10:37.540 that wouldn't that wouldn't happen you know so i just use like rapper as an architect yeah but for

00:10:42.460 me some some of them are good and juicy sorry years ago when you took your let's say like if you went

00:10:48.020 and you said oh this is my partner what are your intentions towards my daughter yes can i see your

00:10:54.500 bank account which is your job what are you and all of that yeah and i remember going to like

00:10:58.980 weddings where i always thought it was indian people that had diaries and i remember having

00:11:04.100 african friend he had all this suitcase for the new clothes and presents here and jewelry there

00:11:08.120 and i'm like what are you doing i have to show the family that i can support her yes and it's like a

00:11:12.560 whole ceremony of like showing them what you can give her showing the family and that's what i mean

00:11:17.400 nowadays it's too easy for people to go and get married they have to show the family that they can

00:11:21.160 look after that the problem is the women nowadays aren't worth it like why would a guy do all that when 1.00

00:11:27.040 she's out here in the street why are you clapping so hard why would a guy do that for a 31 year old

00:11:34.300 wife you can't you do it because i've experienced this recently and you know obviously i don't have 1.00

00:11:39.520 these traditionalist views right so you know some of these guys are out here counting body counts

00:11:42.780 for me it's more like in the way they act like i i i messed around with like an older woman like a

00:11:48.440 few months ago 42 only ever been with one guy you know like and i can just when i'm around her it's

00:11:54.320 just like she's from a different age there was no no she's you know she's gorgeous so i'm not running 1.00

00:11:59.240 but she's from a different age like just the way she behaves the way she cries herself the way she 1.00

00:12:04.060 talks very soft very pleasant not too opinionated it's just like it's just like but she sounds like

00:12:09.680 a real woman that's what i realized that being with her i was like yo there's no one in my generation

00:12:15.140 that can like being around someone like that was like you know what i'm a bachelor i'm probably

00:12:18.960 going to be a bachelor for the next five six seven years but hanging out with her i was like

00:12:22.360 you know i actually get why people like get married as many of you know i was just banned

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JustPearlyThings - March 31, 2023

Aunty Jenny DEBATES Man on Modern Woman

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