She Claims that Men Don’t like submissive
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about what a high value woman is and why men don t like submissive women. We also talk about the importance of boundaries and how important it is to have them in a relationship.
Transcript
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can you define a high value woman to me or to you um high value woman is someone who first of all
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has a lot of respect for herself you know um has a lot of like pride you know works hard
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well i i i feel like no because men obviously just want someone who's beautiful and is just
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gonna be submissive and say yes and well that's at least what we're being told but i feel like i think
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that's not true no men don't like submissive women no i don't think so no because i feel like
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it's not about being submissive you just have to be kind and you have to be loving and you have to
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respect your man a lot of women don't actually respect their men yes they like them they're
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attracted to them they love them but they don't actually respect them and i feel like men want
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respect from women and they don't get that enough well i i agree with you but why is that not
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submission why isn't that part of submission no because i still have a voice you don't think
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submissive women have voices i don't know i feel like if i'm just going to be saying yes to everything
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and doing everything that my man wants then i've kind of lost sense of who i am like i want to have
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a voice in this partnership i want to have a voice in this marriage and i want to be heard and i want
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to be seen submission is like he's your boss so your boss can take your opinion into account but at
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the end of the day he has the final say and men don't they don't feel like they're respected if you
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don't give them the final say like they don't want a woman that they have to argue with all the time
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yeah but you don't have to argue with a man to get your point across if you're with a loving
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respectful man who hears you and values you he's always going to listen to you he can hear you and
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listen to you and still tell you no okay like so that's just because if he tells me no
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it it depends like there's there's certain things that yeah i might be like okay cool i'll submit to
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you because i would say i'm definitely a traditional woman and there are you a virgin
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i'm sorry i'm saying how are you traditional a traditional woman is a 22 year old virgin
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no as in i have like traditional values the way that i was brought i'm arab i'm moroccan
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we are brought up in a certain way um and the men that i see in my culture are very traditional
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they're providers you know they go out they make money and a lot of women in my culture they don't
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work they just sort of stay at home and the man goes out and gets the money and they just
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raise the kids obviously we've moved on from that but i still hold those values in the sense that i'm
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okay to submit to my man when the time is right or when i feel the time is right but the whole point
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is that's that's not submission is when you feel i mean we're women we change our opinions every
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goddamn day we don't even know what we want half the time so it's like if you if if if i if i employ
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blessing and i say blessing turn this camera angle on or i do do this do this and at the end of the day
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i have the final say and and that's kind of how it is should be anyways when you're submitting to a
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guy so so you're saying that's what men want they just want someone to go yes i'll do exactly what
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you tell me to do no they just want to argue all the time with every decision i'm kidding
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i personally think they want to have long conversations about every decisions and just
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really make you feel heard well i feel like yeah i don't know i i will submit to the right man
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and if i feel comfortable but i will always have my boundaries set in place firmly sometimes you're
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not going to feel comfortable i mean in a 30 40 50 year marriage you think you're not going to feel
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comfortable and sometimes you're going to feel like he's not the right man i mean we change our mind
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every day yeah 100 so tell me more about the high value woman what else i mean the high value woman is
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like someone who like is kind who's nurturing you know um who's gonna support her man lift him up
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motivate him inspire him um you know is is fun she has that feminine energy that men crave
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um you know um you know the list goes on and i know that men are not stupid they know when they
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come across a high value woman they know um so yeah do you want to know what i hear when i hear high
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value woman oh god designer she won all that instagram like highlighted factor like valentine's day
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you better make sure that like you've got the hotel with the little petals and the balloons
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like holidays it's like it's like give me everything yeah i got my man i'm not kim kardashian but um
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this you know i mean it's like they read that's to me what i'm hearing when i'm hearing they read
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high maintenance woman this it's money in it you need money for that it's like it's like whenever i hear
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that i think of the book why men love bitches it's like they read that book and then it's like
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that's the whole i'm not saying you personally it's just that's always what i hear um okay so
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what percent of the financial family load do you guys expect to pay to carry for a lifetime
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10 10 10 10 okay um yeah i would say 10 10 10 i think it changes i think it's like situational
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i mean ideally like maybe 40 um but i think it changes like you never know what's going to happen
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the man might suddenly go unemployed so you know i'm going to have to pick up extra shifts here and
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there and then i might go unemployed or go on maternity leave and the man's going to take over
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i think it fluctuates depending on the situation um yeah like i'm i'm kind of the same there as well
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um i also like as you said like maternity leave or if i if the man said that he wanted me to be a
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housewife which i don't think i would ever like take up to do but if he did then i'd expect him to
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do 100 then i'll be doing the cooking i'll be doing the cleaning but if like i'm working he's working
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like i don't expect him to say that i'm going to be a complete housewife but there's some men that
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like i don't know what percent i don't know zero percent depending okay so you think he should
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carry a hundred percent of the bills no that's not true i don't think so i think i'm just using
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the words that came out of your mouth okay if i'm cooking and cleaning 50 50 50 okay okay so we went
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from 100 to 50 50. no depending okay what does it depend on if i'm working or if i'm not okay
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do you want to work or do you not i do um okay so i would say 50 50 50 yeah yeah i don't i can't think
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of a percent i actually can't been yeah i don't know are we considering that there's kids involved
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here yeah yeah i mean unless unless you don't i feel like i want to change my answer now
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same i don't know i don't know what percent all right i'm just going to say numbers raise your
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hand is there a wide camera do we have one i think it's dependable under circumstances though
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because like if if you're agreeing that you stay at home like if i'm staying at home then well i'm
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asking if you if you zero percent if i'm at home um i've had been with my partner and i've been at
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home like he wants me at home so i can't go to work so he's provided for me 100 because obviously
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it's impossible if i'm a stay-at-home mom but if she's working um i think it should be the percentage
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should be agreed like in terms of if they're making the same then i don't see why it shouldn't
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be 50 50 if they're both out working okay um all right so 50 50 if she's working yeah if do you
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want to work i like staying at home i'm a home person okay if i wasn't in okay so ideally zero
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percent yeah i'm raising the kids okay and you said 10 10 10 yeah 50 50 for me unfortunately you know
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that's what i'm looking for 50 50 okay yeah i would say 10 like if i'm working um but if i'm not
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working then nothing if you're working 10 yeah okay i think i'm going to change it a little bit like
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in an ideal world i would want to be able to go out and do something part-time to at least contribute
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um go ahead yeah i'm still i don't know sorry i can't give a percent what percent of women do
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you think get to contribute 20 or less to the family financial load the ones that own the home
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can you say that again what percent of women do you think get to contribute
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20 or less to the family from like five percent men are sassy now what i know what percent of
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not a lot um yeah not a lot is it in the uk or what is it i mean the way that the uk is right now
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probably under 10 percent five percent i would say that 30 10 under 10 i'd say it's actually 20
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oh wow okay do you guys feel like you're in the top 20 percent of women to earn that
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my circumstances i believe are exceptional so i don't believe i've been a housewife and i've lost
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my partner so i was a housewife and i feel like my perspective of life has changed now that i have
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the role of a man in a sense because i have to provide for my child so i'm definitely not i'm in
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with reality and i hold my position i'm on the opposite spectrum so i've always been the provider
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and i've got a little one as well 13 year old so i've always been the opposite i've always earned
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and if i've got in a relationship i look after you know what i mean so yeah it's kind of mad right now
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me hearing all these percentages i'm not even gonna lie
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i'll just say they'll just have to be housewives literally are you top 20 percent of women oh am i
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yeah i would be qualified to be a housewife okay okay take all the boxes
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top 20 percent of women yes or no yeah absolutely yeah um and you said no
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um no no no big up you look man no no no but i think i'd be in a housewife i might be a bit
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bored yeah i could i've got like a question are you saying do we our values qualify or do we want
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to can you say which one that's what are you asking us no i was asking if you think you're in
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the top 20 percent of women oh no in the eyes of men in the eyes of men but to be fair with the
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numbers you know we're screaming out you sort of are in it you wanted to pay 20 percent you know
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in an ideal world i'd want to pay 20 percent but we don't live in an ideal world we live in the real
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world and i'm not ignorant to the fact that i'm not in the top 20 percent of women so i don't expect
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to be a stay-at-home housewife and have things how i want um i don't know where people get the idea
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that life's supposed to be exactly how you want it life is how it is and you deal with it how you're
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supposed to given your circumstances my circumstances are i'm not top 20 so i'm probably
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