JustPearlyThings - April 01, 2023


She Claims that Men Don’t like submissive


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12 minutes

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2,267

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2

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Misogyny

16

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5

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In this episode, we talk about what a high value woman is and why men don t like submissive women. We also talk about the importance of boundaries and how important it is to have them in a relationship.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 can you define a high value woman to me or to you um high value woman is someone who first of all 0.99
00:00:07.220 has a lot of respect for herself you know um has a lot of like pride you know works hard
00:00:15.400 do you think men want prideful hard workers
00:00:18.120 well i i i feel like no because men obviously just want someone who's beautiful and is just
00:00:26.560 gonna be submissive and say yes and well that's at least what we're being told but i feel like i think
00:00:32.960 that's not true no men don't like submissive women no i don't think so no because i feel like
00:00:41.160 it's not about being submissive you just have to be kind and you have to be loving and you have to
00:00:48.140 respect your man a lot of women don't actually respect their men yes they like them they're 0.82
00:00:53.920 attracted to them they love them but they don't actually respect them and i feel like men want
00:00:58.840 respect from women and they don't get that enough well i i agree with you but why is that not 1.00
00:01:04.340 submission why isn't that part of submission no because i still have a voice you don't think
00:01:10.400 submissive women have voices i don't know i feel like if i'm just going to be saying yes to everything 1.00
00:01:17.300 and doing everything that my man wants then i've kind of lost sense of who i am like i want to have
00:01:23.440 a voice in this partnership i want to have a voice in this marriage and i want to be heard and i want
00:01:27.940 to be seen submission is like he's your boss so your boss can take your opinion into account but at
00:01:32.780 the end of the day he has the final say and men don't they don't feel like they're respected if you
00:01:37.280 don't give them the final say like they don't want a woman that they have to argue with all the time 0.98
00:01:40.920 yeah but you don't have to argue with a man to get your point across if you're with a loving
00:01:45.820 respectful man who hears you and values you he's always going to listen to you he can hear you and
00:01:52.140 listen to you and still tell you no okay like so that's just because if he tells me no
00:01:59.060 it it depends like there's there's certain things that yeah i might be like okay cool i'll submit to
00:02:04.920 you because i would say i'm definitely a traditional woman and there are you a virgin
00:02:09.940 i'm sorry i'm saying how are you traditional a traditional woman is a 22 year old virgin
00:02:15.320 no as in i have like traditional values the way that i was brought i'm arab i'm moroccan
00:02:19.880 we are brought up in a certain way um and the men that i see in my culture are very traditional
00:02:27.080 they're providers you know they go out they make money and a lot of women in my culture they don't 1.00
00:02:34.300 work they just sort of stay at home and the man goes out and gets the money and they just
00:02:38.580 raise the kids obviously we've moved on from that but i still hold those values in the sense that i'm
00:02:45.860 okay to submit to my man when the time is right or when i feel the time is right but the whole point
00:02:51.240 is that's that's not submission is when you feel i mean we're women we change our opinions every
00:02:55.340 goddamn day we don't even know what we want half the time so it's like if you if if if i if i employ 0.52
00:03:01.620 blessing and i say blessing turn this camera angle on or i do do this do this and at the end of the day
00:03:07.940 i have the final say and and that's kind of how it is should be anyways when you're submitting to a
00:03:13.500 guy so so you're saying that's what men want they just want someone to go yes i'll do exactly what
00:03:20.220 you tell me to do no they just want to argue all the time with every decision i'm kidding
00:03:25.260 no they just want to fight every day
00:03:29.420 i personally think they want to have long conversations about every decisions and just
00:03:35.960 really make you feel heard well i feel like yeah i don't know i i will submit to the right man
00:03:44.400 and if i feel comfortable but i will always have my boundaries set in place firmly sometimes you're
00:03:51.980 not going to feel comfortable i mean in a 30 40 50 year marriage you think you're not going to feel
00:03:55.920 comfortable and sometimes you're going to feel like he's not the right man i mean we change our mind
00:04:01.300 every day yeah 100 so tell me more about the high value woman what else i mean the high value woman is 1.00
00:04:07.600 like someone who like is kind who's nurturing you know um who's gonna support her man lift him up
00:04:15.980 motivate him inspire him um you know is is fun she has that feminine energy that men crave 1.00
00:04:24.260 um you know um you know the list goes on and i know that men are not stupid they know when they
00:04:31.300 come across a high value woman they know um so yeah do you want to know what i hear when i hear high 1.00
00:04:39.540 value woman oh god designer she won all that instagram like highlighted factor like valentine's day 0.99
00:04:50.840 you better make sure that like you've got the hotel with the little petals and the balloons
00:04:58.360 like holidays it's like it's like give me everything yeah i got my man i'm not kim kardashian but um
00:05:06.960 this you know i mean it's like they read that's to me what i'm hearing when i'm hearing they read
00:05:11.720 high maintenance woman this it's money in it you need money for that it's like it's like whenever i hear 0.98
00:05:17.800 that i think of the book why men love bitches it's like they read that book and then it's like 1.00
00:05:21.120 that's the whole i'm not saying you personally it's just that's always what i hear um okay so
00:05:28.360 what percent of the financial family load do you guys expect to pay to carry for a lifetime
00:05:33.300 10 10 10 10 okay um yeah i would say 10 10 10 i think it changes i think it's like situational
00:05:47.420 i mean ideally like maybe 40 um but i think it changes like you never know what's going to happen
00:05:58.780 the man might suddenly go unemployed so you know i'm going to have to pick up extra shifts here and
00:06:03.660 there and then i might go unemployed or go on maternity leave and the man's going to take over
00:06:08.260 i think it fluctuates depending on the situation um yeah like i'm i'm kind of the same there as well
00:06:18.340 um i also like as you said like maternity leave or if i if the man said that he wanted me to be a
00:06:23.920 housewife which i don't think i would ever like take up to do but if he did then i'd expect him to
00:06:28.800 do 100 then i'll be doing the cooking i'll be doing the cleaning but if like i'm working he's working
00:06:34.400 like i don't expect him to say that i'm going to be a complete housewife but there's some men that
00:06:38.520 like i don't know what percent i don't know zero percent depending okay so you think he should
00:06:46.400 carry a hundred percent of the bills no that's not true i don't think so i think i'm just using
00:06:53.780 the words that came out of your mouth okay if i'm cooking and cleaning 50 50 50 okay okay so we went
00:06:59.380 from 100 to 50 50. no depending okay what does it depend on if i'm working or if i'm not okay
00:07:06.100 do you want to work or do you not i do um okay so i would say 50 50 50 yeah yeah i don't i can't think
00:07:16.180 of a percent i actually can't been yeah i don't know are we considering that there's kids involved
00:07:22.600 here yeah yeah i mean unless unless you don't i feel like i want to change my answer now
00:07:29.320 same i don't know i don't know what percent all right i'm just going to say numbers raise your
00:07:35.840 hand is there a wide camera do we have one i think it's dependable under circumstances though
00:07:44.160 because like if if you're agreeing that you stay at home like if i'm staying at home then well i'm
00:07:50.680 asking if you if you zero percent if i'm at home um i've had been with my partner and i've been at
00:07:57.340 home like he wants me at home so i can't go to work so he's provided for me 100 because obviously
00:08:03.160 it's impossible if i'm a stay-at-home mom but if she's working um i think it should be the percentage
00:08:09.060 should be agreed like in terms of if they're making the same then i don't see why it shouldn't
00:08:13.380 be 50 50 if they're both out working okay um all right so 50 50 if she's working yeah if do you
00:08:20.560 want to work i like staying at home i'm a home person okay if i wasn't in okay so ideally zero
00:08:26.540 percent yeah i'm raising the kids okay and you said 10 10 10 yeah 50 50 for me unfortunately you know
00:08:34.480 that's what i'm looking for 50 50 okay yeah i would say 10 like if i'm working um but if i'm not
00:08:43.300 working then nothing if you're working 10 yeah okay i think i'm going to change it a little bit like
00:08:53.660 in an ideal world i would want to be able to go out and do something part-time to at least contribute
00:08:59.740 a bit so i'm going to say 20 20 yeah
00:09:04.480 um i think 70 30 now to be honest
00:09:08.680 um go ahead yeah i'm still i don't know sorry i can't give a percent what percent of women do 1.00
00:09:18.120 you think get to contribute 20 or less to the family financial load the ones that own the home
00:09:24.740 can you say that again what percent of women do you think get to contribute 1.00
00:09:34.240 20 or less to the family from like five percent men are sassy now what i know what percent of 0.92
00:09:39.580 women do you think get to be housewives 1.00
00:09:41.080 not a lot um yeah not a lot is it in the uk or what is it i mean the way that the uk is right now
00:09:48.660 probably under 10 percent five percent i would say that 30 10 under 10 i'd say it's actually 20
00:09:56.420 oh wow okay do you guys feel like you're in the top 20 percent of women to earn that
00:10:00.900 no not to be able to be a housewife
00:10:04.040 my circumstances i believe are exceptional so i don't believe i've been a housewife and i've lost
00:10:12.180 my partner so i was a housewife and i feel like my perspective of life has changed now that i have
00:10:18.760 the role of a man in a sense because i have to provide for my child so i'm definitely not i'm in
00:10:25.480 with reality and i hold my position i'm on the opposite spectrum so i've always been the provider
00:10:32.220 and i've got a little one as well 13 year old so i've always been the opposite i've always earned
00:10:38.640 and if i've got in a relationship i look after you know what i mean so yeah it's kind of mad right now
00:10:46.800 me hearing all these percentages i'm not even gonna lie
00:10:49.720 okay what about you top 20 percent of women uh 0.98
00:10:55.960 i'll just say they'll just have to be housewives literally are you top 20 percent of women oh am i 1.00
00:11:04.720 yeah i would be qualified to be a housewife okay okay take all the boxes
00:11:09.900 top 20 percent of women yes or no yeah absolutely yeah um and you said no
00:11:17.060 um no no no big up you look man no no no but i think i'd be in a housewife i might be a bit
00:11:27.340 bored yeah i could i've got like a question are you saying do we our values qualify or do we want
00:11:32.560 to can you say which one that's what are you asking us no i was asking if you think you're in
00:11:36.980 the top 20 percent of women oh no in the eyes of men in the eyes of men but to be fair with the
00:11:43.540 numbers you know we're screaming out you sort of are in it you wanted to pay 20 percent you know
00:11:49.060 in an ideal world i'd want to pay 20 percent but we don't live in an ideal world we live in the real
00:11:55.260 world and i'm not ignorant to the fact that i'm not in the top 20 percent of women so i don't expect
00:12:00.200 to be a stay-at-home housewife and have things how i want um i don't know where people get the idea
00:12:04.900 that life's supposed to be exactly how you want it life is how it is and you deal with it how you're
00:12:10.240 supposed to given your circumstances my circumstances are i'm not top 20 so i'm probably
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