The TRUTH About Modern Women
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss a clip that went viral on about average average men aren t enough. We talk about why you should date someone that makes more than you and why you don t want to date someone who makes less.
Transcript
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going to talk about a clip that went viral um do you want to pull up the first clip um so today's
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topic is average average men aren't enough now something that inspired this topic was this clip
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that went viral on twitter i'm just curious i'm going to show it on the screen have any of you
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seen this okay um okay oh okay are you gonna oh okay we're having tech issues um okay i guess i'll ask
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you guys so we're going to be talking about um what type of jobs you guys like to date
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so um if you i'm curious in your last relationship or your current relationship what does he do
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um so you can start here yeah you go first were you taken or single i can't remember i forgot to
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say i'm actually single right now um the last person i was speaking to um i think he had like
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multiple jobs i think one of them was like in like um you know those like gym membership things
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i think he was in like a gym and then he also did football on the side but not like professional
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and then i think that was it i think okay so he worked in a gym yeah and then football as well
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okay okay yeah yeah go ahead what did he do oh um my current the current person works as a private
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banker okay and previously oh entertainment like artist okay so like a musician yeah okay
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so he's an entrepreneur but he runs a removal company but it's not like low level it's it's high
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level yeah he's worked hard at it yeah he does really well yeah okay um he's a rapper yeah he's a
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really good rapper actually amazing what is your the person i'm kind of just met now she's a like a
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dance teacher um and a model as well okay but you know just to add out there like do you know what i
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wouldn't what i've realized later in life what i don't want is i don't want like a boss woman
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i'd rather just have like my woman which i mean not be doing all that stuff what made you what made
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you decide that have you dated a boss woman before yeah do you know what i just i just came to
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realization that i like i believe more in a traditional um relationship and you know speaking
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to my own mom my own family and they think the same thing and i think it's the best way to progress
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for me personally have you ever dated a girl that made more than you uh yeah when i was younger when
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you were younger yeah do you feel like she still was able to respect you in the relationship yeah
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definitely she was on me when i was on the way up as well like when i was younger i was trying to
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pursue a career in uh basketball okay and she had like a good job in um she was like a lecturer and
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stuff so like she'd lend me a car to get to go to trials and like even when i'm out for food and
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stuff she'd like bust me a card and that and um it does it makes you feel like demasculated and
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that so now i'm in a position where that's not the case and yeah i wouldn't want to go back it
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made you feel demasculated which you paid for things most definitely when i was young it would
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happen like once by the way when she passed me the card but okay yeah um what what did your either
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no you said you were single so your last boyfriend what did you do um i've dated but i've never like
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had a boyfriend um okay the last guy you were really into yeah um like for me it's it's more
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about if you make the same income of me with of me or higher so it's not really about the job for
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me you can do anything if you're passionate about if you love it i don't mind but it's are you are
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we making are you right so what what did he do uh i haven't actually asked when i go on days i
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haven't asked it's like i go on days i get to know you how would you know if he makes the same or
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more you you know by like the way you act and um where we go and i think for me before jobs i think i
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want to put that date on your credit card i feel like i want to know if you're like a family man
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what you but okay um i would say like business just normal business so um international business
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okay so like sales maybe type stuff yeah okay so you're dating the cannery wharf guys
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like yeah yeah like the business center but but i was just there today i was like a lot of suits
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um okay um what did your last boyfriend do oh the last guy i was dating banked fraud
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so you dated a criminal yeah basically i love it yeah never again
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how did how did a criminal get in the like you seem like a level-headed woman like how did a
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criminal get in the door with you like i'd imagine back you know if i hear crime i'm like
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ah i don't i don't like the crim you know no crime for me is it back in the day like i just wasn't the
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person i am today like i was very like immature and just not as level-headed as i used to be i used
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to be very much like a just out there girl so that was the type of people i was attracting
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so that's that's the best way to describe it i was attracting where i was but i've never
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oh is the video ready yeah okay so have you guys i've seen this video i have i've seen it
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no i actually haven't you know i've seen it found it really funny okay don't you know but i'm gonna
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interview but you you about it last but everyone else okay god
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md phds we also are the fastest growing group of entrepreneurs along with latina women in america
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pew research said that women are now out earning men out earning men in 22 of the largest cities
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in america including where i live new york dc la you name it when we talk and i know that you've said
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that you cannot teach a man or tell a man how to be a man so i will not ask you to indict men in this
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question but i do want you to speak ayonla to how women need to uh i don't know position ourselves
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so that we can be in our divinity so we can have our crowns right how we can create and not build
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when some of us quite frankly feel that the men that are available to us and i'm talking about
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across the color spectrum across the age spectrum trust me i've done them all um they are not
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positioned to protect nor provide because of some of the statistics we just talked about they're not
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earning the incomes they're not having the resources and some of them are not even showing
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up in the leadership would you date a bus driver
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if he owns the bus if he owns it if he owns the bus that's no that's a problem that's a problem
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because the standards and requisites and i'm not talking about him laying on his sofa playing video
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games all day i'm not talking about that but the standards and the criteria that we use to measure men
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is off for who we are as women and who they are in this society i would date a bus driver if he was
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if he loved driving the bus if he was a man of integrity if he was good to his mama if he treated me
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well i would date a bus driver but we think that it's another human being's responsibility to give us
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what we need instead of us building together i can build with a bus driver i'd have my little stash
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over on the side in my prenup but i could build with a bus driver so i think some of the criteria
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that we look for in the reality of today keeps us unhappy keeps us angry keeps us imbalanced and then
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when the men show up we want to beat them up because they're not living up to our standards and criteria
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and and it's not working beloved it's just not working so it's not that it's bad or wrong
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it's obsolete it's obsolete we have to come up with a new way of being i don't believe in carrying a man
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a man has to do for himself my son got his first job when he was nine nine okay because you're a black
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man you will know how to take care of yourself but i think the way we measure it it's it's just obsolete
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i think that's a factual analysis whatever we want expect as many of you know i was just banned
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