JustPearlyThings - The TRUTH About Modern Women

00:00:00.000 going to talk about a clip that went viral um do you want to pull up the first clip um so today's

00:00:06.200 topic is average average men aren't enough now something that inspired this topic was this clip

00:00:12.480 that went viral on twitter i'm just curious i'm going to show it on the screen have any of you

00:00:16.900 seen this okay um okay oh okay are you gonna oh okay we're having tech issues um okay i guess i'll ask

00:00:42.600 you guys so we're going to be talking about um what type of jobs you guys like to date

00:00:48.240 so um if you i'm curious in your last relationship or your current relationship what does he do

00:00:55.080 um so you can start here yeah you go first were you taken or single i can't remember i forgot to

00:01:02.700 say i'm actually single right now um the last person i was speaking to um i think he had like

00:01:10.140 multiple jobs i think one of them was like in like um you know those like gym membership things

00:01:17.240 i think he was in like a gym and then he also did football on the side but not like professional

00:01:22.840 and then i think that was it i think okay so he worked in a gym yeah and then football as well

00:01:30.420 okay okay yeah yeah go ahead what did he do oh um my current the current person works as a private

00:01:39.520 banker okay and previously oh entertainment like artist okay so like a musician yeah okay

00:01:49.600 so he's an entrepreneur but he runs a removal company but it's not like low level it's it's high

00:01:59.560 level yeah he's worked hard at it yeah he does really well yeah okay um he's a rapper yeah he's a

00:02:06.820 really good rapper actually amazing what is your the person i'm kind of just met now she's a like a

00:02:13.700 dance teacher um and a model as well okay but you know just to add out there like do you know what i

00:02:18.940 wouldn't what i've realized later in life what i don't want is i don't want like a boss woman 1.00

00:02:22.180 i'd rather just have like my woman which i mean not be doing all that stuff what made you what made 0.92

00:02:29.800 you decide that have you dated a boss woman before yeah do you know what i just i just came to

00:02:35.120 realization that i like i believe more in a traditional um relationship and you know speaking

00:02:41.080 to my own mom my own family and they think the same thing and i think it's the best way to progress

00:02:45.920 for me personally have you ever dated a girl that made more than you uh yeah when i was younger when

00:02:52.600 you were younger yeah do you feel like she still was able to respect you in the relationship yeah

00:02:56.640 definitely she was on me when i was on the way up as well like when i was younger i was trying to

00:02:59.780 pursue a career in uh basketball okay and she had like a good job in um she was like a lecturer and

00:03:05.140 stuff so like she'd lend me a car to get to go to trials and like even when i'm out for food and

00:03:10.060 stuff she'd like bust me a card and that and um it does it makes you feel like demasculated and

00:03:14.080 that so now i'm in a position where that's not the case and yeah i wouldn't want to go back it

00:03:17.560 made you feel demasculated which you paid for things most definitely when i was young it would

00:03:21.120 happen like once by the way when she passed me the card but okay yeah um what what did your either

00:03:27.820 no you said you were single so your last boyfriend what did you do um i've dated but i've never like

00:03:32.500 had a boyfriend um okay the last guy you were really into yeah um like for me it's it's more

00:03:39.780 about if you make the same income of me with of me or higher so it's not really about the job for

00:03:45.080 me you can do anything if you're passionate about if you love it i don't mind but it's are you are

00:03:50.440 we making are you right so what what did he do uh i haven't actually asked when i go on days i

00:03:55.540 haven't asked it's like i go on days i get to know you how would you know if he makes the same or

00:03:59.640 more you you know by like the way you act and um where we go and i think for me before jobs i think i

00:04:08.360 want to put that date on your credit card i feel like i want to know if you're like a family man

00:04:12.120 what you but okay um i would say like business just normal business so um international business

00:04:18.000 okay so like sales maybe type stuff yeah okay so you're dating the cannery wharf guys

00:04:23.420 like yeah yeah like the business center but but i was just there today i was like a lot of suits

00:04:29.960 um okay um what did your last boyfriend do oh the last guy i was dating banked fraud

00:04:37.960 no shade with it

00:04:43.720 so you dated a criminal yeah basically i love it yeah never again

00:04:51.420 how did how did a criminal get in the like you seem like a level-headed woman like how did a 1.00

00:04:57.340 criminal get in the door with you like i'd imagine back you know if i hear crime i'm like

00:05:02.300 ah i don't i don't like the crim you know no crime for me is it back in the day like i just wasn't the

00:05:07.480 person i am today like i was very like immature and just not as level-headed as i used to be i used

00:05:12.980 to be very much like a just out there girl so that was the type of people i was attracting

00:05:16.780 so that's that's the best way to describe it i was attracting where i was but i've never

00:05:20.560 banked fraud in my life

00:05:21.580 keep my credit cards

00:05:25.300 oh is the video ready yeah okay so have you guys i've seen this video i have i've seen it

00:05:32.980 no i actually haven't you know i've seen it found it really funny okay don't you know but i'm gonna

00:05:38.260 interview but you you about it last but everyone else okay god

00:05:41.700 md phds we also are the fastest growing group of entrepreneurs along with latina women in america

00:05:53.540 pew research said that women are now out earning men out earning men in 22 of the largest cities

00:06:00.680 in america including where i live new york dc la you name it when we talk and i know that you've said

00:06:07.440 that you cannot teach a man or tell a man how to be a man so i will not ask you to indict men in this

00:06:12.880 question but i do want you to speak ayonla to how women need to uh i don't know position ourselves 1.00

00:06:23.440 so that we can be in our divinity so we can have our crowns right how we can create and not build

00:06:30.340 when some of us quite frankly feel that the men that are available to us and i'm talking about

00:06:36.000 across the color spectrum across the age spectrum trust me i've done them all um they are not

00:06:41.560 positioned to protect nor provide because of some of the statistics we just talked about they're not

00:06:46.500 earning the incomes they're not having the resources and some of them are not even showing

00:06:51.040 up in the leadership would you date a bus driver

00:06:54.640 if he owns the bus if he owns it if he owns the bus that's no that's a problem that's a problem

00:07:05.140 because the standards and requisites and i'm not talking about him laying on his sofa playing video

00:07:11.000 games all day i'm not talking about that but the standards and the criteria that we use to measure men

00:07:19.140 is off for who we are as women and who they are in this society i would date a bus driver if he was 1.00

00:07:26.740 if he loved driving the bus if he was a man of integrity if he was good to his mama if he treated me

00:07:34.520 well i would date a bus driver but we think that it's another human being's responsibility to give us

00:07:43.080 what we need instead of us building together i can build with a bus driver i'd have my little stash

00:07:48.780 over on the side in my prenup but i could build with a bus driver so i think some of the criteria

00:07:56.140 that we look for in the reality of today keeps us unhappy keeps us angry keeps us imbalanced and then

00:08:05.580 when the men show up we want to beat them up because they're not living up to our standards and criteria

00:08:11.740 and and it's not working beloved it's just not working so it's not that it's bad or wrong

00:08:18.940 it's obsolete it's obsolete we have to come up with a new way of being i don't believe in carrying a man

00:08:25.660 a man has to do for himself my son got his first job when he was nine nine okay because you're a black 0.94

00:08:33.820 man you will know how to take care of yourself but i think the way we measure it it's it's just obsolete

00:08:43.180 i think that's a factual analysis whatever we want expect as many of you know i was just banned

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JustPearlyThings - April 02, 2023

The TRUTH About Modern Women

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