JustPearlyThings - March 31, 2023


Aunty Jenny Explains Intersexual Dynamics In The 60s


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In this episode, we discuss the role of women in society and the roles of men in society. We also discuss the age old question of whether or not a woman should get married if she is not a virgin. We discuss the difference between being a virgin and being a traditionalist and what it means to be a modern woman.

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00:00:00.000 I think we're in a unique period of time
00:00:02.800 where I think because of everyone being able to work,
00:00:06.040 I think we really need to readdress
00:00:07.680 how we relate to each other as men and women.
00:00:09.660 So I wouldn't as much say
00:00:11.480 people should stay in their roles and et cetera,
00:00:14.120 but I really think there needs to be
00:00:15.460 a really conscious effort
00:00:16.780 to kind of rebalance that relationship
00:00:20.520 because it's not the 1960s anymore.
00:00:22.700 So the rebalance means still restructuring those roles.
00:00:25.720 So you know your position.
00:00:26.500 I agree with you on a level, yeah.
00:00:27.480 The only difference is that years ago,
00:00:31.600 everybody was happy as they are.
00:00:33.520 No.
00:00:33.880 No, listen.
00:00:35.100 You weren't born years ago, I was.
00:00:37.260 No, I don't buy it.
00:00:38.100 Right, well, can I finish?
00:00:39.420 You were not there.
00:00:40.620 You weren't born?
00:00:41.580 Yeah, but I don't buy it.
00:00:42.180 You weren't born.
00:00:42.420 If we wouldn't be here, you know.
00:00:43.640 She's not even been selling it.
00:00:44.980 Let her finish. 0.98
00:00:45.460 You weren't born.
00:00:46.560 Okay.
00:00:48.400 Years ago,
00:00:50.560 one wage would have kept a whole house. 0.96
00:00:54.200 That's what people fear to realise.
00:00:55.600 One wage would have kept a whole house. 0.96
00:00:58.080 So the men went out and worked 0.62
00:00:59.980 and the women stayed home, 1.00
00:01:01.880 done their side hustles
00:01:02.660 and the women ran the house. 1.00
00:01:04.740 Then all of a sudden,
00:01:06.000 they wanted bigger houses.
00:01:07.480 They wanted bigger.
00:01:08.260 So then it took two people to go and work.
00:01:11.440 The difference is that
00:01:12.500 two people can work
00:01:14.240 and still have those same roles.
00:01:17.420 And when people think about
00:01:19.600 men having their roles
00:01:20.560 and women have their roles, 1.00
00:01:21.600 because I worked,
00:01:23.980 my other half worked,
00:01:25.700 I would say like,
00:01:26.820 we have pink jobs and blue jobs.
00:01:28.840 But he cooks better than me.
00:01:31.040 If he comes home first,
00:01:32.520 he's going to cook.
00:01:33.440 It doesn't diminish his role as a man.
00:01:35.660 Thank you.
00:01:36.420 And it's all about cooperation.
00:01:38.380 And that's the only difference
00:01:39.380 between then and now
00:01:41.240 is that one wage
00:01:43.580 could have kept a whole household.
00:01:45.880 Now the way things are changing,
00:01:47.420 the way things are moving,
00:01:48.280 you need two wages.
00:01:50.160 But because now you need two wages,
00:01:52.180 it doesn't mean that you're equal.
00:01:54.660 Somebody still has to lead.
00:01:56.340 But the women are thinking, 1.00
00:01:58.000 oh, I earn my own money now
00:01:59.820 and he earns his own money.
00:02:01.440 So all these rules are outdated.
00:02:03.560 No.
00:02:05.160 I don't think they're outdated.
00:02:06.620 I just think that
00:02:07.700 you still need to work together
00:02:09.500 and you can still have those roles.
00:02:11.560 There's people out there
00:02:12.420 that have got married,
00:02:13.580 that have still got traditional values.
00:02:15.260 They're bringing in two wages
00:02:16.460 and they make it work
00:02:17.980 because they each know their roles.
00:02:20.180 And because they are traditional,
00:02:21.580 like from the start,
00:02:22.540 not like,
00:02:23.200 oh, I'm going to be a modern woman
00:02:24.080 and then all of a sudden
00:02:24.600 I'm going to forget that I'm not a virgin
00:02:25.800 and get married and I'm traditional.
00:02:27.240 I'm talking about
00:02:28.120 the ones that are traditional
00:02:29.400 from the start,
00:02:30.180 like get married and work.
00:02:31.680 And I know a few young people like that,
00:02:33.880 like your age
00:02:34.660 and a bit older
00:02:35.700 that are married with children
00:02:37.180 and they both work,
00:02:38.500 but they still have traditional roles.
00:02:40.320 They still have traditional roles.
00:02:42.640 Can I say,
00:02:43.400 what if some women are waiting 1.00
00:02:44.480 to find men with traditional roles?
00:02:47.760 Are they traditional women? 1.00
00:02:50.660 You have to adapt to society.
00:02:53.220 You can't want a traditional man 1.00
00:02:55.340 and you're not traditional.
00:02:56.660 Traditional women are suffering bare. 0.92
00:02:59.200 I've been seeing a lot of videos
00:03:00.440 of virgins coming out
00:03:01.460 and I say,
00:03:01.900 we also need to be recognized.
00:03:03.840 We keep being left behind.
00:03:04.840 Wait, are we talking virgins,
00:03:06.500 like sexually?
00:03:07.360 Like I'm very confused.
00:03:08.160 My view is that
00:03:11.120 if you're not a virgin,
00:03:12.380 like you're a virgin,
00:03:13.240 you get married,
00:03:14.180 that's the way it was back then.
00:03:15.680 That is traditional.
00:03:16.900 You can be a traditionalist.
00:03:18.540 If you're not a virgin,
00:03:19.540 you are not traditional.
00:03:20.440 In my view,
00:03:21.140 you are a traditionalist.
00:03:23.500 Can I say something
00:03:24.220 that's kind of strange
00:03:24.980 that I actually noticed
00:03:25.820 because I've been watching
00:03:26.540 a lot of like time periods
00:03:27.700 of movies?
00:03:28.420 The purity that we talk about
00:03:31.980 in virgins,
00:03:33.320 the tradition that has come
00:03:34.540 from like centuries,
00:03:35.640 realistically,
00:03:36.280 there's like a pervy old man 1.00
00:03:37.660 that were kind of like
00:03:38.400 trying to buy children
00:03:39.720 from like other families.
00:03:41.500 I'm not going to lie.
00:03:42.540 Listen, right,
00:03:42.980 my grandmother,
00:03:43.720 my granddad,
00:03:44.440 listen, right,
00:03:45.700 that's rubbish.
00:03:46.280 My grandmother,
00:03:46.900 my granddad,
00:03:47.500 they got married
00:03:48.000 and my grandmother died
00:03:50.060 at a hundred and a hundred years old.
00:03:51.320 My granddad weren't pervy
00:03:52.460 and they were both virgins.
00:03:54.060 I'm not talking about your granddad.
00:03:55.280 I'm trying to say that.
00:03:56.180 You can't say a whole generation
00:03:57.480 that because it was traditional then
00:03:59.400 that was old men and pervy 0.99
00:04:00.760 that they were pervy
00:04:01.620 on young people.
00:04:02.980 Well, okay,
00:04:04.080 I'll put it in another way.
00:04:05.920 Don't generalize.
00:04:06.880 Don't generalize.
00:04:07.800 I'll just put it in another way.
00:04:08.880 You're picking like a nice,
00:04:10.680 you know,
00:04:11.060 a nice example
00:04:11.680 that is beautiful.
00:04:12.620 Well, stop picking the bad ones.
00:04:13.540 I'm just evening it up.
00:04:15.880 That's great.
00:04:16.480 That's fantastic.
00:04:17.160 Another example,
00:04:18.200 like child marriage,
00:04:19.080 it happens all over the world.
00:04:20.820 It's just because
00:04:21.700 and these are the more traditional places
00:04:23.760 in the world.
00:04:24.520 In the Western world.
00:04:25.880 Child marriages 0.95
00:04:26.600 in the Western world.
00:04:27.620 I'm just explaining,
00:04:28.660 I'm just explaining,
00:04:30.020 yeah,
00:04:30.540 that the more traditional places
00:04:31.920 in the world,
00:04:32.520 this happens.
00:04:33.400 So if we're in the Western world,
00:04:34.560 we're trying to go back
00:04:35.340 into more traditional values.
00:04:36.620 Where does it happen?
00:04:37.440 Africa, Asia.
00:04:38.760 Which Africa? 0.77
00:04:39.660 That's what I want to know.
00:04:40.600 You don't know about child marriage?
00:04:42.260 No, my love.
00:04:42.740 You can't take extreme examples
00:04:44.380 to not prove your point.
00:04:45.460 No, no, no.
00:04:46.020 Because even Nigeria, 0.98
00:04:47.420 even Africa is Westernized.
00:04:49.000 No, no, no.
00:04:49.540 I see people that in Africa 1.00
00:04:51.140 that speak like Nathan
00:04:53.160 and they've never been to America.
00:04:55.120 You understand?
00:04:55.920 Yes.
00:04:56.120 So you can't say in Africa,
00:04:57.740 okay,
00:04:58.160 you can't take extreme examples
00:05:00.420 to explain what you're trying to say.
00:05:02.340 Child marriage
00:05:02.940 is a whole different
00:05:04.380 from Miami.
00:05:05.380 No, no, no.
00:05:06.140 I'm saying that they speak
00:05:07.240 like American. 0.55
00:05:08.680 You understand?
00:05:08.980 I thought you tried to say
00:05:09.900 I've been to America.
00:05:10.400 No, no, no.
00:05:10.900 No, no, no.
00:05:11.600 I'm saying that there's people
00:05:12.600 in Nigeria
00:05:13.220 that speak like they're American
00:05:15.140 and they've never been anywhere.
00:05:17.080 She's saying Africa.
00:05:18.200 Africa is not what... 0.95
00:05:19.400 Don't paint Africa
00:05:20.300 like one backwards country. 0.85
00:05:21.840 Now I'm for you, my sister.
00:05:23.340 I'm African too.
00:05:24.280 I'm Angolan.
00:05:25.080 I know what I'm talking about.
00:05:26.180 So don't say it.
00:05:26.620 What I'm mentioning is
00:05:27.740 I mentioned Africa,
00:05:28.960 I mentioned Asia,
00:05:29.780 I mentioned certain parts
00:05:30.620 in the world
00:05:30.920 that I'm more traditional.
00:05:31.380 Talk about what you know about.
00:05:32.540 Talk about what you know about.
00:05:33.580 Talk about Angola.
00:05:35.040 Listen, listen, listen.
00:05:35.780 Talk about Angola.
00:05:36.660 Okay, I'll go to Angola.
00:05:38.040 Angola.
00:05:38.200 If you go, even, even,
00:05:39.800 like literally,
00:05:40.500 it's one of the most...
00:05:41.360 This is quite normal.
00:05:42.620 I don't know how people
00:05:43.120 don't understand this,
00:05:43.960 like how underage girls, yeah,
00:05:45.540 that shouldn't even be having sex
00:05:46.720 with grown men,
00:05:47.380 they're doing it
00:05:47.920 because their families
00:05:48.880 are arranging this
00:05:50.160 with other families
00:05:51.340 because of financial gain,
00:05:53.160 whatever.
00:05:53.880 And this has been the tradition
00:05:55.000 from back in the day,
00:05:56.040 kings and queens days,
00:05:57.120 and that's where the idea
00:05:57.780 of purity being
00:05:58.620 what is favoured,
00:05:59.760 that's where it comes from.
00:06:01.100 Realistically,
00:06:01.660 if we really stop
00:06:02.220 to think about it.
00:06:02.940 And some of the most traditional,
00:06:04.860 like the ones
00:06:05.260 that have not been tainted
00:06:06.440 by Western ideals,
00:06:10.060 continues.
00:06:10.240 The majority of marriages 0.62
00:06:11.240 in Angola
00:06:11.860 are not child marriages.
00:06:12.920 Oh, by the way,
00:06:13.420 don't listen to the stats.
00:06:14.500 This is a communist country.
00:06:15.740 Ah, she said that.
00:06:16.500 Wow, I was saying,
00:06:17.220 see me see what I have.
00:06:18.100 Oh, she, don't come and, 1.00
00:06:19.340 I'm not going to lie.
00:06:20.400 Don't come and actually,
00:06:21.200 don't actually come and do that
00:06:22.640 because it's not fair.
00:06:24.100 Like, don't, like,
00:06:25.200 it doesn't happen in Angola.
00:06:27.580 Like, child marriage does happen.
00:06:29.880 Okay, it does happen.
00:06:31.020 It's something that,
00:06:31.600 it's a problem.
00:06:33.100 Minority. 0.51
00:06:33.640 Even, even genital, 0.60
00:06:35.100 yes, yeah, mutilation.
00:06:37.160 Those are things,
00:06:37.840 but now you see
00:06:38.440 when a society
00:06:39.100 where we recognize this
00:06:40.260 as it is not meant
00:06:41.780 to be like this, right?
00:06:43.060 So this is why
00:06:43.720 these issues are addressed.
00:06:45.220 But what we're talking about
00:06:46.160 is about modern,
00:06:47.920 modern,
00:06:48.480 even in Nigeria,
00:06:49.080 there's no more.
00:06:49.740 I'm Igbo.
00:06:50.600 Do you know how to say
00:06:51.320 I'm a traditional,
00:06:51.860 a traditionalist?
00:06:52.500 That tradition is still not there.
00:06:53.940 You're not,
00:06:54.380 it's traditionalist,
00:06:55.380 like you said,
00:06:56.140 but it's not as tradition.
00:06:57.320 What's the difference
00:06:58.100 between culture and tradition?
00:06:59.820 Just the legal age 0.99
00:07:01.160 for marriage
00:07:01.880 for both men and women
00:07:03.000 in Angola
00:07:03.600 is 18 years old.
00:07:05.480 You are right.
00:07:06.240 It's more prevalent.
00:07:07.280 It's more,
00:07:07.700 it's more prevalent
00:07:08.720 than it is here.
00:07:10.140 But you,
00:07:10.980 you speak as if it's,
00:07:13.100 it's oppressing,
00:07:14.580 like,
00:07:14.940 why are you speaking
00:07:15.980 on something you don't know?
00:07:17.080 I'll tell you,
00:07:18.020 because I do know one
00:07:19.100 and then I'll tell you,
00:07:19.860 I'll go use another example.
00:07:21.040 I'm just,
00:07:21.620 all I'm trying to do
00:07:22.580 is expose the facts.
00:07:24.460 All I'm trying to do.
00:07:25.140 No, no, no,
00:07:26.160 because it's interesting
00:07:27.100 because what I like to do,
00:07:28.280 yeah,
00:07:28.480 is I like people to explore
00:07:29.820 their different ideas.
00:07:31.460 For example,
00:07:31.800 you're telling,
00:07:32.180 go back to the most traditional thing.
00:07:34.060 E.G.,
00:07:34.700 Boko Haram.
00:07:35.600 Yeah,
00:07:35.700 this is just an example.
00:07:36.680 It's extreme,
00:07:37.140 but just to explain
00:07:37.760 what traditionalism actually means.
00:07:39.340 No,
00:07:39.480 but wait,
00:07:40.100 Boko Haram,
00:07:40.680 what they stand for
00:07:41.640 is basically
00:07:42.340 against Western culture
00:07:43.720 because Western culture
00:07:44.600 in their eyes
00:07:45.360 tainted the tradition,
00:07:46.900 what is meant to be there
00:07:48.100 and what should be there.
00:07:48.820 What do they do?
00:07:49.520 They take girls 1.00
00:07:50.680 and they marry them 0.55
00:07:51.780 all over the world,
00:07:53.060 all over like the place.
00:07:54.840 They kidnap them,
00:07:55.640 in fact,
00:07:55.940 and they marry children.
00:07:57.220 And all I'm saying is that
00:07:58.200 actually the traditional idea,
00:08:00.060 the traditional view
00:08:01.000 of purity
00:08:02.060 is not stemming from
00:08:03.220 a woman.
00:08:03.920 Why does a woman 1.00
00:08:04.660 have to be visual?
00:08:05.460 Why does she have to be visual? 1.00
00:08:06.440 Is that traditional
00:08:07.640 depending on the culture?
00:08:09.800 No,
00:08:10.040 because that is not traditional
00:08:12.480 throughout the whole Western world.
00:08:14.080 That what you're talking about
00:08:15.220 is tradition
00:08:16.500 that is
00:08:18.100 for that culture.
00:08:19.320 The Western world
00:08:19.900 modernized
00:08:20.420 and that's why it's changed.
00:08:21.280 Because for that culture,
00:08:22.060 for that culture,
00:08:23.360 it is not
00:08:23.960 all over
00:08:25.280 the Western world
00:08:26.380 and things
00:08:27.400 are changing.
00:08:28.660 So that is it.
00:08:29.420 Modernization.
00:08:30.340 If you look
00:08:31.280 at how many
00:08:32.420 child marriages 0.66
00:08:33.400 happen
00:08:34.040 over the whole
00:08:35.860 Western world
00:08:37.360 and look at the percentages,
00:08:38.980 it's going to be
00:08:39.800 minute.
00:08:41.020 So you can't stand here
00:08:42.180 and make it like
00:08:42.800 it's a majority
00:08:43.980 because it's not.
00:08:45.580 So traditional
00:08:46.580 doesn't mean
00:08:48.800 child marriages 0.66
00:08:50.040 by pervy old men
00:08:51.560 is what you're saying.
00:08:52.840 That's not what I'm saying.
00:08:53.800 That is what you said.
00:08:54.640 What I'm saying
00:08:55.420 is for you to understand.
00:08:57.180 I am using you.
00:08:58.000 I don't want to understand
00:08:58.700 because I don't agree
00:08:59.240 with nothing you're saying.
00:09:00.320 I don't want to understand.
00:09:01.680 You said
00:09:02.360 that tradition means
00:09:03.540 that pervy old men 1.00
00:09:04.840 are going to go
00:09:05.400 and sleep with
00:09:06.180 underage children.
00:09:07.180 The way you took
00:09:10.160 the example
00:09:10.760 and then put it
00:09:11.680 into the context,
00:09:12.500 that's why I said
00:09:12.920 that you can't
00:09:13.520 use that example
00:09:14.260 to explain
00:09:15.000 what we're talking about.
00:09:16.000 And the one thing
00:09:16.900 you're taking out
00:09:17.360 of context
00:09:21.840 from a historical
00:09:23.100 perspective
00:09:23.660 is people did not
00:09:24.560 live as long.
00:09:25.760 It was not because
00:09:26.720 the men were pervs.
00:09:27.940 It was because
00:09:28.340 people had to get
00:09:29.080 started a lot quicker
00:09:30.460 in order to reproduce.
00:09:32.900 It was a
00:09:33.360 reproductive strategy.
00:09:34.740 The reason that men 1.00
00:09:35.520 like pure women 0.97
00:09:37.080 is because they
00:09:38.280 had to ensure paternity.
00:09:39.820 If you were sleeping
00:09:40.740 around screwing
00:09:41.640 the whole town,
00:09:42.640 they didn't know
00:09:43.200 if that kid was theirs.
00:09:45.000 It's not that
00:09:45.760 they're pervy.
00:09:46.840 That makes sense.
00:09:47.580 What is the difference
00:09:49.160 between a 17
00:09:49.940 and an 18-year-old?
00:09:51.460 Okay.
00:09:51.960 Then I'll ask
00:09:52.860 another question.
00:09:53.460 Can I ask you
00:09:53.820 a question then?
00:09:54.440 Yeah.
00:09:54.700 Another example.
00:09:55.880 Cool.
00:09:56.860 Quickly.
00:09:57.260 If that is the case,
00:09:58.380 if that is the case,
00:09:59.500 then again,
00:10:00.420 I'll just say
00:10:01.460 kings and queens,
00:10:03.380 all these times
00:10:04.080 they married young girls 0.66
00:10:05.360 and they were not
00:10:06.180 the same age.
00:10:06.940 Young virginal women 1.00
00:10:09.020 have, yes.
00:10:10.500 And they were older men.
00:10:12.400 No, but life expectancy
00:10:13.560 back then
00:10:14.060 wasn't even 35.
00:10:15.120 I asked the Eastern Romans.
00:10:16.700 It wasn't even 35.
00:10:18.100 And the girls
00:10:18.560 married younger.
00:10:19.900 Yeah, people got married
00:10:20.980 younger because
00:10:21.760 they did not live
00:10:22.660 as long.
00:10:23.680 Yeah, okay.
00:10:24.480 That was normal
00:10:25.140 back then.
00:10:25.820 Right.
00:10:26.260 That was normal
00:10:26.840 back then.
00:10:27.340 And what I'm trying
00:10:27.780 to explain is that
00:10:28.500 this idea of purity
00:10:30.360 and youth
00:10:31.280 is coming from
00:10:32.240 an outdated context.
00:10:33.340 I think that's a cope
00:10:34.660 because you don't
00:10:35.380 have it anymore.
00:10:36.420 Do you know what?
00:10:36.960 I was just
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