JustPearlyThings - March 14, 2023


Aunty Jenny RED PILLS Modern Woman

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She Got OFFENDED When She Said This๏ผš Fat Women Are Not RESPONSIBLE Aunty Jenny goes on an Epic Rant

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In this episode, we are joined by a very good friend of mine, who has been in the industry for a number of years and has been around the block. We talk about what it s like being in a relationship with a man who is not good looking, how to go on dates, and how to deal with a guy who isn t good looking.

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00:00:00.000 yeah so how did you for that guy you said that you weren't attracted to at the start how did you
00:00:07.120 get to that point to speak to him to then go on a date his conversation literally i found him very
00:00:12.100 intriguing he was a like he was fresh like the first time he messaged you not from the first
00:00:17.340 time he messaged like it was a consecutive period of time where we were speaking and i found him as
00:00:21.900 an interesting person and that's how it kind of i went on a date with him okay um and also like
00:00:28.020 attraction comes with time like you get to know a person more and if they've got a good personality
00:00:32.560 then they become more and more did he meet you on the street or was it a day no it was via a friend
00:00:36.760 that don't count because he's already i can't wait to answer my time that guy's been verified because
00:00:45.480 that's through a friend you know what i'm saying that's different from a guy on the street who is
00:00:49.660 ugly who is a guy on instagram no no no i was gonna say i was gonna say as well like if it if it's a guy
00:00:55.400 on the street a complete stranger there's no there's no cv resume nothing like and he's five
00:01:01.700 foot three and looks like shrek and then he's like oh my god you're so you're so gorgeous you're gonna
00:01:08.400 be like uh like like who is this guy like you you're not going to find out if he's got a great character
00:01:14.020 you're not gonna care bro that's the one that's the truth about it can i say something i'm just not
00:01:19.720 the type of person that would be approached on the street and just be okay with going on a date
00:01:23.680 with you it doesn't work for me like that okay but you get what you get the point i'm making that like
00:01:28.300 that guy that you're talking about who was unattractive that you gave a chance to
00:01:31.620 there was there was a middle man do you get what i'm saying there was someone that verified
00:01:35.600 and that gave him the license that gave the license for you to even get to know him but if
00:01:42.080 it was a complete stranger you like you met me today and you thought oh this guy's ugly in the
00:01:47.000 corner like and i was like oh what's your instagram you'd be like i wouldn't sorry like
00:01:51.920 intrigue me intrigue me like yeah would you not sorry don't go like that you don't go like that
00:01:56.880 excite your mind i'm gonna give her a chance you want to go you've been so good this show i know
00:02:04.000 you've been so good it's good because a lot of people sound trying to stay in my zone but i'll
00:02:08.240 tell you something i i i do things a bit differently i don't go on dates i go on meetings that means that
00:02:20.800 before sexual there's a person which means that if you keep looking at somebody be like oh my
00:02:25.600 attracted to my man this you miss out on the actual value because that man the same way it could be
00:02:29.520 your husband it could be your best friend it could be a business partner it could be somebody so once
00:02:33.440 you decline or accept based on looks you're screwing yourself number one number two sometimes as well
00:02:40.000 the looks don't really matter the person is really lovely you can do it even out of like being a good
00:02:44.480 person you're kind you want to take me out why am i saying no for no reason i'll go with you but then
00:02:49.280 you will know for sure you're not for me i'll let you know your friend zone brother zone family zone
00:02:53.760 whatever zone i need to put you in it's very easy you create boundaries so you can do whatever you
00:02:57.600 want boundaries create freedom and then lastly what was the last question is do you go on dates
00:03:03.120 oh the the the friend have you okay god i'm a very honest person when my girls come to me and they
00:03:09.120 start telling me about the man i tell you i tell them first how did he approach you what did he say
00:03:13.600 what did you say how did it go okay he's just you please stop telling me about uh feelings and that's
00:03:19.360 the first thing and that's whether you're pretty or whether you're well honesty is needed sorry
00:03:25.600 sorry quick one for you like let's boil it down to realness here yeah you got eyes right so are you
00:03:31.360 gonna sell because the guy is not good looking so you're you're settling basically you're basically
00:03:36.400 is it settling or is that you're going on meetings no but we look at a relationship you have to be
00:03:40.800 someone who will tear their clothes off and they've got personality match right am i being wrong someone
00:03:44.240 correct me i think that's more for men you know in my opinion really no but yeah women's 0.99
00:03:48.800 i must be a man then you must be a man whoever that is is me i must be a man yeah obviously women 1.00
00:03:56.240 have that as well but really mostly like bro let's be real like if you're looking at a girl now yeah
00:04:00.480 especially if you're a so-called girl whatever yeah bro we could be we could be on the airplane
00:04:05.600 but you know you look at her you're like yo yo we need to go to the bathroom yeah but why wouldn't you
00:04:09.840 want why wouldn't you want that as a woman you know what it is yeah from your man though we're not 1.00
00:04:13.040 my question we're not anyone anyone in this room is not mind readers first thing we see is looks
00:04:22.400 what makes us know their personality beyond that right yeah don't be so sure baby oh so you're mind
00:04:26.560 reading yeah it's not you don't need to be a mind reader you have to be a body language reader and
00:04:30.320 you need to look people in the eyes and question everything that they say first you always know if
00:04:34.640 you think whilst people are speaking to you will always be ahead of the game you have to play a
00:04:38.480 game because this is art of seduction i've been reading that book and it's taught me a lot so
00:04:42.000 love is the game then yeah listen i sit here and i can have a conversation with anyone and ask you
00:04:51.760 about three questions to make you be like oh you know she's kind of nice she's quite interesting no 1.00
00:04:55.360 matter what your first impression of me was one of them will be where you from because it shows that i'm
00:04:59.920 kind of showing any sort of interest in you i can do whatever i want with you if i've got a look i'm
00:05:05.280 a woman i asked you the right question you think she's generally interested men like girls are also
00:05:08.960 interested because they make them seem easier so answer my question is love a game love because
00:05:14.480 where you are describing it's all listen love is one of those things that there's an attraction but
00:05:18.960 then you need to secure the get the deal securing the deal is the game what's the deal the deal is
00:05:23.120 making sure that the person is aware that you love them and you love me therefore we're going to
00:05:26.880 create something thanks persuasion yo yo yo you you've got all this insight in this thing yeah are you
00:05:33.680 are you currently winning do you know why why i'm winning because all the wrong ones are falling off
00:05:38.960 like so you have all this knowledge you know every strategy you know exactly what to do look in the
00:05:44.880 eyes and all of that michael i made you smile so much today we're talking about challenging i'm just
00:05:56.640 keeping it real fam i'm just asking do you think you're winning
00:05:59.440 i am winning because realistically okay i'm not going to say realistically in my opinion are you
00:06:04.880 single and let me tell you something yes or no i am winning let me tell you what does winning mean
00:06:10.560 does winning do i win because i have to be in a relationship the reason why i'm not in a
00:06:14.080 relationship is out of choice let me let me ask you you said the reason you're not in a relationship
00:06:20.400 is out of choice yeah so if you found the perfect guy right now would you date him yeah this is the hell out
00:06:25.840 of him i'm actually working on something okay okay so wouldn't you say that the guys you want then
00:06:31.440 don't want you no it's not that they don't want me it's just like it's paid it's paid let me tell you
00:06:39.040 something like i said to you already for you to create a relationship it takes you to tango you
00:06:44.080 people have this you don't trust somebody like that you have to test out you need to make sure so
00:06:48.640 what you do that's when the game and the little dance is there that's where the seduction play comes in
00:06:53.200 so all i'm saying is i'm winning because every single time i get to suss out who i want and who
00:06:57.760 i don't want so i say i don't want you but you are nice and you're still interested if i want to
00:07:01.520 do like this tomorrow i can if i want to open my legs and secure it quicker i can but i don't want
00:07:05.920 to so i'll take my time it's better can i can i just say trust is not repetition wow trust is benefit
00:07:14.560 of the doubt repetition is that you come in and you turn your light on and the light works when you
00:07:18.960 turn your light on it don't work a million things go through your head is it the light bulb that
00:07:22.880 i pay the bill am i having a power shortage is the power out that's repetition that's not a way
00:07:28.240 to trust somebody because the second they deviate from that repetition that you are used to you no
00:07:33.680 longer trust that person and it's hard and or impossible to get that trust back trust is benefit of
00:07:39.440 the doubt are you challenging something that i said or you're just making a point both so what are you
00:07:44.480 challenging that i said because you said you said it's again it's do we trust each other do we go to
00:07:50.400 this if i will put you through this multiple things to see if i trust you that's fine to do but what
00:07:56.560 i'm telling you is that's again goes back to and again i'm telling you this because i'm not trying to
00:08:02.480 i'm telling you the truth that is very easy to manipulate from a man's point of view i can make
00:08:08.800 you think that what i'm doing in my actions all the time are trustworthy easy but but what i'm saying
00:08:18.320 to you i'm not saying that you're wrong but what i'm saying to you is benefit of the doubt will work
00:08:22.080 much better in this any situation because the benefit of the doubt is i'm not looking through
00:08:26.880 your phone because i you wrong what's the point of looking through your phone if i don't trust you so
00:08:31.520 let me tell you something quickly uh listen if let me tell you how it works i'm trying i'm literally
00:08:37.520 because the point because the point is just this the point is wait hold on you see these two
00:08:42.640 others i'm gonna let them speak i'm gonna let them say something no no no okay you're gonna let
00:08:47.680 them speak now go yeah go go go go go what was the question again okay i don't even know the fact
00:08:53.680 the fat friend or the ugly friend and have you been for free lunch obviously you have every pretty girl has 0.99
00:09:00.560 come on i'm ugly then what are you trying to say that i'm ugly who's ugly who said he's ugly 0.98
00:09:04.240 me i've never been on the free lunch look at your skin you said every pretty woman has been on the 1.00
00:09:09.920 free lunch i've never been on the free lunch you're called auntie for a reason i've never been on the
00:09:14.800 free lunch stop stop go go they're going go on sister go i apologize um i haven't gone out to get
00:09:33.840 free food i've gone out with somebody that i had a friendship with that i didn't find attractive but
00:09:39.280 we were getting on so well and i thought can i can this go anywhere and then it confirmed 100
00:09:45.520 no like there's no attraction for me i know some women can or some men might be able to wear like 0.73
00:09:49.600 that i cannot live that that date there confirmed it and i was honest and i said no but because we
00:09:54.480 was friends anyway it was kind of like okay i think he was a bit that annoyed but he didn't express that
00:10:00.800 to me i bet he appreciated your honesty but um for me personally i have to be very attracted or it's not
00:10:06.640 going to work like it's just not going to work what what what was the things about him that like
00:10:10.800 made you unattracted to him what was it about him that you didn't like like physically just the way
00:10:15.360 he looks like i didn't feel like yeah like it wasn't that it was just so what it was just his face
00:10:26.320 really it's just everything like the just height just build everything i don't really okay obviously
00:10:31.600 someone can be shorter than me but i'm not like if someone's a little bit taller than me that don't
00:10:35.040 bother me a man don't need to be tall too i know a lot of girls are like no he has to be too i don't 0.99
00:10:39.120 really care about that can i ask a question if he if he was blind and you went on a date yeah that
00:10:43.360 made him your perfect man then if he's blind if he was blind yeah okay i don't understand if he was
00:10:50.400 you mean if she was she was blind sorry if she was blind if i was blind and you went on that date
00:10:55.600 with him was i blind from birth yeah well yeah i wouldn't really know i wouldn't know about i wouldn't know
00:11:01.440 about what i'm trying to say is that by the way he sounded and the conversation and because you
00:11:06.080 were friends and everything yeah then it would have been perfect but my eyes worked so it couldn't work 0.96
00:11:10.240 see that's fucked up that's fucked up that's what i could see but it's true 1.00
00:11:15.920 sorry auntie i back her see what is what i need physical attraction that's the whole point 1.00
00:11:21.760 what is this thing with like people acting surprised that like women like physically 0.98
00:11:25.680 attracted that's what i'm saying and the fact that you guys seem to over emphasize one thing so women 1.00
00:11:32.880 for attraction and sexual attraction for women is quite complex right women are very hard to please 1.00
00:11:37.200 they need atmosphere they need a good conversation they need good looks they need a good frame they
00:11:41.920 need charisma level of status they need all these things this is why unattractive guys can constantly
00:11:47.440 win as you've seen in real life so why do we come on these conversations and pretend that like it's
00:11:52.800 only because of looks and like you're shallow for doing this and that when it's like well obviously
00:11:56.560 she gave him an opportunity to show these other characteristics and most of the time will fail
00:12:00.880 because women are complex right most guys don't have those other characteristics because they're not obvious
00:12:04.640 so that's that's one thing i would say i think on this matter i think it's actually kind of a good
00:12:09.600 thing so i i haven't had much experience with these kind of things like paying for dinners and not
00:12:13.600 getting like you know smashing or whatever but when i no no i will tell you one thing i will tell you
00:12:19.680 one thing my experience of that was in uni first year i hit the clubs and you know i hit the bar and
00:12:26.080 you know i watched all these american power movies so i thought it was like yeah you see someone cute you
00:12:29.680 say hey can i get you a drink try and have a chat in this crowded busy stinky club when you can't
00:12:35.680 hear each other and that's how it worked in it so saw this girl made eye contact do you want to get
00:12:41.200 a drink queued up like 10 minutes got her this drink was seven pound 50 it still hurt i was i was in
00:12:47.120 uni i was like that was the dumbest thing i've ever done that makes no sense so you know when when
00:13:01.440 people when grown men are like oh i took out for dinner she didn't smash just like bro you could 0.86
00:13:04.800 have bought like a twix or like a vodka and figured that out like you didn't have to do all that quick
00:13:09.520 question for you though so what for you you only would you only go out on a date with someone that
00:13:13.600 you saw as a potential rather than just someone you wanted to have fun with both it depends what
00:13:19.920 the peas are saying though it depends on what you mean by it depends what the peas are saying
00:13:23.520 someone that you want to get that you see yourself getting into something serious with down the line
00:13:28.400 i don't know i don't really have that i don't really have that but i think if i find someone
00:13:31.440 attractive and she acts right then you know we'll meet up and do something but i i i refuse to take
00:13:37.360 anyone out or do anything like that first i don't really pay for dates i don't i don't believe in
00:13:40.880 that it's like why don't you believe in it it's 2022 bro we're equal right and and and if you try it
00:13:45.760 i will set up that conversation from the start i'll be like all right so what do you think about this
00:13:49.760 oh it's crazy and then and then when we're having dinner and you're like looking at the bill i'll be
00:13:53.360 like oh so you're not you're not just before this podcast yeah i met up with a friend and um like
00:14:03.360 basically went out for drinks yeah if the girl yeah she likes you she will offer to pay for a round 1.00
00:14:09.120 if she doesn't offer she's not even bro like you go to the bar she's just looking at her phone
00:14:15.120 but she don't really like you she don't really rate you like that and if you want to seal the
00:14:18.560 deal and she offers you say no baby i got you can i just disagree can i just ask the question
00:14:29.120 the friend that introduced you to the man you went on a date with with male or female friend it was
00:14:35.760 actually a male he read the room wrong simple no i i honestly think that if it was a male thinking
00:14:45.040 about it if it was a male i think it would have worked with effort and compromise i think it would
00:14:51.040 have worked i think i personally think that you missed out i mean personally like we we went into
00:14:56.720 we got into a relationship okay oh well that's all right we got into a relationship and we were
00:15:00.560 together for like two three years okay no because what i'm saying is that women lie to women and if 0.99
00:15:06.880 you'd been on that day with your checklist you know it wouldn't have worked no i would i've i've been
00:15:14.880 the date recommended by a female and they always have other issues so if it's a female don't trust her 1.00
00:15:22.560 don't trust her at all and that's all the thing that was going through my brain is
00:15:25.680 i wonder if it was a female that introduced you a male it wasn't because if it's a man and that's 0.99
00:15:31.120 what we need to do stop vetting with your vagina and ask your friends your male friends to vet the 1.00
00:15:36.880 men for you that's all i'm trying to say even if it's the elders your brothers your uncles other male 0.99
00:15:43.840 friends and you will find that you find better men if you allow your men friends to vet them for you
00:15:51.440 because they know the truth i was thinking what if we had someone in this room pick who would be
00:16:09.280 a good person to date out of the people on the panel
00:16:20.240 your sister okay your sister was here okay who on the panel would you let your sister date what out 0.93
00:16:26.160 of the dudes i thought you meant who what i picked out of the ladies okay so your sister's here all 1.00
00:16:30.160 right first of all everything she said is what i'm trying to say is literally what i was trying to
00:16:34.720 express it's like i'm being honest with you as a dude i'm gonna tell you the truth i tell my sister
00:16:38.880 i tell them the truth this is what he's doing this is why he's doing it so who would i yeah yeah so
00:16:43.920 who who so you know go around like yes or no to your sister dating them uh dating like a relationship
00:16:51.360 relation like like she he she goes on a day i said i went on a date with this guy what do you think of
00:16:56.640 him no yes yes no yes what about zoopy yes and but for reasons not because he's not a good dude and not
00:17:08.400 because he's not a good guy it's not has nothing to do with that it has to do with they are me
00:17:14.400 right i know where they are i know where they've been i know what their mindset is i know where he
00:17:21.120 is i've had a private conversation with him i know exactly where he is this brother grows beards
00:17:25.440 i know exactly he's got a very good mindset this brother's looking for something righteous so i get
00:17:30.000 it zoobie as well zoobie i see zoobie uh me and zoobie about to go do joe rogan he don't even know
00:17:34.480 it now so zoobie i know but i there's a reason is because i'm also i'm looking at not that i care
00:17:42.560 about my sisters like deeply i do but i know them and their type and i know what they're what they 1.00
00:17:49.440 would say yes and no to and how they would treat and what they and who could handle that that's what
00:17:56.000 that is i also wouldn't put them in a situation where i'm like that's my sister bro like i'm sorry
00:18:02.880 yeah oh i want to say something okay okay really quick really really quick okay okay okay yes
00:18:12.400 yes definitely no definitely no and i'd need to vet you bam okay okay so uh i'm gonna change the topic a
00:18:23.120 little bit so um as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a
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