JustPearlyThings - May 21, 2023


Average Woman Gets Put On The Spot

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Male Feminist Tries Mansplaining Pearl Drunk Feminist Tries To Corner Pearl With This Question

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12 minutes

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194.56

Word count

2,513

Sentence count

239

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Misogyny

35

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Toxicity

14

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Hate speech

13

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In this episode, I sit down with my best friend and co-host of the podcast to talk about what it means to be a modern woman and why it s so important to not only be a good mother, but a good wife. We talk about the importance of being a good daughter, wife and mother and how important it is to take care of your kids.

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00:00:00.000 That's all been done for a reason. Your kids are getting taken away from you from young for a reason.
00:00:07.000 There's a reason why dishwashers and all of these things have been created.
00:00:11.000 It's to split up the families so that they can take you on board and they can raise you to what they want you to be.
00:00:18.000 Do you get what I'm saying? So now you're not with your husband and your children raising them how you want.
00:00:23.000 They're going to take them from young. You don't get to be a traditional woman anymore. 1.00
00:00:28.000 I think women choose not to be traditional women.
00:00:31.000 That is true, but it's also a bit of both.
00:00:34.000 I think women kind of use excuses for choices. 1.00
00:00:38.000 I'll give you an example. One in three women have had an abortion. 1.00
00:00:41.000 Do traditional women go abort their children? 1.00
00:00:44.000 They wouldn't have done that.
00:00:46.000 We constantly make choice after choice after choice that makes us less traditional.
00:00:50.000 Even if you get out in the world at 18, there's nothing stopping you from learning how to cook, learning how to clean, studying what men want.
00:00:57.000 Men study what women want all the time. 1.00
00:00:59.000 There's a million self-improvement things for guys.
00:01:01.000 There's a million dating courses for guys. 0.99
00:01:04.000 All the women dating like self-help shit is literally just reaffirming women. 1.00
00:01:09.000 There's no actual actionable steps. 1.00
00:01:11.000 It's just like be confident.
00:01:12.000 Yeah, and society can lead you to be exactly what I just said.
00:01:15.000 But then on the other hand, it's what you just said.
00:01:17.000 It's for you to fight for what's right.
00:01:19.000 You can either go down the easy path or the hard path.
00:01:23.000 It's up to you and what you choose to do as a woman.
00:01:26.000 I think like feminist, what is it called? 1.00
00:01:29.000 Feminism. 1.00
00:01:30.000 Feminism has ruined a lot of like traditional women and as has ruined us as well. 1.00
00:01:35.000 I'll give an example, even like working.
00:01:37.000 I'll give an example, working.
00:01:39.000 Now I'm working as a mum and you're working as a dad, sorry.
00:01:44.000 Who's going to take care of the kids.
00:01:46.000 Yeah, exactly.
00:01:47.000 Now someone else is going to program our children and not just that.
00:01:49.000 I'm paying tax and he's paying tax.
00:01:52.000 We're trapped.
00:01:54.000 It's not supposed to.
00:01:56.000 That's why I think being like a housewife when you have kids is actually essential.
00:02:00.000 Like I think that is so important to just be with your kids during those,
00:02:03.000 at least during those first like very incremental years of their lives.
00:02:07.000 Like I'm not saying it just for show.
00:02:09.000 I'm saying it because I actually want to look after my kids.
00:02:11.000 The thing is women have always worked. 1.00
00:02:13.000 They just worked in the home.
00:02:15.000 True.
00:02:16.000 And the man pays for the home.
00:02:17.000 A lot of times like women, like they think they're just going to do nothing as a housewife. 1.00
00:02:20.000 It's so true. 0.84
00:02:22.000 You know what our grandmothers, great grandmothers had to, maybe great, great grandmothers, great, great. 0.55
00:02:27.000 Like they worked on the farm.
00:02:28.000 Yeah.
00:02:29.000 I want an allotment.
00:02:30.000 I want like all of this when I, at my house.
00:02:32.000 I'm not here.
00:02:33.000 You're going to be sitting.
00:02:34.000 Listen, I don't even do that now. 1.00
00:02:35.000 I don't sit on my ass. 0.99
00:02:36.000 That's the thing. 1.00
00:02:37.000 So I know what I bring to the table.
00:02:38.000 I cater to my man.
00:02:40.000 Literally.
00:02:41.000 In this day and age, you have social media as well.
00:02:43.000 So if you're sitting at home as a, as a, you know, stay at home mom, you can also have your own business.
00:02:48.000 True.
00:02:49.000 There's so many things that you can do.
00:02:51.000 How do you, how do you cater to your man if you don't care what men want? 1.00
00:02:55.000 Because I don't care what other men want.
00:02:57.000 I care what he wants.
00:02:58.000 Yeah, but most men are the same. 0.81
00:03:00.000 Well, he's not.
00:03:01.000 I have a question for you.
00:03:03.000 If you think you're an average woman, why wouldn't you date an average man? 1.00
00:03:07.000 Like a bus driver.
00:03:08.000 That's an average man.
00:03:09.000 The reason why is because I don't aspire to stay average.
00:03:13.000 That's why.
00:03:14.000 That's why I am.
00:03:15.000 I want to become an above average person.
00:03:17.000 So if I just date an average man, more than likely we are going to stay on that level.
00:03:21.000 Yeah.
00:03:22.000 But how old are you?
00:03:23.000 You said you're 23?
00:03:24.000 23.
00:03:25.000 Yeah.
00:03:26.000 No.
00:03:27.000 You're not going to get better.
00:03:28.000 Do you think so?
00:03:29.000 No.
00:03:30.000 I mean, women, fertility. 1.00
00:03:31.000 You're just going to get less and less fertile the older you get.
00:03:34.000 Yeah, sure.
00:03:35.000 Like women, like if you look at women on dating apps, like half of your options are gone by 1.00
00:03:39.000 30.
00:03:40.000 Like half of the options you have at like 21 or 22.
00:03:42.000 If you look at like men from the ages of 20 to 80, they ask them what age they find women
00:03:46.000 the most attractive.
00:03:47.000 It's like 22, 23.
00:03:49.000 And some say 18, some say lower than 18 is a little.
00:03:52.000 But if you don't tell them the age, but like, actually, yeah, it's just going to get worse.
00:03:57.000 Like you, you have the most value you're ever going to have about now.
00:04:00.000 Really?
00:04:01.000 Yeah.
00:04:02.000 I mean, personally, I feel like I'm doing that work right now.
00:04:03.000 It's not a thing where I'm just sitting on my bum, just doing nothing, not trying to manage
00:04:07.000 myself.
00:04:08.000 I'm definitely doing the work now.
00:04:09.000 And I'm hopeful of the fact that I will actually find someone because, yeah, that's
00:04:14.000 what I definitely feel like I will find someone before that time.
00:04:16.000 I'm not like a silly girl that just sits down and does nothing.
00:04:19.000 I'm realistic. 0.78
00:04:20.000 I know the actionable steps that I need to take.
00:04:22.000 I'm taking those steps and it's definitely working for me.
00:04:25.000 And I'm curious, what steps are you taking?
00:04:28.000 So one thing I'm definitely trying to do is lose weight.
00:04:30.000 I definitely want to get in shape.
00:04:31.000 Another thing I'm trying to do is I want to learn how to cook, especially traditional
00:04:35.000 food.
00:04:36.000 Another thing I'm trying to do is grow closer with God as well.
00:04:39.000 I feel like, you know, when you're closer to God, that's when you actually reach your peak
00:04:43.000 of femininity.
00:04:44.000 How much weight do you want to lose?
00:04:47.000 I'm a size 12 right now.
00:04:48.000 I want to be a size 10.
00:04:49.000 Size 10?
00:04:50.000 Yeah.
00:04:51.000 Okay.
00:04:52.000 And like how much do you cook in a week?
00:04:53.000 How much do I cook?
00:04:54.000 I cook once a week only because I work from, no.
00:04:57.000 Yeah.
00:04:58.000 I cook once a week.
00:04:59.000 Yeah.
00:05:00.000 It's not like my cooking skills are bad.
00:05:01.000 I just want to, my cooking skills are actually good.
00:05:03.000 When would you like to have lost the weight by?
00:05:05.000 I want to lose it by the end of this year.
00:05:08.000 Okay.
00:05:09.000 You can come back end of this year.
00:05:10.000 Yeah.
00:05:11.000 I'll be skinny sized then.
00:05:12.000 Come back.
00:05:13.000 We do.
00:05:14.000 We're pro self-improvement here.
00:05:15.000 So no, I think that's great.
00:05:16.000 But I just think a lot of times like, like women, we always think we're going to get better 1.00
00:05:21.000 tomorrow.
00:05:22.000 And when like, honestly, it's better to cash out when you're young.
00:05:25.000 I think that's what I'm doing.
00:05:26.000 Yeah.
00:05:27.000 I think that's what I'm doing.
00:05:28.000 Do you mean like if you find somebody just hold on to them?
00:05:31.000 Yeah.
00:05:32.000 Yeah.
00:05:33.000 Cause the other thing let's, let's show, can we bring up the same video, same video of
00:05:37.000 the girl?
00:05:38.000 I just want to point something out.
00:05:40.000 Um, yeah, I just want to show them.
00:05:43.000 Like, I just want her picture.
00:05:44.000 That's all I want on the screen.
00:05:45.000 Like, I'm not going to play it.
00:05:46.000 The one we were watching before.
00:05:49.000 Um, it can be the second one too, if you want.
00:05:52.000 I just want her picture of the girl.
00:05:58.000 Okay.
00:05:59.000 You see, how old do you guys think she is?
00:06:02.000 I can't see you.
00:06:03.000 I can't see you. 1.00
00:06:04.000 I'm blind to shit. 1.00
00:06:05.000 That's me getting old. 0.99
00:06:06.000 Actually, first, first I want to say, what do you rank that girl one to ten? 0.68
00:06:09.000 I think she can't see you.
00:06:10.000 I think she's really pretty.
00:06:12.000 Okay.
00:06:13.000 I think she's gorgeous.
00:06:14.000 I think she'll be like an eight. 1.00
00:06:15.000 Yeah.
00:06:16.000 Her age is what's hindering her.
00:06:17.000 Yeah.
00:06:18.000 You can tell she's an older lady, but she's very attractive. 0.99
00:06:20.000 I want to, I want to hear from the guy.
00:06:22.000 What do you rate her one to ten? 1.00
00:06:24.000 Actually, I want to hear from you.
00:06:25.000 Can every guy in here?
00:06:26.000 Can you zoom in?
00:06:27.000 Okay.
00:06:28.000 Wait, wait.
00:06:29.000 Actually, wait, wait.
00:06:30.000 I'm going to have all the girls rate her and then I'm going to have the guys rate her. 1.00
00:06:32.000 So you said eight.
00:06:33.000 Does anyone think she's lower than an eight? 1.00
00:06:35.000 I still can't see her face.
00:06:36.000 Can you zoom in?
00:06:37.000 Well, obviously, basing it purely on just her face, right?
00:06:39.000 That's right.
00:06:40.000 Yeah.
00:06:41.000 You guys saw her earlier, right?
00:06:42.000 In the other video.
00:06:44.000 Play it for a second just so they can see her face move.
00:06:46.000 So out of the 50,000 plus comments posted on social, I only saw a handful that even
00:06:51.000 considered the possibility of a bus owner being a more aspirational position and recognizing
00:06:58.000 that I am actually speaking and going into the-
00:07:00.000 Okay, you can pause it.
00:07:01.000 Okay.
00:07:02.000 So one to ten.
00:07:03.000 No, I'm going to say seven.
00:07:04.000 Seven?
00:07:05.000 I'm going to say seven.
00:07:06.000 Okay.
00:07:07.000 I'm so sorry.
00:07:08.000 Can you zoom in?
00:07:09.000 Can you Google her?
00:07:10.000 Maybe?
00:07:11.000 What's her name?
00:07:12.000 Let's see.
00:07:13.000 I think it's in the title.
00:07:15.000 Okay.
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00:07:55.000 okay oh here we go be able to can you guys see her now yeah i'd say seven okay i'd say like a
00:08:08.140 solid seven there okay uh where what do you think i would say an eight eight okay what do you think
00:08:13.400 seven okay no no no not guys yet you i said the seven seven i still can't see but i think she's
00:08:21.600 really cute she's got a cute face cute nose yeah i'd say maybe eight yeah eight okay i'll say about
00:08:27.040 eight yeah eight i think seven seven okay so that can i think there's more eights than this like 7.5
00:08:33.780 is the average okay what do you what do you rate her this just appearance wise yeah yeah appearance 1.00
00:08:38.960 like seven back in the day she probably was like a nine okay seven king what do you rate her 0.99
00:08:45.280 come on six six okay what do you guys rate her six six okay so the guys say six they're mostly six
00:08:57.340 six point two something what do you rate her well um
00:09:02.800 so how old do you guys think she is she looks 40 40 i'm guessing yeah like 56 i think she's probably 0.99
00:09:15.360 about 40 but she looks a bit younger yeah so she's 39 so because she's 39 i'd say she's like a five 0.96
00:09:23.600 yeah smart oh really yeah yeah no i think looks based on her looks though not not her age but age
00:09:30.560 plays a part yeah but age kind of plays a part do you think she's a five so what you really think
00:09:35.680 she's a five when you look at her yeah yeah if she was 29 if she was 20 what would you rate her 0.99
00:09:43.840 eight but she's not 20 she's 40. oh but that's not based on her looks and that's based on her age
00:09:48.720 well but i think it's just purely based on her picture well i think she looks old what so you
00:09:53.040 don't look a bit older the younger that you go the higher you'd rate her yeah so basically old
00:10:01.280 people are not cutesy basically old people can't be beautiful i didn't say old people can't go above 0.92
00:10:08.880 five no no no no no old women can't go above women are not as cute yeah old men men age like wine 0.85
00:10:16.720 women age like this is like have you seen me along like but is this something we struggle with as 0.94
00:10:22.960 women wait wait wait wait wait wait guys guys stop stop warning um so this is the thing women insert 1.00
00:10:32.160 exception this one woman that looks good it's like come on but if most of the people in the room would 1.00
00:10:39.440 rate her a seven into eight and it's only you that's rated her five doesn't that make her pretty hot 1.00
00:10:44.320 most of the men rated her a six so mine's slightly lower than so like six that's above five so wouldn't
00:10:49.920 she be above average or pretty since most of us if we're speaking on a general sense yeah i mean you
00:10:54.960 could you could say six but like that's not that different than a five i just think when you're 40
00:10:59.680 it's like minus a point i think there's like your looks and then you lose a point when you're old
00:11:03.520 that's that's what i think is it something like like as as women like we're all pretty similar ages but
00:11:08.480 is it something like as women like we're we're aware of feeling like less beautiful as we get
00:11:13.200 older like yeah do you guys think you're getting prettier the older you get no
00:11:21.040 and it's not just that by 39 you probably can't really have children like what can you really like
00:11:25.520 provide as a woman if you can't make babies yeah but we're talking about looks though yeah but then 1.00
00:11:31.360 looks brings an age so when you see but what if you're 20 and you look old
00:11:35.680 because i've seen that a lot yeah or if you're 40 and you look yeah yeah
00:11:40.240 because i've seen that just and i looked younger as i've got older actually i mean we can we could
00:11:44.400 talk about exceptions or we could talk about the rule like most people look their age you know
00:11:50.880 um but yeah so my question is what does a 39 year old single woman why does she feel comfortable 1.00
00:11:58.720 shitting on a bus driver i think because she's oh sorry when the men say she's a six roughly 0.95
00:12:06.240 and she the kids is out the window so i mean because like as a guy i'm assuming right and you 0.99
00:12:12.560 guys can tell me if i'm wrong you're going to go down a point in terms of marketability to you because
00:12:16.560 she can't have kids yeah yeah i had to um end the relationship because the person was a few years 0.99
00:12:21.920 older than me and i knew that there was gonna be a future there by the time i was ready she 0.91
00:12:25.840 wasn't gonna be ready yeah i mean so it's definitely a factor as many of you know i was just banned on
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