JustPearlyThings - August 05, 2023


Based Woman And Pearl EXPOSE This Fact About Modern Women


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6 minutes

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Word count

1,308

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1

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6

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In this episode, we talk about inter-generational expectations in the workplace and marriage. We discuss what it means to be a woman in the modern era and why it s important to have a partner who can provide for you financially and emotionally.

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00:00:00.000 why is that worth it my grandma had 13 kids for a fireman and she submitted to him and that's and
00:00:05.760 that's the thing like modern that's a good job but that's no but that's beautiful that is what
00:00:10.160 it should be it was an average salary back then and so i'm i'm just saying like you know i think
00:00:15.600 it's this generation this generation is just getting worse but but money shouldn't be the 1.00
00:00:22.160 end all and be all of it and and it is what it is now if you feel that emotionally attached
00:00:28.800 someone like if you're someone like me that doesn't want to particularly get married if you
00:00:32.400 feel that emotionally attached that you're willing to get married you should not just up and leave
00:00:37.600 because someone else has more money or someone else maybe is is more attractive like it should be all
00:00:43.280 taken as i've committed to this person for a reason there was something there unless there's something
00:00:47.760 a lot deeper going on like abuse or or something that is a lot deeper and it's a lot more complex
00:00:53.520 if it's something as simple as that person earns more i'm gonna go with them that's really sad
00:00:58.800 so do you think that the woman so would you say you think that the woman should
00:01:03.280 stick it out basically even if there is like a period of suffering not necessarily stick out but
00:01:08.000 don't work through it say this man that she's with is like literally not hardly making any money
00:01:16.160 they are really struggling like times are really tough for her and do you think that she should just
00:01:22.400 stay and stick it out or do you think she should want better for herself can i you should can i can
00:01:27.840 i just read something really quick okay go for it all right um i take you for my lawfully wedded
00:01:36.160 husband to have him to hold for better for worse for richer or for poorer and sickness and health
00:01:46.800 till death do us part if you believe in leaving the second there's a rough patch
00:01:50.800 so why get married it's like just being in a relationship at that point oh that bible that's
00:01:55.840 all boomer stuff that bible but the whole point is like if if you believe in divorce then why get
00:02:05.520 married there's no point just be in a relationship because you're not a wife i mean you you're getting
00:02:10.240 married and then you think oh i'm gonna divorce one day that's why i don't have some prenups though
00:02:14.400 because it's like well i don't think anyone wants to get divorced when they get married they think it's
00:02:18.720 forever but i think things happen yeah and you have to be realistic that but that's i'm not saying
00:02:24.720 that maybe you marry someone and in the beginning it's all good and then suddenly when you get married
00:02:29.600 he might lose his money and then leave him no i don't agree with that it's not but i feel like yeah
00:02:34.480 i feel like you should still stay with that person but if there's no progress there's no sign of him
00:02:39.760 you know working hard or trying or trying to get back to that level that he was at before
00:02:44.480 things i'm getting worse you know it's time to call it this is what that's one more time one more
00:02:49.120 time for better or for worse for richer for poorer yeah in sickness and in health until death do us
00:02:58.720 anyways that's it this is what rollo tomassi the the author of the rational mail who talks a lot about
00:03:04.560 this kind of these kind of intergender dynamics he talks about the burden of performance on men and
00:03:08.480 that's exactly what you're talking about then there's always this there's this burden of performance on
00:03:12.080 men it's like okay well he could have a rough patch but if he doesn't shape up after two years
00:03:16.240 you know she's going to be like thinking well hang on what's going on which is i understand why you
00:03:21.200 would say that but that is contrary to what pearl wrote out because the agreement is for better or
00:03:25.040 worse for sick sicker and poorer because it could be he's got some underlying issue like he's got maybe
00:03:29.440 some underlying like like depression or something like that that he's trying to deal with some trauma
00:03:33.360 and he's not working he's not pushing himself to the degree because of that but you know the the woman who
00:03:39.040 disregards that could just say well sod it you know i'm going to go for steve over here because
00:03:42.720 he's making six figures so i have a question so the same way you believe that um if he's not making
00:03:49.120 more money or working or whatever you should leave should he leave her if she gets fat wow i mean
00:03:55.360 same energy if that's the standard he went for yeah yeah why not it depends if you're if you're
00:04:04.640 gonna flip it i'm looking i'm just asking yes um i think he's he's allowed to to bring it up yeah for
00:04:12.640 sure no no out out oh well give her some chance you know to get in the gym she got like three months 1.00
00:04:20.240 six months no well no because she's not gonna leave him like if the woman is like in that situation
00:04:26.640 she's not we're not saying the woman's just gonna go right oh you're not working for three months off 1.00
00:04:30.320 i go like it's not gonna happen like that she's obviously gonna stick it out she's gonna try and
00:04:35.280 help especially if you've got kids it's different like she may not be able to go back to work they may 0.98
00:04:39.840 have to find alternative ways of surviving i don't know it's very difficult but she's not going to
00:04:45.200 leave straight away it's it's you know over a few years three four years maybe i don't know um
00:04:52.240 and in the same yeah same energy for for the man as well if the woman's completely let herself go 1.00
00:04:57.760 and you know she's not taking care of herself forget the man it's not even good for you as a woman 0.99
00:05:02.480 forget him like it's about you like you want to be able to look yourself in the mirror and feel
00:05:06.800 confident and happy and you know comfortable in your skin so go out and do something about it so i
00:05:12.640 yeah but he have to make sure you you get like some compliments about it you know so he can make
00:05:19.360 you feel better but are you going to give him the same compliments if he has no job oh yeah yeah you
00:05:24.800 know what i mean but i think it works i have a question do you genuinely i'm gonna help him do you
00:05:29.760 genuinely think most women nicely ask or do you think most women nag what's just 0.99
00:05:35.920 nag about 1.00
00:05:36.560 come on
00:05:38.240 yeah okay yes baby i'm so happy you didn't do that thing i asked you to do last week
00:05:45.520 yeah very happy i mean that's the woman condition yeah 1.00
00:05:51.520 should be away but the female condition is very different to a man as well like we we do like to 1.00
00:05:57.360 no offense but picket things yeah whereas a man will be very much more upfront about it and if
00:06:04.560 they have an issue with something most of the time most of the time not all men i i know not all men
00:06:09.520 are quite as straightforward as that but most men will just say it as it is whereas women will sugarcoat 1.00
00:06:14.960 things i'm not gonna i'm kind of i'm gonna be straightforward me it makes it more complicated
00:06:19.920 so if you can't take it don't give it no well my opinion on it is