JustPearlyThings - August 04, 2023


Pearl Puts EVERYBODY On The Spot With This Question

Topics
family dynamics
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Tattoos Dimitri Donezo
The Cause of Disunity Between Men and Women Pearl NUKES Their Woke Disney Fairytale

Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

194.07

Word count

1,554

Sentence count

222

Harmful content

Misogyny

13

sentences flagged

Toxicity

8

sentences flagged

Hate speech

6

sentences flagged


Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the red flags to look out for in a potential partner and how to spot them. We also talk about the importance of a good relationship with your parents and how important it is to have a solid relationship with them.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 He's an eight, but he has a kid.
00:00:03.060 Depends on what the baby mum's saying. 0.99
00:00:09.680 That's quite a hard question.
00:00:11.920 Do you think that guys leave their baby mums? 0.97
00:00:17.960 What do you mean?
00:00:19.020 So do you think the baby mum would be completely out of their life? 1.00
00:00:23.020 No, and I would never expect them to be.
00:00:26.580 Do you feel like there's a chance to go back, sorry?
00:00:29.220 No.
00:00:29.900 Well, I don't know.
00:00:30.580 I'm single, to be honest, so I wouldn't know myself.
00:00:32.120 I've never been put in that situation, so I wouldn't know. 0.72
00:00:34.760 But if their baby mum was a bit crazy, you know? 0.94
00:00:40.740 Okay. 0.93
00:00:41.700 Probably no.
00:00:42.340 Okay, let's do a good baby mum and a bad baby mum. 1.00
00:00:44.840 So he's got a kid with a good baby mum.
00:00:47.080 Negative what?
00:00:47.760 Wouldn't bother me.
00:00:48.400 Wouldn't bother you?
00:00:49.280 No.
00:00:49.900 Okay, bad baby mum. 1.00
00:00:52.560 You're done?
00:00:53.580 Yeah.
00:00:53.940 Donezo?
00:00:54.420 Yeah, minus ten.
00:00:55.540 Minus ten.
00:00:56.960 Okay, he's an eight.
00:00:59.560 But, but, he's got a bit of a beer belly.
00:01:07.160 Is it a beer belly or a money belly?
00:01:13.360 So...
00:01:13.700 You say money belly.
00:01:14.780 Yeah.
00:01:15.100 Are you eating right or are you drinking beer?
00:01:20.660 I know what you mean.
00:01:21.820 A beer belly.
00:01:23.280 Minus ten.
00:01:24.820 Minus ten.
00:01:25.620 Probably, like, minus eight, yeah.
00:01:31.060 Minus eight, yeah.
00:01:32.000 For a beer belly?
00:01:33.480 Do you know what?
00:01:33.920 I don't really...
00:01:34.520 I'm not a big drinker and I...
00:01:37.920 Yeah, it's just the whole idea of just...
00:01:39.680 Oh, it's because he's a drinker.
00:01:41.300 Yeah.
00:01:41.520 It's not the look.
00:01:42.540 No.
00:01:43.080 So, no, the look wouldn't...
00:01:43.900 Probably about, yeah, six or an eight.
00:01:45.360 Do tattoos add or subtract for you?
00:01:48.760 Add.
00:01:49.340 Add.
00:01:49.640 In the middle.
00:01:54.460 And neutral?
00:01:55.400 Yeah.
00:01:56.080 What about you guys?
00:01:57.100 Tattoos on a woman. 0.99
00:01:58.140 Add or subtract?
00:01:59.560 I love.
00:02:01.160 Add.
00:02:01.720 Add?
00:02:02.200 Add how much?
00:02:05.840 Mmm...
00:02:06.560 I'm not saying that I look for it.
00:02:08.060 I'm not supposed to be look for females with tattoos, 1.00
00:02:09.980 but it's definitely...
00:02:11.480 Add some pointers.
00:02:12.560 So, maybe, like, one or two points.
00:02:13.900 So, if I got, like, a sleeve, I'd get a point?
00:02:16.420 Yeah.
00:02:16.740 Oh, okay.
00:02:17.100 One.
00:02:17.840 Great.
00:02:18.740 Go ahead.
00:02:19.720 Add.
00:02:20.280 Add?
00:02:20.860 Minus five to start, and then that's the minus starting point,
00:02:24.560 and then drops from there, depending on location and size.
00:02:27.460 What about you?
00:02:28.120 Yeah, subtract at least, like, two, three.
00:02:31.760 Two, three.
00:02:32.360 Yeah.
00:02:34.340 I think tattoos...
00:02:37.280 I don't like tattoos on a guy.
00:02:39.140 I prefer none.
00:02:40.320 But I don't really care that much.
00:02:42.240 I feel like it doesn't really make a difference.
00:02:45.120 Okay.
00:02:45.780 He's an eight, but, but, but...
00:02:51.420 He has a horrible relationship with his mom.
00:02:55.320 Do you guys care?
00:02:56.240 Yeah.
00:02:56.780 Yeah.
00:02:57.240 Why?
00:02:57.820 Why?
00:02:58.140 Have you had a bad experience with a guy that, like,
00:03:00.080 doesn't get along with his mom?
00:03:01.800 Yeah.
00:03:02.880 Once.
00:03:03.980 Once.
00:03:04.580 Yeah.
00:03:04.960 I didn't...
00:03:05.680 I'm such a family person, and for me,
00:03:07.700 family is the most important thing.
00:03:09.140 And if someone doesn't get on with their mom,
00:03:12.460 then there's obviously a reason behind that.
00:03:14.720 And for me, that's, like, quite a big red flag,
00:03:16.900 because, yeah.
00:03:19.100 No, I just wouldn't...
00:03:20.440 If they didn't get on with their mom,
00:03:21.440 I'd be like, I don't know.
00:03:22.380 I just...
00:03:23.060 I'm...
00:03:23.560 Where I'm such a family person,
00:03:24.720 and I adore my family around me 24-7,
00:03:26.900 like, I've not got kids,
00:03:28.840 but if I had a kid, 0.94
00:03:29.480 I know my kid could kill someone, 0.98
00:03:31.240 blue-bloody murder, 0.92
00:03:32.140 and I'd turn a blind eye to it,
00:03:33.200 and I'd still love them no matter what.
00:03:34.820 So if someone doesn't speak to their mom,
00:03:36.900 then that is a big, big red flag.
00:03:39.820 Majorly.
00:03:40.140 Okay, so you don't care too much
00:03:41.440 about their family, like, relations?
00:03:43.220 Not at the same.
00:03:43.900 I agree.
00:03:44.460 Oh, you agree.
00:03:45.160 What about you guys?
00:03:46.060 Do you guys look at her family background?
00:03:47.800 Me 110%, definitely.
00:03:49.940 Definitely.
00:03:50.660 What do you look at in her family background?
00:03:54.780 Dynamic is a big thing.
00:03:58.520 Like, with mom, dad, like, what do you...
00:04:01.940 Both parents and how the family functions together.
00:04:07.400 What's a bigger red flag
00:04:08.800 if she doesn't get along with her mom or her dad?
00:04:11.280 Father, for sure.
00:04:12.600 Dad, dad, dad.
00:04:13.760 That's how I feel.
00:04:14.400 100%.
00:04:15.000 What about you, Dimitri?
00:04:16.740 Yeah, of course.
00:04:17.400 So, you know, there's this crazy thing right now
00:04:20.400 where, like, you know, the Jonah Hill text,
00:04:21.720 I'm sure you guys discussed it here.
00:04:22.860 It's like, he sets out some boundaries,
00:04:24.680 which are pretty...
00:04:25.660 Like, they're not crazy boundaries.
00:04:27.100 It's like, hey, I don't want you going out 0.99
00:04:28.200 with your slutty friends, 1.00
00:04:29.300 like, because you've broken my trust. 1.00
00:04:31.280 People are like, it's controlling.
00:04:32.540 And I kind of read that.
00:04:33.660 I was like, okay, I think a lot of women 1.00
00:04:35.840 say that's controlling
00:04:36.860 because they just never have proper boundaries
00:04:38.760 set in their life.
00:04:39.520 And, like, I'm a dad.
00:04:40.200 I got four kids.
00:04:40.820 You know what a dad's role is
00:04:41.980 in a child's life,
00:04:43.360 in a girl or boy's life?
00:04:44.300 It's to set boundaries.
00:04:45.800 Like, you know, if you look at, like,
00:04:47.000 how kids go to bed,
00:04:48.380 if mom puts kids to bed,
00:04:50.240 they tend to extend going to bed
00:04:51.800 by, like, half an hour to an hour.
00:04:53.240 But when dad puts kids to bed,
00:04:54.800 they go to bed right away.
00:04:55.760 Dad's word is firmer.
00:04:57.020 Kids oblige and test the dad.
00:04:58.400 They oblige more to the dad.
00:04:59.460 They test the dad less.
00:05:00.400 So if she doesn't have, like,
00:05:02.060 a good relationship with her father,
00:05:03.260 she's grown up without a dad,
00:05:04.520 there's no boundary set for her.
00:05:06.000 So she perceives boundaries
00:05:07.400 as emotional abuse.
00:05:08.860 But are boundaries necessary
00:05:10.140 in relationships?
00:05:11.200 Yeah.
00:05:11.580 Especially explicit boundaries.
00:05:12.880 Like, we have to understand
00:05:14.060 what exactly works for us
00:05:15.900 and what doesn't.
00:05:16.460 And that's okay.
00:05:17.440 So, no, one of the best pieces of advice
00:05:19.420 I ever received
00:05:20.540 when I was about 22
00:05:21.720 from a mentor is he said,
00:05:22.900 look at that woman's relationship 1.00
00:05:24.920 with her father
00:05:25.560 and it'll tell you
00:05:26.600 how she treats you.
00:05:28.000 Yeah.
00:05:28.140 Do you guys look at, like,
00:05:30.200 how much makeup she wears?
00:05:31.980 Yes.
00:05:32.980 How much can that subtract
00:05:34.380 or add to a girl? 0.86
00:05:35.980 Make or break.
00:05:37.080 Yeah.
00:05:38.440 Like, what does it do?
00:05:41.240 At least four points.
00:05:42.940 Three to four.
00:05:44.040 Subtraction?
00:05:44.520 Yeah.
00:05:44.960 Why?
00:05:47.140 Because, I mean,
00:05:47.980 it's a preference thing,
00:05:49.280 but also it's,
00:05:50.340 you're almost dealing
00:05:51.460 with a different person
00:05:52.320 at that point.
00:05:52.960 like, you can look
00:05:55.300 like two completely
00:05:56.180 different people.
00:05:57.340 So, it's just a little bit
00:05:58.380 inauthentic
00:05:59.140 in my opinion.
00:06:00.740 Have you guys ever
00:06:01.320 gone on a date
00:06:01.980 with a girl
00:06:02.500 and you, like,
00:06:03.340 woke up
00:06:03.880 and she looked
00:06:04.340 completely different?
00:06:06.520 No?
00:06:07.040 No.
00:06:07.520 Fortunately, either.
00:06:08.100 I think seeing people
00:06:09.500 with or without
00:06:10.300 makeup
00:06:11.820 can be night and day
00:06:13.000 difference.
00:06:13.680 Yeah.
00:06:14.600 Unrecognizable
00:06:14.960 a lot of the time.
00:06:15.660 Really?
00:06:16.200 Yeah.
00:06:16.760 You're nodding really hard.
00:06:18.380 No, I mean, look,
00:06:19.360 like, women are going 1.00
00:06:19.900 to wear makeup.
00:06:20.580 Like, that's just
00:06:21.060 how it is
00:06:21.460 and there should be
00:06:22.100 a level that you
00:06:22.600 take care of yourself
00:06:23.340 but obviously, you know,
00:06:24.420 the trend right now
00:06:25.040 and, like, every time
00:06:25.800 I come to England,
00:06:26.480 I see these weird
00:06:27.220 puffer face.
00:06:28.020 Like, it's just fake.
00:06:29.220 They shave their,
00:06:29.860 I don't know
00:06:30.100 what the hell's going on.
00:06:31.380 They've drawn on eyebrows.
00:06:33.440 Well, I don't know.
00:06:34.480 I, like, it was crazy
00:06:35.680 doing this show
00:06:36.340 for so long
00:06:37.020 because girls would 1.00
00:06:37.820 follow me after the show
00:06:39.020 and a lot of times
00:06:40.020 I'll follow people back
00:06:41.020 but, like, sometimes
00:06:41.620 I wouldn't recognize them.
00:06:45.400 I'm like, wait,
00:06:46.020 is that the girl
00:06:46.560 that was on?
00:06:47.080 Because they'll tag me
00:06:47.840 in their stories
00:06:48.580 and I'm like, oh my God,
00:06:49.460 I didn't even notice.
00:06:50.800 But then I was like,
00:06:51.840 this is why the guys
00:06:52.580 are complaining
00:06:53.100 on the dating apps, huh?
00:06:55.300 Have you guys ever
00:06:55.960 gone on, like, a date
00:06:56.900 with a girl
00:06:57.400 from a dating app
00:06:58.280 and she looked different?
00:07:00.240 No?
00:07:00.720 I've been on a date
00:07:01.280 with a guy
00:07:01.760 on a dating app
00:07:02.500 and he looked...
00:07:03.420 High, was it high?
00:07:04.800 Do you know what?
00:07:05.480 No, he said he was,
00:07:06.300 like, six foot three
00:07:06.880 and he was about six foot three
00:07:08.000 so that I was quite pleased with
00:07:09.360 but he did nothing
00:07:10.100 like his five sides.
00:07:12.000 Like, at all.
00:07:13.280 Like, at all.
00:07:14.420 Like, there's catfishing
00:07:15.280 and then there's that.
00:07:16.520 Like, they were him
00:07:17.580 but I don't know why.
00:07:18.920 I don't know what he'd done
00:07:19.760 but it was, like,
00:07:20.560 from, like, ten years ago.
00:07:21.420 He was a bit older as well.
00:07:22.700 He said to me he was 24.
00:07:24.340 This is when I was, like, 22.
00:07:25.960 Oh, he lied about his age.
00:07:26.900 Yeah, he was about 35, 36
00:07:28.500 and obviously,
00:07:29.440 each to their own,
00:07:30.720 do you know what I mean?
00:07:31.100 Everyone has their own preference
00:07:32.220 and whatever.
00:07:33.400 I completely understand
00:07:34.120 and I completely respect that
00:07:34.960 but I was just...
00:07:36.420 Do you know when you're
00:07:36.800 just a bit shocked,
00:07:37.500 you're like...
00:07:38.300 What are you...
00:07:39.160 God, what am I going to do here?
00:07:40.300 Like, I'm too nice to run away
00:07:41.960 and then, no, I am.
00:07:43.980 Oh, I was.
00:07:44.640 I had to sit there
00:07:45.280 and withstand, like,
00:07:46.040 the whole two hours
00:07:46.540 and you start trying to go
00:07:47.120 for a drink after.
00:07:47.920 I'm like, yeah,
00:07:48.900 I've got to go home.
00:07:49.640 I've got to work to my own.
00:07:50.500 Sorry.
00:07:51.000 I've done that before
00:07:52.080 where you're like,
00:07:52.760 oh, I want to leave
00:07:53.760 but you're, like,
00:07:54.360 you don't want to...
00:07:55.240 Yeah, you don't want to hurt
00:07:56.060 someone's feelings.
00:07:57.080 No.
00:07:57.520 And it's like,
00:07:58.000 because I know I wouldn't like
00:07:58.940 someone to do it to me,
00:07:59.740 personally.
00:08:00.080 But...