JustPearlyThings - August 05, 2023


Pearl NUKES Their Woke Disney Fairytale


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In this episode, we discuss how old is too old to get married and have kids? Is there any point in getting married at a certain age if you don't have any kids? Is it ever too late to start a family with someone you're in a relationship with?

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00:00:00.000 Knowing that men today are more hesitant to get married, right, and half of, they're predicting
00:00:06.240 half of women in our age group aren't even going to be married. They're, you know, 50% of us in
00:00:12.280 the room never married, no kids. That's what they're predicting, okay? At what age is it,
00:00:18.980 would you say, over? You know, probably no one's going to marry you. If no one's tried to marry 0.78
00:00:26.700 you yet, you're probably never going to get it. What age? What do you think? As a woman.
00:00:33.220 What age would you say when you're a spinster? Like, no offense. Like, late 40s? 0.80
00:00:41.180 45? Over? Okay. Kind of, yeah. When do you think it's over?
00:00:45.420 Oh, yeah, I'd say probably 45 and over. Yeah, same.
00:00:49.980 45? Same, yeah.
00:00:51.500 I want to come back to you. 45.
00:00:54.060 I think because a lot of people, because people who are getting married tend to want
00:01:02.480 families, isn't it? So they're going to look at them and go, I might love you, but I, yeah,
00:01:08.240 but in traditional aspects, marriage is to support a family and they might look at it and go,
00:01:13.760 we're most likely not going to have a child. So, I mean, if I'm not religious, is there any
00:01:19.760 point? Get married at this point? That's what I said. I didn't say relationship. Marriage. Marriage, yeah.
00:01:24.020 All right, Troy, what do you think? What age? 27.
00:01:27.540 27?
00:01:28.180 Oh, wow.
00:01:28.720 That was such a precise number.
00:01:31.680 I knew that would trigger everyone.
00:01:34.940 I just like the preciseness of the 27.
00:01:37.020 It was so specific.
00:01:38.340 In all seriousness, if we're talking about having kids, though, as well, like not just,
00:01:45.780 are we talking marriage and kids?
00:01:46.800 I'm not talking marriage. This is just personally, I feel like most guys over a certain age,
00:01:51.860 they'll get in a long-term relationship with a girl, but why get married if there's no kids? 0.99
00:01:55.580 Yeah, no, true, true, true.
00:01:56.680 So, at what age is it? Would you say as a guy, you're like, couldn't start a family with
00:02:00.820 her?
00:02:01.180 You can have everything, but if you don't have kids.
00:02:03.200 So, if you had a girl you really liked, right, and you were thinking of someone you wanted
00:02:06.800 to start a family with, but you said, you know what, too old.
00:02:09.580 I mean, to be honest, I think it's going to be like mid-30s.
00:02:12.120 35?
00:02:12.900 Yeah.
00:02:13.400 Okay.
00:02:13.740 Yeah, realistically, because of the things you're talking about as well, because you start
00:02:17.480 to think, getting much older than that, you start to think, well, you know, would everything
00:02:20.960 be okay, you know?
00:02:22.480 Oh, God.
00:02:25.040 Yeah.
00:02:26.460 Because if you think about it, what are women's peak fertility years, really?
00:02:29.880 It's like 22, 23, right?
00:02:31.500 Yeah, absolutely.
00:02:32.120 Yeah, yeah.
00:02:32.920 Just under 25, I think.
00:02:34.680 Once you start reaching 30, that's when it starts getting quite dangerous.
00:02:39.420 Yeah, 90% of your eggs are gone by 30.
00:02:41.540 That's crazy.
00:02:42.440 Wow.
00:02:43.580 Crazy.
00:02:44.380 Oh, gosh.
00:02:44.900 That's why marriage used to be so much younger. 0.71
00:02:47.380 That's why people used to get married a lot younger. 0.99
00:02:49.620 But now a lot of people don't want to have children, so they get married a lot later,
00:02:53.100 because it's a different...
00:02:55.040 If it's just marriage for companionship, then to be fair, people could get married older.
00:02:58.980 You know, like you might meet somebody, you know, in the nursing home, and you're just
00:03:01.840 like, on the deathbed.
00:03:05.260 They're like, I don't know how you need to spend this money.
00:03:06.840 I noticed, are you engaged?
00:03:10.460 I saw the...
00:03:11.000 I see the ring.
00:03:11.840 No, I always get asked this.
00:03:13.020 No, this is on the right hand, not on the left hand.
00:03:15.380 Oh, okay.
00:03:16.120 No.
00:03:16.360 No, everyone always asks me that.
00:03:17.980 No, not yet.
00:03:19.120 Soon, maybe.
00:03:20.280 Hopefully.
00:03:20.940 Hopefully.
00:03:21.480 We pray.
00:03:24.540 Okay.
00:03:25.120 Next question.
00:03:26.100 Next question.
00:03:27.020 All right.
00:03:27.160 Because I feel like I was given so much flack for this.
00:03:29.860 Are you a good wife if you get married and then you gain 100 pounds? 0.83
00:03:33.460 Is that good wife? 1.00
00:03:34.300 I'm just asking, am I off base?
00:03:39.220 Oh, my God.
00:03:39.680 I mean, was there a reason for that?
00:03:42.140 Like, did someone pass away?
00:03:43.140 It doesn't matter the reason, you know?
00:03:44.560 I mean, you're not a bad wife for gaining 100 pounds, whatever, for a reason. 1.00
00:03:49.800 Okay.
00:03:50.420 Let me just say.
00:03:51.400 So, I lost my job and refused to work as a husband, but I did it for a reason.
00:03:57.140 Am I a good husband?
00:03:58.180 You know, I lost my job, but I was depressed.
00:04:02.640 I mean, things like that happen.
00:04:04.400 It can be a benefit.
00:04:05.400 I didn't say it doesn't happen.
00:04:09.080 I didn't say you couldn't work through it.
00:04:10.260 I just said good.
00:04:11.140 Good means like A, B student, right?
00:04:14.160 That's good.
00:04:14.840 I don't know.
00:04:15.500 I kind of need specifics because like gaining weight and being depressed.
00:04:21.640 You can gain weight as a girl because you're depressed.
00:04:25.040 Okay.
00:04:25.640 Just comfy.
00:04:26.600 I agree.
00:04:27.240 So, you know, I got married.
00:04:29.700 I'm in love.
00:04:31.140 And then I said, you know what?
00:04:32.920 I'm just going to eat Krispy Kremes every day.
00:04:35.840 If you're not willing to look out for your own health, though.
00:04:38.740 Yeah.
00:04:39.400 Yeah.
00:04:39.800 I think it's the only choice.
00:04:41.340 I don't think it is.
00:04:43.180 So, my question.
00:04:44.000 Good wife or bad wife? 1.00
00:04:46.580 See, I don't think it's quite as straightforward, but in a normal way.
00:04:51.620 If you have to pick one, you got to pick good or bad.
00:04:55.260 I have a question.
00:04:56.260 I would say if I'm still looking after him and doing all the things that a wife should 0.86
00:05:01.280 do.
00:05:01.660 But yeah, I just gained a few pounds or whatever.
00:05:04.100 I said a hundred.
00:05:05.540 Yeah.
00:05:05.800 If I'm still looking after him, he can't say nothing.
00:05:08.220 I'm still a good wife.
00:05:10.240 All right.
00:05:11.120 I mean, they're the same person.
00:05:12.720 Like, does it change other than their weight?
00:05:15.060 Look at Piers Brosnan.
00:05:17.200 Is that his name?
00:05:17.900 Who's that?
00:05:18.280 His wife, the old James Bond.
00:05:20.620 His wife was stunning when they were young.
00:05:23.060 And now, if you look at her, she's gained a lot of weight. 1.00
00:05:25.680 And he told them, he was like, I didn't fall in love with her because of the way she
00:05:28.300 looked.
00:05:28.560 He was like, I fell in love with her soul.
00:05:30.020 Yeah.
00:05:31.020 Yeah.
00:05:31.440 I think that sounds like, I don't know why men cap.
00:05:33.480 He would not have approached her.
00:05:34.960 Come on.
00:05:35.880 Like, they sell us this fairy tale.
00:05:39.000 You know, I'm not saying that she can't provide other things, but that action.
00:05:42.780 All right.
00:05:43.100 Can we just, sorry.
00:05:43.980 That action.
00:05:44.760 Is that a good wife? 1.00
00:05:46.380 I didn't talk about her cooking.
00:05:47.640 I didn't talk about her.
00:05:48.120 If you don't care, if you don't care and there's no backline issue to why you've done that.
00:05:54.640 No.
00:05:55.360 It's a bad way.
00:05:56.120 Yeah.
00:05:56.640 It's a.
00:05:57.220 Because if you don't care and you've gone, you should love me the way I am.
00:06:00.300 If that's how it was in the beginning, then that's why maybe I'm coming across a bit strong.
00:06:04.700 Didn't you say she was, oh, she was real.
00:06:06.660 Who said they were real?
00:06:07.420 She's the realist so far.
00:06:10.100 Okay.
00:06:10.780 Okay.
00:06:11.360 Next one on my list.
00:06:12.660 All right.
00:06:12.980 If you refuse to have sex with your husband, good wife or bad wife? 1.00
00:06:17.500 Bad.
00:06:18.580 Okay.
00:06:19.180 Thank you.
00:06:19.780 Thank you.
00:06:20.420 Good night for bad.
00:06:22.580 Refused.
00:06:23.280 Yeah.
00:06:23.720 I'm going to say bad.
00:06:24.640 I need context.
00:06:26.460 Yeah.
00:06:26.640 Like.
00:06:27.460 I have no idea what that means.
00:06:29.240 I think in a stereotypical sense is what she's saying.
00:06:32.300 Because normally when a woman refuses is because there's an emotional disconnect or there's
00:06:35.460 something that's seriously gone wrong.
00:06:37.180 But then should you still be married then?
00:06:40.520 Or should you've gotten married and sex with one of them?
00:06:42.360 No, but I mean.
00:06:43.500 I have a question.
00:06:45.340 Do good wives put their feelings above what's best for the family? 1.00
00:06:49.940 Yeah.
00:06:50.080 Oh, it's me.
00:06:50.840 Well, I don't.
00:06:51.500 I don't feel right.
00:06:52.680 So let me just not sleep with my husband because of the way I feel.
00:06:58.040 Is that a good wife? 1.00
00:06:59.220 My feelings before everybody else's.
00:07:01.600 I mean, as long as you express that to your partner and he's okay with that.
00:07:05.480 No, I don't.
00:07:06.000 You have to be open about that.
00:07:07.720 I just want to.
00:07:08.260 I just don't have a question.
00:07:09.320 I'm just just.
00:07:10.020 Yeah.
00:07:10.380 Mad, mad, mad, mad, mad, mad or a blessing.
00:07:12.540 One for you, one for you.
00:07:13.300 Big topic.
00:07:13.620 Are you guys okay?
00:07:15.680 Oh.
00:07:16.160 With having.
00:07:17.040 Do you think most men would be okay with having a wife that does not have sex with them? 0.63
00:07:21.000 No.
00:07:21.360 No.
00:07:21.800 Okay.
00:07:22.520 No, I think it would be a problem.
00:07:23.860 Okay.
00:07:24.320 Yeah.
00:07:24.660 It would be problematic.
00:07:25.480 Okay.
00:07:26.180 Because you guys were like, well, maybe if I explain to him why I'm not.
00:07:28.960 Is there a reason they could give you?
00:07:31.360 You're like, you know what?
00:07:32.400 I'm super happy to just not have sex.
00:07:35.280 I think that would be rubbing salt into the wound, to be honest.
00:07:37.520 I think that might make it worse if she's trying to justify it.
00:07:40.180 It's like.
00:07:41.400 Because the problem is what the guy's giving you is his commitment.
00:07:43.280 He's giving you his commitment.
00:07:44.300 I'm not going to sleep with anyone else.
00:07:46.020 And then he's.
00:07:46.980 And then if you're also not having sex with him, then obviously that's going to leave him in a deficit.
00:07:51.680 Yeah.
00:07:52.000 But there's obviously a reason for it, isn't there?
00:07:54.580 But it depends.
00:07:55.220 It really has to depend on what that reason is.
00:07:57.320 I'm not saying there's no reason.
00:07:58.600 Well, for example, if she's with like an abusive man.
00:08:00.900 But that's a completely.
00:08:02.360 That's one of those extremities that we're talking about.
00:08:04.720 This is stereotypical.
00:08:06.120 I just have a question.
00:08:06.700 Why do we keep going to the extreme when we're talking about the norm?
00:08:09.800 I think she's looking at stereotypical terms.
00:08:12.740 Because women only refuse the intimacy if there is a problem. 1.00
00:08:17.680 No, no, no.
00:08:18.780 I say that because women use it sometimes as a weapon. 1.00
00:08:21.840 We do.
00:08:22.400 Yeah.
00:08:22.720 I don't think that's okay.
00:08:24.100 Yeah, that's not okay.
00:08:24.980 But she's probably using it as a weapon because there is a valid reason.
00:08:28.940 But could she be not wanting to be intimate with him because just because the butterflies are gone?
00:08:33.100 Just because she's like, wow.
00:08:33.940 No, see, that's wrong.
00:08:35.120 You sure?
00:08:35.600 Yeah, that's wrong.
00:08:36.280 But that happens.
00:08:36.960 I mean like something really like serious.
00:08:38.500 Oh, you mean it's wrong if she does that? 0.76
00:08:40.160 But why do you guys, okay.
00:08:41.200 Yeah.
00:08:41.460 Why don't we keep adding things to avoid the actual question?
00:08:44.720 Is not sleeping.
00:08:45.640 If you're a good wife, if you refuse to sleep with your husband.
00:08:48.200 That is the question.
00:08:48.840 It's not if you're an abusive relate, if that, that, that, that.
00:08:52.020 It's just are you a good wife if you won't have sex with your husband? 1.00
00:08:55.040 Without the extremities I think is what she's trying to say.
00:08:57.680 Okay, thank you.
00:08:58.100 That's so confusing to me.
00:08:59.100 I'm trying to put my hand up.
00:09:00.660 And I'll tell you, so I have a friend.
00:09:02.360 He's a 20-year divorce attorney.
00:09:04.020 He says it's very common that women get the two kids they want and they just stop sleeping with the husband. 0.81
00:09:08.060 They got what they want.
00:09:08.600 Okay, no, that's wrong.
00:09:09.940 Yeah, I'm not going with that.
00:09:10.900 And a lot of times it's not for a really good reason.
00:09:13.880 As women, we have stupid, like, it depends where we are in our cycle. 1.00
00:09:16.360 We're crazy.
00:09:17.460 We are.
00:09:17.820 Come on.
00:09:18.600 We are.
00:09:18.840 I agree.
00:09:19.840 You've never gotten mad at your boyfriend for something stupid?
00:09:23.180 Yes.
00:09:24.200 All the time.
00:09:25.140 And, like, every day.
00:09:26.420 You don't think good wives know that, you know, we can be crazy, we can be emotional, 1.00
00:09:31.140 so we put the family before us feelings?
00:09:35.700 Yeah.
00:09:35.940 Yeah.
00:09:36.580 Yeah.
00:09:37.080 Anyone disagree with that?
00:09:38.360 No.
00:09:38.700 Okay.
00:09:38.840 So, good wives have sex even when they don't want to, yes or no? 1.00
00:09:43.600 I think that's a connection that we'll never, I don't know, we'll never, I don't know,
00:09:48.200 we'll never go and, yeah, it's endless.
00:09:50.880 Yeah.
00:09:51.380 Yes.
00:09:52.040 Sure.
00:09:52.640 Yes.
00:09:54.560 Yes.
00:09:55.160 She doesn't, she's fighting it.
00:09:57.340 She's fighting it.
00:09:58.620 It's hard because I don't agree with it.
00:10:00.740 So, yeah, I'll say, yeah.
00:10:02.500 Yeah.
00:10:02.860 I'll be you guys the same.
00:10:06.020 Yeah.
00:10:06.420 But, but I, I, it depends on what kind of time of frame you're, like, time frame that
00:10:13.060 you're talking about.
00:10:14.180 If you just mean in general, yeah, there should, even if you're not feeling totally up to it,
00:10:21.020 but you haven't had it in a while, it's a respect thing.
00:10:23.960 Yeah.
00:10:24.220 Thank you.
00:10:24.720 Thank you.
00:10:24.820 Thank you.
00:10:25.260 Thank you.
00:10:25.600 Thank you.
00:10:26.180 Thank you.