JustPearlyThings - April 05, 2023


Beauty Standards are Higher Today


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

196.18112

Word Count

2,185

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

19

Hate Speech Sentences

8


Summary

In this episode, we discuss beauty standards in the UK and the impact they have on the dating marketplace. Are beauty standards based on looks or is it based on how a woman looks? Is there a difference between beauty standards and beauty standards?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 yeah I definitely feel like there is a high beauty standard in the UK yeah
00:00:04.980 that's my opinion okay what do you think what are beauty standards for me I okay
00:00:11.280 I'm gonna say that it does come from within however I'd be lying if I would
00:00:15.720 say that you don't look at beauty like you can tell in the UK but like who is
00:00:20.760 attractive and who isn't you just know that so to say that it comes from within
00:00:25.280 I think yes that's the general statement for anyone to make because nobody wants
00:00:29.940 to sound like oh they're being shallow but realistically speaking the majority
00:00:34.500 of society are shallow you do look at people and what they look like mm-hmm yeah
00:00:39.780 okay so you would say it's based on looks yeah what what metrics would you use to
00:00:44.560 measure someone's beauty um for me personally um men or women women it would
00:00:54.960 for me I look at a woman's if I can strip back everything in terms of like the
00:00:58.860 makeup the hair the nails and to me I can see her as beautiful then she's
00:01:04.860 beautiful but that's just me again my preference okay what do you think Troy what
00:01:09.980 are beauty standards I mean look I think it's entirely physical to be honest I
00:01:15.360 don't want to sound cynical here but I think that's what people look at I think
00:01:18.620 it's nice to say it's from within and there's yeah sure I mean there's some
00:01:22.140 truth in that but I think let's let's let's be let's be real the dating
00:01:25.440 marketplace it's a kind of a jungle out there right what are people looking at
00:01:28.820 they're looking at the aesthetics right they're looking at the surface now
00:01:31.400 that's not to say that you meet somebody and maybe they have a really obnoxious
00:01:36.860 personality and you think actually I'm put off from that or they've got
00:01:39.880 something about them that's really great and you guys click and that adds
00:01:42.960 something to it 100% that's that's definitely true but let's let's be honest
00:01:46.120 right it's a surface level thing there are there are aesthetic standards and
00:01:49.440 that's what people mean when they're talking about beauty I don't think the
00:01:54.580 standards are particularly high in the UK but that's just that's just me though guys sorry
00:02:00.200 for men as well for men as well for men as well for men as well
00:02:07.640 you get humbled real quick well Miami but also like Latin America I mean Eastern Europe all those
00:02:15.500 places oh yeah yeah I went to a wedding in Germany it was like all the girls were
00:02:20.880 like literally stunning yeah okay what do you think yeah I do agree I feel like it
00:02:27.160 is based on how a woman looks I feel like as she mentioned if a woman's got her
00:02:33.140 nails done hair done you've got yourself together men do like that it is you know
00:02:36.740 quite obvious as well a man especially a regular man in the UK I don't feel like
00:02:41.180 they would go for just a basic looking woman yeah they would go for a woman who's
00:02:46.800 you know got themselves put together got their nails done they look good and yeah
00:02:51.380 I don't really agree when they said that it's within it's just my opinion
00:02:55.640 anyways I feel like if someone looks good then that's what attracts attracts men as
00:03:00.620 well yeah what do you think um I agree to an extent I definitely feel as though
00:03:12.120 beauty is an attraction I feel like if someone's attracted to you they're gonna
00:03:16.220 think you're beautiful regardless however I do not agree that just because
00:03:21.620 you're well done up that then implicates that you're beautiful you know I don't
00:03:27.400 have no makeup on now I'm very much beautiful and I don't need makeup to
00:03:32.260 define my beauty and I think yeah I don't even got to find my beauty however you
00:03:39.400 know I do definitely feel like you have to be attracted to someone in order for
00:03:43.720 you to think that they are beautiful mm-hmm do you guys think that beauty
00:03:49.300 standards are higher were higher a hundred years ago or today today definitely today
00:03:56.020 definitely today is there anyone that thinks they were higher a hundred years
00:03:58.980 ago anyone no because if you look back at all black and white photographs from the
00:04:02.160 Victorian era and then you look at you just do a scroll through Instagram now I
00:04:05.560 mean I mean like it's night and day in terms of in terms of hotness and I think
00:04:08.600 that's down to a number of things it's like to do with nutrition is to do with
00:04:11.720 fitness is to do with the fact that we're all encouraged to work out now makeup you
00:04:16.560 know clothing there's so many different things bits of surgery and procedures and
00:04:20.960 stuff I mean there's so many different things that come into it so I think yeah
00:04:23.340 definitely overall you know people are more aesthetically pleasing now it was
00:04:28.380 probably only the rich people that were super hot back in there that's what I
00:04:31.320 was gonna say I was gonna say I feel like um things are more accessible now so yeah
00:04:35.460 makeup like it's you know less I don't know about pricing but I feel like surgery is
00:04:40.920 more accessible to people and stuff yeah and I feel like that's probably why the
00:04:44.520 standards are a little bit higher yeah do women respond when beauty standards go
00:04:48.840 higher do you think that women do you feel like we just step up to the plate we yeah
00:04:53.640 yeah and how do we respond typically we follow the trend yeah we follow the trend
00:05:02.880 what trends so like the BBL trend that's happening at the moment I feel like it's
00:05:07.080 going down now but um yeah I guess we just follow the trend like um what else is it like
00:05:11.460 makeup yeah makeup I like yeah lip filler yeah I disagree a little bit because I don't follow
00:05:19.800 like all the latest trend all the time sometimes it's overwhelming to me so I try to do what is
00:05:26.340 best for me and obviously we live in this society where social media is like it's everything so
00:05:32.600 everyone is bombarded with all these images but it doesn't mean that I'm gonna follow any single
00:05:37.040 trend is up there because it's overwhelming to me so um does beauty standards include weight yes to
00:05:44.140 an extent I think yeah yeah does anyone think it doesn't yeah I don't think so anymore I don't I don't
00:05:51.020 think so anymore I feel like um I feel like all shapes and sizes right now I might be wrong are
00:05:56.720 accepted so um I just feel like for me personally it's based on how well how well you keep yourself
00:06:02.960 and how put together you look not about your size that's just me personally do you think men think
00:06:06.920 the same thing yeah I actually think so I think it depends yeah no but in general so we could talk
00:06:17.600 about in general would you say men care or they don't care about weight yeah do you think women
00:06:34.460 are more put together today than a hundred years ago definitely definitely yeah you look at some old
00:06:43.460 some of these old pictures though seriously you see like these dusty old like photographs sometimes
00:06:47.900 you see I mean they're not looking good you know the ladies weren't representing back then do you
00:06:52.220 know what I mean then back then it might have been a thing that's how they were meant to yeah it's true
00:06:56.300 it's true yeah those days were like oh yeah they're beautiful yeah it's true look at them now but back
00:07:03.380 then yeah she was hot yeah it was more natural though back in the days it was like you know beauties like
00:07:10.640 today's like oh you need to be the perfect the perfect maker and I don't think they cared much
00:07:14.360 of us but don't you think the one thing I've observed like here and also in the states a little
00:07:18.300 bit as well is that a lot of there's a seems to be this fashion now for women wearing quite baggy
00:07:22.700 clothes have you know it's like if you go to a shopping mall or something like that during the
00:07:26.760 daytime a lot of the women are wearing like quite baggy jeans quite baggy and and maybe less makeup and
00:07:31.000 stuff which sort of goes counter to that Instagram thing in a way doesn't it because I think just
00:07:35.660 looking around the streets I think a lot of women are dressing up sort of a bit less
00:07:39.200 certainly during the daytime here but then if you go to say Poland or if you go to Ukraine or
00:07:45.500 something prior to the you know the war you would see a very different sort of story so I think in
00:07:50.840 the west it feels like I don't say standards are falling but it seems like a more casualness is sort
00:07:56.600 of accepted into the women because I see more yoga pants and sweat I would say I see more yoga pants
00:08:01.920 and sweats than I did 20 like 10 years ago let's say when I was 26 when I was 16 you know it was like
00:08:08.240 I don't know because you guys are different about yoga pants a little bit but in the US they're like
00:08:12.800 super common but I remember it was like a fight on Facebook about if yoga pants were acceptable in
00:08:18.140 public I was in I was in LA recently and I saw there was a lot of yoga pants going on down in sort of
00:08:28.460 Venice and Venice Beach and like places like that yeah so my question is if beauty standards are higher
00:08:34.640 and women respond to beauty standards why are women more overweight today and we dress up less
00:08:39.380 is that stats that you have by any chance yeah and the 19 I mean there's no stat on dressing up that's
00:08:49.400 just anecdotal but when it comes to weight only 10% of women were overweight in the 40s where 60% of
00:08:54.620 women in the UK are overweight 70% in America you got remember back in the olden days they had this thing
00:09:00.620 where they used to wear corsets in order to line their bodies so they had this that was their trend
00:09:06.360 you know that isn't the trend here so you gotta understand that as times as society changes so does
00:09:12.740 the trends I guess no yeah but my question is more like if women respond to beauty standards and women
00:09:18.140 actually cared about beauty standards like why are we more overweight and we dress up less because of
00:09:22.700 the food that we eat but that kind of indicates that we don't care as much as we say we do like
00:09:28.340 because we're supposed to be under this immense pressure right from society but it doesn't seem
00:09:32.480 like our looks are getting better as a whole I think again if you compare other societies because
00:09:37.800 like before the you know the kind of West just as a counterpoint though so when like in 2021 I was
00:09:45.080 in spent quite a lot of time in Russia and then and then also in Ukraine prior to what's happening now
00:09:49.940 and it is a very different story though you do get a lot of women who are very elegant they're still
00:09:54.380 wearing you know maybe peels slightly less during the daytime but you know what I mean very very
00:09:59.640 elegant wearing dresses all the time but very very feminine in a way that you don't see so much here
00:10:05.400 and I think that's got something to do with feminism to be honest or at least the the tide of
00:10:13.040 because society is telling women you you don't have to make why you don't have to make an effort for
00:10:17.880 it sounds very crude but you don't have to make an effort for men right because why should you
00:10:22.020 right because you are you're enough in yourself okay um and and I think that's got something to
00:10:27.620 do with it to be to be honest you know I don't think society is and I'm not saying society should
00:10:32.220 be compelling women to do that but I don't think it is whereas I think in some of those other
00:10:35.900 countries that are arguably a little bit more patriarchal let's say um there is still that
00:10:41.160 pressure and so women are dressing up more and also they have to compete with one another because
00:10:44.540 otherwise if you're the the girl who's you know just just not not bothering and everyone else is
00:10:49.340 then you're gonna kind of get left to the side aren't you as many of you know I was just banned on
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