JustPearlyThings - October 21, 2023


Bella Poarch WHINING About Choosing Career Over Marriage


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Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

176.55205

Word count

1,275

Sentence count

97

Harmful content

Misogyny

20

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Toxicity

6

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Hate speech

8

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Bella Porch is a TikTok star with over 50 million views on TikTok, but what does this mean for her relationship with her husband? Is he a narcissist? Or is he a loving and caring human being?

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Last but not least today, I want to talk about Bella Porch.
00:00:02.920 So Bella Porch is a viral TikTok star.
00:00:07.240 This woman, so I remember early TikTok days when Bella blew up. 0.99
00:00:10.620 So this woman had the most viral TikTok of all time, the most viewed video with over 0.61
00:00:16.560 50 million views.
00:00:18.280 And it was so interesting to just see her face, like she found a way to make her face
00:00:22.100 like move with the muse, it was kind of cool.
00:00:23.860 And recently I saw a video of her on Call Her Daddy talking about how her career actually
00:00:30.680 led her to divorce.
00:00:31.840 Let's pull it up.
00:00:33.540 I want to be an artist.
00:00:35.760 I want to sing.
00:00:37.020 I want to be like, I want to be in the spotlight.
00:00:40.200 Like I want to perform.
00:00:41.740 And I don't think he ever wants to be part of that.
00:00:45.320 Sometimes it just, it just sucks because, you know, like you want to do something for yourself
00:00:51.240 and like a career.
00:00:53.580 But then you love someone and they can't handle it.
00:00:57.060 So it's just like, you kind of just have to pick, right?
00:00:59.420 So words are important.
00:01:00.920 And I wanted to point out something that she says during this video that you kind of just
00:01:05.080 have to pick.
00:01:06.000 And, you know, she goes on, I watched this whole interview.
00:01:08.240 She actually goes on to talk about how he was a really private person and her becoming
00:01:13.440 a public figure really just damaged their relationship and they couldn't handle it.
00:01:18.000 And again, you'll see this tendency for women to, and I hear older women talk about this 0.99
00:01:23.420 too.
00:01:23.840 I just want to do something for myself.
00:01:26.660 And it's funny because when men do selfless things, they're a lot less narcissistic with
00:01:33.440 it and they don't look at it as a burden.
00:01:35.760 They look at it as a duty.
00:01:36.960 Where when women tend to do things like for the family, they look at it as a detriment. 1.00
00:01:43.260 They hold resentment to the people that hold back their decision.
00:01:47.460 Now, I will say this decision may work out for her.
00:01:50.700 She may end up getting remarried. 1.00
00:01:52.700 She may be able to have it all.
00:01:54.300 But there are thousands of women that watch these type of videos and think they will have 1.00
00:01:59.700 the same outcome as a woman that is worth millions and millions of dollars. 1.00
00:02:05.680 That is born one of the most, I would argue, top 20-ish percent of beauty.
00:02:10.920 Most women will not have these outcomes for making selfish decisions. 1.00
00:02:16.360 And typically women in her shoes don't end up having good outcomes anyway. 1.00
00:02:21.440 But I just, I want to give the devil's advocate here.
00:02:23.720 And here, this woman says she's speaking for so many women here.
00:02:27.200 She is.
00:02:28.500 And that's the sad part.
00:02:29.740 She absolutely is speaking for many women because many, most women are selfish in 2023. 1.00
00:02:38.020 Most women care more about themselves and their career than their family and children. 1.00
00:02:45.760 And she admits it there that her career was more important and she was going to pick herself.
00:02:51.680 And I don't, I don't really, I'm a little bit, I have a nuanced opinion on this stuff.
00:02:57.200 Do what you're going to do.
00:02:58.440 At least she didn't have children, okay?
00:03:00.280 But don't complain later.
00:03:01.960 Don't whine and cry about the outcomes later.
00:03:06.140 You're a man.
00:03:06.620 If he really loves you, he'll support you no matter what.
00:03:09.800 Oh, really?
00:03:10.640 What if she wants to do sex work? 1.00
00:03:12.280 What if she's putting their relationship in a compromising position?
00:03:16.640 No matter what?
00:03:17.580 Really?
00:03:18.460 Really? 1.00
00:03:19.020 And this is this feminist garbage that we've just been programmed, that's been shoved down 1.00
00:03:24.180 our throat, that says we can do everything a man can do and still have it all. 0.99
00:03:28.160 The truth of the matter is everything in life comes with choices and trade-offs.
00:03:31.920 You cannot have everything.
00:03:32.980 Juna Pellips says, she chose her dreams.
00:03:36.340 He can't just be proud of what she has accomplished right now.
00:03:39.800 Well, at what cost is the question?
00:03:42.240 And you don't know the ins and outs of the story.
00:03:44.200 You don't know his side of things.
00:03:45.580 Maybe she was going out and putting their relationship in compromising position. 0.97
00:03:50.440 Maybe he's a private person and didn't sign up to be a part of that life.
00:03:53.860 And the thing is, women will constantly lead other women down the path of destruction. 1.00
00:03:59.480 So now, you know, the question becomes, is the grass greener on the other side?
00:04:02.880 For Bella, I really, I hope it is.
00:04:04.660 I never wish negativity on people, but I will say in most cases it's not.
00:04:09.840 Bella Porch is talking about here splitting the bill on a recent date. 1.00
00:04:13.340 Let's pull it up.
00:04:13.880 Have you gone on any dates?
00:04:17.500 Like, what's the vibe?
00:04:18.860 Yeah.
00:04:19.580 Okay.
00:04:20.480 I actually went on a date a few days ago.
00:04:22.620 How'd it go?
00:04:24.140 It was weird because I, he likes me, but we split the bill.
00:04:29.500 Hmm.
00:04:30.720 What?
00:04:31.200 It's interesting because women want to be modern when it benefits them, but traditional 1.00
00:04:38.040 when it doesn't.
00:04:39.060 I'm sorry, but why is this girl worth millions and millions of dollars complaining about splitting 1.00
00:04:43.580 the bill?
00:04:44.140 I mean, you know, you wanted to be modern, which is fine.
00:04:47.620 No hate.
00:04:48.360 But don't complain about the outcomes later.
00:04:51.940 And these guys are probably thinking this girl's worth, I don't know what she's worth,
00:04:55.160 but I would guess upwards of 10 million, especially what they're paying for TikTok brand deals. 1.00
00:05:01.260 Back in the day, guys, who was stupid. 1.00
00:05:02.980 It was crazy. 1.00
00:05:03.880 These, these people were making so much money.
00:05:06.100 I actually, I met a bunch of the top like TikTokers back then. 0.99
00:05:10.480 Oh my God.
00:05:11.160 It was so crazy.
00:05:12.200 I met the D'Amelios back in the day, which is like another top TikTok family.
00:05:16.720 And it was, it was just briefly, but it was so crazy to me to see these like 18 year
00:05:21.160 old kids, you know, driving sports cars, having private drivers, going out to these super
00:05:26.120 expensive, very interesting, very cool.
00:05:28.300 Actually, you know, it's like they want to be, you can't have everything.
00:05:31.200 You want to be modern, you know, take what comes with it.
00:05:34.220 And I think that's actually the trend we're going to see in the West because you'll see
00:05:38.200 it in Japan.
00:05:38.720 It's actually super normal to split the bills there.
00:05:41.420 Like it's like not, I've asked people over there and they say it's like very normal.
00:05:47.320 The women don't even think much of it. 1.00
00:05:48.840 I think that's a trend you're going to see here because again, you know, the price of
00:05:52.300 women is going up and men are kind of getting sick and tired of paying for something.
00:05:56.720 They don't really get any value out of.
00:05:58.500 So user 85 says, you're not supposed to split the bill.
00:06:03.740 Hey, Nika, don't date him again. 0.99
00:06:05.760 LOL, red flag.
00:06:07.560 Should boy, this is the etiquette.
00:06:09.680 Listen up.
00:06:10.180 Whoever asked for the date should pay.
00:06:13.040 And I used to, I used to actually have different views on this.
00:06:16.620 Like I think a couple of years ago, I used to say that like men should pay.
00:06:20.620 And I, I, my issue with that logic is like, we can't have everything.
00:06:25.960 We either want to be modern or we want to be traditional.
00:06:28.800 And the question is if, you know, paying is a deal breaker for you or are you the traditional
00:06:34.240 chick that deserves to be paid for? 1.00
00:06:37.340 But to be fair, I think most guys, to be honest, pay anyway.
00:06:40.740 Like there's just, you know, most guys don't really fight it like that.
00:06:43.320 Thank you.