JustPearlyThings - April 06, 2023


Bimbo Tries To Check Aunty Jenny


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10 minutes

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2,184

Sentence count

239

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Misogyny

9

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In this episode, the brother and sister duo of the discuss the difference between being a 'traditional' woman and a 'modern' woman. Do you have to be married to be a traditional? Do you need to be in a relationship to be considered 'traditional'? Is sex outside of marriage a part of being a traditional woman?

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00:00:00.000 You trying to check me?
00:00:01.200 No, no, no, I'm just asking you now.
00:00:03.200 You trying to check me?
00:00:04.200 Don't fuck it on here though.
00:00:05.200 It's alright, I'm 54 years old.
00:00:06.800 No, no, no, I'm just saying.
00:00:07.800 You're trying to check me.
00:00:08.800 My son's 36, what else do you want to know?
00:00:10.200 No, I'm saying was this date before you met your this partner?
00:00:13.200 Yes.
00:00:14.200 Okay, so this was when you were dating.
00:00:16.200 And what have I said to you that it was a date when I had my partner?
00:00:19.200 I'm just asking.
00:00:20.200 Okay then.
00:00:21.200 No, I'm just asking.
00:00:22.200 Does it make a difference?
00:00:23.200 No, not at all.
00:00:24.200 It should though, shouldn't it?
00:00:25.200 Think about it.
00:00:26.200 It should.
00:00:27.200 It should.
00:00:28.200 No, I'm just asking.
00:00:29.200 No, but you're asking for a stupid reason because it should.
00:00:31.400 No, I'm asking because you said.
00:00:32.400 It doesn't make no difference.
00:00:33.400 No, because you said old people, because obviously I'm trying to say.
00:00:36.400 Because you said something about old people.
00:00:38.400 My son's 36, so I've got to say that, innit?
00:00:40.400 No, no, but I just thought that you went, like, obviously if you went in your even early
00:00:44.600 20s, you're not old.
00:00:45.600 Do you get what I mean?
00:00:46.600 It's only because you said, oh, as old people, you know, you didn't know what the back was. 0.73
00:00:50.200 So I thought it was 20s not old.
00:00:52.200 Do you get what I mean?
00:00:53.200 That's what I was asking you.
00:00:54.200 Yeah, like, no.
00:00:55.200 Would it make a difference?
00:00:56.200 You still not get what I'm saying.
00:00:58.200 It should make a difference.
00:00:59.200 It should make a difference.
00:01:00.200 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:01.200 While you're asking the question, basically.
00:01:02.200 The answer for you shouldn't be odd.
00:01:03.200 Do you just try to check my numbers?
00:01:04.200 Even wrong.
00:01:05.200 Like, as old people, something. 1.00
00:01:06.200 No, what I'm saying is that you're missing the point.
00:01:08.200 Because if I'm saying to you that I'm in a relationship and I've been on a date, you're
00:01:12.200 not interested in that.
00:01:13.200 No, because you're saying you're a traditional woman, so I know that's not the facts, right? 0.72
00:01:16.200 I'm going to be a traditional woman.
00:01:17.200 I'm not married.
00:01:18.200 I'm having sex regular.
00:01:19.200 How's that traditional?
00:01:20.200 I thought you were traditional.
00:01:21.200 Sorry?
00:01:22.200 No, I can't be.
00:01:23.200 No, no, no, no, no.
00:01:24.200 Okay, no, sorry.
00:01:25.200 Okay.
00:01:26.200 I would not say that.
00:01:27.200 I'd say that I'm old and I've got a bit of wisdom.
00:01:29.200 Would you say you're a traditional woman?
00:01:30.200 No, I'm not traditional.
00:01:31.200 I'm not married.
00:01:32.200 How can I be traditional?
00:01:33.200 I'm having sex outside of marriage. 0.81
00:01:35.200 How can I be traditional?
00:01:36.200 Okay, because when you were saying...
00:01:37.200 Because traditional means that you have sex in a marriage and that you're married.
00:01:42.200 That's traditional.
00:01:43.200 So don't get confused.
00:01:44.200 You can behave traditional.
00:01:46.200 I might behave traditional, but I'm not traditional.
00:01:49.200 Sorry, my apologies.
00:01:50.200 And I'm not a hypocrite either.
00:01:51.200 No, my apologies.
00:01:52.200 Only because obviously when you were saying being a traditional woman is better, whatever,
00:01:55.200 I thought you were...
00:01:56.200 No, no, no.
00:01:57.200 I was asking you because when you said about the modern and the traditional.
00:01:59.200 Okay, no, no.
00:02:00.200 Sorry, my apologies.
00:02:01.200 Because you stand a dance of being traditional because you're married.
00:02:03.200 But as far as I'm concerned, when you're not married, when you get divorced and you move on,
00:02:07.200 you're not traditional no more.
00:02:09.200 That's the difference between you and me.
00:02:11.200 You've got a chance to be traditional because you've got a ring.
00:02:14.200 If you get divorced now, in my view, you're not traditional anymore because you're divorced.
00:02:18.200 So between you and me, I would say traditional values doesn't make you traditional.
00:02:23.200 Can you be traditional again even after a divorce?
00:02:26.200 If you get married again, will you then be a traditional woman?
00:02:28.200 No, traditional is you're a virgin and then you get married.
00:02:31.200 That's traditional.
00:02:32.200 If you didn't do that, you're not traditional.
00:02:34.200 I'm not traditional.
00:02:35.200 I have traditional values as in I prefer like old school.
00:02:39.200 I don't like all the dating apps and stuff like that.
00:02:41.200 I personally don't do them.
00:02:43.200 But I wouldn't be able to say I am traditional because I've had sex out of wedlock.
00:02:47.200 I've had kids out of wedlock.
00:02:48.200 You know, I'm not with the dad.
00:02:51.200 I have a very modern life, but I just deep down it's when it comes to love and stuff like
00:02:57.200 that and values.
00:02:58.200 It's, you know, what our parents grew up with.
00:03:00.200 You've got a traditional foundation.
00:03:02.200 You know, back in the 1900s, whatever.
00:03:06.200 Like 1940s, 1950s, back in them days. 0.63
00:03:10.200 Before social media.
00:03:12.200 So I have a question for the panel, for the ladies actually. 1.00
00:03:19.200 If a guy had everything you wanted, could you look past him stepping out from time to time?
00:03:25.200 Not, not another wife, not another like main chick. 0.60
00:03:28.200 Just like hoes here and there. 1.00
00:03:30.200 No.
00:03:31.200 No.
00:03:32.200 I don't know.
00:03:34.200 I don't know.
00:03:35.200 That should be such an easy yes.
00:03:37.200 I don't know.
00:03:38.200 You need to weigh up what options you would have because yeah, he might be cheating every
00:03:44.200 now and then.
00:03:45.200 Of course you don't want that.
00:03:46.200 You want him to be with you, but you have everything you want.
00:03:49.200 But also getting everything you want should you then sacrifice happiness that is cheating
00:03:54.200 on you.
00:03:55.200 You know, wouldn't you rather be with someone that isn't cheating on you and maybe gives you
00:03:59.200 some things you want and then you work for the other things you want yourself.
00:04:04.200 See, I would rather have my partner have a full partner than have women. 1.00
00:04:09.200 He's just the question.
00:04:10.200 Yeah.
00:04:11.200 No, I wouldn't.
00:04:12.200 You wouldn't do that.
00:04:13.200 I wouldn't respect that.
00:04:14.200 No.
00:04:15.200 Okay.
00:04:16.200 What about you two?
00:04:17.200 I think, I do not like seeing in this day and age, I feel like the realest no bullshit
00:04:25.200 thing is whether a man has money, whether he has a Porsche, whether he has whatever,
00:04:29.200 he's going to cheat.
00:04:30.200 That's the, like, if I'd be lying to myself, if I said to this question that I was going
00:04:36.200 to say, you know, oh no, I'd rather have a man that doesn't cheat because if I go to
00:04:40.200 the man that I think doesn't cheat, he's going to cheat as well.
00:04:43.200 So they all cheat.
00:04:44.200 That's the realest.
00:04:45.200 Like that's all this fairytale bullshit.
00:04:47.200 It's not real.
00:04:48.200 It's not real.
00:04:49.200 It's not.
00:04:50.200 It's very rare.
00:04:51.200 It's very rare.
00:04:52.200 It's like 0.0111%.
00:04:53.200 Arnie has that 0.0111%.
00:04:54.200 Yeah.
00:04:55.200 But like, Arnie's generation, she's that bit older where it makes that difference.
00:05:03.200 Do you get it?
00:05:04.200 In our generation, I'm 23.
00:05:05.200 I was born in 1999.
00:05:07.200 It's very, very, very rare that I'm going to find a man that's not going to cheat.
00:05:12.200 It's not.
00:05:13.200 It's not.
00:05:14.200 It is.
00:05:15.200 It's not.
00:05:16.200 It's not.
00:05:17.200 It's not.
00:05:18.200 It's not.
00:05:19.200 It's not.
00:05:20.200 Wait.
00:05:21.200 It's not.
00:05:22.200 It's not rare.
00:05:23.200 One out of three men are virgins or haven't had sex in the past year, but it's just the
00:05:25.200 men of.
00:05:26.200 No, it's.
00:05:27.200 It's.
00:05:28.200 Yeah.
00:05:29.200 Like what place is the study from?
00:05:30.200 As in the one in three guys?
00:05:32.200 Like, is it just in England or is it the whole?
00:05:34.200 I think the BBC did that study, you know?
00:05:36.200 Yeah.
00:05:37.200 I don't remember off the top of my head.
00:05:39.200 But London is a very different place.
00:05:41.200 Yeah.
00:05:42.200 Don't get me wrong.
00:05:43.200 It doesn't get better outside of London.
00:05:44.200 I would argue that in London, it's the same.
00:05:47.200 You're in a big city.
00:05:48.200 Hypergamy is a thing. 1.00
00:05:49.200 Like, I think when people have more options, like women sleep with a smaller and smaller percentage 1.00
00:05:54.200 of guys when they have more access.
00:05:56.200 Yeah.
00:05:57.200 But like, like in the countryside, the men are a lot more traditional.
00:06:00.200 Women are a lot more like it's. 1.00
00:06:02.200 I've come from Lincolnshire and I can promise you now is 10 times worse.
00:06:07.200 Yeah.
00:06:08.200 It's not even city center.
00:06:09.200 Like we're out by the seaside or you can be out in the sticks, like middle of nowhere.
00:06:14.200 It is so bad over there.
00:06:15.200 Yeah.
00:06:16.200 I don't, I don't necessarily like think all men, like my dad's like top 1% earner.
00:06:20.200 He never cheated on my mom.
00:06:21.200 It's there.
00:06:22.200 But like, I, I just think it's, it's rare.
00:06:25.200 And so like, you kind of have to be realistic with what your like values are.
00:06:29.200 And especially if you want a guy that's like really good looking and gets girls.
00:06:32.200 Like.
00:06:33.200 Can I just say this?
00:06:34.200 Can I just say this?
00:06:35.200 I just want to say this one thing.
00:06:36.200 No one here, other than auntie, maybe Eddie, just about myself, just about, has the life experience to say that all men cheat.
00:06:47.200 Because you're 23.
00:06:49.200 When you're 23, you've, you've hardly lived an adult life.
00:06:52.200 I think that.
00:06:53.200 But I'm saying for my generation, I'm not, do you get it?
00:06:57.200 Yeah, I do get it.
00:06:58.200 But you're 23.
00:06:59.200 That's the thing.
00:07:00.200 So to say that all men cheat at 23, it's like you're setting yourself up.
00:07:04.200 So what?
00:07:05.200 I'm just not selling myself a dream.
00:07:07.200 And can I just say that when Po asked that question, she said if a man had everything that you want.
00:07:15.200 Yeah.
00:07:16.200 Straight away people think about money.
00:07:17.200 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:07:18.200 None of that thought about, you know, I'm thinking, can he fix the sink?
00:07:21.200 You know what I mean?
00:07:22.200 Can he, can he wear a plug?
00:07:23.200 Can he fix my car?
00:07:24.200 That's what I was thinking about.
00:07:25.200 That's what I was thinking about.
00:07:26.200 I can do that myself.
00:07:27.200 That's the realest.
00:07:28.200 No, no, no.
00:07:29.200 I can fix the sink, bro.
00:07:31.200 There's YouTube videos.
00:07:32.200 You know what?
00:07:33.200 I can do it, but I won't.
00:07:34.200 There's plumbers.
00:07:35.200 No, but the first thing I actually thought was, is that everything I want?
00:07:39.200 You see the cheating part, is that something I want?
00:07:42.200 No, it's not.
00:07:43.200 Is that something you should give up your happiness for?
00:07:44.200 That's what I said.
00:07:45.200 The cheating part, is that something I want?
00:07:47.200 The answer is no.
00:07:48.200 No.
00:07:49.200 Okay.
00:07:50.200 What are the things that I want in a man?
00:07:51.200 These attributes that I like in a man.
00:07:53.200 Direction.
00:07:54.200 The way of thinking.
00:07:55.200 The way of leading.
00:07:56.200 These things are rare in men anyway.
00:07:58.200 So I know in myself, if I find a man like that and he cheats, I'm not going to be feeling
00:08:04.200 it, but who knows?
00:08:05.200 I might just, you know, I might just turn around just because, but I will say this, when
00:08:13.200 like what auntie said, when Pearl asked that question, a lot of people think of materialistic
00:08:18.200 things.
00:08:19.200 And that's the point, isn't it?
00:08:21.200 What can he buy me?
00:08:22.200 Is he giving me a nice house?
00:08:24.200 Is he giving me the ability to spend money?
00:08:27.200 Is he giving me financial freedom without me working for it?
00:08:31.200 Is he fulfilling my entitlements?
00:08:33.200 I understand.
00:08:34.200 That's how obviously it's come across.
00:08:35.200 I've said Porsche this, that.
00:08:36.200 No, no, not you.
00:08:37.200 Not you.
00:08:38.200 No, just in general.
00:08:39.200 The generation in general, it was always straight away money.
00:08:42.200 But like, see, see me as personally, I make my own money.
00:08:46.200 I've got my own car.
00:08:47.200 Do you get all these things that a man I'm asking for, I've got myself.
00:08:51.200 Yeah.
00:08:52.200 It's not like I'm a broke girl.
00:08:53.200 I sit at home and I'm bummy.
00:08:54.200 I claim universal credit and I'm asking for a man with a fucking Ferrari.
00:08:58.200 Yeah.
00:08:59.200 Not at all.
00:09:00.200 I've got all this shit myself.
00:09:01.200 So why is it that, you know, I can't ask for a man with the same level as me, as well
00:09:06.200 as I feel like it goes without saying.
00:09:08.200 Why do I have to say I want love from a man in a relationship?
00:09:11.200 I feel like it should go without saying all these attributes, like loyalty, all of that.
00:09:16.200 But that is a relationship, isn't it?
00:09:18.200 Trust, loyalty.
00:09:19.200 But it's like the bare minimum.
00:09:21.200 Yeah.
00:09:22.200 Why should I have to ask for that?
00:09:23.200 Because you don't.
00:09:24.200 The standard has been changed.
00:09:27.200 Society has made you think that you have to.
00:09:29.200 The standard has been changed and outlined by a younger generation of women that the standard 0.99
00:09:34.200 the standard is you have to have materialistic things.
00:09:38.200 And this is what happens.
00:09:39.200 Men adjust themselves to accommodate the women in society because their biological response is to breed. 1.00
00:09:47.200 Women get BBLs and surgery for men to look at them, but they'll say it's for them. 1.00
00:09:52.200 No, because they play.
00:09:53.200 No, you did it because you want a guy to tell you.
00:09:55.200 Of course, of course.
00:09:56.200 You're playing into a man's biology, but then you're angry when a man talks to you that you don't like.
00:10:00.200 Right.
00:10:01.200 So if it was Drake or whoever, you'd be happy.
00:10:03.200 But if it's the average guy down the road driving a, I don't know what, or riding a bike, it's not for you.
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