JustPearlyThings - May 12, 2023


Body Positivity Is A Scam


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

202.77582

Word Count

2,211

Sentence Count

243

Misogynist Sentences

24

Hate Speech Sentences

11


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 In the complete opposite direction, like total neurosis.
00:00:02.640 I got my bachelor's and master's degree in nutrition.
00:00:04.980 I helped thousands of people lose weight, regain their health.
00:00:08.060 And it was almost like her rebellion.
00:00:09.660 So her choice to gain autonomy through overeating and ill health was almost, you know, well, it was just so crazy for me because I was so healthy.
00:00:20.180 Oh, shoot.
00:00:20.300 I thought you said you were overweight.
00:00:22.060 As a kid I was.
00:00:23.200 Oh.
00:00:23.380 But as an adult, I really.
00:00:24.580 So you were super, what were you doing?
00:00:25.880 My whole life until I was like 15, I was like rebelling against her.
00:00:30.340 I was like, I'm going to eat all the junk food.
00:00:32.400 So I'd go to my friend's house and I'd stuff my face with pizza.
00:00:34.820 And then their moms would call her and be like, oh my gosh, is your daughter okay?
00:00:38.740 She's eaten like a box of pizza and like my whole box of goldfish.
00:00:42.320 Wow.
00:00:43.120 And I would just do that.
00:00:43.960 And then I'd come home and I would never like her cooking, even though she's the best cook I know.
00:00:47.820 But like I would, I just rebelled my whole life.
00:00:49.980 Yeah.
00:00:50.380 It was terrible.
00:00:51.860 James says there's a difference between fit and thick.
00:00:54.700 Men want fit women.
00:00:57.000 Puffy, I'm in Las Vegas and I see plenty of women from Africa.
00:01:00.300 I am black.
00:01:00.860 This is cap.
00:01:01.520 We like thin women.
00:01:03.800 And then I think there was one more.
00:01:05.260 I'm just going to do really quick.
00:01:07.100 Lady in the red is telling the truth.
00:01:08.660 I've lost 67 pounds.
00:01:09.940 My life is better off.
00:01:11.100 These plus size influencers are lying to people.
00:01:13.320 Example Lizzo.
00:01:14.540 Yeah.
00:01:14.700 What do you think of Lizzo?
00:01:15.720 So I actually recently did a video on this.
00:01:17.500 I set up a podcast.
00:01:18.880 But basically Lizzo is portraying something that is terrible for young women.
00:01:23.860 And then you have thousands of young women saying, oh my gosh, Lizzo is so beautiful.
00:01:28.320 Everyone should be like Lizzo.
00:01:29.220 And then you have all the fat people looking at Lizzo, feeding off of her positivity, her body positivity.
00:01:36.040 And why does she lead with it too?
00:01:38.100 Because it's her brand.
00:01:39.320 To make people sick.
00:01:40.000 Yeah.
00:01:40.280 Nobody would talk when Adele was overweight.
00:01:43.040 Nobody really spoke about her weight because she didn't lead with it.
00:01:45.520 No.
00:01:45.640 You know, they did speak about it when she lost the weight.
00:01:48.000 Right.
00:01:48.180 They were like, oh, we can't believe you lost the weight.
00:01:50.520 We hate you now.
00:01:51.260 Like, we don't like you.
00:01:51.940 Like, you did this for social media.
00:01:53.560 And it's like, what?
00:01:54.340 Yeah.
00:01:54.840 What about doing this to save her life?
00:01:56.140 Why aren't more people supporting women losing weight?
00:01:59.620 That's what real body positivity is.
00:02:01.440 Because we know the whole world is lazy, the majority of people.
00:02:04.480 So it fits.
00:02:05.780 Well, also the food industry benefits the food industry and the medical industry to have more overweight people.
00:02:10.340 Because then you have more surgeries.
00:02:11.740 Then you have more medications being handed out.
00:02:13.680 Then you have more depression, anxiety, suicide.
00:02:15.940 I mean, the divorce rates, you know?
00:02:17.440 Right.
00:02:17.720 It's insane.
00:02:18.660 Right.
00:02:19.500 No, I mean, honestly, like, one time I was at work and these guys were, like, clowning on women over 200 pounds.
00:02:25.960 They're like, oh, I would never date.
00:02:27.060 But they didn't know I was because, like, I don't look, like, I didn't look like I was over 200.
00:02:31.820 Right.
00:02:32.060 And literally, I ended up, like, losing a bunch of weight because I was so embarrassed.
00:02:37.000 And it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
00:02:39.260 I ran a marathon because I was like, I'm done.
00:02:40.860 I'm done with this.
00:02:41.960 It's, like, the quickest way to lose weight, run a marathon.
00:02:44.420 Yeah.
00:02:44.820 And I got addicted to exercise, too.
00:02:46.420 Like, I remember being in that place.
00:02:47.760 I went to the doctor's office.
00:02:48.960 Actually.
00:02:49.280 And that's when I started.
00:02:50.880 They were like, your triglycerides are up.
00:02:52.920 Your risk, like, heart disease, type 2 diabetes.
00:02:55.660 And, you know, if you don't start now, you are going to die very, like, slowly but soon.
00:03:01.280 And I was terrified.
00:03:02.380 I was like, what?
00:03:03.240 Just from being fat?
00:03:04.780 I was mortified.
00:03:06.100 How long did they say you had?
00:03:08.020 I'm just curious.
00:03:09.400 What?
00:03:12.280 No, they weren't like, you're going to die tomorrow.
00:03:14.180 But they were like.
00:03:14.660 No, I'm curious.
00:03:14.960 Like, how long do 300-pound people live?
00:03:17.120 I don't know.
00:03:17.920 Do you know?
00:03:18.220 I don't know the stats on that, actually.
00:03:20.240 No.
00:03:20.720 But they definitely have a higher risk of cardiovascular disease, which is a number one killer.
00:03:25.360 They have a higher risk of cancer.
00:03:27.120 They definitely will develop diabetes type 2 and other diseases that are 100% preventable.
00:03:31.420 There was that influencer that just, like, dropped dead the other day because she was obese.
00:03:35.460 And, like, she would literally always be eating and doing mukbangs.
00:03:37.940 And then she died.
00:03:39.020 I'm not surprised.
00:03:40.000 Yeah.
00:03:40.080 Why do you think she died, everyone?
00:03:41.800 You know?
00:03:42.000 It's really sad.
00:03:42.360 And then they say, like, when obese people go to the doctor and they say to lose weight,
00:03:47.080 that they're, like, not listening to them.
00:03:49.080 But I'm like, well, I mean, I'm not a doctor, but you might want to, like, watch what you're at.
00:03:54.300 But even doctors are lying to people now saying, oh, it's okay to eat, like, cheeseburger.
00:03:58.420 It's okay to eat pizza.
00:03:58.560 They can't weigh you.
00:03:59.380 They can't weigh you either.
00:04:00.400 And even that, and it's like, you guys, why are you lying to these people who actually,
00:04:03.740 some people who actually want to be helped are being lied to.
00:04:06.720 Yeah.
00:04:07.140 Oh, just do the keto diet.
00:04:08.200 Oh, just do the paleo diet.
00:04:09.220 It'll be fine.
00:04:09.980 That's not a long-term solution.
00:04:11.380 That's not a lifestyle.
00:04:12.400 Right.
00:04:12.620 Well, the doctors aren't really even trained in nutrition.
00:04:14.440 Yeah, doctors don't, yeah.
00:04:15.320 They don't know how to help.
00:04:16.860 And the business model isn't set up for them to support their patients.
00:04:21.540 So it's, the whole model is flawed.
00:04:23.880 And we really need to get smart and get responsible and be clear about what we're putting in our thoughts,
00:04:29.120 in our minds, and in our mouths.
00:04:32.340 Literally.
00:04:33.440 They said, as an African woman, Zimbabwean, we are curvy.
00:04:37.060 There's a big difference between being curvy and overweight.
00:04:39.200 You can be thin and curvy and just big, big.
00:04:44.440 And then there's another one that was from interracial marriages or relationships.
00:04:49.820 For a black men community, we value bigger women because they make for better sex partners.
00:04:54.200 Partners, marriage is different requirements than sex.
00:04:59.660 My thin woman felt like she was too pretty to fulfill my sexual requirements.
00:05:07.440 Okay.
00:05:08.300 So how, did you say, how does a man identify a good woman?
00:05:11.400 I would say that a man identifies a good woman if she's, one, healthy and fit.
00:05:16.220 That's important.
00:05:17.100 Okay.
00:05:17.340 Especially for childbearing.
00:05:19.160 And I'd say number two, if she has traditional values, if she believes in being submissive,
00:05:23.940 if she believes in being feminine, she loves to be.
00:05:28.280 Susan, I'm going to answer that question.
00:05:30.400 We're going to get to the men.
00:05:31.880 Okay.
00:05:32.400 Yeah, yeah.
00:05:33.520 Don't worry.
00:05:34.820 It was just whoever was sitting, you know.
00:05:37.800 And then I think if she wants to cook, if she's okay cleaning, she wants, she's a homemaker.
00:05:42.340 She would love to, you know, have children and take care of them and be a housewife.
00:05:46.160 I think that's beautiful.
00:05:47.780 And so that's what I think identifies a good woman.
00:05:50.260 Okay.
00:05:51.540 What about you?
00:05:52.340 Well, identifying as a good woman nowadays is a bit difficult.
00:05:57.260 However, I would emphasize on the values and the morals of the woman.
00:06:02.560 Um, primarily her ability to be a good wife, her ability to raise good children, and even
00:06:10.460 her thoughts and the things she has in mind, because she's going to be molding the next
00:06:14.720 generation.
00:06:16.300 And, uh...
00:06:16.800 So how does he know?
00:06:18.200 Well, it can...
00:06:19.340 Because, you know, women lie.
00:06:20.600 Like, we can just say things.
00:06:21.760 Like, I'm...
00:06:22.720 But, you know, if you have a deep conversation with a person...
00:06:26.320 She can still lie.
00:06:27.000 But no, but to a next time...
00:06:29.520 But believe me, throughout time, you can identify.
00:06:33.700 Okay.
00:06:33.920 So how much, how much time?
00:06:37.980 If it's, um, I would say, I would give it like three months, but it can...
00:06:42.680 Okay.
00:06:42.880 So three months?
00:06:44.140 Of constant, um, constant, uh, meeting.
00:06:49.180 Okay.
00:06:49.660 So you think in three months he can see if she has traditional values?
00:06:52.460 Yes.
00:06:52.740 Okay.
00:06:52.960 She would.
00:06:53.640 I mean, just...
00:06:54.260 So healthy, so he can look, she healthy and fit, cool.
00:06:57.280 Yeah.
00:06:57.800 Um, if she...
00:06:59.480 How can he test if she's submissive?
00:07:02.080 He can ask something and see the reaction.
00:07:04.460 So ask her to do something and see what she does.
00:07:07.320 For example, you can tell...
00:07:08.680 I mean, as a...
00:07:09.220 If a man tells to a woman, can you, uh, please make me a coffee or a meal?
00:07:12.440 And she'd say, hell no, I'm not doing this to you.
00:07:14.320 I mean, that's...
00:07:14.740 All right.
00:07:15.080 See her for three months.
00:07:16.440 Ask her to make him a coffee.
00:07:19.680 Okay.
00:07:24.340 I'm just...
00:07:25.140 I think it's...
00:07:25.660 I'm writing...
00:07:26.000 What?
00:07:28.480 Okay.
00:07:29.040 Uh, what, what else can he do?
00:07:30.400 How does he, uh, does he, like, what else?
00:07:33.640 What else does he do?
00:07:35.280 I mean, well, uh...
00:07:37.380 Because I was here, just find a good woman.
00:07:39.200 So I'm just trying to get from the women.
00:07:41.120 How do the men just find a good woman?
00:07:43.020 Yeah, it's his ability to identify what he values in, in a woman.
00:07:48.500 Okay.
00:07:48.960 I mean, that's gonna be subjective to an extent.
00:07:52.040 Yeah.
00:07:52.360 So I'm asking, like, what, what makes someone a good woman and how does he identify that?
00:07:56.340 I think what you were saying as well, men do test women.
00:07:59.300 I've been tested by men, like, with certain things.
00:08:01.900 Okay.
00:08:01.920 How does he test a woman?
00:08:02.740 So, like, oh, can you cook for me?
00:08:04.080 Can you make me food?
00:08:05.020 Or, like, on the spot, though?
00:08:06.820 Ask to cook on the spot.
00:08:09.660 No, it really...
00:08:10.460 But it really happens, you know?
00:08:11.780 It's a good test.
00:08:12.840 It really happens, for real.
00:08:14.540 And then he will know, do you know how to cook?
00:08:16.800 Can you cook properly?
00:08:17.680 Can you season that properly?
00:08:19.160 Even your presentation.
00:08:20.740 That's how you deliver the food.
00:08:22.020 You're dropping the gravy on the side of the plate.
00:08:23.900 So I'm just...
00:08:24.320 I want to get it step-by-step for the...
00:08:26.340 Well, I'm gonna let the men talk.
00:08:27.600 I'm just curious how it's gonna align with what you guys say from the women and the men.
00:08:31.860 Okay.
00:08:32.360 So first, he's gonna see her for three months.
00:08:34.880 Ask her to make him a coffee and ask to cook.
00:08:38.020 Oh, I disagree with all of that.
00:08:40.460 I think that, honestly, if it's a high-value man, most of the time, he's gonna know without all of that, honestly.
00:08:49.340 Most of the men nowadays...
00:08:50.980 How does he know?
00:08:52.680 There is this...
00:08:53.920 I don't know if it's the right word, but there is this aura.
00:08:57.880 There is this sense when you sit with a woman who you know is going to be respectful to you or not.
00:09:04.780 I honestly feel that.
00:09:05.780 You think that average men just know this?
00:09:08.380 Because you're talking about high-value.
00:09:09.520 Yeah, I know.
00:09:10.320 That's like 5% of men.
00:09:11.780 I know, but average men nowadays look at high-value men's content more and more and more and try to see...
00:09:19.160 So you think...
00:09:20.240 And I think...
00:09:21.100 You think...
00:09:21.580 I'm just curious.
00:09:22.080 You think men just know?
00:09:24.100 They don't just know, but they should get to a point to just know.
00:09:29.280 So they have to...
00:09:30.520 So how does he get to that point that he just knows?
00:09:33.620 Well, slowly, slowly, slowly, we're getting to a point where I think they need to go to certain parts of the world to know.
00:09:40.800 And certain parts of the world, they will just know that 90% of the women will not be like that.
00:09:46.140 Okay, so he needs to travel to...
00:09:48.400 Slowly, we're getting there.
00:09:49.900 He needs to travel somewhere else and then experience those women and then compare them to...
00:09:54.740 Exactly, exactly.
00:09:55.400 Okay, but for a guy that doesn't travel, like he stays in the West, because most, remember, most guys don't make a ton of money.
00:10:01.100 Like I think half of U.S. men don't have passports.
00:10:05.240 Yeah.
00:10:05.380 So most men aren't traveling like that.
00:10:07.480 So for a guy that's not traveling, how does he know good woman versus bad woman?
00:10:11.080 I would say if the first conversation with her is like, oh, so where are we going to dinner?
00:10:17.840 Are we having drinks?
00:10:19.040 This is not a right way to meet.
00:10:21.660 I think when you meet a girl, you should take her for coffee and that's it.
00:10:25.720 Even if you like her so much that you...
00:10:28.420 Take on a coffee date and see what she's like and see if she's...
00:10:34.400 I don't know if she wants to continue the date and get you to buy her dinner.
00:10:38.380 You know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
00:10:45.920 If you want to help, please consider sending a super thanks below.
00:10:50.460 Every donation helps and it helps make what we do possible.