JustPearlyThings - May 17, 2023


Boss Babe Claims That She Is A High Value


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12 minutes

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178.60707

Word count

2,267

Sentence count

6

Harmful content

Misogyny

13

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4

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In this episode, we discuss what a high value woman is and what it means to be a woman who is submissive to her man. We also talk about the importance of boundaries and why they are so important in a relationship.

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00:00:00.000 can you define a high value woman to me or to you um high value woman is someone who first of all 0.99
00:00:07.220 has a lot of respect for herself you know um has a lot of like pride you know works hard
00:00:15.400 do you think men want prideful hard workers
00:00:18.120 well i i i feel like no because men obviously just want someone who's beautiful and is just
00:00:26.560 gonna be submissive and say yes and well that's at least what we're being told but i feel like i think
00:00:32.960 that's not true no men don't like submissive women no i don't think so no because i feel like
00:00:41.160 it's not about being submissive you just have to be kind and you have to be loving and you have to
00:00:48.140 respect your man a lot of women don't actually respect their men yes they like them they're 0.82
00:00:53.920 attracted to them they love them but they don't actually respect them and i feel like men want
00:00:58.840 respect from women and they don't get that enough well i i agree with you but why is that not 1.00
00:01:04.340 submission why isn't that part of submission no because i still have a voice you don't think
00:01:10.400 submissive women have voices i don't know i feel like if i'm just going to be saying yes to everything 1.00
00:01:17.300 and doing everything that my man wants then i've kind of lost sense of who i am like i want to have
00:01:23.440 a voice in this partnership i want to have a voice in this marriage and i want to be heard and i want
00:01:27.940 to be seen submission is like he's your boss so your boss can take your opinion into account but
00:01:32.700 at the end of the day he has the final say and men don't they don't feel like they're respected if
00:01:37.180 you don't give them the final say like they don't want a woman that they have to argue with all the 0.99
00:01:40.560 time yeah but you don't have to argue with a man to get your point across if you're with a loving
00:01:45.820 respectful man who hears you and values you he's always going to listen to you he can hear you and
00:01:52.140 listen to you and still tell you no okay like so that's just because if he tells me no
00:01:59.060 it it depends like there's there's certain things that yeah i might be like okay cool i'll submit to
00:02:04.920 you because i would say i'm definitely a traditional woman and there are are you a virgin
00:02:09.920 i'm sorry i'm saying how are you traditional a traditional woman is a 22 year old virgin
00:02:15.320 no as in i have like traditional values the way that i was brought i'm arab i'm moroccan
00:02:19.880 we are brought up in a certain way um and the men that i see in my culture are very traditional
00:02:27.080 they're providers you know they go out they make money and a lot of women in my culture they don't 1.00
00:02:34.300 work they just sort of stay at home and the man goes out and gets the money and they just
00:02:38.580 raise the kids obviously we've moved on from that but i still hold those values in the sense that i'm
00:02:45.860 okay to submit to my man when the time is right or when i feel the time is right but the whole point
00:02:51.240 is that's that's not submission is when you feel i mean we're women we change our opinions every
00:02:55.340 goddamn day we don't even know what we want half the time so it's like if you if if if i if i employ 0.52
00:03:01.620 blessing and i say blessing turn this camera angle on or i do do this do this and at the end of the day
00:03:07.940 i have the final say and and that's kind of how it is should be anyways when you're submitting to a
00:03:13.500 guy so so you're saying that's what men want they just want someone to go yes i'll do exactly what
00:03:20.220 you tell me to do no they just want to argue all the time with every decision i'm kidding
00:03:25.260 no they just want to fight every day
00:03:29.420 i personally think they're gonna have long conversations about every decisions and just
00:03:35.940 really make you feel heard well i feel like yeah i don't know i i will submit to the right man
00:03:44.400 and if i feel comfortable but i will always have my boundaries set in place firmly sometimes you're
00:03:51.980 not going to feel comfortable i mean in a 30 40 50 year marriage you think you're not going to feel
00:03:55.920 uncomfortable and sometimes you're going to feel like he's not the right man i mean we change our
00:04:01.120 mind every day yeah 100 so tell me more about the high value woman what else i mean the high value 1.00
00:04:07.060 woman is like someone who like is kind who's nurturing you know um who's gonna support her man 1.00
00:04:15.120 lift him up motivate him inspire him um you know is is fun she has that feminine energy that men crave 1.00
00:04:24.080 um you know the list goes on and i know that men are not stupid they know when they come across a high
00:04:32.320 value woman they know um so yeah do you want to know what i hear when i hear high value woman oh god 1.00
00:04:41.280 designer she won all that instagram like highlighted factor like valentine's day
00:04:50.840 you better make sure that like you've got the hotel with the little petals and the balloons
00:04:58.440 like holidays it's like it's like give me everything yeah i got my man i'm not kim kardashian but
00:05:06.280 um this you know i mean that's to me what i'm hearing when i'm hearing they read why maintenance woman 0.98
00:05:13.080 this it's money in it you need money for that it's like it's like whenever i hear that i think of the
00:05:18.360 book why men love bitches it's like they read that book and then it's like that's the whole i'm not 0.99
00:05:22.920 saying you personally it's just that's always what i hear um okay so what percent of the financial
00:05:29.880 family load do you guys expect to pay to carry for a lifetime ten percent ten percent ten percent
00:05:38.920 okay um yeah i would say ten percent ten percent i think it changes i think it's like situational i mean
00:05:49.880 ideally like maybe 40 percent um but i think it changes like you never know what's going to happen
00:05:59.160 the man might suddenly go unemployed so you know i'm gonna have to pick up extra shifts here and there
00:06:03.800 and then i might go unemployed or go on maternity leave and the man's going to take over i think it
00:06:08.760 it fluctuates depending on the situation um yeah like i'm i'm kind of the same there as well um i also
00:06:19.640 like as you said like maternity leave or if i if the man said that he wanted me to be a housewife
00:06:24.520 which i don't think i would ever like take up to do but if he did then i'd expect him to do 100
00:06:29.400 that i'll be doing the cooking i'll be doing the cleaning but if like i'm working he's working like
00:06:34.600 i don't expect him to say that i'm going to be a complete housewife because there's some men that
00:06:38.440 like i don't know what percent i don't know zero percent depending okay so you think he should carry
00:06:46.680 a hundred percent of the bills no that's not true i don't think so i think i'm just using the
00:06:53.800 words that came out of your mouth okay if i'm cooking and cleaning 50 50 50. okay okay so we went
00:06:59.320 from 100 to 50 50. no depending okay well what does it depend on if i'm working or if i'm not okay do
00:07:06.520 you want to work or do you not i do um okay so i would say 50 50. yeah yeah i don't i can't think of a
00:07:16.280 percent i actually can't been yeah i don't know are we considering that there's kids involved here yeah
00:07:24.040 yeah i mean unless unless you don't i feel like i want to change my answer now
00:07:30.040 same i don't know i don't know what percent all right i'm just going to say numbers raise your
00:07:35.720 hand is there a wide camera do we have one i don't agree with my 50 50. those four i think it's
00:07:41.880 dependable under circumstances though because like if if you're agreeing that you stay at home like
00:07:48.200 if i'm staying at home then well i'm asking if you zero percent if i'm at home um i've had been with
00:07:56.280 my partner and i've been at home like he wants me at home so i can't go to work so he's provided for me
00:08:01.640 all 100 because obviously it's impossible if i'm a stay-at-home mom but if she's working um i think it
00:08:08.040 should be the percentage should be agreed like in terms of if they're making the same then i don't see why
00:08:13.000 it shouldn't be 50 50 if they're both out working okay um all right so 50 50 if she's working yeah
00:08:20.200 do you want to work i must i like staying at home i'm a home person okay if i wasn't in okay so ideally
00:08:26.200 zero percent yeah i'm raising the kids okay and you said ten percent ten percent yeah it's 50 50 for me
00:08:33.480 unfortunately that's what i'm looking for 50 50. okay yeah i would say ten percent like if i'm working
00:08:42.200 um but if i'm not working then nothing if you're working ten percent yeah okay i think i'm going
00:08:52.520 to change it a little bit like in an ideal world i would want to be able to go out and do something
00:08:58.280 part-time to at least contribute a bit so i'm going to say twenty percent twenty percent yeah
00:09:03.480 um i think seventy thirty now um go ahead yeah i'm still i don't know sorry i can't give a percent
00:09:16.920 what percent of women do you think get to contribute twenty percent or less to the 1.00
00:09:20.840 family financial load the ones that own the home
00:09:24.680 what percent of women do you think get to contribute twenty percent or less to the family 1.00
00:09:35.720 from like five percent housewives men are sassy now well i know what percent of women do you think get
00:09:40.200 to be housewives um yeah not a lot is it in the uk or what is it i mean the way that the uk is right
00:09:48.280 now uh probably under ten percent five percent i would say that five ten percent under ten percent
00:09:54.920 i'd say it's actually twenty percent oh wow oh okay do you guys feel like you're in the top twenty
00:09:59.320 percent of women to earn that no what to be able to be a housewife 1.00
00:10:06.440 my circumstances i believe are exceptional so i don't believe i've been a housewife and i've lost my
00:10:12.280 partner so i was a housewife and i feel like my perspective of life has changed now that i have
00:10:18.680 the role of a man in a sense because i have to provide for my child so i'm definitely not i'm in
00:10:25.320 tune with reality i'm gonna hold my position i'm on the opposite spectrum so i've always been the
00:10:31.720 provider and i've got a little one as well 13 year old so i've always been the opposite
00:10:36.600 i've always earned and if i go in a relationship i look after you know what i mean so yeah it's kind
00:10:45.560 of mad right now me hearing all these percentages i'm not even gonna lie like wow okay what about you
00:10:53.000 top 20 percent of women uh i'll just say they'll just have to be housewives literally are are you top 1.00
00:11:03.240 20 percent of women yes or no am i yeah i would be qualified to be a housewife okay okay take all
00:11:09.320 the boxes top 20 percent of women yes or no yeah absolutely yeah um and you said no um no no no big
00:11:22.360 up you lot man no yeah no but i think being a housewife i might be a bit bored yeah i could
00:11:28.200 i'm saying do we our values qualify or do we want to you say which one that's what are you asking
00:11:35.320 us no i was asking if you think you're in the top 20 of women oh no in the eyes of men in the eyes of
00:11:41.480 men but to be fair with the numbers you know are screaming out you sort of are in it you wanted to
00:11:47.640 pay 20 you know in an ideal world i'd want to pay 20 but we don't live in an ideal world we live in
00:11:54.920 the real world and i'm not ignorant to the fact that i'm not in the top 20 of women so i don't
00:11:59.880 expect to be a stay-at-home housewife and have things how i want um i don't know where people
00:12:04.280 get the idea that life's supposed to be exactly how you want it life is how it is and you deal with
00:12:09.720 it how you're supposed to given your circumstances my circumstances are i'm not top 20 so i'm probably
00:12:15.320 going to be working as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a
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