JustPearlyThings - The Reality About Women And INSTAGRAM

00:00:00.000 talking about social media and how it pertains to relationships um so i want to hear from the

00:00:04.900 women um on a given day how many messages do you receive from men interested in you

00:00:10.900 i think it depends i think if i put stories up then i'll have more interaction but

00:00:18.240 yeah i think it just depends really okay that's not an answer sorry

00:00:22.320 um when i put stories up yeah i'll get a couple for a few messages to be fair

00:00:27.380 okay so how many a day like maybe like three four five okay so five a day so um

00:00:34.440 okay so go ahead i think for me um i don't post every day and any sort of like love or attention

00:00:42.640 that i receive from dudes is from guys i already know or have already like had an encounter with

00:00:48.000 like met before so i don't really get strangers like hey like what's up like i don't really get

00:00:54.240 that often but people that i know will will show me love okay so how many messages do you get a day

00:01:01.000 from men like a zero okay so you get no messages from guys interested in you do you have a public

00:01:06.800 instagram yes okay yes but i don't post often and when i do it's the people that already know me

00:01:13.620 i rarely get and if i do is from like an uncle that's like 25 years older than me that i'm going

00:01:19.260 to ignore it's like once in a blue moon okay so uh what about you i don't really see them come up

00:01:27.960 as much because they go into message requests but i'd say on average between maybe one two one to two

00:01:34.020 hey guys how many how many messages do you get a day you know what it's about when you post if i post

00:01:42.380 because i'm a personal trainer so if i post like a um update from like my gym progress then i'll get

00:01:49.280 a flurry of people i might get like 20 to 25 but on a normal day not like if you post you get

00:01:58.400 oh and if you don't post if i don't post yeah you're beating the women uh yeah so so you get 0.96

00:02:06.920 more dms than the girls i guess so well you know what would you say is the quality of the girls that 1.00

00:02:11.800 dm you um like out of every 10 what percent are you would actually yeah maybe like 10 percent okay

00:02:18.780 i mean if i post it if i was to post a trap it'd maybe be that 40 okay just on average sometimes you

00:02:26.700 know i might i might i might get some wings in there but nah nah but yeah usually just yeah

00:02:32.740 about 10 i'll see okay yeah because the gays love a personal trainer man um so my account is no longer

00:02:41.780 public i've made it private and the reason why is because my women are lovely because women would just 1.00

00:02:48.740 like and then be like oh i love like how positive you are and blah blah blah on social media guys are very

00:02:55.620 different there's not i don't think i think there's a shortage of like masculine mandem as they call it

00:03:02.540 guys so i made my account private because guys have kept dm'ing me through like and then

00:03:13.500 so like let's say for example the black gay community in london is not that big

00:03:18.200 including like mixed race guys so kind of everyone's following everyone so some people

00:03:24.620 would see so some people would see that i'm following them or blah blah blah and then

00:03:28.600 and my biography says like open-minded blah blah blah so i don't even say i'm bisexual so they'll slide

00:03:33.920 in my dms um and then one thing is with guys is guys okay perfect example i met a guy who were vibing

00:03:43.180 blah blah blah weren't really too sure if i liked him or whatever and he was like look i wouldn't mind if

00:03:47.820 you had an affair with a woman because she can give you something that i can't give you but if it

00:03:52.080 was with another man he would find it offensive so how many messages do you get a day i can't say in

00:03:59.500 a day i could say i could get like two three a week two three a week yeah okay what about you uh

00:04:05.320 i don't get no message i don't get no message that's half to do with the fact that i don't really i don't

00:04:11.520 use social media even when but at the same time back when i was single i still didn't really get

00:04:17.300 messages like that it was you having to fish rather than the fish coming to you type of situation

00:04:23.240 not to say that women are fish 1.00

00:04:24.560 cancelled yeah taken off the platform but it's like yeah it's like you have to go there rather

00:04:34.440 than them come here which is very different to a lot of the other situation i've heard from like

00:04:40.540 other guys and other girls well goes to guys ratio is very different because a lot of girls i've seen

00:04:45.680 get a lot more messages than a lot of guys i've seen however the guys that do get messages get a

00:04:51.060 lot and a lot of them so you have that like one friend that one male friend who's a 10 out of 10

00:04:57.780 who we get 10 times more messages than any girl however like a bell curve situation there are more

00:05:04.220 girls getting more messages than guys right but from what i've seen the hottest guys wolves because

00:05:11.360 girls are hypergamous so they want to go for them but the best of best so if you've got that one guy 1.00

00:05:16.220 who's a 10 he's going to get more messages than any girl in any room in anywhere because every girl wants him 0.99

00:05:22.100 so when you guys are um looking at a social media profile um i know some of you are in relationships

00:05:31.040 but just like think back to when you were single and you got you looked at a profile and you have to

00:05:35.600 decide whether you would respond or not what would you look at i look at the fashion and what he's wearing

00:05:40.980 okay so fashion yeah yeah are you trying to see how tall he is is that a big thing for you

00:05:45.660 i mean everyone wants someone over six foot but i've been with guys that are smaller than that so

00:05:50.320 it doesn't really bother me too too much to be fair but yeah definitely fashion style what they do

00:05:55.960 okay pick up on personality okay um also guys if you want anyone to rate your instagrams put it in

00:06:02.840 the chat and we'll see what they think of it

00:06:04.800 um okay so fashion um you said you want to see what he does yeah uh what else anything else is that

00:06:14.380 like if he travels stuff like that and just traveling helps in well it just shows that he

00:06:19.440 probably was spontaneous and that's an adventure

00:06:21.520 um okay god i think for me um of course yeah we we want to look we want to see what he looks like

00:06:32.580 so i just want to see if i like his face you know um his build i am looking at fashion i'm looking at

00:06:39.760 things that's like is he posing with his like with his top out like is he trying to show off the packs

00:06:45.260 like i'm trying to see if he's trying to flaunt all of that because i'm attracted to a dude that's

00:06:49.860 confident but i also don't want someone that's like cocky or that like likes to put that on display

00:06:55.560 so if you see like a shirtless picture is that a turn on or a turn off it depends on like most of

00:07:01.240 the time it's a turn off but it also depends on like how he's posing like sometimes you can just

00:07:05.040 see some guys on their profile and they're like giving you the eyes like smiles and they're like

00:07:09.460 doing the most and i feel like that's low-key a bit of a turn off for me okay um but yeah i'm

00:07:14.920 looking at like his friends if he's posted any pictures of his like mom if like like what he does

00:07:21.760 um yeah i'm just kind of looking at all of that i don't know if that makes sense but yeah

00:07:27.920 and what about you i think for me it's just like if they post their interests i don't

00:07:35.360 it more depends on the message for me rather than the profile because the profile is fake anyway like

00:07:39.880 everyone's instagram is just a fake version of themselves so it it would catch my eye if they

00:07:45.660 have something that they're really passionate and interested in that they post about that might

00:07:50.560 entice me more to reply but i think it more depends on the message for me what type of message would be

00:07:56.100 a good message to send you if it can make me laugh oh something funny something funny yeah or something

00:08:01.960 that would make me think like if they said something really interesting no i don't in that is though

00:08:07.040 oh of course the standards are the standards are rough for guys because it's like i don't know what

00:08:12.200 you find funny or not funny yeah exactly but that that's kind of my point like it's it's it's instagram

00:08:17.520 like it's it's all a fake world anyway so you might as well just give it a go and you know you never

00:08:22.500 know go have that universal riz i mean what about you two um good first message to send you

00:08:29.660 to be fair it depends whether they're good looking or not if i'll reply like the message could just be

00:08:35.040 hey and if he's good looking i'll entertain it a little bit but if the conversation's just dead

00:08:39.380 then it just spoils it yeah for me like in the past i've had guys that will like talk about my body

00:08:46.640 or anything like that and i don't want to feel like i'm being sexually objectified in any way so if

00:08:52.160 he comes in straight off the bat like oh like and starts talking about my body i'm gonna ignore

00:08:56.780 that i'm not gonna give that any energy i'm not too fussy but just saying hey like how are you and

00:09:02.100 just starting up a conversation because i'm a human being so it's like respect me talk to me like i'm a

00:09:07.140 human being i don't want you to on instagram you know i don't really post pictures that are like

00:09:14.300 sexually like provocative or anything like that too tough i can but like i try not to do that

00:09:22.060 can we see it 0.70

00:09:23.180 yeah i want to see if we could can we look at your yeah yeah that's fine uh it's tashana talks so t-a-s-h-a-u-n-a

00:09:39.500 talks because i was kind of wanted to see i want to get the guys feedback and like what they would

00:09:43.600 think of you without meeting you okay um did you get that blessing okay um so you said it just

00:09:56.100 matters how good looking he is yeah first message for you as long as it's not sexual

00:10:00.720 yeah just like say hey like what's up that's fine did you have something you want to say

00:10:05.120 yeah i'm the same like if it's sexual i won't respond whatsoever yeah have you guys found that

00:10:11.660 that if you send like a sexual message first it's like a lower response rate no sorry can you

00:10:16.580 repeat it yeah i think i think um repeat the id please oh yeah tashana talks uh t-a-s-h-a-u-n-a uh t-a-l-k-s

00:10:28.540 all one word

00:10:29.700 yeah but hey hi how are you doing never works

00:10:36.220 you get left unread most times you gotta just you gotta just start a conversation you know i mean

00:10:44.440 like people the great thing about instagram which is better i think than um text and grabbing a

00:10:49.240 number i remember four people used to be a bit annoyed if you know you go to talk to a girl and

00:10:54.200 she gives you like her socials but the great thing about that is she posts on there every day

00:10:59.740 so there's something that you can kind of connect on at some point do you know i mean wait for that

00:11:03.760 moment where you can kind of connect on something and then just talk normally you know i mean don't

00:11:06.620 put someone on a pedestal in the moment that you've done that you're out of the game but were you guys

00:11:10.720 saying that if you send a sexual message you're more likely to get a response like a woodshot or you

00:11:14.880 talking about like a nude or like a obviously don't go don't go don't go 10 out of 10

00:11:19.020 like complimenting her body or something like that i think there's certain there's certain

00:11:26.880 profiles that that works with and there's certain profiles that i would have yeah because it's

00:11:30.760 from a guy's perspective not to be general for everyone but it's one of those ones because you

00:11:34.880 guys said if he looks like he treats me nice and blah blah blah but guys do you think she will 0.99

00:11:41.060 respond yeah all right so we want to hear from the guys oh yeah i'll put me on blast lord god

00:11:50.020 yeah so what are we what we're getting from here traveling traveling i went to disneyland it was so

00:11:57.460 fun no commentary you can give it later i just want to see without without knowing her okay so i'm not

00:12:04.160 seeing too much like skin out yeah i haven't seen any football posing with a bat yeah yeah so she's a 1.00

00:12:09.920 respectable girl she's just she's chilling um i don't really think this is a page where she's like

00:12:16.660 looking for mandem's attention yeah she's just kind of just enjoying life she's i used to work around 0.97

00:12:22.220 there jeez i'm bridging that okay little artsy vibe there as well yeah i wouldn't get a message her

00:12:32.420 because she could be a quick one type of message if i was to see this instagram yeah this is a

00:12:38.440 honest individual who's showing you situations and i like that in her life that first one that first

00:12:44.800 one's like don't look at me but look at me with the whole jacket i want you to see a little bit

00:12:50.100 what's your instagram he's gonna pull it out it's ashton maria

00:12:59.000 is there a difference

00:13:02.520 we have one girl on this show we did a show today called wife or cat lady 1.00

00:13:13.340 were you yeah yeah you come on the show and we had we had one percent men so all these men were

00:13:19.520 verified millionaires and they all had to um decide if the women coming in were wife wifey or cat ladies 0.99

00:13:26.040 you know and this one girl that came in it was like her boobs were like oh it was like a see-through 1.00

00:13:32.740 like top on instagram yeah and i was trying to tell her i'm like i don't know if that's like what the

00:13:37.480 the millionaire maybe like the millionaire like ballers maybe that's a different group but like

00:13:42.260 i'm like i don't know about the millionaire like business man you know but yeah she didn't get it

00:13:48.500 yeah well she was very she was very beautiful oh see she didn't need to do that yeah no that's

00:13:56.920 what i was telling her because i was like i was like i probably would have put her top like 10 20

00:14:00.480 of beauty she's so beautiful and i was just like why would you put that i was like that's like being

00:14:06.580 born 6 10 yeah and not playing basketball

00:14:09.700 and bowling

00:14:14.440 that's that's that's interesting she needs more people around i just said tell her that she's 1.00

00:14:20.780 attractive in the face yeah i told her she could come back um if she deleted three of these pictures

00:14:26.440 on instagram i need some improvement here you should have gone you should have gone percentage

00:14:32.980 rather than number three percent and she'd have to do like she was very she was very attached to the

00:14:39.060 instagram okay she was a very nice girl but i was like you're very attached to the insta you know

00:14:44.340 she she's comparing herself to whoever she idolizes on there so she might see someone a woman that all 1.00

00:14:49.680 comes down to self-confidence no but no but there might be a woman that she finds she might look

00:14:53.480 at carly and think raw if i was if i was like if i was into girls i'm i'm on that do you know i mean

00:14:58.680 so she kind of tries wants to mimic that and she thinks that that is going to get her what she needs

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JustPearlyThings - May 18, 2023

The Reality About Women And INSTAGRAM

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