The Reality About Women And INSTAGRAM
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about social media and how it pertains to relationships with men and women. We discuss the differences between the two, how to deal with it, and how to balance it all.
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talking about social media and how it pertains to relationships um so i want to hear from the
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women um on a given day how many messages do you receive from men interested in you
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i think it depends i think if i put stories up then i'll have more interaction but
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yeah i think it just depends really okay that's not an answer sorry
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um when i put stories up yeah i'll get a couple for a few messages to be fair
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okay so how many a day like maybe like three four five okay so five a day so um
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okay so go ahead i think for me um i don't post every day and any sort of like love or attention
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that i receive from dudes is from guys i already know or have already like had an encounter with
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like met before so i don't really get strangers like hey like what's up like i don't really get
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that often but people that i know will will show me love okay so how many messages do you get a day
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from men like a zero okay so you get no messages from guys interested in you do you have a public
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instagram yes okay yes but i don't post often and when i do it's the people that already know me
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i rarely get and if i do is from like an uncle that's like 25 years older than me that i'm going
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to ignore it's like once in a blue moon okay so uh what about you i don't really see them come up
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as much because they go into message requests but i'd say on average between maybe one two one to two
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hey guys how many how many messages do you get a day you know what it's about when you post if i post
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because i'm a personal trainer so if i post like a um update from like my gym progress then i'll get
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a flurry of people i might get like 20 to 25 but on a normal day not like if you post you get
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oh and if you don't post if i don't post yeah you're beating the women uh yeah so so you get
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more dms than the girls i guess so well you know what would you say is the quality of the girls that
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dm you um like out of every 10 what percent are you would actually yeah maybe like 10 percent okay
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i mean if i post it if i was to post a trap it'd maybe be that 40 okay just on average sometimes you
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know i might i might i might get some wings in there but nah nah but yeah usually just yeah
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about 10 i'll see okay yeah because the gays love a personal trainer man um so my account is no longer
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public i've made it private and the reason why is because my women are lovely because women would just
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like and then be like oh i love like how positive you are and blah blah blah on social media guys are very
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different there's not i don't think i think there's a shortage of like masculine mandem as they call it
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guys so i made my account private because guys have kept dm'ing me through like and then
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so like let's say for example the black gay community in london is not that big
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including like mixed race guys so kind of everyone's following everyone so some people
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would see so some people would see that i'm following them or blah blah blah and then
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and my biography says like open-minded blah blah blah so i don't even say i'm bisexual so they'll slide
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in my dms um and then one thing is with guys is guys okay perfect example i met a guy who were vibing
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blah blah blah weren't really too sure if i liked him or whatever and he was like look i wouldn't mind if
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you had an affair with a woman because she can give you something that i can't give you but if it
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was with another man he would find it offensive so how many messages do you get a day i can't say in
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a day i could say i could get like two three a week two three a week yeah okay what about you uh
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i don't get no message i don't get no message that's half to do with the fact that i don't really i don't
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use social media even when but at the same time back when i was single i still didn't really get
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messages like that it was you having to fish rather than the fish coming to you type of situation
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cancelled yeah taken off the platform but it's like yeah it's like you have to go there rather
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than them come here which is very different to a lot of the other situation i've heard from like
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other guys and other girls well goes to guys ratio is very different because a lot of girls i've seen
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get a lot more messages than a lot of guys i've seen however the guys that do get messages get a
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lot and a lot of them so you have that like one friend that one male friend who's a 10 out of 10
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who we get 10 times more messages than any girl however like a bell curve situation there are more
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girls getting more messages than guys right but from what i've seen the hottest guys wolves because
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girls are hypergamous so they want to go for them but the best of best so if you've got that one guy
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who's a 10 he's going to get more messages than any girl in any room in anywhere because every girl wants him
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so when you guys are um looking at a social media profile um i know some of you are in relationships
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but just like think back to when you were single and you got you looked at a profile and you have to
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decide whether you would respond or not what would you look at i look at the fashion and what he's wearing
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okay so fashion yeah yeah are you trying to see how tall he is is that a big thing for you
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i mean everyone wants someone over six foot but i've been with guys that are smaller than that so
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it doesn't really bother me too too much to be fair but yeah definitely fashion style what they do
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okay pick up on personality okay um also guys if you want anyone to rate your instagrams put it in
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um okay so fashion um you said you want to see what he does yeah uh what else anything else is that
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like if he travels stuff like that and just traveling helps in well it just shows that he
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probably was spontaneous and that's an adventure
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um okay god i think for me um of course yeah we we want to look we want to see what he looks like
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so i just want to see if i like his face you know um his build i am looking at fashion i'm looking at
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things that's like is he posing with his like with his top out like is he trying to show off the packs
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like i'm trying to see if he's trying to flaunt all of that because i'm attracted to a dude that's
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confident but i also don't want someone that's like cocky or that like likes to put that on display
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so if you see like a shirtless picture is that a turn on or a turn off it depends on like most of
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the time it's a turn off but it also depends on like how he's posing like sometimes you can just
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see some guys on their profile and they're like giving you the eyes like smiles and they're like
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doing the most and i feel like that's low-key a bit of a turn off for me okay um but yeah i'm
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looking at like his friends if he's posted any pictures of his like mom if like like what he does
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um yeah i'm just kind of looking at all of that i don't know if that makes sense but yeah
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and what about you i think for me it's just like if they post their interests i don't
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it more depends on the message for me rather than the profile because the profile is fake anyway like
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everyone's instagram is just a fake version of themselves so it it would catch my eye if they
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have something that they're really passionate and interested in that they post about that might
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entice me more to reply but i think it more depends on the message for me what type of message would be
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a good message to send you if it can make me laugh oh something funny something funny yeah or something
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that would make me think like if they said something really interesting no i don't in that is though
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oh of course the standards are the standards are rough for guys because it's like i don't know what
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you find funny or not funny yeah exactly but that that's kind of my point like it's it's it's instagram
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like it's it's all a fake world anyway so you might as well just give it a go and you know you never
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know go have that universal riz i mean what about you two um good first message to send you
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to be fair it depends whether they're good looking or not if i'll reply like the message could just be
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hey and if he's good looking i'll entertain it a little bit but if the conversation's just dead
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then it just spoils it yeah for me like in the past i've had guys that will like talk about my body
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or anything like that and i don't want to feel like i'm being sexually objectified in any way so if
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he comes in straight off the bat like oh like and starts talking about my body i'm gonna ignore
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that i'm not gonna give that any energy i'm not too fussy but just saying hey like how are you and
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just starting up a conversation because i'm a human being so it's like respect me talk to me like i'm a
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human being i don't want you to on instagram you know i don't really post pictures that are like
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sexually like provocative or anything like that too tough i can but like i try not to do that
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yeah i want to see if we could can we look at your yeah yeah that's fine uh it's tashana talks so t-a-s-h-a-u-n-a
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talks because i was kind of wanted to see i want to get the guys feedback and like what they would
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think of you without meeting you okay um did you get that blessing okay um so you said it just
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matters how good looking he is yeah first message for you as long as it's not sexual
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yeah just like say hey like what's up that's fine did you have something you want to say
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yeah i'm the same like if it's sexual i won't respond whatsoever yeah have you guys found that
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that if you send like a sexual message first it's like a lower response rate no sorry can you
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repeat it yeah i think i think um repeat the id please oh yeah tashana talks uh t-a-s-h-a-u-n-a uh t-a-l-k-s
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you get left unread most times you gotta just you gotta just start a conversation you know i mean
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like people the great thing about instagram which is better i think than um text and grabbing a
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number i remember four people used to be a bit annoyed if you know you go to talk to a girl and
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she gives you like her socials but the great thing about that is she posts on there every day
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so there's something that you can kind of connect on at some point do you know i mean wait for that
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moment where you can kind of connect on something and then just talk normally you know i mean don't
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put someone on a pedestal in the moment that you've done that you're out of the game but were you guys
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saying that if you send a sexual message you're more likely to get a response like a woodshot or you
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talking about like a nude or like a obviously don't go don't go don't go 10 out of 10
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like complimenting her body or something like that i think there's certain there's certain
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profiles that that works with and there's certain profiles that i would have yeah because it's
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from a guy's perspective not to be general for everyone but it's one of those ones because you
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guys said if he looks like he treats me nice and blah blah blah but guys do you think she will
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respond yeah all right so we want to hear from the guys oh yeah i'll put me on blast lord god
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yeah so what are we what we're getting from here traveling traveling i went to disneyland it was so
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fun no commentary you can give it later i just want to see without without knowing her okay so i'm not
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seeing too much like skin out yeah i haven't seen any football posing with a bat yeah yeah so she's a
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respectable girl she's just she's chilling um i don't really think this is a page where she's like
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looking for mandem's attention yeah she's just kind of just enjoying life she's i used to work around
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there jeez i'm bridging that okay little artsy vibe there as well yeah i wouldn't get a message her
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because she could be a quick one type of message if i was to see this instagram yeah this is a
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honest individual who's showing you situations and i like that in her life that first one that first
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one's like don't look at me but look at me with the whole jacket i want you to see a little bit
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what's your instagram he's gonna pull it out it's ashton maria
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we have one girl on this show we did a show today called wife or cat lady
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were you yeah yeah you come on the show and we had we had one percent men so all these men were
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verified millionaires and they all had to um decide if the women coming in were wife wifey or cat ladies
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you know and this one girl that came in it was like her boobs were like oh it was like a see-through
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like top on instagram yeah and i was trying to tell her i'm like i don't know if that's like what the
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the millionaire maybe like the millionaire like ballers maybe that's a different group but like
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i'm like i don't know about the millionaire like business man you know but yeah she didn't get it
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yeah well she was very she was very beautiful oh see she didn't need to do that yeah no that's
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what i was telling her because i was like i was like i probably would have put her top like 10 20
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of beauty she's so beautiful and i was just like why would you put that i was like that's like being
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that's that's that's interesting she needs more people around i just said tell her that she's
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attractive in the face yeah i told her she could come back um if she deleted three of these pictures
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on instagram i need some improvement here you should have gone you should have gone percentage
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rather than number three percent and she'd have to do like she was very she was very attached to the
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instagram okay she was a very nice girl but i was like you're very attached to the insta you know
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she she's comparing herself to whoever she idolizes on there so she might see someone a woman that all
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comes down to self-confidence no but no but there might be a woman that she finds she might look
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at carly and think raw if i was if i was like if i was into girls i'm i'm on that do you know i mean
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so she kind of tries wants to mimic that and she thinks that that is going to get her what she needs
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