JustPearlyThings - Bring Back Shame

00:00:00.000 yeah like y2k you might have heard of it like a lot of that kind of fashion is coming back

00:00:04.000 so a lot of people are going to try and be skinnier to match that fashion i think like

00:00:07.600 fashion and the way people want to dress and look like kind of follow each other yeah yeah but and

00:00:13.600 it's silly because why change your body for a micro trend just be healthy you know but it's

00:00:19.680 it's how it's how it goes i just think hourglass has always been like maryland like even if you

00:00:24.960 look at audrey hepper and there's enough like i like i think it's not i think the hip to waist

00:00:29.840 ratio yeah you can be very thin and still have an hourglass figure because you've got really wide

00:00:33.920 hips and a small like rib cage yeah but you're not going to be like marilyn monroe marilyn roe was uh 1.00

00:00:39.680 no i i agree with you i think she wasn't very thin but she had that shape yeah like i think there's a 0.66

00:00:44.320 difference between like you know saying like we have different body types but either way like no

00:00:52.320 no one's turning down jennifer aniston and she's built more like square she was a pinnacle of 1.00

00:00:57.280 beauty in the early 2000s she's not she doesn't have that hourglass you know shape but you know in 0.91

00:01:03.440 the same era like kim kardashian was also beautiful like i think it's just like thin thinner oh this is

00:01:10.160 the picture from like the like look at it there's not really obesity back then everyone's balling what is

00:01:16.480 this in america is there a picture of are you going to do is there is there more than one

00:01:21.920 i thought there was like three oh it would have been good to have a contrast everybody kind of

00:01:27.360 looks the same yeah that's what i'm saying like everyone was thin for the most part so it's almost

00:01:34.720 like we're normalizing something that shouldn't be normal yeah and saying find me a try like that's

00:01:40.320 another other issue is that people that are overweight feel like they can't be made fun of

00:01:44.800 just like everyone else oh something crazy happened to me the other day so i was in like a market in

00:01:51.040 buy some jeans and i was like there's like a way of trying them on like using your neck to see if

00:01:55.520 it fits your waist it's like a cool hack like you go around your neck and if it fits then it fits you

00:02:00.240 and i ended up buying these jeans and like they fit and the woman's like oh they look great on you i 1.00

00:02:04.000 was like oh perfect i'm gonna buy them and i'm walking away and the woman shouts i hate skinny people 0.99

00:02:10.160 so imagine like i was just thinking yeah yeah like in a joke way but like i just thought to myself like no

00:02:15.360 one really makes the reverse of that joke i know it's like cliche to say you say i hate fat people

00:02:19.520 people be like yeah like no one batted an eyelid yeah but i feel like we've really normalized i don't

00:02:25.440 know like these back like side comments towards women that are a lot thinner and i feel like we can't

00:02:31.440 really talk about people that um are obese the same way as we used to the transparency is gone i feel

00:02:37.920 everything's sugar coated now anyways yeah i feel like if when someone tells you oh like you've lost

00:02:43.920 weight like it still has that same i just feel like it's the same way of saying oh like you're

00:02:52.720 fat now i'd be like oh i'd feel a bit like insecure like yeah no my parents don't really hold back i'm

00:02:58.640 not gonna lie me either i'm like but i feel like it was good for me though like i i think i would have

00:03:05.520 been like i've always been the type to like struggle like i i've had to work really hard because i eat

00:03:10.080 really bad like i'm an athlete so it kind of evens out but like like honestly my mom when i was younger

00:03:16.640 would she would she would fat shame me a little bit she'd be like oh you got your pot but honestly

00:03:20.960 like it hurt at the time but i'm so glad she did i got on the treadmill i think there's definitely

00:03:26.480 something that is important of like a parent being like honest with their like son or daughter

00:03:30.960 especially if they get into like a place that's unhealthy i think um it's a shame because a lot of

00:03:36.560 children are abuse like obese in childhood never really lose um will stay obese for the rest of

00:03:41.360 their life and then they have problems with diabetes they die earlier and i feel like if that was

00:03:46.160 just addressed like when they were young if that honestly like like your mother like maybe not fat

00:03:50.000 shaming but just you know i'm gonna help you with your health that conversation with had i think

00:03:53.920 it would really improve like health in general i feel like fat shaming was the best way to do it

00:03:59.040 you look fat if it comes from a place of love yeah why not if it's someone you know you may not know

00:04:05.280 then it's just like sorry how dare you but if it's someone like if your family yeah yeah of

00:04:09.520 course like why why not it's the truth it's not like because being fat i mean it's not it doesn't

00:04:15.920 have to be negative like unless you're obese and you have actual health problems ultimately

00:04:22.720 perhaps you need to change something in your life if you feel like you're gaining too much weight

00:04:26.240 but if someone's telling you are like listen i feel like um you've put on a bit too much or

00:04:33.120 it's just like oh yeah no i know i know i've realized as well it's nothing it's nothing

00:04:39.040 too personal you shouldn't feel so attacked okay blessing do the second clip the i'm a 10 one yeah that one

00:05:02.240 is girls are objective or do you think they think they're hotter than they are 1.00

00:05:08.000 or do they underrate themselves go around personally i think it depends on the person because

00:05:12.640 growing up i'm obviously not skinny hi everyone i'm not skinny so growing up i was never the beauty

00:05:18.080 standard for anyone so like all my friends were getting chatted out by people blah blah blah blah and

00:05:23.360 i was just the other one you know so like i never really thought of myself as

00:05:27.520 as an attractive person like i would never call myself anything more than a thought but now like

00:05:34.960 i don't really care about what anyone thinks about me like i've grown into myself and i've i've i'm

00:05:40.880 comfortable with who i am now that like even if you guys call me delusion or whatever i think i'm

00:05:47.200 maybe not a 10 let's not go that far but like definitely an eight so like whether you guys think

00:05:55.120 i am or not that's got nothing to do with her but like yeah what is it that took you from a four to

00:06:01.600 an eight if nothing's changed what is it that takes loving myself and and looking in the mirror and not

00:06:07.840 being disgusted at what i see i understand that yeah so but that doesn't you're you're not necessarily

00:06:13.760 being objective about how other people view you right because isn't that what a rating really is

00:06:20.640 like if i rated myself one to ten i give myself a five i think i'm normal looking and i just think

00:06:25.360 it's based on my results i think if i was an eight nine or ten i would have had modeling contracts

00:06:29.520 because people in the top 20 of beauty they get they get modeling contracts so what is beauty i mean

00:06:35.680 there's a lot of things like if you i mean you can you can go online and have people rate your

00:06:41.200 pictures and they rank you one to ten that's wild and and so you can get you can get a lot of data

00:06:46.240 that says how attractive you are in society and men will wait you women will rate you like every day 0.95

00:06:51.760 how we look is like how we represent ourselves it's not fun but it's just like being honest so um and

00:06:59.600 it's also like you can take good dating apps to like you know everyone's tinder bumble like they have

00:07:04.000 a ranking for you behind the scenes yeah damn yeah well i trust so um i don't understand when

00:07:13.600 girls say like i'm an eight because or sometimes i hear girls say time because i hear this a lot 0.77

00:07:18.400 where they say like because i love myself and i'm like confident now but don't you think

00:07:22.400 attractiveness is based on results they may be but i don't care about those results to be honest

00:07:29.520 but do you think then you're not being objective about your how attractive you are or how attractive

00:07:36.240 anyone else might be i guess not but i think yeah that stuff's not really important to me

00:07:47.040 i think when when someone when someone rates somebody why why does that have anything to do with

00:07:55.040 them like if you rate me if someone rated like somebody a three and it's just like okay that's

00:08:00.560 that's your opinion like it's not okay so my first question is based on this clip do you think women 1.00

00:08:09.200 are honest with each other no no no what do you think eddie 100 no no way do you think that someone

00:08:19.920 that's overweight can be above a five yeah oh that's a techie one there's men that like fluffy women 1.00

00:08:29.520 like there's hmm how many men enough i think there's something yeah but what do you mean by fluffy do

00:08:38.320 you know what i think we need to define what the like diabetes asthma wait wait um can you can you can

00:08:44.400 you google um like a bmi chart like do bmi chart um pictures like something like that then we can

00:08:55.440 we can decide as a group because i think you have to define the parameters because i think have you

00:09:00.160 guys seen wally wally the movie and like all the women and then the people yeah you're the one with the

00:09:07.440 the fat the fat one yeah yeah do that do that yeah yeah there you go can you make it bigger yeah yeah

00:09:15.280 thank you we'll zoom in a little bit the red's kind of smaller than i expected for like the red so

00:09:24.640 well i think that's just like the max you know like that's the minimum max it keeps going you know

00:09:29.600 yeah so can all right we'll do by color and i'm not i'm not talking about body shape obviously these

00:09:39.520 aren't the most voluptuous women you know but no cheeks in none of them but just interesting sense 1.00

00:09:49.360 yeah no i want the cheeks look at it now okay okay okay so um does this on the right on the left does

00:09:58.000 that say underweight i can't read it i think yeah the blue is underweight and then the green

00:10:03.840 is that normal and then overweight is the the the light yellow so yeah can someone be attractive

00:10:11.360 or like above a five if they're overweight

00:10:17.200 i still say yeah yeah i just think i think we need to define the parameters because

00:10:21.120 attractiveness and whether a woman's i said about i said above a five 0.99

00:10:24.560 looks wise looks like one to ten like they're they're more attractive than someone that's

00:10:30.080 average if if if the body that i have in mind uh-huh goes to be treated 100 percent okay what about

00:10:37.280 obese obese it depends on the cheeks so you think that gut as long as there's cheeks that gut is a 0.96

00:10:44.400 madness but so that so then would the answer be no well yeah if you had a gut like that it's a

00:10:49.920 madness what about men there's a lot of men that also this size that are deemed attractive or are 0.96

00:10:56.400 very successful with women what do you think about like what do you mean like ugly guys like eight

00:11:01.520 girls no like overweight guys overweight guys are still seen as very attractive are they rich

00:11:07.360 normally yeah literally yeah that's like the cheat code for men i mean like men and women are weighed

00:11:13.280 on different things so like men don't care about our money but men are about women care about men's money

00:11:18.720 i mean you could argue that maybe the girls wouldn't have like genuine desire for them they 1.00

00:11:22.640 just want you know the money but i don't know it depends in africa um big belly is a sign of wealth

00:11:27.920 yeah that kind of wealth is attractive yeah like different countries i like they force feed the

00:11:32.160 women to make them bigger because it seemed that's like one small tribe in africa it's an exception 1.00

00:11:37.280 i will agree and i looked at that tribe because i've heard so much about this tribe

00:11:41.200 this tribe is like the one everyone brings up yeah that country is in poverty so it's really not even 0.72

00:11:47.840 the majority of the country it's like a very it's it's maybe because of that because they're in poverty

00:11:54.640 maybe like food resources aren't very common yeah and then to have those is kind of like a sign of wealth

00:12:00.000 yeah i've seen it's attractive i'm assuming i don't know i just looked it up one day and i was like this

00:12:04.800 is the smallest freaking tribe that i've heard so much about validate no like i'm so tired of hearing

00:12:11.360 about this tribe and the other thing is like on the show i've had so many people tell me like they

00:12:19.200 won't even tell me okay you know i'm gonna ask the panel this first is lizzo a 10. oh no

00:12:24.080 is lizzo get a picture of lizzo yeah let's put can we put lizzo on the screen

00:12:28.000 what are people saying lizzo's a 10. i can't get like i've had where have you been so many times

00:12:35.040 on the show i've said okay like what about lizzo i can see already she's finished wait wait wait but

00:12:41.120 like face card like she's got i think she's got a really pretty face yeah this is why girls lie to 1.00

00:12:46.800 each other no no no no this is why you can't trust girls for nothing i'm not saying anything about her 0.70

00:12:51.600 body weight i'm talking about her face all right one to ten one to ten okay rank her one time let 0.99

00:12:57.120 me think just looks yeah look just appearance one to ten looks including weight yeah it just looks

00:13:03.760 just looks oh man so from the from the next three yes i think that's too hard too

00:13:11.120 i think i'll go with five i'm gonna say neutral five five is average you know no like i feel like

00:13:16.160 she's got a really really pretty face she's got a very symmetrical face and you cannot disagree with me

00:13:20.960 i will never take your opinion on board look i'm talking about her face i'm talking about if she

00:13:25.600 even lost weight her features will come out more like i think symmetry is very attractive and she's 0.97

00:13:30.240 a very symmetrical face to me so i like her face yeah because you know what when i hear is she

00:13:35.600 attractive in the face yeah devoid of her body i think would i still have sex with her but why is 1.00

00:13:40.800 attractiveness always gotta because i'm a man but he's a man i was gonna say he's a man i want to chop 0.77

00:13:46.240 but both men and women chop so no but men chop no but he but he is like that's like you know yeah

00:13:52.640 men i feel like just go for what they see as in like if if you're not if they're not it says

00:13:56.880 attraction yeah no the basic principle is the men are attracted to what they see whilst women are 0.61

00:14:00.480 attracted to what they hear so that's why men lie and women wear makeup i want to agree with you 1.00

00:14:10.000 but now i look at her face and think i hear what you're saying

00:14:12.480 in some she's pretty but that's just me trying to be nice like i would not give her okay one to 0.95

00:14:16.720 ten eddie one to ten she's a one but like i feel like a one would be like something that's a little

00:14:22.640 bit more like 300 pounds no like 300 pounds no like like the face that you could make liz's face look

00:14:29.040 worse is what i'm saying yeah i mean i don't think she's like like if she was thinner she'd be fine 0.89

00:14:34.640 but she's 300 pounds but i don't think she's a one i'll give her two damn what about you what you 1.00

00:14:42.560 think i don't know um okay me just being outside the whole motion i would say four but then if someone 0.83

00:14:49.280 was to come to me if like someone i like if my boyfriend was to come up to me like listen i'm

00:14:53.440 leaving you for her i'd be like are you serious like you're taking a piss i don't know what your 0.91

00:14:59.760 self-esteem's gone so what did you give her i won and your opinion probably matters the most your 0.90

00:15:06.400 rating thank you why does it matter the most because he's actually a man in terms of a sexual mate a

00:15:10.960 relationship everything like our opinion doesn't matter right can be attracted to women too yeah i i

00:15:16.320 know but i'm just saying would you would you would you because are you attracted to women too i'm

00:15:21.040 attracted to women too okay so would you date lizzo she's not my type oh god cop out innit

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JustPearlyThings - March 30, 2023

Bring Back Shame

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