JustPearlyThings - April 16, 2023


Debate on Number of Abuse Allegation


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In this episode, we talk about sexual assault in the dating world and how to deal with it. We also talk about the dangers of recording sex acts and how we can protect ourselves in the event of this happening in our own lives.

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00:00:00.000 The number of abuse allegations increased 200% when they implemented that law, I think it was 2013.
00:00:08.000 So, yeah.
00:00:08.720 It's like, you're getting hit, you're getting hit, you're getting hit.
00:00:11.000 I'm not saying that that doesn't happen, though.
00:00:12.900 I'm not being sensitive, but I'm just being real.
00:00:15.580 Do you guys think, okay, if the roles were reversed and we had those repercussions for being with men, would you change your behavior?
00:00:23.200 I wouldn't talk to anyone.
00:00:24.680 You wouldn't talk to anyone?
00:00:25.840 You know what's funny, I think?
00:00:27.360 I'm curious.
00:00:28.180 I haven't heard from you yet, so I want to hear.
00:00:30.160 Eggshells.
00:00:30.560 I would be walking on eggshells.
00:00:32.360 I would be so paranoid.
00:00:33.780 It would be paranoid to the point where it's like, it's not even a point in talking to anyone.
00:00:37.500 I would just do me, focus on me.
00:00:39.020 If someone comes my way, they come my way.
00:00:40.360 I wouldn't even go out looking for people because I would be so scared of what could come from it legally.
00:00:46.420 Some guys put a ring all over their apartment so they can't say that anything that was consensual wasn't consensual.
00:00:55.860 Yeah, but then wouldn't that be like they're recording it without your consent?
00:01:01.440 I have no idea if that's legal or not.
00:01:03.060 Yeah, that would be legal.
00:01:03.540 You can't record sex acts.
00:01:04.820 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:05.100 That's where they draw the line, right?
00:01:06.220 Yeah.
00:01:06.360 I advise clients to have at least a camera outside your house or in situations where it is legal so you can show.
00:01:13.200 I actually spoke to a lawyer about this because I've been sleeping with a lot of girls. 1.00
00:01:17.040 I said, how do I protect myself?
00:01:18.120 And he said, oh, just send a text.
00:01:19.260 Did you have a good time?
00:01:20.080 I said, that's not guaranteed they're going to respond even if they did, right?
00:01:23.260 So an objective empirical account that shows like this person's leaving on good terms and this and that.
00:01:28.380 I've never had any accusation, luckily, with all these girls, but I have plenty of clients that have.
00:01:33.480 And a lot of times, like I mentioned before, it's because the person cheated and then they just want to save the marriage.
00:01:38.720 And it's like, you know, there's no consequence for doing that really if the girl is lying, which is unfortunate.
00:01:44.100 But I think just proceed with caution is what I would say.
00:01:49.420 And, you know, just, yeah, just like, I don't know, like in some countries, it's a bit more strict.
00:01:55.900 I feel like even though the UK might say some of these things, I haven't actually heard them until today.
00:02:02.800 Can I just say something also?
00:02:04.740 So I think also in the West, and it's naturally right, a lot of men go after these type of women and they like them, it's attractive. 0.67
00:02:16.900 These type of women that will, how would I say the word? 1.00
00:02:21.560 Crazy.
00:02:22.380 No, no, no.
00:02:23.260 They will F them up.
00:02:25.180 Oh, okay, yeah.
00:02:25.840 Yeah, because they're attractive, they're sexy, they're whatever it is.
00:02:29.360 But you don't understand, you turned around, like you created that monster.
00:02:33.880 Women have to be looking that certain way, weight that certain way, blah, blah, blah. 1.00
00:02:37.660 She needs to da-da-da. 1.00
00:02:39.700 And then this woman become your worst enemy because this woman is a gold digger. 1.00
00:02:43.960 She has to keep maintaining her looks, her, you know, going out every night in these type of restaurants. 1.00
00:02:51.000 And she will use you and abuse you. 1.00
00:02:52.980 But we, men, most of the time are attracted to these type of women and they complain about what these women do for them. 0.99
00:02:59.120 But they don't honor a lot of nice girls that they don't look like 10 out of 10.
00:03:04.800 It's the same in reverse too, right?
00:03:05.860 Like women don't want a nice guy. 1.00
00:03:07.520 A hundred percent.
00:03:08.240 It's natural.
00:03:09.480 People are just attracted to drama.
00:03:10.280 For women and men, they're attracted. 0.66
00:03:11.260 Exactly.
00:03:12.060 It is attractive.
00:03:13.100 But I also think that men, you really don't know what someone's going to do when they're scorned, when they're pissed off.
00:03:20.800 But I think you can see a different side of people when there's a breakup.
00:03:24.920 But that's what I'm saying.
00:03:25.800 And that's the thing.
00:03:26.500 It's not that like women are worse than men or men are worse than women.
00:03:29.760 But it's that women are given the tools to destroy men if they so want to. 1.00
00:03:36.120 It would be so interesting to see what type of world we'd be living in when that's been reversed.
00:03:41.240 Yeah.
00:03:41.480 Well, I mean, you could go back a hundred years ago.
00:03:43.660 It wasn't the no fault divorce started in the 90s, 70s.
00:03:48.800 I don't remember, but a hundred years ago, it wasn't like that.
00:03:51.700 Or look at the East.
00:03:53.500 But see, that was one of the problems because when men did have that power, society saw some men as abusing it.
00:03:59.960 So, you know, there was a natural sense, you know, to kind of balance it.
00:04:04.420 But like I say, it's just the pendulum has gone too far.
00:04:06.500 And I think what's happened is people have just lost their balls.
00:04:08.880 People are not courageous enough to say enough.
00:04:11.820 You know, men and women come together and say it's enough.
00:04:14.000 It's gone too far.
00:04:15.200 Everybody is suffering.
00:04:16.700 How can we do it together?
00:04:17.400 And we've created this polarized world where everyone's on each other's back.
00:04:21.220 You know, men against women, black against white, rich against poor. 0.60
00:04:23.780 And no one's come together and say, what kind of society do we want to live in?
00:04:27.500 And how courageous do we need to be to create it?
00:04:30.140 It's not going to be perfect.
00:04:31.240 And there's always going to be losers.
00:04:32.320 But we need to create this because everyone's suffering.
00:04:34.480 But no one's doing that.
00:04:35.680 And it feels like society and the powers that be have created this.
00:04:38.820 Like what you just said, Pearl.
00:04:39.780 I mean, the fact that you've got Rumble on standby just shows.
00:04:42.180 I know you have a lot of your detractors and a lot of your hates.
00:04:45.780 I get it.
00:04:46.100 But there is something really important about what you're trying to say.
00:04:49.380 Same way Kevin Samuels, God rest his soul.
00:04:51.640 There's a lot of stuff that people are trying to say.
00:04:53.760 But the minute they say it, they're shut down.
00:04:55.760 But we need to hear these point of views.
00:04:57.580 How can we say it when there's so much things coming out?
00:05:00.680 Like now you have to think of it, well, not in my world.
00:05:04.900 But now it's not just male and female.
00:05:08.520 There's like all the in-between.
00:05:10.160 There's all of this intersectionality going on.
00:05:12.340 So how can we even say everybody stop and let's do it this way.
00:05:17.800 Or let's try to do it.
00:05:19.060 We can't because we've got to think of this one, this one, this one and this one.
00:05:22.660 Do you know what it is?
00:05:23.080 It's almost like the majority of people are sensible thinking.
00:05:25.480 But people are scared.
00:05:26.800 And I think we're letting the agenda be run by the fringes.
00:05:29.280 It's not a minority, we're talking about intersexual people.
00:05:32.640 What percent of people are even trans or heishi, whatever the hell it is. 1.00
00:05:38.340 It's like what, one, two percent of the population and we all have to cater to them?
00:05:42.160 For what?
00:05:42.860 Yeah, the kids in the schools.
00:05:44.640 That's how it's, well, not in the real world, but I feel like on social media, that's what they're catering to.
00:05:50.240 It's like in the schools, I'm scared to have my kids go to actual school.
00:05:56.960 I'll homeschool my kids if by the time I have children, there's certain, because I don't want them to think that's okay.
00:06:04.420 I don't want them to think, yeah, I don't want them to, like, for example, like Peppa Pig, right?
00:06:08.820 This one sounds so random.
00:06:09.920 But about two months ago, I saw on Peppa Pig, they changed it.
00:06:14.520 It was like same-sex sort of thing. 0.57
00:06:16.600 And I don't have a problem or whatever with same-sex or lesbian or whatever.
00:06:21.880 But my child seeing that and saying, like, a mummy and a mummy can't have a baby.
00:06:27.780 Like, that's the reality.
00:06:28.700 Well, it's like, why do they need to know?
00:06:30.300 Why do they need to know?
00:06:31.140 That they're so innocent.
00:06:33.040 Like, they're just, if they want to, it's exactly, like, now it's more like force, force.
00:06:38.180 Not saying that I'm against anything, no.
00:06:40.820 I'm just saying now it's more pressure.
00:06:43.300 And it's popular.
00:06:44.320 Yeah, it's a trend.
00:06:45.760 It's a trend to be bisexual. 1.00
00:06:47.400 There's so many girls I know, especially, like, our age group, like, 21, it's like, yeah, I'm bisexual.
00:06:53.160 Like, it's a trend, you know, so.
00:06:56.700 So, guys, what is more important to you when looking at a guy?
00:07:04.180 Money or looks?
00:07:07.100 I have a third one, I'm not going to lie.
00:07:08.960 Yeah, I've got a third one as well.
00:07:10.740 Yeah, same.
00:07:11.220 Pick one of the two looks.
00:07:12.780 Money.
00:07:13.600 Money?
00:07:14.440 Yeah.
00:07:15.340 No, but if I say money, it's going to sound like I'm a gold digger.
00:07:19.320 Don't worry about that.
00:07:20.060 No, don't.
00:07:20.720 Just be authentic.
00:07:21.860 You know what, yeah?
00:07:23.820 I'm going to be real.
00:07:24.740 Let me keep it real, baby.
00:07:26.620 Money.
00:07:27.360 Money.
00:07:28.320 Yeah.
00:07:28.680 Same.
00:07:29.220 Money?
00:07:29.600 Yeah.
00:07:30.860 Money.
00:07:31.740 Money.
00:07:32.060 Shoot.
00:07:32.600 Money.
00:07:33.060 Actually, I think I changed my mind, you know.
00:07:34.880 Wait.
00:07:35.620 No, but.
00:07:36.160 Looks ain't going to pay the bills, baby.
00:07:38.480 And they're not going to pay the bills.
00:07:39.800 That's it.
00:07:41.240 Yeah, you're so right.
00:07:42.100 After what I've been through, money.
00:07:43.980 Money.
00:07:44.280 Definitely.
00:07:44.980 So, if you were advising guys, would you tell them to get their money up first or their fitness,
00:07:49.720 if they only had time for one?
00:07:51.420 Fitness.
00:07:52.300 Oh, sorry.
00:07:53.520 No money.
00:07:54.420 Fitness.
00:07:54.700 I'm just curious if the results you guys have seen are the same.
00:07:58.240 What's interesting for me, I was bringing this up on the King Riches podcast yesterday,
00:08:01.820 is that I've had tons of broke clients that spent the last of their money on my training
00:08:06.240 and got rock star level results.
00:08:09.040 Like, just getting tons of girls living at home, like, doesn't matter. 1.00
00:08:12.740 Like, I've found that money is very, very, very, like, almost irrelevant.
00:08:16.500 Really?
00:08:16.820 As long as the guy's not living in poverty.
00:08:18.400 I know online, like, everyone thinks.
00:08:19.840 That's so true.
00:08:20.320 There's so many Red Pill creators that are, like, get the bag and all this stuff.
00:08:24.020 But in practice, that's total BS.
00:08:26.880 But don't you think money makes a guy more confident and more, like, he's worthy for...
00:08:32.660 I get the other side of the coin, though.
00:08:33.740 I get a lot of, like, millionaire clients.
00:08:35.180 I was telling you before the show, a billionaire client.
00:08:38.020 And they're just trying to lead with that.
00:08:40.100 So they're like, I'm just going to pick her up in the Ferrari.
00:08:42.300 I think show the house.
00:08:43.420 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:43.980 A guy being in touch with his masculinity is what makes him attractive.
00:08:47.240 And he doesn't need money for the reason.
00:08:48.360 I agree.
00:08:49.080 He doesn't need that option.
00:08:50.020 Yeah, he doesn't need money for it.
00:08:51.840 But the question was, money or looks?
00:08:54.020 Yeah.
00:08:54.320 When you go deeper into it.
00:08:56.220 Exactly.
00:08:56.700 But one thing also, when, first of all, money can just tell you more about his ambition.
00:09:03.040 That's what I was saying.
00:09:03.680 Yeah.
00:09:04.240 It's up to something.
00:09:05.780 Fitness is more important than money, for sure.
00:09:07.980 Because your body, your health will give you everything.
00:09:11.360 Mental health.
00:09:11.960 You can have your money today, you lose it tomorrow.
00:09:14.340 And you will be left alone with the girl that you picked.
00:09:17.420 And you'll be with the man that you picked.
00:09:19.540 And it's a duty to work a life together.
00:09:22.180 That's a commitment to a relationship.
00:09:23.560 Would you guys agree that if your guy was unemployed, he only has so much time before you would leave?
00:09:29.480 Yes or no?
00:09:30.220 No.
00:09:30.580 It depends on the context.
00:09:31.340 So, like, let's say five years, no job.
00:09:33.720 Oh, that's a bit crazy.
00:09:34.700 No.
00:09:34.980 Like, no job at all.
00:09:36.360 No.
00:09:37.340 I need, I believe that the man is the lead.
00:09:43.020 Like, he is the one that takes charge.
00:09:45.000 And if he doesn't hold that up, I just feel like,
00:09:49.360 I couldn't stay with someone that's just, there needs to be a drive.
00:09:52.040 When you're working, there's a drive.
00:09:53.520 There's a motivation.
00:09:54.620 Like, you're working.
00:09:55.560 I'm working.
00:09:56.260 Like, we're in this together.
00:09:57.940 Like, I couldn't be with a man that's just, that's no motivation.
00:10:00.700 For me, that's just being lazy.
00:10:02.000 If I'm being honest.
00:10:03.200 I think it depends, you know, because it depends if he's willing to work, if he's motivated to work.
00:10:07.980 Whereas if he's not motivated and he's fine, he's just chilling with no job, no money for five years, then it's a bit of a problem.
00:10:13.140 But if he's motivated, he knows what he wants to do, he's just working towards his goals or he's willing to work towards his goals, then I feel like, that's okay.
00:10:20.760 Like, we've all taken time out for ourselves.
00:10:22.680 Five years.
00:10:23.960 You don't know what he, he might want to be a doctor.
00:10:25.840 You don't know what he wants to do, baby.
00:10:27.520 You don't know what he wants to do.
00:10:28.600 Three months.
00:10:29.140 But like, obviously, everyone's different.
00:10:30.660 And we're all quite young as well.
00:10:32.220 Like, no.
00:10:32.880 No, five years is a stretch.
00:10:33.980 I don't believe that.
00:10:34.520 Everyone has their own opinion.
00:10:35.740 Like, a side hustle.
00:10:37.680 A hard time job.
00:10:38.940 No job.
00:10:39.720 Would you say a side hustle, Pearl, is a job?
00:10:43.660 Would you class it as the same thing?
00:10:45.200 A side hustle and a job?
00:10:45.980 So, for example, like, OnlyFans.
00:10:51.340 I mean, it's a job.
00:10:52.820 It's still a job.
00:10:54.580 For a man.
00:10:55.540 For a guy.
00:10:58.040 I think it's a job.
00:10:59.220 It's not a career.
00:11:00.200 Okay, yeah, yeah.
00:11:00.920 It depends on the side hustle.
00:11:02.400 Yeah, yeah.
00:11:03.000 It's a broad, you know.
00:11:04.320 Yeah, it's a very broad.
00:11:05.140 Yeah.
00:11:05.900 This is an extreme example, too, right?
00:11:07.500 Like, there's, like, gradients.
00:11:08.620 Are you talking about, like, does a guy need to be rich versus, like, have just enough?
00:11:13.320 You're talking about, like, unemployed, right?
00:11:14.800 My only point was, at some point, if he's not making enough money, we're going to leave.
00:11:19.240 Yeah.
00:11:19.380 That's at some point, right?
00:11:20.800 Yeah.
00:11:21.080 No, I would agree with that.
00:11:21.860 But I'm saying, like, if the guy has, like, his basic needs met.
00:11:24.900 Yeah.
00:11:25.140 Like, I've found it doesn't really make much of a difference if he has, like, a ton of money.
00:11:28.660 Except for certain girls. 1.00
00:11:29.920 Not in the real world.
00:11:30.600 I thought he meant, like, jobless.
00:11:32.060 What's the difference?
00:11:33.160 Okay.
00:11:33.460 Is it different in the Eastern European countries versus the West?
00:11:37.200 Yes.
00:11:37.680 I mean, in terms of with money.
00:11:39.420 Yeah.
00:11:39.780 Yeah, because most people are poor, right?
00:11:41.180 Like, in Ukraine and Poland, even in Brazil, like, people are making, like, $1,000 a month or less.
00:11:47.660 So, like, you know, it's, like, $10,000 a year or less than $10,000 a year after taxes.
00:11:52.080 So, I mean, you know, it goes back to those as basic needs met, right?
00:11:57.540 If basic needs are met, I haven't found that it makes much of a difference.
00:12:00.120 Because I've had so many rich clients that are all clueless.
00:12:02.400 Like, they're all in their, like, millionaire circles and, like, hey, we thought this would get us the girls.
00:12:06.620 And we got all the money and there's no girls. 1.00
00:12:08.500 And then I have clients that have hardly any money that just crush once they're doing things right.
00:12:13.340 And the girl doesn't even know they don't have money. 1.00
00:12:15.380 But, again, like, we're talking about, like, unemployed, like, completely broke for years versus at least having basic needs met.
00:12:21.920 Like, a lot of guys, like, even if they're not doing super well.
00:12:24.540 Like, what's the statistic?
00:12:25.260 It's, like, 80% of people are living paycheck to paycheck in the U.S., I think, is something like that.
00:12:30.300 That high? Wow.
00:12:31.160 I'm pretty sure, yeah.
00:12:32.080 So, it's, like, if they don't get paid one week, they can't pay the bills.
00:12:35.040 That's, like, almost all guys, right?
00:12:37.320 So, all this, like, focus on, oh, you need to go make a lot of money.
00:12:41.120 There's a lot of creators that say, like, forget dating.
00:12:43.340 Just go focus on making money.
00:12:45.720 When they arrive at the money, if they ever do, most of them don't even get the money.
00:12:49.080 But if they do, it's not like girls just start raining down in their lap.
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