JustPearlyThings - October 10, 2023


Deluded Modern Gets Caught Lying


Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

188.51584

Word count

1,531

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

7

sentences flagged

Hate speech

5

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss cheating, social media, and the opposite sex in general. Is it cheating to post a selfie while in a relationship cheating? Should women post selfies to get attention from other men or is it cheating when they post them for attention from men?

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 it's obviously yeah do you think social media changed men or women more
00:00:06.400 all of both of women no both of us remember we gotta pick one there's no 0.87
00:00:11.920 we gotta pick one the generalization i'd say women i'd say women women yeah 1.00
00:00:16.400 the key word was more come on i know you can pick one
00:00:20.320 men all right she said women women men women women
00:00:26.080 women i really don't know because i don't deal with social media 0.99
00:00:32.000 there is no way you don't know i don't know i'm not i'm not looking into all of this stuff i don't know
00:00:38.720 what do you think what do you feel what do you see
00:00:45.600 i really don't know i i feel like i'm out of all of these instagram live all of these people that
00:00:52.240 we follow i i just feel i'm out i just me but what i know and my opinion i'm curious is a girl
00:00:59.760 posting a selfie while in a relationship cheating if you think yes raise your hand
00:01:07.120 yeah selfie in a relationship cheating no not physical but yeah the attention she will get 0.98
00:01:13.520 and the replies she will give yeah i think yeah okay yes anyone else say yes okay is a guy dm-ing
00:01:20.400 another girl cheating raise your hand yes i mean that's in a relationship yes if the girl does 0.99
00:01:26.720 the same exactly what is he what is he what is he what is he saying to her well what is she posting
00:01:31.680 the selfie for attention she wants it no no not the same no not the same no who who's more likely
00:01:44.160 who is more likely um to get attention attention the guy dm-ing a girl or the girl the selfie
00:01:55.120 the selfie 100 so why is one so much worse than the other because i think that when you're dm you're
00:02:02.320 taking the direct action to do that aren't you taking a direct action to like get attention no from
00:02:08.240 everyone yeah from everyone he's just dm-ing one girl and you're just exposing yourself i'm
00:02:15.280 thinking about like my mind is a mother that yeah you know we have sometimes do post but even me i
00:02:20.400 don't do you do you think it's cheating for women to get attention from other men to seek it intentionally
00:02:26.880 yes if she's looking for it yeah if she is like actively looking for she wants to have attention from
00:02:31.520 other men i think when you're talking physically like in if you're out and about that's different
00:02:36.640 again social media is different thing is like i said is it is it cheating to get attention from
00:02:41.520 other men to seek out attention from other men in a relationship yes yeah to seek yes yeah so then
00:02:47.200 why wouldn't the the selfie be cheating because that's for everyone exactly who says that she's 1.00
00:02:52.240 posting a selfie to get attention from men no no it's interesting what you say you say it's from
00:02:56.880 everyone but you don't you don't really why why you upload something why you upload a story or a picture
00:03:01.440 why not i want you to i want my friends and people i know and whoever to see what i'm getting up to
00:03:05.760 what's the outcome i get some likes but i don't really do you ever post selfies to get attention
00:03:12.000 from men no never never never you've never posted anything on social media thinking a guy that you
00:03:17.920 like would see it no no really in all honesty i everyone needs attention if i think i look good
00:03:24.640 we all did that it's not for someone else it's not for someone else you all did it come on come on
00:03:30.880 you know what but everyone not cheating now like you know when you upload the story
00:03:36.560 do you watch do you check who's who was the story of course only if i'm interested in someone specific
00:03:41.840 i might but i don't post a story for a person but i don't post it for that person
00:03:48.160 what'd you say what'd you say what'd you say go go go back go back so if i post a story i want
00:03:54.000 all my friends to see it i want everyone to see whatever because that's why i'm posting it okay
00:03:57.760 and he said would i am i do i go and see if if someone i like in my life if someone you like in
00:04:03.280 general no no no like no no but um mostly the people that comments are like friends or like
00:04:11.040 people i know and i appreciate that that's what i that's have you ever have you ever deleted something
00:04:16.800 that didn't go well no guys guys got their ways as well very quick answer this is how deeply we have
00:04:26.800 been programmed and how a lot of us have been brainwashed you think it's bad for you as a woman 0.76
00:04:32.240 to post something to attract a man but then you think it's perfectly fine to post something just
00:04:37.360 to get attention from your friends like in my opinion like that that just sounds kind of backwards
00:04:44.480 to me because first of all why are we placed on earth we are placed on earth to build relationships
00:04:49.120 mostly with the opposite sex for the purpose of forging the human race because part of making 1.00
00:04:53.680 relationship with opposite sex is to reproduce so if you're making it seem like trying to attract 0.52
00:04:59.120 the opposite sex is such a bad thing i kind of think that's kind of weird and then because it's 1.00
00:05:04.560 true in the western world everyone is just focused on these little things that actually add up to
00:05:09.200 nothing everyone wants to get money just to be important everyone wants to be noticed and have
00:05:14.000 attention and get all these dopamine hits but then when you ask them would you do this for the opposite
00:05:18.560 sex which most humans our lives and our livelihood and us being normal and being um emotionally stable
00:05:28.400 actually depends on forming meaningful relationships with the opposite sex but yet you always see 0.99
00:05:34.240 women fighting this no i can't do this for a man it doesn't make sense but so for example if i go on
00:05:40.720 holiday and i post a picture that i'm on holiday is because i i'm sharing the fun time that i'm having
00:05:46.400 with the friends that i didn't come on holiday with me that time but do you talk to your friends yeah i do as
00:05:52.480 well so why couldn't you just text them a picture i do i do send it but i have quite a lot of friends
00:05:58.080 quite a lot how many quite a lot but you see it's like do you think social media is real life no
00:06:04.240 okay so why are we so attached to it well i'm not i told you i'd give it up for a great husband
00:06:10.800 no but it's like you're fighting so hard for the selfie and i would even i would even challenge what
00:06:15.760 you just said you don't have a lot of friends this is also part of the delusion we all tell ourselves
00:06:20.560 how do you have a lot of friends because i i have like five different jobs and i have different
00:06:25.120 friend groups so it's just those are not your friends and they are they are like i have personal
00:06:30.240 friends friends across the world like it is i need to ask one question so if someone goes is your
00:06:37.760 instagram like uh private or or public sometimes it's private sometimes it's not i'm not gonna ask
00:06:44.160 based on what it changes i'm gonna ask something if if as a some man goes and check your profile
00:06:50.080 what she thinks like oh this girl is is to be married i want a wife here um i don't know really 0.99
00:06:57.840 it's not my my instagram is not like um it's not that it's not that interesting to be honest that's
00:07:03.520 not why i think it's interesting i mean it's got some it's not it's not just selfies and stuff it's
00:07:08.960 like actually stuff that i do like it's work stuff but it but it doesn't it's not monetized if you want
00:07:14.560 i mean do what you need to do do what you need to do you might be surprised at what you find but
00:07:20.160 it's not it's not that interesting it's okay if if i was to be with you yeah and i was telling you
00:07:25.920 okay i understand you do that some work make it purely professional no more pictures of you
00:07:32.320 but some of my work is because i'd have pictures of me like i do a bit of modeling i do a bit of
00:07:37.280 acting and stuff so it is it's all relative but i also do some local how long do you plan to model
00:07:42.240 and act like till i don't get paid anymore basically it's just interesting oh you said you'd give up
00:07:50.960 the instagram for the guy yeah yeah if he's the right like husband husband material we already
00:07:55.760 yeah you know it has to be the real deal yeah