00:02:42.840What's really interesting is since the 1950s, the percentage of men that are marrying as virgins is actually higher than it was in the 50s.
00:02:48.900So what happened with the birth control pill is that it basically took out all the, it just streamlined all the sex to the guys that the women wanted to do it with the whole time and without consequence.
00:03:00.660But when you're looking at the marriage statistics, okay, there are two predictors that stand above all else for, three predictors actually that stand above all else for poor outcome to the marriage.
00:03:12.620Like an unsuccessful, bad breakup, poor marriage, unhappiness.
00:03:15.740Number one, getting married before the societal standard age.
00:03:18.600So if you're married at like 18, you're going to fail, it's going to suck, don't do it.
00:03:21.360Number two, if a woman brings a child into the relationship, into the marriage, that's not the man's child, is extremely high predictor for the woman's unhappiness in that marriage.
00:03:30.660Not the man's unhappiness, the woman's own unhappiness, which inevitably leads to divorce because what, 80% of marriages are, divorces are initiated by women.
00:03:38.240And the third factor, and this is really interesting, the third factor today that's the highest correlated statistically with a poor outcome to the marriage is the woman has more than 10 sexual partners.
00:03:47.860So what happens is the biggest drop for a woman's unhappiness in the marriage is after the woman has one sexual partner, you see the biggest drop in the happiness and the potential positive outcome in the marriage.
00:03:56.620And then like between two and five, it kind of like hovers, you know, where it was at two.
00:04:01.900And then between like six and nine, it kind of gets a little bit worse, but at 10 or more, the drop, the drop is significant and massive.
00:04:09.120And this is just, this is just measuring, you know, longitudinal studies of the happiness and the outcomes of the marriage.
00:05:24.580But don't you think, though, we shouldn't be shaming women because actually when we say that women are whores, what we're actually doing is we're buying into this very reductive, like, virgin, good girl, bad girl dichotomy, which comes from Christianity.
00:05:35.660I mean, do you actually, you're, you're, you're, you're, sorry, I don't think it's like we're shaming women.
00:05:42.420You kind of are, though, because actually, if you're going around sleeping with any who and everyone, people are going to look at you and be like, you're a hoe.
00:05:50.260But I don't mean we're shaming, it doesn't mean we're shaming ladies.
00:05:53.600Who's slut shamed women, men or women?