JustPearlyThings - Destiny Kept Losing the argument so he did this...

00:00:00.000 secretly into bdsm oh yeah my side and we're asked to describe why do we love each other and i say 0.97

00:00:07.820 okay i really love my partner because she cooks really well and she's never fucked another guy

00:00:11.400 we're dating and it's like okay and then she says oh well i love him because of this and that and

00:00:15.200 that and that and that yeah well who loves each other more that just seems like a weird it just

00:00:19.560 seems like a weird thing to me it's like oh well i like her because of these two things that i can

00:00:21.880 find literally every other woman in the i was gonna ask you all things being equal would you 0.97

00:00:26.040 prefer it if it was like one-sided open or do you not care um if she did if she was cool with it

00:00:32.860 if she was just like you know what that's totally fine i don't i i really don't i would be indifferent

00:00:38.460 to it the reason why like if we're saying like in a perfect hypothetical world where there would

00:00:42.440 never be a problem i still don't think i would care it's just something i personally care about

00:00:45.220 but i think that realistically anytime somebody's allowed to do something in a relationship and the

00:00:48.960 other person isn't that's always going to build a lot of resentment i think you don't ever get jealous

00:00:53.400 i'm just not that kind of person really no the planet remember the question i said who who is

00:00:58.300 closer to unconditional love oh i didn't hear that i thought you said who loves more yeah yeah yeah

00:01:02.600 who's closer to unconditional love because i said because i said first okay unconditional love isn't

00:01:06.940 realistic okay well in that case in the unconditional love is going to be the one with the lower

00:01:09.960 standards so if you're a low standard guy then sure yeah it's easier for you to love it's a guy

00:01:13.400 and i mean i i see that you switched the the point a little bit saying no like you know men women love

00:01:18.540 more because they have more standards but my thing is who's closer to unconditional love and i would argue

00:01:21.940 none it's the men because we have far less conditions than women do sure well in that case 0.98

00:01:26.140 the closest to unconditional love would be people with like down or something right you see somebody

00:01:29.840 you smile that's what he does he'll bring up like this random thing that's such a good counter

00:01:34.720 it's true he'll just be like this is we'll be like we'll be talking about a and b down syndrome

00:01:39.460 why not just to my kids we'll be talking about a and b and destiny's like well what about c and

00:01:43.860 you're like we're talking about a and b what a great example uh that kid's got to love so much

00:01:49.140 that's an unconditional love right there just feed them pet them i don't know you do with kids

00:01:53.380 with down syndrome you know that's what you want a family a kid why do you have to say down syndrome

00:01:58.160 well because i i imagine they have less never mind i mean go ahead i mean kids they do say women

00:02:06.580 are children a lot well red pillars do why that's weird because that's what they're looking for the

00:02:11.360 perfect wife is a child that cooks and cleans you cannot you cannot tell me that the girls on the 1.00

00:02:15.440 panel on the last panel we were on we're not acting like children you cannot tell me try they were but

00:02:20.580 i think a lot of the i'm going to do the thing i think a lot of guys do too you can no i have done

00:02:25.780 i am the only one in this space that have done panels equally men and women i've done full men 0.63

00:02:31.780 panels i've done full women panels the women are absolutely worse wow they're absolutely worse 1.00

00:02:36.900 you know if that's the if that's the ideal you want to act like a reason yeah i mean

00:02:41.220 i would argue that women are far more selective than men and more intelligent when it comes to the 1.00

00:02:54.020 mate selection process versus men are quite frankly a lot of the time stupid they'll be with a girl that 1.00

00:02:58.020 is using them abusing them treating them like maybe yelling at them do you agree with that 0.99

00:03:04.100 um i do partly i do think women are a little bit more intelligent with their selection after 1.00

00:03:09.140 when they've grown a bit older i think maybe as teenagers we're equally stupid maybe they just learn 0.93

00:03:13.620 a little bit faster i feel like i'd have a hard time generalizing because i see like i said you you

00:03:18.420 know some i know some women that are insanely amazing people they look good they make all my and 1.00

00:03:22.660 they're just with the most loserish guys i don't know why i can never explain it uh but i also know

00:03:26.980 guys that will do like really dumb things over and over again too that should know better so 0.98

00:03:31.060 people are real dumb sometimes when it comes to relationships yeah i don't know if i could 0.98

00:03:34.180 generalize it more to one side or the other i don't know you can't generalize i just don't know 0.99

00:03:39.940 i know a lot of men that make a lot of bad decisions i know a lot of women make a lot of 0.94

00:03:43.140 bad decisions in terms of like who stays in relationships more um when dumb stuff like how

00:03:48.260 many abused women will stay in abusive relationships for a long time because they end up getting mind 1.00

00:03:51.540 over at like i think that's stupid do you know how many but you know the other thing i've learned 0.88

00:03:56.580 about abused well they don't talk about a lot of times they're both abusing each other 0.96

00:04:00.820 that can happen sometimes i mean like every a lot of girls will come on my show and they'll be and i 0.95

00:04:05.460 know you'll be like anecdote a little pearl like but okay i'm like reactive abusing so they get abused

00:04:11.060 they react back and then it's like a circle well but that's always the assumption but how do you know

00:04:15.460 they didn't hit first i mean even if they even if they did hit first i think it's a bit different

00:04:20.980 when a guy's hitting a woman unfortunately equal rights equal left baby i seriously i just i feel

00:04:28.020 like if you shouldn't hit a guy if you don't expect to get hit back okay hold on weren't you earlier just

00:04:32.820 saying there are by are you are there no biological differences between men and women yeah there are 0.52

00:04:36.900 okay so women hitting men is bad i'm not going to argue against that it's a horrible thing and in 1.00

00:04:41.540 relationships it shouldn't happen but i think men hitting women is a little different because the 0.96

00:04:44.580 capacity to do damage there it's a lot higher well yeah so i feel like women then should never 1.00

00:04:49.060 hit a guy i agree with you so it's like why would you hit a guy if you don't expect to get hit back

00:04:53.780 and so an abusive i think under the law it should be equal i don't even know what the question i think

00:04:59.780 originally was who stays in an abusive relationship now we're trying to say that like well a guy should 0.97

00:05:03.060 be able to be the shit out of a woman is that a lot of times what they don't talk about is that 0.93

00:05:09.380 they'll say oh women are staying with these abusive men but a lot of times the women are abusing too 1.00

00:05:13.460 and if you talk to people that have actually worked in those industries they'll tell you that

00:05:17.140 i don't think so because the thing because that's usually a point that i have to fight on a lot of

00:05:21.460 people when you talk to these industries the the repeated phrase is actually uh mutual abuse is

00:05:26.260 is impossible that's not a real thing they'll say that that's not that that back and forth doesn't

00:05:30.020 exist i don't agree with that i think that mo i think we saw it a little bit with the johnny

00:05:33.620 deb amber heard stuff that there's like if any relationship that has some abuser probably both sides

00:05:37.860 are doing something if that happens to a man with money power and status what happens to the average

00:05:42.180 guy and that's the whole point that happens all the time so so when we are talking about where

00:05:50.180 women women will abuse men and get away with it and it's really common and they'll say oh they were 0.84

00:05:54.980 the one that abused me but they don't talk about that they're doing it too sure men abuse women and 0.95

00:05:58.900 get away with it there's like relationships are hard but that's what you always do is you always say but

00:06:03.780 but well no because you're trying to make a point you're trying to make it it's like you're trying

00:06:07.700 to make a point that's like women can get away with hitting men they do and men get away with 1.00

00:06:11.700 hitting women everybody gets ready hitting each other haven't you seen those social experiments 0.99

00:06:15.220 where like a man will be screaming at a woman in public and then people will stop him and what like 0.71

00:06:20.340 people will stop him and get involved in whatever and a woman will literally be beating up a guy in 1.00

00:06:25.060 public and nobody stops nobody does anything if the question is is who can get away with abusing their

00:06:29.780 partner in public then i would agree with you that people tend to call out men

00:06:33.540 more than women or people tend to call out yeah men more than however when it comes because it's

00:06:38.340 not because when people are abusing each other privately when it comes time to hold somebody

00:06:41.860 accountable or responsible it's really really hard to bring charges against somebody or go to the

00:06:45.780 police station and report anybody who's it harder for men or women it's probably for either oh

00:06:51.860 destiny come on there's a fair amount of crime that just isn't processed it is almost impossible

00:06:57.380 it is a very lucrative i can't if if yeah if you want to bring like a legal expert but i can't

00:07:02.340 argue with like well i had a girl on my panel and she said this the reality is that when you go to the

00:07:06.740 police station report even a rape you can do a full rape kit if it is only your word against somebody

00:07:11.860 else's that case dies right there you can't just but you can take pictures you can like they take

00:07:17.460 pictures of like um if there's like cuts on them bruises like that doesn't necessarily mean you have

00:07:21.700 enough to move forward it doesn't necessarily mean that but i'm i'm what i'm saying is that it's more

00:07:27.300 common for women to be able to go to the police and get a conviction versus men going to the police

00:07:32.740 and getting a conviction for women but i don't know if that's hold on there's there's a lot wait wait wait

00:07:39.060 just don't go and report it will they back down there's also a lot going on with what you just said

00:07:42.340 there to get a conviction is that's a different type of question i mean let me finish i have to answer a

00:07:48.740 single question there's even there's even been cases where the a guy will call the police on a

00:07:55.140 girl and they'll arrest him you've never seen those i mean okay a lot of the cases though the

00:07:59.380 reason why this happens is because other men are not taking it seriously and the majority of the

00:08:02.900 police force is still male also hold on okay you said you mentioned i'm not saying why it's happening

00:08:08.100 all my whole point is that it's harder for men okay in that capacity you mentioned get a conviction

00:08:14.020 okay if men and women are biologically different if a hundred men attacked a hundred women and a 1.00

00:08:20.180 hundred women attacked a hundred men and everything was perfectly reported and it was flawless there 1.00

00:08:25.780 was cameras recordings of everything in that perfect world wouldn't we still expect more men to get

00:08:30.980 convicted because it's more gbh it's because it's more because there's a bit bigger power differential

00:08:36.500 right if what if i'm in i would expect it to be if it's the same crime equal punishment that's what i would

00:08:42.100 expect if a woman punches a man versus the other way around if it's the likelihood the man's going 0.98

00:08:47.540 to have done more damage if it's the same crime who cares about the damage it's the crime well the

00:08:51.780 damage is resulting of the type of crime that you're prosecuting for it's the crime if you haven't

00:08:56.260 so why so if what about me and dust i'm a semi-pro athlete so it's like if i punch destiny or

00:09:03.460 destiny punches me why would it not be the same crime why would it not be the same prosecution

00:09:07.700 i don't know but like why do women why do you do you want the actual answer or do you want to keep 1.00

00:09:11.700 asking like random questions why do you want women to get special treatment gotcha nice loaded

00:09:18.020 question at the end there the reason why it's a different crime is because there's different

00:09:20.900 intentions based on who's attacking who right if a if a 16 year old girl that weighs 85 pounds starts 1.00

00:09:27.700 running up and slapping me in the face she's probably not going to be ever like charged but like she'll get 1.00

00:09:32.020 charged with assault and battery but it's not going to be like attempted murder or something right if a

00:09:36.020 250 pound man jumps on a woman and starts punching her in the face you might get charged with like

00:09:41.060 attempted murder or something because the capacity to do damage there in the state of mind when you

00:09:44.740 attack the person is going to be a lot differently if we acknowledge that there are biological differences

00:09:48.500 between men and women which i thought we all agreed on i think we do then there's going to be a

00:09:52.100 different intent behind a woman hitting a guy which i agree is still assault and battery and i agree you

00:09:56.180 should still get charged for it and convicted for it if you do it but the capacity for damage there

00:09:59.300 shows a different state of mind than if a man attacks a woman you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are

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JustPearlyThings - April 30, 2023

Destiny Kept Losing the argument so he did this...

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