JustPearlyThings - Disrespectful Woman Throws Personally Attacks Pearl

00:00:00.000 about finding themselves is because they've heard it a lot from women and they know that that is a 0.55

00:00:03.840 language that works with women so most of the time they're just lying to you because they want to get 1.00

00:00:07.600 something from you can i can i interject that's a language when you're talking about um they've

00:00:12.160 heard it from women sometimes it's not it could be a very it could be various circumstances that

00:00:17.200 come about that a man has to find himself it could be yes he's come out of a relationship it could be

00:00:21.120 he's trying to find the right career it could be it could be it could be a religious from a

00:00:27.120 religious perspective he needs to look within himself to to you know become this greater being

00:00:31.200 it's not just and we're putting a lot of things oh it's the woman it's the woman a lot of women 0.93

00:00:36.640 the reason we say it's the woman because the data indicates that so the data the data talks about

00:00:44.240 who files for a divorce you can just look it up so what do you mean there's no context what i'm

00:00:51.760 saying to you is you said statistics statistics might be fact in the western world because that's

00:00:55.920 what the stick but i don't know yeah uk and us the uk us okay but there is no context as to the

00:01:02.320 reasons why because i'll tell you something why i why i'm saying this a woman will stick more in a 1.00

00:01:08.640 relationship a toxic relationship an abusive relationship for many many many many many more

00:01:14.480 years than a man would women pick toxic relationships so they don't pick it sometimes how do you how do you 1.00

00:01:22.880 get into a relationship with someone if you don't pick them because people change no this is like

00:01:28.320 this is an excuse i hear this is an excuse this is an excuse that women use this is an excuse that women 0.99

00:01:38.960 use to justify picking poorly so it's 90 90 of the time when women are in toxic relationships it's because 1.00

00:01:46.560 they didn't get their father's advice their brother's advice or their friend's advice half the time

00:01:51.600 they're everybody is warning them telling them not to date them and they do anything are you the

00:01:56.000 same person you are 10 years ago you am am i the same person i would say i have very similar traits

00:02:01.360 than i did 10 years ago yeah and i just think i don't think i don't think i don't think this stuff

00:02:11.440 matters like i just think because nobody when you take vows it's for better or for worse and sickness and

00:02:16.640 it's not it's not it's not for when for when we grow apart no that's not the reason can i say

00:02:22.960 i'm not a man obviously but i i think a man will leave if he's not if it's not 100 there and he

00:02:29.440 doesn't want to be with you he will leave he would cheat he would disrespect you he will not call you he 0.54

00:02:34.160 would not return those messages he's left he's not interested you're holding on to something you're

00:02:39.680 you're almost like begging to be with somebody you're trying to make this work a woman will do that 1.00

00:02:44.480 but a man has already left and but the men don't leave the majority of the time when they're cheating

00:02:52.000 when they speak to somebody else i want to add another dynamic it's only it's only a small

00:02:56.960 percentage of men that can cheat it's a very small percentage of men that actually can

00:03:02.720 can i add dynamic i don't want to know where these facts are coming from to be honest

00:03:05.520 to be honest to be honest it also takes it also takes courage and i good that you're saying that

00:03:12.720 a lot of women are the one who leaves it takes courage to leave a relationship no i disagree 0.98

00:03:19.760 it does it does especially in a society that sees you know why it takes courage to do the easy

00:03:26.320 thing no what's the easy thing the easy thing is to leave why why is that easy it's hard

00:03:32.960 because it's hard it is easy to quit things have you ever been married it's hard to stick it out

00:03:40.240 oh my god no no no no no no let's answer the question have you been married before this is

00:03:48.000 this is the crazy thing this is the crazy thing what i want to see because you're making it personal

00:03:56.800 what it's not because i asked pearl i'm having a really normal constructive um conversation for

00:04:06.240 you i shared my experience within my marriage and i said to you i got with someone that was 16

00:04:10.640 we were both young yeah and i think at 16 like i said your your your views and relationship in

00:04:16.320 terms of what you want is very different when you think i understand your point of view that if

00:04:20.320 a woman at a certain age when they're adults now should make now healthier choices and better 1.00

00:04:27.840 decisions so when they do make those choices as adults they should make you know healthier and

00:04:33.920 better decisions so when they are in the marriage that that marriage actually is a healthy marriage

00:04:38.400 i understand that point of view but when i'm giving you examples i'm saying that there's a lot

00:04:42.160 of context behind your so-called statistics that you get from wherever you get but when i ask you

00:04:47.360 are you married it's not a dig at you it's because you can only speak of what like our knowledge and

00:04:54.400 our exp our knowledge i just i don't think i don't think i don't think the person i don't think the

00:05:00.320 person i don't think the person i don't think the person i don't think that the person saying something

00:05:05.840 matters is it true or is it not true is it harder to stick something out or to leave like you can only

00:05:11.040 know that if you've been in someone's shoes yeah it makes no sense but unless you've been in someone's

00:05:16.480 shoes what's the question you want to ask if i asked if she was married so if she if she's been 0.97

00:05:20.960 married if she's been married what's the thing is it's the experience so she's married that she would 0.89

00:05:25.280 understand and i want to say where her perspective because usually women do you know why because women 1.00

00:05:31.040 usually that haven't been married are usually the women that come at women that have been married 1.00

00:05:35.200 it's usually the case so no let me say something to you no happily married people no ever my point

00:05:41.760 is my point is my point is if you say have you been married it makes complete sense okay can you

00:05:50.240 change your question then let me just make my point my point is if you ask her have you been married

00:05:55.360 and you don't follow it up with a question i just did you know what was the question she didn't even

00:05:59.520 answer no no sorry i know what she answered everything okay go and speak you've asked her

00:06:08.240 have you been married i did which isn't really necessarily relevant in your opinion are you

00:06:14.080 gonna let me speak you've asked her have you been married which is not necessarily relevant to what

00:06:19.360 we're talking about because some of us are married so we're talking about marriage we're talking about

00:06:24.960 marriage you guys stop stop stop stop stop stop over talking my producer i'm just trying to get

00:06:31.680 the point you're not even letting me speak my point is we were yes the general topic is about marriage

00:06:37.760 but we were on a particular trajectory due within the discussion and then you brought up have you been

00:06:42.640 married to this to derail that conversation because if you're asking if she's been married what is the

00:06:47.840 relevance of that to what we're talking about in this very second so you you'd have to ask that

00:06:52.800 then follow it up with a relevant question or then it's a dig no answer sorry go on and i say this

00:07:00.000 respectfully women are meant to be quiet docile and submissive in almost every case when you see a 1.00

00:07:08.880 woman is the opposite of that it's a for example for example what's your name in the white in the white 1.00

00:07:15.120 top right it's a put off a man doesn't want a woman like that let him go ahead go ahead no it's just

00:07:21.520 it's just an observation and to the earlier point about you know the question that you said earlier

00:07:27.600 i was actually once driving my date home and she said to me i don't need a man i said are you sure

00:07:36.160 she said yeah i said so get the fuck out the car and hitchhike turned out she got kidnapped and that's 1.00

00:07:45.280 a great example of why women need men excuse me i just wants to add uh something in my opinion

00:07:55.760 uh the woman coming to the relationship with many reasons either i'm finding it really hard to keep a

00:08:04.320 straight face i'm sorry i'm finding this so hilarious uh either they want to fill the gap in

00:08:10.960 their life because they feel they are not enough at themselves uh are they either they want to add

00:08:19.120 something to their life they think i'm good i'm in a good point i know myself i work on myself

00:08:25.360 um fulfill you know i don't need someone else to give me that positive energy you know bring something

00:08:32.320 to me but i want i would love to someone come to my life as a man and add something like when the child

00:08:38.720 coming add something and a good friends coming add something and you have a good brother and sister

00:08:43.600 they add something to our life and the same uh the the the men and women can go out of the relationship

00:08:51.760 for many reasons it can be because they are not compatible because there is first of the time you know

00:08:58.240 when they meet each other with each other there's a loss of hormone engage and when the hormones 0.69

00:09:03.280 suppressed during the time they said oh she's not thinking like me he's not behaving the way i want

00:09:09.760 you know we are two different personalities doesn't mean if we are good or bad we are just different

00:09:15.680 or negative things they are cheating um they are you know at the really to the point that's you know

00:09:24.480 we don't want each other we don't like each other anymore yeah but yeah i under i understand that

00:09:28.880 that happens but i just don't think it's a good reason when you have kids what do you mean because

00:09:33.280 kids are more likely to go to prison they're more likely to drop out of school they're more likely

00:09:36.640 to be abused because when we talk about growing apart it's like you're going to divorce over growing

00:09:42.800 apart when you have a kid because it's not supposed to be about you it's supposed to be about the kid oh my

00:09:47.440 god i'll give you my if i give you my example my son is at university at warwick university i left my

00:09:53.680 husband i'm not i'm not talking about you though like this is like a lot of times people take this

00:09:57.920 stuff personally what i'm saying is um in fact both my kids said to me and that's a feedback given to a

00:10:05.600 parent by the children is mom i cannot believe you stayed in that relationship for so long we are so

00:10:11.760 happy you did that they even try to approach their dad but what i'm saying is um there is a perspective

00:10:19.760 towards it but can i interrupt i have to interrupt because i have two children i've i've seen witnessed

00:10:24.880 everything i know the world i know everyone for a child not having a personal dig at anyone

00:10:30.160 hypothetically speaking for a child i'm a mom of two for a child to come to a parent and say mom i can't

00:10:38.160 believe you stayed with dad it's like what have you said to that child for that child to say that

00:10:43.360 to you it shouldn't it should not have witnessed it should love his mom and dad equally it that's

00:10:49.280 what you call narcissistic toxic abuse feeding it to the children at its highest level it depends

00:10:56.640 children are human beings they are observant as well and as a good mother i'm sorry don't raise my

00:11:02.400 voice i have a microphone but as a good mother you tell that child it's your father have a good

00:11:07.200 relation healthy relationship with that father and that even if it's toxic hang on hang even if

00:11:11.680 it's sorry i haven't finished my point let me finish my point i tell my children whenever your father

00:11:18.080 is ready go and meet him it's not personal i was hyped i know but what are you are trying to say is

00:11:24.880 i have always put positive projection towards your dad i said he give you birth he has done his job

00:11:30.720 after that there is no responsibility of him what do you what do you mean that's not positive projection

00:11:36.160 that he no i mean like positive projection is he's an honorable man he's a good man

00:11:43.120 he gave birth to you no no i mean when they feel the need of uh he's not financially there he's not

00:11:49.120 physically he doesn't have to be financially why does the kid know if he's not financially there

00:11:54.000 why does the man have to be there but why does a man have to be the financial financier why does he have

00:12:00.160 to he doesn't have to but what i'm saying is did you marry someone parents responsibility no no no

00:12:07.120 it's it's both parents responsibility but what i'm saying is during covid time my son decided to

00:12:12.880 approach his dad his dad was so bitter that he got he came back to me and i said what happened like you

00:12:20.080 know go and talk why was the dad bitter he was just bitter and angry but why with me why for leaving

00:12:27.600 him okay so he was angry that you left him yeah isn't that a valid reason to be angry yeah i had it

00:12:33.520 absolutely it will it should be a valid reason for him to angry but what i'm saying is staying in a

00:12:39.040 relationship where you are miserable and making he is miserable as well is not healthy for him but i

00:12:45.760 think this is the problem this is such a modern this is such a modern mindset it's like it marriage

00:12:50.880 isn't supposed to be about your happiness your happiness is going to come and go like and you

00:12:55.440 shouldn't rely on another person to make you happy if you don't have no communication with somebody my

00:13:00.560 marriage was an arranged marriage i never spoke to the guy on our wedding night i i never i only met

00:13:07.120 him once before i got married to him so 18 years living with somebody who doesn't speak to you

00:13:12.160 and you're just living in a house and sleeping together he never talked to you ever no it's

00:13:16.800 literally just about no i mean like you guys never had conversations like this isn't 18 years exactly

00:13:22.640 you can live with somebody for but i think but i think a lot of times as women like we put our 1.00

00:13:27.120 expectations on men but can i say men don't communicate but men were like wait wait but when men

00:13:32.400 don't communicate the same way we do like men just want to sit like they don't talk to us he was from a 0.91

00:13:37.440 different place i was born i was born around six brothers in pakistan so my my my context about

00:13:45.840 men was very different to his context of a woman a modern woman from england right so it was but we

00:13:53.840 never communicated with each other for 18 years now what i know if i've known that 18 years ago that

00:13:59.680 relationship would have stayed for life

JustPearlyThings - July 01, 2023

Disrespectful Woman Throws Personally Attacks Pearl

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