00:01:02.040The reality is that our marriage and partnership market value is depreciating with every passing year.
00:01:09.680No matter how good we look, no matter how fit we are, men are still seeing primarily our presumed dwindling fertility as a knock against us.
00:01:21.680If you are a young black woman in college and you know in your heart and in your head that you want to prioritize family, I suggest that you simultaneously pursue that MRS degree right along with that BA or JD.
00:01:35.260Because a handful of black college-aged men that actually do desire to get married soon and they do share that value system and family is a priority for them too.
00:01:45.280Y'all, that is an incredibly small pool and it's shrinking as you get older.
00:01:49.440And by the time you reach my age, 40, you will be faced with different choices relating to life.
00:01:55.500So I actually thought that was awesome.
00:01:57.740I was going to say she's doing something good for the world.
00:02:45.820I mean, she, she's saying it right there.
00:02:48.200I mean, the fact that she obviously made the comment about the bus drivers, I think she's kind of, look, I think that's a very harsh thing to say, especially in her current state.
00:02:57.580But the way she's talking there, yeah, I would argue that she's, she's probably done some kind of introspection, maybe something that happened that triggered this introspection.
00:03:07.900She's, she's telling women the right thing.
00:03:10.520And, and that, as harsh as it may sound to women who don't tend to hear that, and it's not, it's not out there.
00:03:16.200It's not popular, this kind of narrative.
00:03:17.640It may seem harsh, but the truth is, that's actually a lot kinder than what the majority of women who are telling you, you know, go get your degree, go and get your job.
00:03:27.420And then maybe when you're 38, after you've frozen your eggs and all that crap, maybe then you can find a guy.
00:03:33.540And, and the other thing, too, is that she, I don't, I think what she's saying is more realistic.
00:03:55.720I actually, I have a friend that did that.
00:03:57.240She was in the military and she ended up marrying, I don't know, like she, she's, she's all about, she's like, you're de-stigmatized dating your boss.
00:04:09.320She's like, she's like, I'm not saying every person should do this, but she literally was like, no, you, we got to de-stigmatize this.
00:04:15.380I would advise young women to get a job in the field that they want to marry.
00:04:21.060Well, at least then, you know, you're going to have at least one thing in, in common.
00:04:24.500And I think it just shows our general shift in values as a society that we now sort of have this stigma of like, you know, don't date someone at work.