JustPearlyThings - Emotional man tries to shame men for cheating

00:00:00.000 I have a question for the ladies if this is okay, have any of you ever knowingly, like deep deep down inside been a booty call, knowingly, have you ever knowingly been a booty call, like a guy who's just, you're a side piece, you're not serious, but you're turning up and you know he's calling you at 11 o'clock for good reason, like he ain't taking you out, he ain't doing all the nice things, you're turning up knowing what this is really about, he may be lovely to you, he may say all the nice things to you,

00:00:29.060 but you deep down in your, I'm just going to say no, no I haven't, I personally haven't been in that situation, but each people or persons or people that are in that set up, yes, what about situationship, anyone, raise your hand, situationship, never, every guy you've slept with, you've been in a relationship with, 100%, yeah, three years plus, okay, wow, yeah, you have been in a situationship, no, every person I've had any interviews with, I've been in a relationship with,

00:00:59.060 these recruiters need to step their game up, they're too nice, get some holes in the panel please, wait what, did you get some holes in the panel, can we get some, we're trying to, you see what he's saying though, because a situationship is the same thing, no, I understand that, it is, but you are both single, yeah, and if you both agree, it's like, if you know what the set up is, and you're like, okay, look, I've got an itch,

00:01:29.060 I need you to scratch, I'll call you, if that's the set up, then fair enough, each of their own, but personally, I've never been in that situation,

00:01:36.880 were you married, you're married, am I, you're married, somewhat, you mean somewhat, I just couldn't remember what you said in the beginning, I didn't answer that question, oh, okay, I see a ring, I'm just not, yes, there is a ring there, okay, yes, no, it just surprises me, because if you're still single at 35,

00:01:54.260 I'm like, every guy, you're in a relationship by 35, I wouldn't say every guy that I've been with, I would say, in my younger days, you know, when you're finding yourself, and you don't really,

00:02:06.880 women sometimes, want a little bit more than men, and what I wanted, is not necessarily what he wanted, but, they sell you this dream, take you down the stream, 1.00

00:02:19.980 oh, and kind of just leave you there, kind of thing, you know, and that was my experience, right, but, but that's still a situationship, if you weren't together,

00:02:28.860 no, we were in a relationship, oh, you were in a relationship, yes, we were in a relationship, and then he then went on to go and find what was appealing to himself,

00:02:38.980 and that's how that relationship dissolved, oh, so he cheated on you, yes, I, I've never gone out, I've never cheated on an individual,

00:02:48.240 but I have had it happen to me twice, I'm not picking the wrong guys, because it doesn't matter if you're, you could be a really good guy,

00:02:56.940 I mean, like, what one of you said, where, you know, they went out, and this guy was married, but he was still out there looking for something else,

00:03:03.760 do you know what I mean, so, sometimes you can't really, how, how tall were the guys, how tall, um,

00:03:11.160 oh, oh, I don't know, I'm like five two, so they were a little bit, I don't know, probably six,

00:03:17.180 okay, six foot, and, like, how much money did they make, roughly, well, at the time, we were, like, teenagers,

00:03:22.420 so, we were all just grafting, we arrived, some of us were either still in college, or, you know, doing a little Saturday job,

00:03:29.820 and stuff like that, we wasn't in a state where, like,

00:03:33.760 as I am now, in my thirties, where I'm more established,

00:03:37.900 so, give and take, you know, we were still in college,

00:03:42.120 so, they had a bachelor's degree, or they were in college, so they got a degree, too,

00:03:45.500 yeah, so, they were, yeah, they were working,

00:03:47.560 I have, I have a point, I'm just going to read, I'm just going to read, I'm just going to read some stats,

00:03:51.420 so, once, once a man earns over 300k,

00:03:54.380 um, the odds of him cheating increased by roughly 50%,

00:03:57.180 with a third of men, um, in that, in that higher income bracket,

00:04:00.860 cheating on their wives, only 6% of these unfaithful men report that their marriages

00:04:05.100 were coming to an end, or didn't love their wives anymore,

00:04:07.940 the remaining 94% still love their wives,

00:04:10.820 goes without saying that men don't cheat more,

00:04:13.300 um, or, women don't cheat more when they're in a higher income bracket, 1.00

00:04:17.400 beyond wealth, the men who are over 6 foot tall,

00:04:20.080 are statistically 38% more likely to cheat,

00:04:22.920 which is presumably just down to the opportunity,

00:04:24.940 intriguingly, um, university degrees are 34% more likely to cheat,

00:04:31.620 so, it's like, if we're going after the guys with all of these qualities,

00:04:35.200 like, do you think we should maybe expect it on some level?

00:04:38.080 Yeah, I reckon, of course you can expect it more,

00:04:40.040 if a guy's over 6 foot kind of thing,

00:04:42.660 he, he believes he's got more power,

00:04:44.500 if you're making more money,

00:04:45.820 then that female, you know you've got more power, 1.00

00:04:48.560 so, girls have to, 1.00

00:04:50.260 I feel like all of these external things, right,

00:04:53.400 they only draw out what is innately in you already,

00:04:56.500 you could be a billionaire,

00:04:58.540 and 7 foot 5,

00:04:59.960 but if you have morals and principles,

00:05:01.340 and you genuinely love the woman that's with you,

00:05:02.840 you're not going to go cheat,

00:05:03.540 but it's just nowadays, bro,

00:05:05.500 there's so much options,

00:05:07.780 I disagree,

00:05:08.800 I disagree with that,

00:05:10.240 I'll tell you why,

00:05:11.240 because,

00:05:12.480 if you,

00:05:13.120 if you look at like NBA players,

00:05:15.000 and like,

00:05:15.300 and professional athletes,

00:05:16.520 there are women that go to those games, 1.00

00:05:18.140 and seek those men out,

00:05:19.220 trying to get them to cheat on their wives,

00:05:21.540 like,

00:05:21.760 there are girls that have said,

00:05:22.780 word for word,

00:05:23.800 I,

00:05:24.000 I,

00:05:24.280 it took me years,

00:05:25.400 but I finally got them to cheat,

00:05:27.060 yeah,

00:05:27.240 but what kind of,

00:05:28.040 so,

00:05:28.600 so my point is,

00:05:29.460 even a good guy,

00:05:31.180 if you're telling me,

00:05:32.000 some of the most beautiful women,

00:05:33.380 you've ever seen in your life,

00:05:34.600 are chasing you down,

00:05:35.840 hunting you,

00:05:36.500 they know everything about you,

00:05:38.120 trying to get you to cheat,

00:05:39.940 I,

00:05:40.240 I think like,

00:05:41.100 people are human,

00:05:42.040 over the course of like,

00:05:42.960 a 20 year career,

00:05:44.100 not once,

00:05:44.640 yeah,

00:05:44.840 but if your relationship is solely based,

00:05:46.920 around a sexual experience,

00:05:48.340 then of course,

00:05:48.840 there's always going to be someone,

00:05:49.800 with more curvaceous booty, 0.70

00:05:50.920 just around the corner,

00:05:51.780 but if you're dealing with an actual woman, 0.92

00:05:54.200 on a spiritual,

00:05:55.080 financial,

00:05:55.780 physical realm,

00:05:56.700 then,

00:05:57.720 there is nothing that you're going to give me,

00:05:59.320 that this woman doesn't satisfy me with already,

00:06:01.040 and I'm talking from experience,

00:06:02.160 I'll be honest,

00:06:02.660 before any of my ex-girlfriends,

00:06:03.720 call me out in the comment sections,

00:06:04.780 I was a serial cheater,

00:06:05.660 when I was young,

00:06:06.800 but I've seen first hand,

00:06:07.800 my elder sister,

00:06:08.600 my youngest sister,

00:06:09.560 what they've gone through,

00:06:10.500 and the heartbreak that a man,

00:06:11.620 was able to cause,

00:06:12.640 and it was almost God's way of showing me,

00:06:14.300 this is what you're doing,

00:06:14.980 to these other women,

00:06:15.660 so I can tell you,

00:06:17.760 categorically,

00:06:18.800 he's too pretty to be speaking like this,

00:06:20.780 I can tell you categorically,

00:06:22.120 sorry for you,

00:06:24.460 can I just ask you a quick question,

00:06:27.160 what's the longest,

00:06:27.800 you've been monogamous to a girl?

00:06:29.700 five years,

00:06:30.520 five years,

00:06:30.800 but that's not 25,

00:06:32.320 that's not 34,

00:06:32.780 but in the last four years,

00:06:34.860 in the last three and a half years,

00:06:37.000 in the last three and a half years,

00:06:38.180 yeah,

00:06:38.760 I've never,

00:06:39.600 ever,

00:06:39.740 ever,

00:06:39.920 ever cheated,

00:06:40.480 it's never even crossed my mind,

00:06:41.580 and because of my line of work,

00:06:42.680 I can go on my Instagram right now,

00:06:44.000 and I've got blue tics,

00:06:44.880 with two,

00:06:45.640 three million followers,

00:06:46.380 asking me to go to the estates, 1.00

00:06:47.780 to have sexual intercourse, 1.00

00:06:49.620 and I say no, 0.99

00:06:50.560 why?

00:06:51.060 Because from a mature standpoint,

00:06:53.320 I know,

00:06:54.200 that what I want in a woman, 1.00

00:06:55.220 isn't just sex,

00:06:56.400 you know, 0.99

00:06:56.620 look at your mother, 0.87

00:06:57.500 look at your,

00:06:57.780 you know,

00:06:58.300 it's so much deeper than sex,

00:07:00.740 that happens,

00:07:03.540 but I'm just saying,

00:07:04.480 like,

00:07:04.860 I think that even a good man,

00:07:06.360 can do it,

00:07:07.220 on a bad day,

00:07:08.060 that's my point,

00:07:09.600 like,

00:07:09.780 it's not that,

00:07:10.600 it's not that you should,

00:07:11.600 or you shouldn't,

00:07:12.200 not if you're in love,

00:07:13.020 no,

00:07:13.300 Martin Luther King,

00:07:14.800 you know,

00:07:15.160 he had a stable of holes,

00:07:16.160 bro,

00:07:16.380 Muhammad Ali was out here,

00:07:17.680 every other day,

00:07:18.900 with a different one,

00:07:19.720 one thing I want to say,

00:07:20.840 is that,

00:07:21.200 we were talking about,

00:07:22.200 these high achievers,

00:07:23.220 these men who earn over 300,000,

00:07:25.060 those men,

00:07:26.340 they don't,

00:07:27.260 like,

00:07:27.420 that doesn't just happen overnight,

00:07:28.840 you have to train your brain,

00:07:30.220 and do,

00:07:30.740 being a mogul,

00:07:31.720 and all of this,

00:07:32.240 like,

00:07:32.520 you be selfish,

00:07:33.540 every single day,

00:07:34.360 you're thinking,

00:07:34.700 me,

00:07:34.980 me,

00:07:35.260 me,

00:07:35.560 me,

00:07:35.800 me,

00:07:35.980 so any woman,

00:07:37.040 who wants to then weave in, 0.65

00:07:38.260 with that,

00:07:38.600 that way of life,

00:07:40.320 you can't just come up here,

00:07:41.620 and expect a man,

00:07:42.560 to change who he is,

00:07:43.820 and be a different person,

00:07:44.840 because he needs you,

00:07:46.160 to weave into his life,

00:07:47.340 and a lot of women, 1.00

00:07:47.960 aren't willing to do that,

00:07:48.800 these days,

00:07:49.260 and also part of the problem is,

00:07:51.500 these men are like,

00:07:52.660 the alpha males,

00:07:53.580 and I know that's such a,

00:07:54.360 like, 0.94

00:07:54.580 a ridiculous word to use these days, 0.83

00:07:56.180 because people have used it, 0.98

00:07:57.020 and bastardized it,

00:07:57.740 but I feel like these men,

00:07:59.200 like,

00:07:59.820 they're bred to be,

00:08:01.720 as successful as possible,

00:08:02.880 to provide,

00:08:03.500 and also part of the problem is,

00:08:05.120 they all want to like, 1.00

00:08:05.920 fuck every day, 1.00

00:08:06.920 and they're like, 1.00

00:08:07.840 they're not in control of themselves,

00:08:09.160 around women,

00:08:09.940 in the way that,

00:08:10.760 a man who,

00:08:11.600 well actually,

00:08:12.480 I wonder how a lot of these men,

00:08:13.780 who aren't in that situation,

00:08:14.820 who are like,

00:08:15.220 slagging these men off,

00:08:16.320 if they were in that situation,

00:08:17.700 would you have these morals,

00:08:18.840 that you claim to have, 1.00

00:08:19.580 when no one's trying to fuck you, 0.99

00:08:21.040 I don't know, 1.00

00:08:21.840 I just think cheating is wrong man,

00:08:23.180 just for my boy,

00:08:23.920 even though I've done it before,

00:08:25.100 I've done it before,

00:08:25.720 there's nothing cool about it,

00:08:26.640 it should not be glamorized,

00:08:27.640 we should not normalize it,

00:08:28.680 we're not,

00:08:28.940 I'm not saying to glamorize it,

00:08:30.620 but I'm saying,

00:08:31.500 the last two million years,

00:08:32.840 the world has been one way,

00:08:34.100 I'm not going to tell the world,

00:08:35.040 how to be,

00:08:35.780 and I think a lot of times,

00:08:36.660 women go into relationships, 1.00

00:08:37.800 with like delusional expectations,

00:08:39.660 like the top 15% of men,

00:08:41.500 for the last two million years,

00:08:43.060 have always cheated,

00:08:44.620 and now you're coming in,

00:08:45.680 and saying,

00:08:46.060 well he's going to be faithful to me,

00:08:47.680 okay good luck,

00:08:48.620 my message to women is,

00:08:50.080 conduct yourself in a certain esteem,

00:08:51.540 and if a man is cheaping,

00:08:52.700 or nothing to cheat on you,

00:08:53.620 he's going to lose out,

00:08:54.400 and he will potentially,

00:08:55.420 go with a woman, 1.00

00:08:56.120 who's going to cheat on him, 0.95

00:08:57.240 don't change your standards,

00:08:58.520 by any way,

00:08:59.000 and I think that sounds really nice,

00:09:00.920 but it's not nice,

00:09:01.780 when they can't replace the guy,

00:09:03.700 and that's the sad thing,

00:09:04.860 is like I'll talk to girls,

00:09:05.820 and they'll talk about,

00:09:06.560 how their mom,

00:09:07.060 or their mom left their dad,

00:09:08.680 because he cheated,

00:09:09.360 and now she's dying alone,

00:09:11.120 and so it's like,

00:09:11.920 is it really a better option,

00:09:13.640 and that's why they don't talk to you,

00:09:14.460 I'd rather be alone,

00:09:15.580 so you'll be happy,

00:09:16.740 staying with someone,

00:09:17.480 that's consistently cheating on you,

00:09:18.720 than dying alone,

00:09:19.760 that's cat,

00:09:20.820 so sorry,

00:09:21.680 but what does that look like,

00:09:24.140 no no no no,

00:09:24.840 so wait wait wait,

00:09:25.640 what does that look like,

00:09:26.620 dying alone,

00:09:27.480 okay,

00:09:27.940 most women, 0.99

00:09:28.500 you need 2.5 million to retire,

00:09:30.540 okay,

00:09:31.340 and there's a lot of evidence,

00:09:33.020 to suggest that the UK,

00:09:34.040 is going to start rolling back,

00:09:35.200 the benefits,

00:09:35.660 that mostly women are on,

00:09:37.380 so what does that look like,

00:09:38.520 dying alone,

00:09:39.320 I don't know,

00:09:40.000 on the streets,

00:09:40.680 being homeless,

00:09:41.700 could you work it out,

00:09:42.340 with your husband,

00:09:42.840 or is it better to be homeless,

00:09:43.380 not every woman,

00:09:44.240 that isn't in a relationship,

00:09:45.580 is alone,

00:09:46.280 they might have a family,

00:09:47.300 they could have kids,

00:09:49.140 it doesn't necessarily,

00:09:49.960 mean they're alone,

00:09:50.700 just because they're not with a man,

00:09:51.460 now you have to mooch off, 0.99

00:09:52.680 of everyone around you,

00:09:53.680 instead of working it out,

00:09:54.620 with your husband,

00:09:55.300 I would love to do that,

00:09:56.420 doesn't mean that,

00:09:57.060 I mean,

00:09:57.680 I would love to do that,

00:09:58.460 as many of you know,

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JustPearlyThings - May 01, 2023

Emotional man tries to shame men for cheating

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