JustPearlyThings - October 21, 2023


Entitled Female REJECTS Cheese Cake Factory First Date


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6 minutes

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1,369

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147

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14

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3

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In this episode, we talk about a woman who has a guy take her on a date to the Cheesecake factory and she doesn't want to go. We also talk about the importance of being on time on a first date and how important it is to be on time.

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00:00:00.000 Moving on to the next topic today, we're going to be taking a look at a video of a woman who, 0.88
00:00:04.960 she basically got taken on a date by a guy, and he brought her to the Cheesecake Factory,
00:00:09.840 which I think is like a, I don't know if they actually do cheesecake, but I think it's like a TGI Friday's type place.
00:00:15.920 I think they do do cheesecake as well. That's what I've heard.
00:00:18.320 Anyway, it's a restaurant nonetheless, and this lady got taken to this restaurant, 0.92
00:00:22.320 and she is very unhappy with her situation. Even though she's on a date,
00:00:26.320 you would think it would be ladylike and polite to just be happy to be on the date,
00:00:31.920 but she seems to have a different idea. Let's take a look.
00:00:39.200 Let me just get the door for you.
00:00:40.800 Okay.
00:00:43.760 Can you rest your room?
00:00:44.960 You want to talk about it?
00:00:49.600 So you expect a man to go all out on the first date, is that right?
00:00:53.760 I mean, you're supposed to.
00:00:55.040 Look at, I mean.
00:00:58.000 Wow.
00:01:00.400 Yeah.
00:01:01.680 Speechless at that.
00:01:04.160 It's just the entitlement.
00:01:06.000 You know, she, she's, she's admitting to everything that she did wrong,
00:01:09.680 and she's saying that she's not ready for him to come up to her apartment.
00:01:15.440 So he says, okay, fine.
00:01:16.560 If we're, if we're not ready for that, then maybe you're not ready for me to splash all my money out
00:01:21.680 on a fancy date. And well, I think that's fair enough.
00:01:24.480 Yeah. I think I understand what she's saying on a first date. You don't want someone don't want me
00:01:29.440 anyway. I would sort of feel a bit uncomfortable having a man come into my place because obviously,
00:01:34.560 you know, it leads to things.
00:01:36.080 But be on time then, because he's saying he was waiting for her for a whole hour.
00:01:41.040 So be on time. If you don't want him coming inside your flat, be on time.
00:01:45.200 Be downstairs at the right time that you both agreed to be there for.
00:01:48.720 And, you know, go on a date. Don't keep him waiting around because then, yeah, he's not going
00:01:53.600 to take you to a fancy restaurant. He's going to take you to the Cheesecake Factory.
00:01:56.800 And also, I'm sorry, but, are you thinking what I'm thinking?
00:02:03.760 She's saying she's doing everything that she should be doing for a woman. 0.96
00:02:06.800 And she's basically acting like she's a 10. 1.00
00:02:09.200 Yeah.
00:02:09.680 And she's very clearly not a 10.
00:02:11.680 I mean, she was like, does it look like I belong in the Cheesecake Factory?
00:02:15.280 Yes, kind of.
00:02:16.320 Yeah. You look like pretty much any other girl. 1.00
00:02:19.680 Like, you're nothing special.
00:02:21.600 And from what I know of the Cheesecake Factory, it's just a normal restaurant.
00:02:25.520 I'm trying to think of what the equivalent is over here.
00:02:27.760 Maybe like Harvester or like...
00:02:29.440 I have never heard.
00:02:30.080 You've never heard of Harvester?
00:02:31.120 No.
00:02:31.280 I don't know.
00:02:31.600 Have you heard of Lola's Cupcakes?
00:02:33.600 Sure.
00:02:35.280 Even Lola's Cupcakes?
00:02:36.560 I think that's a bit expensive.
00:02:37.680 I'd be so happy to go.
00:02:38.240 I know.
00:02:40.720 But, I mean, we can both agree.
00:02:42.400 She is acting like she is the type of woman that is... 1.00
00:02:46.560 We're talking a 9, a 10, a model.
00:02:50.000 She's just not.
00:02:50.560 And I think something really important to note here is this woman is not interested in this man.
00:02:56.160 Not even remotely.
00:02:57.200 Yeah, you can tell.
00:02:58.080 Because if she was interested in him, he could have taken her anywhere.
00:03:01.840 Okay?
00:03:02.800 Women, when they are interested in a man, it doesn't matter where you are. 1.00
00:03:06.960 You're just grateful to be around him.
00:03:08.880 I remember when me and my boyfriend first started dating, he made a joke once.
00:03:12.960 And he was like, I'm taking you to the Golden Arches.
00:03:15.840 And I thought, oh my God, that sounds so fancy.
00:03:18.800 I'd never heard this joke before.
00:03:20.560 I'd never heard McDonald's be referred to as the Golden Arches.
00:03:23.680 Yeah.
00:03:24.000 So I was like, wow, what's the Golden Arches?
00:03:27.040 And we turned up at McDonald's.
00:03:28.720 And when he said it, I was kind of thinking, I'm not dressed for a Golden Arches type place.
00:03:33.120 Like, what is this place?
00:03:34.400 And then we turned up at McDonald's.
00:03:35.440 And not only was I relieved because I thought, oh, you know, I am not dressed for a fancy place.
00:03:40.240 But we were happy.
00:03:41.040 It didn't matter because I was just happy to be with him.
00:03:44.640 Yeah.
00:03:44.960 It wasn't about where we was going.
00:03:46.960 And any girl who's actually interested in a guy, it doesn't matter where you are. 1.00
00:03:50.480 It doesn't matter what you're doing.
00:03:51.280 It could be a walk in the park.
00:03:52.480 It could be a coffee.
00:03:53.840 It could literally be anything.
00:03:55.200 You're just happy to be around them.
00:03:56.960 So, you know, I think this guy has dodged a billet here.
00:03:59.280 Definitely.
00:03:59.920 She was using him.
00:04:01.440 Of course she's using him.
00:04:02.480 And she probably does this to many guys. 1.00
00:04:05.040 Yeah.
00:04:05.360 And you can tell just from her entitlement and her attitude, the type of woman she is. 0.99
00:04:09.280 But yeah, these are what the comments are saying.
00:04:12.160 He should have just taken her to a factory.
00:04:14.720 Forget the cheesecake part.
00:04:17.840 Get her doing some hard label with that dollhouse mindset. 0.99
00:04:21.040 Yeah.
00:04:21.360 True.
00:04:22.480 Completely agree.
00:04:23.200 I'd love to watch that.
00:04:24.240 So goodbye.
00:04:25.680 Part two.
00:04:27.600 Another one says, she looks dressed for McDonald's. 1.00
00:04:30.240 She's lucky.
00:04:32.640 Yeah.
00:04:34.080 Yeah.
00:04:34.960 She looks dressed like she's going to the cheesecake factory. 0.92
00:04:37.440 She does though.
00:04:38.240 That's what I said.
00:04:38.880 Like, you know.
00:04:40.560 It's nothing special.
00:04:41.680 She doesn't look dressed up.
00:04:43.440 So I'm a bit confused as to why she thinks that she belongs in a fancy restaurant when she doesn't even. 0.99
00:04:49.200 And this is what we're doing to women is that we're telling all women. 0.91
00:04:51.920 Yeah.
00:04:52.480 You can be a 10.
00:04:53.520 We're telling all women beauty has nothing to do with about.
00:04:56.400 We're telling all women beauty has nothing to do with how you look.
00:04:59.120 Beauty is a feeling.
00:05:00.400 And as long as you can emulate that feeling of empowerment and self-love and confidence,
00:05:06.480 then that somehow equates to how you look on the outside.
00:05:08.960 But the reality is you look how you look.
00:05:11.120 Yeah.
00:05:11.520 It's good if you are happy within your own skin.
00:05:14.560 I would never wish for anyone to be uncomfortable in their own skin.
00:05:18.480 But you look how you look.
00:05:19.520 And that is a fact.
00:05:20.720 And you just have to accept your circumstances for what they are.
00:05:24.160 Be grateful that you are in the position that you are.
00:05:26.800 Because let's not forget, you know, you might not be the prettiest person in the world,
00:05:30.080 but not everyone can use their arms and legs.
00:05:32.400 You know?
00:05:32.720 Exactly.
00:05:33.200 Yeah.
00:05:33.360 There's always going to be someone worse than you.
00:05:35.440 And we've seemed to have fallen prey to this mindset of teaching girls that we're on a pedestal.
00:05:41.280 And that all men have to kind of flock and climb on top of each other to try and reach you.
00:05:44.720 And give us anything we want.
00:05:46.320 And it expects nothing of the women, which is completely unfair to the men.
00:05:52.400 And I actually feel really bad for this guy because he's waited around an hour for her.
00:05:57.440 He's bought her somewhere.
00:05:58.720 And he even got out of the car to open the door for her.
00:06:00.960 Yeah.
00:06:01.200 Oh, I didn't even see that.
00:06:02.800 He got out of the car.
00:06:03.680 He says, do you want me to open the door for you?
00:06:05.200 But she had locked the door to his car.
00:06:07.360 Yeah, it's crazy.
00:06:09.360 You can tell he's so genuine and she's just like deluded. 1.00
00:06:12.400 But she looks like mentally ill. 1.00
00:06:14.240 I don't know, there's kind of something weird there. 0.94
00:06:16.320 The way she's filming herself the entire time and making faces.
00:06:19.200 Like she's a celebrity.
00:06:20.400 Yeah, it's really like, I think she's deluded in more ways than one.
00:06:23.600 Like she thinks she's better than she is as well, which is also a delusion.
00:06:26.800 I think what's scary is the fact that she's not a rare type of woman. 0.95
00:06:29.920 I think what's scary is the fact that there's probably loads of these videos out there.
00:06:33.600 This just happens to be one that's blown up.
00:06:36.400 There we go.