Every SINGLE Woman Loves This Kind Of Man
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about toxic relationships and how to deal with them. We also talk about why women are attracted to toxic men and why they stay in toxic relationships. We also discuss how toxic men can make a woman feel bad about leaving a relationship.
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How long do you think women want to leave marriages before they do?
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Yeah, like they just always say like if a girl starts working out and going to the gym,
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It sounds really extreme, but if it keeps happening, there's all these patterns.
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Well, we was together 10 years and we split up for three years.
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I'm not going to get into the details because I'm not here to be emotional or anything like that,
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but it was quite, let's just say abusive, simply.
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You know, like, if she's dressing, as we'd say, like a slag, then I wouldn't have it.
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And I said to her, like, if you want to dress like that, that's fine, but don't, like, don't be with me.
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I'm not controlling your choice, but she'd take that and make me into being controlling.
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I think what she's doing is gaslighting, which sadly happens both ways because I personally have only have one ex,
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and he did exactly that to me for a good two years.
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And it's been literally a life-changing experience.
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And I think what's really sad is that this is literally, like, it doesn't matter what gender,
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there are good people out there who just, you know, we were simple-minded people who just wanted to,
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we were excited to meet someone who we thought we were going to be happy with.
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And these people are, they're so good at manipulating you.
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And when they have their clothes in you, boom, they start coming in.
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I think, like, there's something you're attracted to about it.
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Well, I think it's because, like, the same traits the hero has, the villain has, too.
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So, if a dude is very, like, they always say, like, why does that girl stay with their girlfriend?
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Or the, why does the girl stay with the boyfriend that beats her up?
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Well, it's because, like, that aggression that's in the hero is also in the villain.
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You ask any girl, if, when they say, like, they got a crush, a celebrity crush or something,
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I guarantee it's going to be the villain in the movie.
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Would it be okay if I just make the distinction and the reason why these girls are getting
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They, women actually, go look in a romance novel.
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And you can go to a romance novel in a bookstore.
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You can see that girls tend to go for the hunky guys, the vampires, the bad boys, and they
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Now, now, now, now, now, the important thing is, is that they are actually innately attracted.
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Girls start off the feminine energy does want the man, though they want the masculine,
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No, because, because I genuinely feel that they, I'll say this from personal experience.
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Because I, as a, as a young girl, as well as remembered, like I, I have a very traditional
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My mother stayed at home, took care of the kids.
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That is what I saw myself, envisioned myself with.
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And sadly, because times have changed, my, my, my mom started saying, you can't just,
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You, you, you've got to have something to bring to the table.
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I spent the time on myself and I really like worked on myself, try to be a good, you know,
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But the thing is then in that journey, I became too masculine, right?
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And, and then of course, then these girls are asking why I'm not getting the guy, the
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I had to remind myself that I need to tone it down.
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There are certain times where that's appropriate, such as when I'm in a more work situation and
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I defined, I actually looked at myself and I said, what do I want?
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Do I want a feminine man or do I want a masculine man?
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Why did, why did your mom, why do you think your mom, um, encouraged you to be masculine?
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If it's, it seemed to have worked out well for her.
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Actually, we had this conversation and my mom said to me, she said in my times, she said,
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So she does attract guys anyways, but she was saying like, I would use to walk on the
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street and I will see great quality men everywhere.
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Like, I feel like I can just pick them off the street.
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She was like, it makes me really sad, but I feel like guys are not as high caliber anymore.
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I'm scared that they're going to not be able to deal with themselves and they don't have
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So to compensate, she's pushing me on the other direction of being self-sufficient.
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But the danger of that is that it was overshot.
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So yeah, like you said, your mom's pushing you that way.
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Just to go back on your point that you made before, the fact that you realized you was
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too masculine, that is what men I think today are asking women to do.
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For me, I've got female friends that I've got boyfriends and they sometimes ask me for
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advice and I just tell them, look in the mirror.
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And I'm not talking about looking at your body, your face.
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I'm saying, look in the mirror and look at the person you're being.
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When you're going to restaurants, like, how are you trying to, you trying to dominate
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the situation when you go to a family gathering, trying to dominate, like, you have to let
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Do you guys think there's a shortage of husbands or wives?
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I'd say there's a shortage on husbands because men, like, it's just not worth it.
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Like, any logical man, which most men, it's safe to say illogical, I'd say it just doesn't
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Oh, because they don't want to get married, is what you're saying.
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Um, I can, I'd like you to, so you think, you sort of explained a little bit, you think
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Um, I don't think it's that men don't want to get married.
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Like, I'd love to get married, but to the right woman that I know that wouldn't, like,
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Because I have very big plans for my future, and I'm not trying to risk it for no one,
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because, like, if a woman can marry me for a year and take everything that I've worked
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for over all these years and put every ounce of effort into, then, like, as someone who
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wants to get into business, that does not seem like good business, you know?
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So, me, that's, that's more of a point to why I think there's less wives.
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So, I think, traditionally, and even currently, men court women.
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So, if we can't find a woman, I think that's the problem now.
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It's like, we're not, we're not making it blunt enough, like, men don't want to get married
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to the current women, and we have multiple reasons for that.
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Like, let's not talk about OnlyFans, let's not talk about masculine women, like, it's, it's
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simple, like, we just don't think women are good enough now for us to settle down
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So, do you think that women don't think they're good enough for men, or men don't think they're
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good, or do you think it's, because I think that, like, women don't think men are good
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Yeah, I think, because if you look in history, I don't, I think women dated and married average
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Because a lot, a question I ask on my show often is, like, how much does your submission
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And, and I say, like, to the point that, like, if he said, quit your job tomorrow, be with
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Yeah, I've seen you ask them for the salary number.
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And they always say six figures, even if they're fives.
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Even though that's a percent, how much people, how much men in the world don't say six figures?
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Yeah, and so then the next question is always, are you a top 10% girl?
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And so it's like, you have girls that are not top 10% asking for a top 10% outcomes in
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I think they, I've heard this before somewhere, I'm not sure where, but I heard that women
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Like, they think what the man says is just absolutely final without reason.
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And when submission really is just, you know, it's not that you don't get a say in the
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It's just that there's a leader and you're second in command.
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There's someone in primary command, but you're still in second in command.
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It's like, like, cause you can, I mean, every, every person knows like that couple that's
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We're like, even, even though the guy's in charge, like the woman's kind of in charge,
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cause she's just so feminine and kind of can, can get her, him to like see her point
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You know, you can't, there's a couple that comes to your head, right?
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