JustPearlyThings - July 03, 2023


Ex Playboy REVEALS Why He Is Monogamous


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

166.9976

Word Count

1,654

Sentence Count

112

Misogynist Sentences

10

Hate Speech Sentences

8


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I think when you're in your early 20s, that's just, you're raging, you know?
00:00:04.980 Like me, in my 20s, working five nights a week, throwing parties,
00:00:10.060 it was impossible for me to settle down until my late 30s.
00:00:14.100 So when I see young men talk about going out, being with women, I get it.
00:00:18.260 Do I think it's degenerate?
00:00:20.180 Yeah, but I'd be a hypocrite if I attacked them for sleeping around
00:00:25.480 with a bunch of women and not being in a relationship.
00:00:30.000 I've become a traditional man because...
00:00:32.960 You became a traditional man.
00:00:34.540 Yeah, I'm 42 years old.
00:00:35.940 Okay.
00:00:37.320 I do believe in a monogamous relationship.
00:00:39.820 I am against adultery.
00:00:41.300 I never make jokes about adultery or that I'm a homosexual.
00:00:45.320 I think I would never make a joke that I'm a homosexual or that I cheat on my wife
00:00:50.400 because my daughter one day will get older,
00:00:54.280 and I don't want my daughter to ever say to me,
00:00:57.120 why did you cheat on mom?
00:01:00.000 You know, my daughter is the most precious thing to me in my life, you know?
00:01:04.120 And my relationship with my wife is the most important relationship in my life.
00:01:09.140 I put her front and center.
00:01:11.480 But my wife is traditional, you know?
00:01:14.340 She's a teacher by training.
00:01:15.580 She's a college graduate.
00:01:16.860 She's a teacher by training.
00:01:17.760 Her mother is traditional.
00:01:19.060 Her grandma, in German, they call it Oma, she was traditional.
00:01:23.040 Her sister is traditional.
00:01:24.100 Where I live in Germany, where I have a home, it's traditional women.
00:01:29.640 And these are women that are great at keeping the home organized, cleanliness, preparing meals,
00:01:38.900 and they're happy this way.
00:01:41.620 This is what's crazy to people in the United States, maybe.
00:01:45.680 If you live in a small city, and by the way, my wife is not from New York.
00:01:51.080 I didn't meet her in a New York nightclub.
00:01:52.920 She's from a small city.
00:01:53.980 And even within a small city, in the most rural part of that small city, we got cows,
00:02:00.120 horses, and pigs in my neighborhood in Germany, where I have my home.
00:02:02.880 So over there, the women, it's almost a cultural norm in that part of Germany to be married,
00:02:12.020 have one man, they're cooking, cleaning, and it's not outrageous to say it.
00:02:19.620 They actually want to do it, and they take pride in it.
00:02:24.080 But the man works.
00:02:26.500 He takes care of it.
00:02:27.780 And for my wife, her mom, her grandma, her older sister, her cousins, her aunt,
00:02:35.800 she has so many examples.
00:02:37.520 And that's actually a pretty well-balanced lifestyle.
00:02:40.760 Yeah, well, and what I realized is we have a whole generation, especially in the West,
00:02:45.320 a whole generation of people that don't know how to be wives, or husbands, honestly, for that matter.
00:02:51.440 And I realized it's because women lead most relationships.
00:02:55.380 So most people, if they've seen their parents are together, the mom probably led the relationship,
00:03:02.960 not the man, because of, I think, the way that the contract,
00:03:05.960 I think it's because of the way marriage is, like the contract is in the U.S.,
00:03:10.620 where women are basically rewarded for leaving.
00:03:13.280 So the guy's always going to be trying to make the girl happy.
00:03:15.800 And we have a whole generation of women that have worked.
00:03:18.160 So, like, how are you going to have traditional skills if you're working?
00:03:23.160 And then, I mean, I didn't even scratch with, like, single mother homes, right?
00:03:28.960 So it's like, how would women, how would we know how to be wives and mothers if we've never seen it?
00:03:36.500 It's interesting.
00:03:37.360 You really, wow.
00:03:38.540 Wow, you know what?
00:03:43.240 It's interesting you say this about single mothers, because I had, for a while, I lived with my mother and my parents split.
00:03:50.540 And I think one reason a lot of men sleep around with women, and this is something that's not really talked about, you know, a lot,
00:04:00.420 is that maybe men also have issues with their mother, the way some women have issues, you know, with their father.
00:04:08.240 Oh, yeah.
00:04:09.120 You know?
00:04:09.500 Oh, yeah.
00:04:10.120 You know, like, there was a, you know, a lot of men, you know, you know, yeah, so a lot of people look at me,
00:04:18.060 and they assume that, you know, I got a lot of pussy in my past, and they would be right.
00:04:25.720 Okay.
00:04:26.120 So, my friend once said to me, Alphanema, how would you, how would your mother feel if she knew how awfully you treat women?
00:04:36.660 And I said to him, I looked at him, and I said, I don't give a shit what she thinks about me.
00:04:45.640 Because that woman, it felt like she never really gave a fuck about me.
00:04:50.240 And, you know, the one thing she was good for was the milk in her titties.
00:05:03.940 And that's actually Alpha King rule number 88.
00:05:07.440 If you want to build strong men when they grow up who treat their women like queens,
00:05:13.160 set a good, loving example for them when they're young.
00:05:21.980 Well, and the other thing is, because a lot of times women will complain about the way men treat them,
00:05:26.960 but it's like traditional women don't typically have a problem getting traditional men.
00:05:32.120 You know, the thing is that, you said to me why I became traditional.
00:05:41.120 What?
00:05:41.560 You said to me earlier, I became traditional.
00:05:43.740 You're right.
00:05:44.220 I became traditional.
00:05:45.660 Okay.
00:05:46.440 You're right.
00:05:47.160 I became traditional.
00:05:48.240 Yeah, I think it's, you can learn it.
00:05:50.440 Yeah.
00:05:50.600 But one reason I wasn't traditional was because when I was working in the nightclubs,
00:05:57.520 bringing out all these women, it wasn't until after I became traditional that I realized,
00:06:01.960 perhaps it was a sex addiction, that I was sleeping around with so many women.
00:06:06.500 And it wasn't until my 40s that I start confronting the fact that, hey, maybe in my 20s and 30s,
00:06:14.100 I didn't get that love from my mother.
00:06:15.840 You know, and, and, and then I was fucking a lot of women, but there was something missing.
00:06:24.720 You know, maybe that's why I spent so much time in New York City nightclubs.
00:06:29.820 I was just fanatical about getting pussy constant, you know, and, and that's, you know, there's something dirt.
00:06:38.220 You lose it.
00:06:38.960 My friend said this to me, my friend, you know, and I'm not going to say who he is, you know,
00:06:44.300 but, but well-known guy, he said to me, he said, every, every woman, you know,
00:06:48.640 he said, every woman you sleep with, it's like, you're losing a piece of yourself.
00:06:54.460 And, and, and I thought, I thought it was towards, before I met, I got, met my wife, my late 30s.
00:07:02.220 But it was around that point where I was like, it hit me.
00:07:05.600 It was the right word at the right point in my life.
00:07:08.560 If, um, it's hard if you're a man and your mother is cold to you, that's, that's, that's
00:07:18.020 some fuck that, that's some, it hits your heart.
00:07:19.940 Now, some guys, the guys who have mothers like that and the mother loves them, but the
00:07:25.960 guys that have gone through that, I would imagine that they would understand what I'm
00:07:30.880 saying.
00:07:31.280 The same way a girl whose father ignores her, fuck, can you imagine that?
00:07:36.880 I love my daughter.
00:07:38.360 I couldn't even imagine, couldn't even imagine if I just deserted her.
00:07:43.900 How could she feel about, man?
00:07:45.920 So when I see a woman act like a whore, you know, now, I'm not talking about before.
00:07:51.400 Right.
00:07:51.840 When I was Kingsdale, when I was these other guys age, you know, no, no.
00:07:56.280 When I was young, if I saw a woman act like a whore, I might've been like, all right, cool.
00:08:02.680 Let's have fun.
00:08:03.360 Because I was also a whore.
00:08:05.280 I was also promiscuous.
00:08:06.380 But now as a father with a daughter, I think, fuck, when she was a baby, when she was a baby,
00:08:13.340 her father deserted her.
00:08:16.780 You said something to me, Pearl.
00:08:18.540 You said, I moved before.
00:08:20.480 You said, I don't mean to blow you up right now.
00:08:22.720 No, you're okay.
00:08:23.360 You're okay.
00:08:23.660 You said something to me that I understood your father without knowing your father.
00:08:28.540 You said to me, I went back to living at home with my parents.
00:08:35.760 Yeah.
00:08:36.300 Right.
00:08:37.160 And then you said your feelings, your mom's sentiment.
00:08:39.720 But then you said, my dad was so happy.
00:08:42.240 Yeah.
00:08:42.680 And I understood that because I'm already looking forward to tomorrow when I get back
00:08:47.840 to Germany, my daughter being there at the airport.
00:08:51.100 And I've only been gone a week.
00:08:52.800 But it's been all.
00:08:53.960 I miss her.
00:08:54.760 I miss my wife.
00:08:56.100 And the point I want to make is that that feeling of when you go back later next month or this
00:09:03.060 month to go back to Chicago and meet your dad, he's going to be so happy to see you.
00:09:07.480 I know that feeling because I also have a daughter.
00:09:10.820 You don't know what it feels like to be a man and have a daughter.
00:09:13.400 I do.
00:09:14.400 It's impossible for you to understand that as a man, as a father, you'll never be a man
00:09:19.680 or a father.
00:09:20.420 I am both.
00:09:21.720 He will be so happy to see you the same way I'm going to be happy when I see my daughter
00:09:25.780 tomorrow.
00:09:27.160 You know, because you imagine if you didn't have a father there tomorrow, next week, two,
00:09:31.200 three weeks from now, when you go back to the United States to pick you up, he didn't
00:09:35.260 give a shit about me.
00:09:36.120 Well, and it's also like when you're close with your dad, you like even me, I quit like
00:09:45.200 drinking a couple of years ago.
00:09:46.640 And part of it was because of my dad, because my dad doesn't drink at all.
00:09:50.660 And so it's like, I don't know.
00:09:52.160 You just kind of do things to like make your dad happy.