JustPearlyThings - May 19, 2023


F＊＊K Boy tries to DESCRIBE a Good Woman, but Fails Miserably


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13 minutes

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2,733

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319

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28

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In this episode, we discuss how to find a good woman, what to look for in a woman and how long should it take to find one. We also talk about when is the right time to start sleeping with a woman.

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00:00:00.000 All right, men, if you want to say how do I,
00:00:03.000 one, are any of you with a good woman?
00:00:06.080 Like, anyone married?
00:00:07.400 Anyone married?
00:00:08.080 We're not married yet.
00:00:08.920 No, no, no married.
00:00:10.280 Okay, I just wanted to get, okay.
00:00:11.620 How do you find a good woman? 1.00
00:00:13.100 How do I find one?
00:00:14.200 Yeah, identify one.
00:00:16.280 I think a good woman, I can't tell a good woman straight away. 1.00
00:00:21.500 It has to be along the course of time.
00:00:23.580 She needs to be how I want, when I want, when I need her to be.
00:00:28.360 And I won't get that.
00:00:29.660 Just from the first look basis, you know what I mean?
00:00:32.560 So I think a first, a good woman to me is a woman that has good family values,
00:00:40.040 that know how to be around her family,
00:00:43.160 that has a good relationship with her dad,
00:00:45.460 submissive, caring, nurturing, healthy.
00:00:54.240 And how do you know a good one?
00:01:04.420 So right now, this is what you have to do.
00:01:06.200 You have to see her for three months,
00:01:08.040 ask her to make you a coffee.
00:01:09.700 No, I agree.
00:01:11.080 Yeah, yeah, yeah, go for it.
00:01:11.580 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:12.160 That three month thing.
00:01:13.100 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:13.660 Three months.
00:01:14.700 Okay.
00:01:15.560 Yeah.
00:01:16.280 This is for the woman you pick to marry, so like, okay. 0.99
00:01:19.600 And you can make edits, so it's okay.
00:01:21.340 Take on a coffee date for a first date, okay?
00:01:26.080 Date as many women as possible to tell the difference. 0.99
00:01:29.880 Make sure she's not on birth control. 0.58
00:01:32.940 And figure out what her relationship's like with her family and her dad.
00:01:37.040 What do you agree with, disagree with, and what would you like to add?
00:01:39.680 Um, there's loads I need to add to that, man.
00:01:47.780 It's not that simple.
00:01:49.920 The whole thing, man.
00:01:51.160 Start again.
00:01:52.000 Yeah, start again.
00:01:52.880 Tell me that list again.
00:01:54.700 I think we can keep going.
00:01:56.060 Yeah.
00:01:56.280 So you got to see her for three months.
00:01:58.500 So what are you guys thinking?
00:01:59.040 For three months?
00:01:59.700 Yeah, yeah.
00:02:00.160 Cool, cool.
00:02:00.820 I think three months.
00:02:01.400 You think that's enough?
00:02:02.280 You can marry a girl three months? 0.99
00:02:03.660 No.
00:02:04.100 No, you can't.
00:02:04.920 Oh, okay.
00:02:05.300 In three months.
00:02:06.060 We got it.
00:02:06.700 But you know why you come here?
00:02:08.020 A lot of women are chameleons. 1.00
00:02:09.200 No, 100%.
00:02:10.140 Trust me, they can.
00:02:11.900 100%.
00:02:12.500 Shape shift.
00:02:13.240 How, how, have you ever dated a girl for three months and she changes completely?
00:02:16.740 Yes.
00:02:17.180 Yes.
00:02:17.980 She changed, like.
00:02:25.060 Probably.
00:02:25.880 That's what I believe.
00:02:26.500 So in order to find a good woman, you have to get her pregnant? 1.00
00:02:29.220 No, you don't have to, but I'm saying.
00:02:30.620 Don't write it down.
00:02:33.360 No, you don't have to, because there's certain things you'll see.
00:02:35.440 But I'm saying, from my experience, I have three kids, innit?
00:02:38.700 So I saw the biggest change when the woman had a child. 1.00
00:02:42.380 Okay.
00:02:43.140 For me.
00:02:43.440 So how long should you see her before you marry her, knock her up, whatever? 0.99
00:02:47.600 I don't know about marry or knock her up. 1.00
00:02:49.140 Three months is a good time to determine whether she's being genuine, if she's wearing a mask
00:02:53.000 or whatever.
00:02:53.160 Yeah.
00:02:53.300 So you got to see her for three months in order to date her?
00:02:56.340 Like, what's the.
00:02:56.800 I mean.
00:02:57.180 It's going to be everything.
00:02:57.800 I don't think you, as he said, you can't really determine anyone as the true person
00:03:01.540 as they're being genuine, as they say they are, for like the first three months, generally.
00:03:05.700 If you've lived with someone, that's different.
00:03:08.100 If you move in with someone, you can see the truth, like, a lot quicker.
00:03:10.240 Actually, can I, can I, I'm sorry.
00:03:12.740 I'm a little ADD sometimes.
00:03:14.440 When, when do you guys expect to sleep with her? 0.59
00:03:17.740 You know what?
00:03:19.060 That's subjective.
00:03:20.300 You see that question there, yeah?
00:03:21.780 It is very subjective, yeah?
00:03:24.100 In general.
00:03:24.960 Are you saying expect?
00:03:25.920 Yeah, expectation is a big word.
00:03:27.240 I don't have an expectation.
00:03:28.320 I don't have an expectation.
00:03:29.460 They expect straight away.
00:03:30.540 You know what it is?
00:03:31.600 Fourth date.
00:03:32.140 I'll be honest, yeah?
00:03:33.460 I don't think there's too much of, it's not a problem if you sleep with a woman the first 1.00
00:03:37.460 night, or you sleep with a woman two months down the line. 0.97
00:03:40.060 Because man can move different.
00:03:41.060 Man can wait.
00:03:41.820 Like, a woman. 0.98
00:03:42.720 With her as soon as you can.
00:03:46.220 Because you can, you can sleep with a woman straight away and have a great connection and
00:03:50.020 a great relationship with her.
00:03:51.100 Or you can, a woman can hold out for six months and whatever, and there's man out here 1.00
00:03:55.240 that will sit there for six months.
00:03:56.500 Period.
00:03:57.100 And bust out.
00:03:57.960 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:03:58.820 All right.
00:03:59.180 How long is two months?
00:04:00.740 Wow.
00:04:01.220 I need hands, okay?
00:04:02.900 How long is too long?
00:04:04.340 No matter how good the girl is, you ain't waiting.
00:04:06.800 Like, this is ridiculous.
00:04:07.480 I think three months is the max to wait.
00:04:09.960 That's why I want hands for the max.
00:04:11.980 Are you waiting?
00:04:12.620 You.
00:04:13.000 All right.
00:04:13.380 Wait, wait, wait.
00:04:14.680 He's coughing.
00:04:15.460 He's coughing.
00:04:16.240 I need hands.
00:04:17.440 Are we waiting a week?
00:04:18.780 Is that okay?
00:04:19.840 All right.
00:04:20.240 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:20.660 I'll wait a week.
00:04:21.640 Okay.
00:04:21.940 I need you to go.
00:04:23.400 Put your hand up when it's too long.
00:04:25.120 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:25.580 All right.
00:04:26.640 Two weeks.
00:04:28.160 Three weeks.
00:04:29.060 So you're putting in three weeks?
00:04:31.840 It depends on the context.
00:04:33.280 I mean, has she made other people wait?
00:04:35.940 You don't know.
00:04:36.880 You never know that.
00:04:38.040 Yeah, that's a stick.
00:04:38.680 You never know that.
00:04:39.320 You don't know.
00:04:39.760 You don't know.
00:04:39.780 You don't know.
00:04:40.580 I'm not going to be the one that waits.
00:04:41.800 You have to have a tendency to do that.
00:04:42.380 I'm not going to be the one that waits.
00:04:43.660 So, I mean, like, how old is she?
00:04:47.720 I mean, is she some kind of born-again virgin?
00:04:50.540 I don't know.
00:04:51.040 But then I'm not out of the interest.
00:04:53.140 You're getting a girl from first date, like, so you don't know.
00:04:57.160 You've just met her off the street, whatever, dating app, whatever.
00:05:00.480 So you have to determine.
00:05:01.580 All right, so three weeks you can wait.
00:05:03.080 You're not.
00:05:04.400 He's, okay, four weeks.
00:05:06.020 Four weeks too long for anyone?
00:05:07.920 No, five weeks.
00:05:09.740 Okay, two months.
00:05:11.020 Too long to sleep with her?
00:05:13.360 The two months is the max.
00:05:15.240 All right.
00:05:15.620 After that, yeah.
00:05:17.000 I'm going to go with two months.
00:05:19.160 Yeah, I get bored easily.
00:05:20.520 So after two months, I might.
00:05:21.820 Two months.
00:05:22.920 Yeah, I'll go with two to three months.
00:05:24.340 Two to three months.
00:05:25.160 All right, so three.
00:05:26.100 All right, so you guys, too.
00:05:26.960 You said she can have three. 0.56
00:05:27.640 But I don't know.
00:05:28.280 But the thing is, I've done three months when I was young.
00:05:30.720 Maybe when I'm older now, I don't know.
00:05:32.920 That's why I'm in.
00:05:34.620 But when I had the three months thing.
00:05:36.140 No, but I'm asking now.
00:05:36.680 Now, now you meet a nice woman. 0.96
00:05:40.520 You think you're looking for a good woman. 1.00
00:05:42.080 If she's the one, then I could wait like a year.
00:05:44.480 But I have to be convinced.
00:05:45.480 A year.
00:05:46.060 Yeah, no, I don't care.
00:05:47.140 If she's the one, one, right.
00:05:48.000 How do you know she's the one, though?
00:05:48.980 But then you have to know.
00:05:50.120 You have to know, you have to be in her life for that whole time.
00:05:54.280 I understand her.
00:05:55.040 How old are you again?
00:05:56.260 I'm 29.
00:05:57.000 Okay, you're 29.
00:05:58.200 So how old women do you usually date? 0.99
00:06:00.500 Around my age.
00:06:01.480 So if she's not a virgin, will you wait for a year for her?
00:06:04.620 She's not a virgin, will I wait for a year?
00:06:06.680 If I was, yeah, I could do.
00:06:09.160 I could do.
00:06:09.820 It's not likely.
00:06:10.720 I could do.
00:06:11.360 Are you sleeping with other people at the time?
00:06:13.000 You're waiting.
00:06:13.540 Yeah.
00:06:13.720 Yeah.
00:06:13.780 Yeah.
00:06:13.840 Yeah.
00:06:18.220 Come with that, brother.
00:06:19.420 Somebody's really waiting.
00:06:20.740 He's not really waiting.
00:06:21.900 Yeah, but you know what I'm saying?
00:06:22.700 I don't know what she's waiting for.
00:06:23.960 I'm saying.
00:06:24.240 I don't know what she's waiting for.
00:06:24.800 That's a good question.
00:06:25.520 Okay.
00:06:25.980 Okay.
00:06:26.360 So you got a year.
00:06:27.980 You went from two months hands to a year.
00:06:30.180 Yeah, but I'm saying it depends how much.
00:06:32.440 All right.
00:06:34.580 The average, the nice, I don't know, your favorite girl that you've been on a date with.
00:06:39.620 Let's just take her. 1.00
00:06:40.420 You guys can think of.
00:06:41.480 Whoever your favorite ex is, whatever.
00:06:43.760 All right.
00:06:43.980 Would you have waited a year for her?
00:06:46.920 Yeah, I did.
00:06:47.780 Oh, you did.
00:06:48.440 Okay.
00:06:49.780 So you'll wait a year.
00:06:51.380 You'll wait two months.
00:06:52.420 Two months.
00:06:53.060 You'll wait what?
00:06:54.680 When you say, now you're saying favorite girl.
00:06:58.320 He says you're looking for a wifey. 0.99
00:07:00.460 I'm just, I was just trying to get her to visualize something.
00:07:02.500 I would wait, but one of the, if you're talking about favorites, it didn't last, it didn't take long.
00:07:07.300 It was first time.
00:07:08.320 No, but how long would you wait for a girl you liked?
00:07:10.720 That's what I'm saying.
00:07:12.280 I just used that as, you know, give me.
00:07:14.360 I don't know.
00:07:14.780 I can't answer that question.
00:07:16.140 Please answer the question.
00:07:17.160 You're like, it's hard for me to ask.
00:07:18.180 You're here to answer my questions.
00:07:19.820 No, 100%.
00:07:20.580 This is what you're here for.
00:07:21.680 Please just give me an answer, please.
00:07:24.080 It doesn't have to be sentenced.
00:07:25.200 I would wait two months.
00:07:25.880 Yeah, two months.
00:07:26.320 Okay.
00:07:26.820 Thank you.
00:07:27.180 Thank you so much.
00:07:28.840 You're like three weeks, roughly a month, a month.
00:07:31.740 Yeah, three weeks.
00:07:32.260 So one month, two months, a year.
00:07:34.260 We got to.
00:07:34.980 A year, you know.
00:07:36.060 Okay, so step one.
00:07:37.820 Sleep with her as soon as possible and wait up to. 0.72
00:07:44.220 A year?
00:07:44.560 Up to one month to a year, depending on the guy.
00:07:52.440 Because what if you wait a year and you don't like it?
00:07:55.420 Good point.
00:07:55.940 I wasn't only in that one, into that one.
00:07:59.240 So you know what I'm saying?
00:08:00.360 Yeah.
00:08:02.740 Okay.
00:08:03.220 Well, okay.
00:08:03.820 So don't wait.
00:08:04.560 Now we're going back.
00:08:05.500 Don't wait.
00:08:06.260 I don't know.
00:08:06.840 Just for him, though.
00:08:07.840 He's waiting.
00:08:08.420 Yeah, he's waiting.
00:08:08.780 Okay, so next step.
00:08:10.280 Okay, so when should you ask her to make you a coffee?
00:08:13.860 That's what we have.
00:08:15.640 I don't even drink coffee like that.
00:08:17.340 Okay, so what else?
00:08:18.400 How else do you vet for a good woman? 1.00
00:08:21.480 You know what?
00:08:23.740 To vet a good woman, yeah, I think you need. 1.00
00:08:25.740 It depends on the communication and the conversation that you have.
00:08:28.060 So going coffee is, I agree.
00:08:31.780 And the maddest thing is, the girl that I'm seeing now,
00:08:33.980 this is the first time I've ever gone coffee
00:08:35.420 and we had a mad conversation in Costa over coffee.
00:08:38.140 And I've never done that before, which is mad.
00:08:41.040 I'm telling you.
00:08:42.080 But once you have a good, through conversation
00:08:44.060 and through certain things, a man would get an idea.
00:08:47.380 So adding on to what Romans is saying with family values,
00:08:50.660 traditional, maybe even fear of God,
00:08:53.500 like conversation with her, you will understand a lot more about her.
00:08:56.280 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:56.720 If she can, can she even conversate?
00:08:58.260 Can we have a proper conversation together?
00:09:00.060 You know what I'm saying?
00:09:01.700 Okay, so take on coffee date, sleep with her as soon as possible. 0.99
00:09:06.200 Coffee date after I finish waiting.
00:09:08.860 Oh, so that, okay.
00:09:11.260 You're getting on coffee date after you finish waiting.
00:09:13.600 That's a waste of time.
00:09:14.400 Nah, man, you've got to go first.
00:09:16.140 Okay.
00:09:17.880 Go on coffee date, either before or after you sleep with her.
00:09:22.820 Can I just say really quickly, I promise.
00:09:27.100 The reason why you could say that now is because you're in a position
00:09:31.280 to be open, to be receptive to her as well.
00:09:35.840 You know, some guys would be like, what?
00:09:37.460 You know, like we're going clubbing or, you know,
00:09:39.780 it depends on the man as well.
00:09:41.900 Yeah, 100%.
00:09:42.600 I'm not putting blame on the man, but it's a two-way street.
00:09:45.600 A lot of Purley's list man has, so I've probably gone through dating women,
00:09:49.680 gone through this, gone through that.
00:09:51.740 So now when I meet someone, I can analyse a good woman. 1.00
00:09:54.800 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:09:55.760 Yeah.
00:09:56.100 And it's through action.
00:09:57.040 I feel like, to your question of where's all the good women gone yet,
00:10:00.100 I feel like a lot of good women don't have the values of back in the day. 1.00
00:10:03.880 So women, I don't know back in the day because I wasn't born back in the day, 0.96
00:10:06.880 but I think a lot of women don't want to show wife credentials 1.00
00:10:09.960 before they're a wife. 1.00
00:10:11.020 So they will hold things back expecting you to put a ring on their finger
00:10:14.600 because it's like, oh, I can do this,
00:10:17.880 but I'm not going to do these until I'm your wife.
00:10:19.640 But man, I'm thinking, man, I'm thinking, bro, all right, if you're going to,
00:10:22.780 cool, there's other gal out here that's going to show me what a wife is. 1.00
00:10:26.320 But imagine acting like a wife and doing full throttle, 1.00
00:10:28.560 like cooking's different, but full throttle acting like a wife 1.00
00:10:30.640 for you to go and see someone else or play around.
00:10:32.900 But if you don't do that, the man's gone.
00:10:34.920 So do you want to show him that you're a wife?
00:10:38.140 Because a man coming into it is showing you're ready.
00:10:40.260 If you want a promotion, don't you do the job that he gives you first?
00:10:44.760 Or do you say promote me with no work experience?
00:10:47.700 Because you know what?
00:10:49.120 Okay, once again, me and you are in a relationship
00:10:50.940 or we're building up a relationship and then we go out
00:10:54.260 and then, I don't know, gal beat you up or something happens.
00:10:58.560 I'm here to protect you, but I just stand there and just watch you.
00:11:01.760 When we go home now, what are you going to say to me?
00:11:03.600 No, no one would.
00:11:04.800 No, no, no, don't say no one.
00:11:06.080 No one would do that.
00:11:06.580 You can't say no one because there's man out here that's not going to protect you.
00:11:09.800 So our job is to protect someone.
00:11:12.460 A stranger would jump in both and protect someone.
00:11:14.260 Okay, forget the semantics.
00:11:15.760 My job is to protect and provide for you.
00:11:17.540 If I don't protect you when I'm out with you,
00:11:19.300 when you're rolling out with me,
00:11:20.600 when we go home, what are you saying to me?
00:11:24.100 As in a fighting situation?
00:11:25.560 That's not a good example.
00:11:26.760 Okay, whatever situation where you need protecting
00:11:29.440 and I don't protect you in that situation,
00:11:32.020 what are you doing after that situation?
00:11:33.360 I can't answer that question
00:11:34.700 because I don't know what you mean by protecting.
00:11:36.580 You're deciding that he's not the one.
00:11:38.820 That doesn't make sense.
00:11:39.360 It's happened to me before.
00:11:40.780 There was an accident in Costa Rica.
00:11:42.820 There was a canoeing thing, a kayak thing,
00:11:45.140 and he didn't show up.
00:11:46.980 I really questioned my future with this guy.
00:11:49.720 For me, it was done.
00:11:50.860 Done.
00:11:51.360 Of course it's done.
00:11:52.820 That's different.
00:11:53.560 He didn't show up.
00:11:54.240 I was polite about it.
00:11:55.320 But if you don't show your wife credentials to the man,
00:11:58.640 what do you think he's going to do?
00:11:59.420 The thing is, there's an extent, there's a limit.
00:12:01.460 You can't do everything
00:12:02.440 because you don't know if that man's serious yet.
00:12:04.340 You don't know what's going on.
00:12:05.360 So you can't do everything.
00:12:06.560 And you're not out here proving that.
00:12:07.660 He's serious when he approached you.
00:12:09.180 Listen, he needs to prove to you that he's a good husband.
00:12:11.280 But that's fear, though.
00:12:12.440 No, he don't.
00:12:12.760 What the hell?
00:12:13.240 Yes?
00:12:13.980 That's fear, though.
00:12:15.280 That's the thing.
00:12:15.920 You're going into something in bad faith.
00:12:17.740 Oh, I can't do too much for him.
00:12:19.500 Otherwise, he might not pick me.
00:12:21.280 Why give him a chance anyway?
00:12:22.280 Yeah, but it's like you're going into things in fear.
00:12:25.140 And you don't get anything worth having
00:12:26.760 if you go into shit scared. 0.79
00:12:28.540 Exactly.
00:12:29.160 Like, you can get your heart broke.
00:12:30.680 Like, it happens.
00:12:31.800 Scared money don't make no money.
00:12:33.140 Yeah, but it's like you have to.
00:12:34.640 In order to start this whole podcast,
00:12:38.320 I had to invest first.
00:12:39.540 But women want all the outcomes 1.00
00:12:41.060 without having to invest anything.
00:12:43.260 I feel like it's a two-way thing.
00:12:45.980 As many of you know,
00:12:47.060 I was just banned on TikTok.
00:12:49.200 And we are demonetized on a daily basis
00:12:52.160 on this platform.
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