Feminist claims that women are Oppressed (she gets DEBUNKED)
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In this episode I talk about the difference between men and women when it comes to domestic violence and abuse. I also talk about why women are more willing to call the police than men when they get hit by their partners.
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some men suffer I get it but let's not why do you always have a response I do
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have a response because I've got a lot of experience actually speaking fuck your
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experience that's rude number one and I'm here to help you boys but I'll get
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on to you don't worry he's a man not a boy no he's a boy trust me for him to say fuck you to a
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woman fuck this to a woman like me that's sitting here has not disrespecting me hang on a minute I said
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bullshit I said I'm an African woman who's proud of her heritage hang on a minute I said bullshit
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and you never had that attitude towards me no because I respect you're older than me he's
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younger than me I think respect's given no matter what age it is it should be of course but then the
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respect also comes from the fact that you respect the fact that somebody's been on this earth longer
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than you so they know things you don't know so you respect so all you said was rude and then secondly
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I will say it's not that women should fear men because actually I think you as a woman you can
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have ways of dealing with those situations but I'm not going to run away from the fact that yeah men
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get abused but women on the losing side on that one I'm not going to lie I'm so sorry how are they
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on the losing side if women can call the police and they're unbelieved but men can call the police
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and they're not cool because the reason why I say we're on the losing side is because they still
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we're getting you know how many women suffer in silence you can't be sitting there and acting like
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I would say not many with the amount of girls that have come on my show and and and claim to have
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been abused even though they didn't seek police help right I would say not many I would say most
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girls if they suffer they tell the whole town about it you asked me and I told you I didn't
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file no report why not why not I didn't because I just feel like you know why not make him look
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bad even though he did something bad he did something bad but it's different why do you think
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they're not bullshit to the men who don't report the fact that they get hit by the guy you said you were
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hitting him too of course I hit him back because I got tired of getting hit of course I defended myself
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but at that point there's a difference I hit him back that would be self-defense and then two
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the way that he hit me is nothing compared to how I hit him and that's what the difference is and I
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stayed if you're hitting each other you're abusing each other and then wait and then let me bring you
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another another example I stayed quiet not because I'm embarrassed but I stayed quiet because culturally
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actually what happened to me wasn't really that bad so you just left it open for somebody else to get
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abused by that same person that abused you because you never report it and stopped it so you just
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assume now that you're going to help out a brother stop a brother from going into prison and you're
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going to help him out it is not my job the universe will deal with him that's bullshit that is why
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people like that that is why no because you're allowing him to go out there and traumatize somebody
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else I get sick and tired of people turning around and saying I've been abused I've been abused I've
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been abused if you can stand up and say I've been abused why didn't you go police I went
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police why didn't you go police why didn't you file a report and then you're going to turn around
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and then you've got the audacity to turn around and say well if that's the case and I never reported
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it let the man stand there in silence and let the men suffer that's wrong and I'll tell you another
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reason submission is another problem why a lot of women get hit too and they don't talk listen right
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violence has got nothing to do with submission violence has got to do with somebody feeling that
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they've got more power over somebody else whether it's a woman that turns around and slaps a man in his face
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she feels you know what I've got more power because yeah I slap you and what what are you
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going to do about it what is society going to do about it nothing let's turn down nothing don't
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men usually be in the in a superior position which means that my point just stands by what you told
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me oh please may I just let's break that down let's yeah we have to who are who are men more willing
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to help men or women probably women because they've seen the okay okay so even if a man is in a superior
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position he is more willing to help you right so so that argument doesn't make sense if if your boy
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is getting hit your boy will jump in and be like stop him my boy simple they just won't have to hit
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the girl and a lot of the time the reason why they can wait wait if your boy is getting hit so if
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your if your boy is getting hit and they'll say stop no no guys guys get into fights over this
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stuff can I just say a sec pearl how many times has anybody seen a girl hit a man and jumps in and
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said oh don't hit him never oh I've never seen that I never see thank you and if you had to and
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have you never seen it the ball there you go may I just say something though there's a few things
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I'm still sorry my lover I missed your name again Denalva Denalva I like you but there's some
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things that you're saying that make me feel very uncomfortable because first of all it's like
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okay you say that I'm sorry to take your example you got abused you did not report it that's one thing
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that annoys me people go to social judge social like society like social media to be their judge
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and I always say to them first thing go to the police that's the first thing you're meant to do
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you're not meant to go to social media and address it the reason why they go to social media
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addresses because society like you said Auntie Jenny is more acceptable or is more open to receive
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um a complaint from a woman than a complaint from a man and also abuse are we talking about only
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physical abuse because abuse starts also emotionally mentally and women are very very good at that
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yeah I'm a woman I can say it I will say it we women are very good at that so before I'm not
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justifying any physical abuse it's not justifiable let's say that as a disclaimer but abuse starts
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before even hands get laid on and who starts that most times women
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but also doesn't make sense to me is if you didn't go to the police but you're assassinating
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his character on a public platform so it doesn't really make sense because people know who you dated
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so anyone that knows you that sees this podcast anyone that knows me knew I went through it but I'm
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saying like why are you able to assassinate his character but you're not able to go to the police
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because now I'm over it I can talk about it it's easy when I was going through it and this is the
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thing about abuse that people don't understand it goes beyond physical it's almost like you're under
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this crazy trance it's true because a woman like me for any anyone that knows me you guys at home
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that actually do know me if you saw the ones that did see me like just a year ago you'll never believe
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I'm the same person because I know actually the thing is we talk about abuse and unless you've
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gone through it you really don't understand what it does mean and why it's so deep and why actually
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some people as that girl said are really fearful because it's really deep I stayed stuck for five
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years I couldn't leave I felt you say it wasn't that deep no she said that it was perceived by
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her culture as not that deep yeah she said it wasn't that bad not that it wasn't no it was perceived as
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yeah yeah it was perceived yeah of course because I go I tried to even deal with it with his family
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even with my family I even stopped speaking to my family because I couldn't leave him I was still
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going through the situation my family was just so scared all the time right so I stayed away when I
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approached the family like so why are you complaining like stop you why why is it you meet him angry
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just structure this right so you so you said initially you said it wasn't that bad but now
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you're saying it wasn't that bad relative to the culture is that what you're saying now
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yeah he's relative to the culture okay cool what what what happened he like punched you in the face
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too many things like what do you do many things like so many many things that I don't even need to
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go into so much on my body like punched me in the face I would go to the police but have you heard of
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Stockholm syndrome oh my god all these times bro listen guys these feminists have the craziest
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vocabulary you know listen listen I'm telling you right now emotional Stockholm syndrome it's real
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okay okay I know what Stockholm it's when women fall in love with their captor but you didn't stay
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now so you couldn't fall in love with him that day but he was not your captor he was your boyfriend and
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then he became abusive okay was he abusive from this I'll give you a little breakdown into how it goes
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so you fall in love with somebody they love bomb you you're amazing you think it's the best time in the
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world you found your prince charming one day things start to attract the compliments start
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turning into this little criticism and then it grows and grows and grows by the time you get here
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you're already desperately madly in love with this person you think that they're you're forever and
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after you commit you dedicate by the time things get really wrong you've already given everything
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and you're thinking how am I going to leave this situation where do I go what happens oh my god
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then on top of that I'm a woman I've been with you all this time if I leave I'm not damaged goods
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there's so many things that actually society does to actually even like allow these situations to go
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on we can complain and say that no you allow the situation to go on when you don't report it
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that's fine because you can't let that man leave like you can't leave that man and tell him I'm not
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gonna report him and not fear for the next woman that's my only issue here do you understand and I
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can appreciate the difficulty but then this is why you think that women are on the losing side
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because if he's still at large with no repercussions and only just society telling pointing the finger
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and be like he's bad that's not enough can I just say something right as far as I'm concerned the
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man ain't done shit to you the man ain't done shit to you because you're on I can turn around and say
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yes my son's dad was abusive I put it down on the police records you know what because he knows it's
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out there and he knows that the police knows about it and it's been out there he's been to court
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right but as far as I'm concerned yours never happened if I was that man and you're here it's
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defamation of character because there is nothing there on paper to say that the man abused you
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and that's what Pearl was saying you're here telling thousands of people that this man abused you
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what evidence have you got that he that he abused you if he turned around scars ain't got nothing as
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far as I'm concerned you could have fall down the stairs and bust your knee and give them scars
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because there's nothing legal on paper to say that you was abused so he says nothing on paper
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let me finish hang on a minute let me finish he can turn around today and he can say do you know
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what defamation of character because there's nothing there on paper and she's there telling the error
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the whole world that I'm abusive if I'm abusive where is the record and that's the problem too many
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people go out there and they all who have been abused whether it's men or women and they make all
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these accusations in public without any proof and as far as I'm concerned if I was a man and I was
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beating on a woman and the woman ain't got the guts enough to go to the police and report it but
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she's got guts enough to go and sit down on social media and tell the whole world I'm gonna go and
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take it up with her and I'll tell you why I'm gonna go and take it up with her I'm gonna go and take it up
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because as far as I'm concerned that's defamation of character let him come I've got plenty of evidence
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you ain't got no evidence you ain't got no evidence according to who
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according to the law because if you had evidence the police would have had the evidence whether or not
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you want to take it further if I wanted to go and take it further I could do it right now but you never done it
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I didn't do it you haven't done it you never I don't care why you ain't done it because as far as I'm concerned
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if you ain't done it in my view it ain't it hasn't happened it has not happened
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definitely what been living in the UK for too long what do you mean I take that as an insult how do you know where I live
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how do you know where I live we had the same with no I said that I was raised I was born here and I
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raised and I also told you that I go to Barbados three times a year so where I come from has got
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nothing to do and if you're gonna insult me insult me properly as far as I'm concerned you're sitting
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down there and you're talking about respecting your elders and then you're gonna come and tell me
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some bullshit like that well let me tell you right it don't matter if I was abusing Barbados
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I would have been reporting it in Barbados what would they do in Barbados it's more likely that
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they wouldn't even help you what you're talking about don't knock it till you've tried it you can't
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do you can't talk about I know I've tried it I've seen it you can't talk about what you don't know
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you ain't tried it because you already said you did not report it and you can't talk about the laws in
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Barbados because the laws in Barbados are up to queue with the laws in the west let me tell you that
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the laws in the west don't work they got them they don't work if you don't damn well use them
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if you don't use them try using them how come it how come it work for me how come it work for me
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how come it work for me I reported it how come it work for me now I'm gonna ask myself that because
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I am not there bringing down somebody on social media just for publicity's sake that is why they're
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talking about all the stats because the stats will be all out of sync because of people like that
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you can't turn around and defamate somebody's character for no reason whatsoever as many of you
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know I was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform if
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