JustPearlyThings - March 31, 2023


Feminist claims that women are Oppressed (she gets DEBUNKED)


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12 minutes

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2,878

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Misogyny

11

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Toxicity

21

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9

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Summary

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In this episode I talk about the difference between men and women when it comes to domestic violence and abuse. I also talk about why women are more willing to call the police than men when they get hit by their partners.

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00:00:00.000 some men suffer I get it but let's not why do you always have a response I do 0.99
00:00:05.120 have a response because I've got a lot of experience actually speaking fuck your 0.96
00:00:10.820 experience that's rude number one and I'm here to help you boys but I'll get 1.00
00:00:14.640 on to you don't worry he's a man not a boy no he's a boy trust me for him to say fuck you to a 1.00
00:00:18.580 woman fuck this to a woman like me that's sitting here has not disrespecting me hang on a minute I said 1.00
00:00:22.480 bullshit I said I'm an African woman who's proud of her heritage hang on a minute I said bullshit 1.00
00:00:27.320 and you never had that attitude towards me no because I respect you're older than me he's 1.00
00:00:30.860 younger than me I think respect's given no matter what age it is it should be of course but then the
00:00:36.240 respect also comes from the fact that you respect the fact that somebody's been on this earth longer
00:00:39.680 than you so they know things you don't know so you respect so all you said was rude and then secondly
00:00:44.220 I will say it's not that women should fear men because actually I think you as a woman you can
00:00:49.220 have ways of dealing with those situations but I'm not going to run away from the fact that yeah men
00:00:53.740 get abused but women on the losing side on that one I'm not going to lie I'm so sorry how are they
00:00:59.560 on the losing side if women can call the police and they're unbelieved but men can call the police
00:01:05.500 and they're not cool because the reason why I say we're on the losing side is because they still
00:01:11.480 we're getting you know how many women suffer in silence you can't be sitting there and acting like 1.00
00:01:14.820 I would say not many with the amount of girls that have come on my show and and and claim to have
00:01:20.820 been abused even though they didn't seek police help right I would say not many I would say most
00:01:25.760 girls if they suffer they tell the whole town about it you asked me and I told you I didn't 0.99
00:01:29.160 file no report why not why not I didn't because I just feel like you know why not make him look
00:01:34.960 bad even though he did something bad he did something bad but it's different why do you think 0.66
00:01:40.620 they're not bullshit to the men who don't report the fact that they get hit by the guy you said you were 0.90
00:01:45.540 hitting him too of course I hit him back because I got tired of getting hit of course I defended myself 0.72
00:01:50.480 but at that point there's a difference I hit him back that would be self-defense and then two
00:01:55.420 the way that he hit me is nothing compared to how I hit him and that's what the difference is and I
00:02:00.980 stayed if you're hitting each other you're abusing each other and then wait and then let me bring you
00:02:04.840 another another example I stayed quiet not because I'm embarrassed but I stayed quiet because culturally
00:02:09.520 actually what happened to me wasn't really that bad so you just left it open for somebody else to get
00:02:14.340 abused by that same person that abused you because you never report it and stopped it so you just
00:02:18.120 assume now that you're going to help out a brother stop a brother from going into prison and you're 0.99
00:02:23.160 going to help him out it is not my job the universe will deal with him that's bullshit that is why 0.99
00:02:28.880 people like that that is why no because you're allowing him to go out there and traumatize somebody 0.99
00:02:33.780 else I get sick and tired of people turning around and saying I've been abused I've been abused I've
00:02:39.860 been abused if you can stand up and say I've been abused why didn't you go police I went
00:02:44.020 police why didn't you go police why didn't you file a report and then you're going to turn around
00:02:48.640 and then you've got the audacity to turn around and say well if that's the case and I never reported
00:02:53.520 it let the man stand there in silence and let the men suffer that's wrong and I'll tell you another
00:02:57.660 reason submission is another problem why a lot of women get hit too and they don't talk listen right 1.00
00:03:02.500 violence has got nothing to do with submission violence has got to do with somebody feeling that
00:03:06.740 they've got more power over somebody else whether it's a woman that turns around and slaps a man in his face 1.00
00:03:11.720 she feels you know what I've got more power because yeah I slap you and what what are you 1.00
00:03:15.880 going to do about it what is society going to do about it nothing let's turn down nothing don't
00:03:20.720 men usually be in the in a superior position which means that my point just stands by what you told
00:03:26.380 me oh please may I just let's break that down let's yeah we have to who are who are men more willing
00:03:31.680 to help men or women probably women because they've seen the okay okay so even if a man is in a superior
00:03:38.100 position he is more willing to help you right so so that argument doesn't make sense if if your boy
00:03:44.620 is getting hit your boy will jump in and be like stop him my boy simple they just won't have to hit
00:03:49.840 the girl and a lot of the time the reason why they can wait wait if your boy is getting hit so if
00:03:54.360 your if your boy is getting hit and they'll say stop no no guys guys get into fights over this
00:03:59.060 stuff can I just say a sec pearl how many times has anybody seen a girl hit a man and jumps in and 0.99
00:04:07.660 said oh don't hit him never oh I've never seen that I never see thank you and if you had to and
00:04:12.760 have you never seen it the ball there you go may I just say something though there's a few things
00:04:16.860 I'm still sorry my lover I missed your name again Denalva Denalva I like you but there's some
00:04:21.780 things that you're saying that make me feel very uncomfortable because first of all it's like
00:04:26.560 okay you say that I'm sorry to take your example you got abused you did not report it that's one thing
00:04:33.400 that annoys me people go to social judge social like society like social media to be their judge
00:04:41.520 and I always say to them first thing go to the police that's the first thing you're meant to do
00:04:45.800 you're not meant to go to social media and address it the reason why they go to social media
00:04:49.560 addresses because society like you said Auntie Jenny is more acceptable or is more open to receive
00:04:55.880 um a complaint from a woman than a complaint from a man and also abuse are we talking about only
00:05:02.740 physical abuse because abuse starts also emotionally mentally and women are very very good at that 1.00
00:05:07.420 yeah I'm a woman I can say it I will say it we women are very good at that so before I'm not
00:05:12.940 justifying any physical abuse it's not justifiable let's say that as a disclaimer but abuse starts
00:05:18.900 before even hands get laid on and who starts that most times women 1.00
00:05:25.320 but also doesn't make sense to me is if you didn't go to the police but you're assassinating
00:05:32.760 his character on a public platform so it doesn't really make sense because people know who you dated
00:05:37.420 so anyone that knows you that sees this podcast anyone that knows me knew I went through it but I'm
00:05:42.980 saying like why are you able to assassinate his character but you're not able to go to the police
00:05:47.920 that doesn't make sense to me
00:05:49.400 because now I'm over it I can talk about it it's easy when I was going through it and this is the
00:05:54.120 thing about abuse that people don't understand it goes beyond physical it's almost like you're under
00:05:58.280 this crazy trance it's true because a woman like me for any anyone that knows me you guys at home
00:06:03.400 that actually do know me if you saw the ones that did see me like just a year ago you'll never believe
00:06:08.480 I'm the same person because I know actually the thing is we talk about abuse and unless you've
00:06:12.320 gone through it you really don't understand what it does mean and why it's so deep and why actually
00:06:16.540 some people as that girl said are really fearful because it's really deep I stayed stuck for five
00:06:22.020 years I couldn't leave I felt you say it wasn't that deep no she said that it was perceived by
00:06:28.100 her culture as not that deep yeah she said it wasn't that bad not that it wasn't no it was perceived as
00:06:34.020 yeah yeah it was perceived yeah of course because I go I tried to even deal with it with his family
00:06:39.160 even with my family I even stopped speaking to my family because I couldn't leave him I was still
00:06:43.280 going through the situation my family was just so scared all the time right so I stayed away when I
00:06:47.340 approached the family like so why are you complaining like stop you why why is it you meet him angry
00:06:52.800 just structure this right so you so you said initially you said it wasn't that bad but now
00:07:00.040 you're saying it wasn't that bad relative to the culture is that what you're saying now
00:07:02.760 yeah he's relative to the culture okay cool what what what happened he like punched you in the face
00:07:08.640 too many things like what do you do many things like so many many things that I don't even need to
00:07:13.740 go into so much on my body like punched me in the face I would go to the police but have you heard of 0.97
00:07:20.340 Stockholm syndrome oh my god all these times bro listen guys these feminists have the craziest 1.00
00:07:26.700 vocabulary you know listen listen I'm telling you right now emotional Stockholm syndrome it's real
00:07:32.420 okay okay I know what Stockholm it's when women fall in love with their captor but you didn't stay
00:07:36.980 now so you couldn't fall in love with him that day but he was not your captor he was your boyfriend and
00:07:40.240 then he became abusive okay was he abusive from this I'll give you a little breakdown into how it goes
00:07:44.680 so you fall in love with somebody they love bomb you you're amazing you think it's the best time in the
00:07:48.980 world you found your prince charming one day things start to attract the compliments start
00:07:53.700 turning into this little criticism and then it grows and grows and grows by the time you get here
00:07:57.840 you're already desperately madly in love with this person you think that they're you're forever and
00:08:01.360 after you commit you dedicate by the time things get really wrong you've already given everything
00:08:06.520 and you're thinking how am I going to leave this situation where do I go what happens oh my god
00:08:11.160 then on top of that I'm a woman I've been with you all this time if I leave I'm not damaged goods
00:08:14.740 there's so many things that actually society does to actually even like allow these situations to go
00:08:20.480 on we can complain and say that no you allow the situation to go on when you don't report it
00:08:24.940 that's fine because you can't let that man leave like you can't leave that man and tell him I'm not
00:08:29.860 gonna report him and not fear for the next woman that's my only issue here do you understand and I
00:08:34.440 can appreciate the difficulty but then this is why you think that women are on the losing side 1.00
00:08:39.020 because if he's still at large with no repercussions and only just society telling pointing the finger
00:08:45.140 and be like he's bad that's not enough can I just say something right as far as I'm concerned the 0.91
00:08:49.680 man ain't done shit to you the man ain't done shit to you because you're on I can turn around and say 0.95
00:08:55.160 yes my son's dad was abusive I put it down on the police records you know what because he knows it's 0.98
00:08:59.760 out there and he knows that the police knows about it and it's been out there he's been to court
00:09:03.420 right but as far as I'm concerned yours never happened if I was that man and you're here it's
00:09:09.600 defamation of character because there is nothing there on paper to say that the man abused you
00:09:14.500 and that's what Pearl was saying you're here telling thousands of people that this man abused you
00:09:19.580 what evidence have you got that he that he abused you if he turned around scars ain't got nothing as
00:09:25.000 far as I'm concerned you could have fall down the stairs and bust your knee and give them scars
00:09:28.440 because there's nothing legal on paper to say that you was abused so he says nothing on paper
00:09:32.860 let me finish hang on a minute let me finish he can turn around today and he can say do you know
00:09:38.300 what defamation of character because there's nothing there on paper and she's there telling the error
00:09:44.360 the whole world that I'm abusive if I'm abusive where is the record and that's the problem too many
00:09:50.240 people go out there and they all who have been abused whether it's men or women and they make all
00:09:55.020 these accusations in public without any proof and as far as I'm concerned if I was a man and I was
00:10:02.040 beating on a woman and the woman ain't got the guts enough to go to the police and report it but
00:10:06.780 she's got guts enough to go and sit down on social media and tell the whole world I'm gonna go and
00:10:12.020 take it up with her and I'll tell you why I'm gonna go and take it up with her I'm gonna go and take it up
00:10:15.600 because as far as I'm concerned that's defamation of character let him come I've got plenty of evidence
00:10:19.820 you ain't got no evidence you ain't got no evidence according to who
00:10:23.000 according to the law because if you had evidence the police would have had the evidence whether or not
00:10:29.040 you want to take it further if I wanted to go and take it further I could do it right now but you never done it
00:10:33.700 I didn't do it you haven't done it you never I don't care why you ain't done it because as far as I'm concerned
00:10:38.640 if you ain't done it in my view it ain't it hasn't happened it has not happened
00:10:42.340 definitely what been living in the UK for too long what do you mean I take that as an insult how do you know where I live
00:10:49.280 how do you know where I live we had the same with no I said that I was raised I was born here and I
00:10:54.540 raised and I also told you that I go to Barbados three times a year so where I come from has got
00:11:00.820 nothing to do and if you're gonna insult me insult me properly as far as I'm concerned you're sitting
00:11:06.320 down there and you're talking about respecting your elders and then you're gonna come and tell me 0.95
00:11:09.560 some bullshit like that well let me tell you right it don't matter if I was abusing Barbados 0.96
00:11:14.120 I would have been reporting it in Barbados what would they do in Barbados it's more likely that 0.99
00:11:19.180 they wouldn't even help you what you're talking about don't knock it till you've tried it you can't
00:11:23.280 do you can't talk about I know I've tried it I've seen it you can't talk about what you don't know
00:11:28.020 you ain't tried it because you already said you did not report it and you can't talk about the laws in
00:11:32.740 Barbados because the laws in Barbados are up to queue with the laws in the west let me tell you that
00:11:37.520 the laws in the west don't work they got them they don't work if you don't damn well use them
00:11:41.540 if you don't use them try using them how come it how come it work for me how come it work for me
00:11:46.880 how come it work for me I reported it how come it work for me now I'm gonna ask myself that because
00:11:52.080 I am not there bringing down somebody on social media just for publicity's sake that is why they're
00:11:59.460 talking about all the stats because the stats will be all out of sync because of people like that
00:12:04.480 you can't turn around and defamate somebody's character for no reason whatsoever as many of you
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