JustPearlyThings - April 06, 2023


Girl Gets Cheated On In The Most CRUEL Way


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Length

14 minutes

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215.79669

Word count

3,040

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

10

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Toxicity

14

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Hate speech

8

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss cheating on a partner and how to deal with it and what to do if you find out you've been cheated on by your partner. We also talk about cheating on your partner and what we would do if we found out that our partner was cheating on us.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 you ever been cheated on and how did you find out yeah I've been cheated on I've had two
00:00:07.300 boyfriends and they've both cheated on me I think the first time I found out was through my friend
00:00:13.700 she found some messages and sent them to me and the second time a video of my boyfriend actually
00:00:20.660 got put on YouTube of him on FaceTime to another girl doing not so good things
00:00:27.480 how did you like how how was he filmed like who filmed it it was like someone's screen recorded
00:00:35.600 the FaceTime call and I got a message on Instagram and this woman basically said like if you don't 1.00
00:00:41.620 give me money I'm gonna post it I was like go ahead post it I said if he's cheating on me why
00:00:46.500 I'm not gonna help him yeah is he famous why did they put him on YouTube
00:00:51.080 I think she just wanted like like attention but it got taken down anyway so
00:00:58.380 what was he doing on there well you know you know when you go on FaceTime sometimes like guys go on 0.91
00:01:05.180 FaceTime to a girl and though you know he pulled out his schlong he was having phone sex with this 1.00
00:01:11.760 girl oh what is he is he a grower or a shower he said he was a grower but no that's a lie 0.99
00:01:18.000 so yeah I've been cheated on before um once to my knowledge um and basically it was a long time
00:01:33.340 ago but I found out two years later because I started dating without knowing again one of his
00:01:39.480 friends and then his friend told me oh by the way three years ago what what a waste man
00:01:44.720 what was the reason yeah it's crazy and you're not with that guy no more are you 0.99
00:01:49.120 nah nah yeah because you're pussy off what's the point of doing that yeah it's crazy obviously by that 0.99
00:01:54.300 time I didn't care about what's the point maybe actually maybe you thought it would make him look 0.99
00:01:58.740 better or something yeah probably I mean it did to be fair would you girls respect a man that does
00:02:02.660 that no way no way shows he's not loyal I mean I won't even respect a girl doing that do you get 0.99
00:02:07.880 what I mean like I would come to you as a woman not not even that like if me if I if my friend
00:02:12.660 cheated on a guy and then he was then dating me I wouldn't be talking about her especially at the
00:02:18.820 time if I didn't tell him why am I telling him after you wouldn't really be dating him anyway I
00:02:22.760 wouldn't date him but just say even if it was yeah even if by coincidence I didn't know that was her
00:02:27.300 man and he was to come in my life I wouldn't then because if I didn't tell him then why would I
00:02:31.800 tell him now do you get what I mean no point fetching up the past yeah I kind of wish he didn't
00:02:35.940 because I just got hurt for no reason basically but it is what it is charge it did you break up
00:02:42.160 with him immediately um but I wasn't I wasn't with him anyway like I found out three years later
00:02:49.120 so I wasn't even with him it's such a weird one so yeah I guess it was good that you found that
00:02:54.160 later yeah I mean it's less heartbreaking in that sense but it still hurts like oh okay then
00:02:59.940 you just don't really need to know yeah like I just I'd rather have not known that's the truth
00:03:04.020 I was fine but it is what it is
00:03:09.320 that's crazy um yes I have been cheated on before I just had that instinct to be honest I just went
00:03:17.540 through his phone and literally just went on his phone and I saw everything I needed to see
00:03:22.800 when you seek you shall find innit yeah that's what a guy told me a guy told me if you look at any
00:03:27.700 time you'll always find something you have an issue with I don't think you will no but I just 0.90
00:03:31.140 got handed the phone and it was right in front of me it was right in front of me oh damn so it's
00:03:35.880 like I just I was like oh what did you what did you find um a lot of messages okay he was like 0.99
00:03:42.220 what are you doing for valentine's day um I'm going to take him so you're going with that bitch over 1.00
00:03:47.320 there okay have fun that was literally how it was did you did you dump him right away um or did you 0.98
00:03:53.500 did you stay with him for a little bit for how long um it's always the way for four more months
00:04:01.840 and then did he cheat again or then you just got really toxic from there it's just the trust was
00:04:08.200 lost and it was just like that's always the way um if you went through his phone and you didn't find
00:04:13.740 anything would you have told him you went through his phone the thing is so he just kind of like gave
00:04:18.460 me his phone and it was like on open yeah that makes sense like all the messages were right in
00:04:23.240 front of me that was god that was god so it's like I don't know maybe I would have told him I
00:04:29.780 went through his phone okay like if yeah yeah okay go ahead oh gosh my story is a bit long I don't
00:04:37.020 know how much time I've got are you can you can if it's interesting go ahead yeah it's okay so
00:04:42.420 basically his cheating was never confirmed he's always denied it even though I've got substantial
00:04:48.880 evidence to say that he's cheated on me he will still deny it um he so at uni there was three of
00:04:58.060 us or four of us that were friends there was three guys and then me um and then when I broke up with
00:05:02.840 my partner at the time I was only about 19 or something um I started dating him he was like a
00:05:08.040 friend that obviously I'd known him for about two years like homie hopper yeah yeah yeah because me 0.91
00:05:14.040 I like I like to be connected to your mind you get what I mean and and he was he was like the friend
00:05:18.900 didn't work out so you're like oh there's his friend and then no no no no no so he was my friend
00:05:23.880 you're so we were all mutual friends he like made it out of the he made out the friend zone oh but but
00:05:28.680 he was friends with your ex too no no he was all so we were just a uni friends we were just a bunch of
00:05:33.520 friends and then so yes when I became single they all approached me and I chose him oh okay okay
00:05:39.140 okay yeah but then you're there was there was no connection with that yeah it was just I was single
00:05:43.780 for the first time and it was just like okay cool um so I was dating him we were together for about
00:05:49.580 I'll say two years and in between that I found a few things but he will always deny it cool I then
00:05:55.600 moved into a property with one of our mutual friends girlfriends so one of the girl guys from the circle
00:06:01.360 his girlfriend and me and her lived together they then moved in with us because they were meant to
00:06:07.700 get their own property but it was just like we might as well just like all live in one place so it
00:06:11.420 was like cool everyone used to come to our house it was like the uni little hot spot my friend that was
00:06:17.040 dating the girl he went away so he went to his country and he was there for some time and I started noticing
00:06:23.300 a different behavior in her like her her pajamas started getting shorter they started going out at the 0.68
00:06:28.320 same time or they'll start try stay in at the same time and I thought this is getting a bit awkward
00:06:33.080 like anyway she they then disappeared one day at the same time she said she's going to see her mom he 0.90
00:06:40.140 said he's going to see his mom and we had a group chat they're not responding on anything you know at
00:06:44.540 the same time so I thought is it me or like is this too much of a coincidence anyway um when I when I
00:06:51.600 asked him well I said to him there's definitely someone she's cheating with because she's you know 1.00
00:06:56.940 dressing up a bit more she came home that night and she was talking about like you know she was
00:07:01.520 talking about some crazy stuff so I was messaging him like oh I think I know like she's definitely
00:07:05.080 cheating but I think I know who he was like yeah try find out I was like okay so obviously you know
00:07:11.060 then the next day he disappeared for the whole night she disappeared for the whole night so I thought
00:07:14.940 nothing of it cool I went back to the flat alone um the week later we had all our uni friends come
00:07:21.640 around and one of her dopey friends came and she didn't know how to use just eat so she's taking her 0.96
00:07:26.480 laptop now to go and just eat as she's gone on to put the postcode in she obviously doesn't know 0.92
00:07:31.920 how to use the laptop so I said okay let me try use it I've gone to click on the postcode and it
00:07:36.380 says cr0 and I'm thinking she doesn't have no friends in Croydon like who the hell where's she 0.98
00:07:40.920 going in Croydon so I've now memorized the postcode and I'm now going to him like yo yo give me your phone
00:07:46.500 I think I know who she's cheating with and he was like yeah yeah yeah like try it try it like see what
00:07:50.240 you know so I've now gone and put in the postcode and oh sorry before I get there basically when he
00:07:57.260 came back from his night away we had a massive argument he left the house I went through his
00:08:01.780 pocket and I saw a receipt for Hallmark Hotel right so obviously he came back he explained that he was
00:08:07.440 at his mum's but he needed um some time away from her so he just booked a hotel for himself I said why
00:08:12.680 didn't tell me anyway yeah cool long story short he needed some time alone so as I've now gone to put
00:08:17.320 the postcode on his phone the pin drops at Hallmark Hotel oh wow oh so they were together
00:08:24.100 well this is it so straight away in the whole group of friends I've now confronted her and I said 0.92
00:08:28.720 how the hell do you know Hallmark Hotel and because he's such a good prolific liar he goes I made her
00:08:35.760 order me food I said sorry and then he's now told me that he's got her to order food because he 0.93
00:08:42.260 couldn't trust anyone else to order food because everyone else would have told me he's at the hotel
00:08:46.400 so long story short yeah I found that he was cheating with my flatmate and did you break up
00:08:52.340 with him no because he convinced me that that it was that it wasn't did he really like come on no
00:08:58.360 he convinced when I said when I said you wanted to be convinced no no I why I say he convinced me I
00:09:04.340 called my friend straight away and I said listen your girlfriend's a cheat blah blah this is what's 1.00
00:09:07.940 happened he then spoke to her apparently she showed proof that they were uh they called for the food or
00:09:14.420 whatever so he then convinced me that his girlfriend wasn't cheating on him she he then made me feel 1.00
00:09:20.180 bad that I'm even making such a big allegation I still said yeah I'm still moving out I'm not gonna
00:09:24.640 lie like I gave him my notice um so yeah he convinced me that they didn't do a thing so how long did you
00:09:31.400 stay with him after that a good two more years two more years and are you are you the most interesting
00:09:37.640 far all right all right um what made you switch like from being convinced to not convinced I was
00:09:42.920 never not I was never fully not convinced okay so yeah so I still had my dad you said he convinced
00:09:47.720 you yeah he tried convincing me so obviously I still stayed there so okay this is where I'm a little
00:09:53.840 confused you were you were convinced or you were not I was still like I'll say I thought you maybe
00:09:58.940 found more evidence later no I found more evidence later oh okay I definitely found more evidence so I
00:10:03.340 know that he definitely did but he still would deny it okay okay yeah yeah what was the interesting
00:10:08.180 so what was interesting is um so a couple of years later now university has happened and we've all 0.96
00:10:13.360 graduated you know she was a bitch on graduation cool um we've all me and my friend we broke up 1.00
00:10:19.720 because he felt like we I broke up the friendship cool um then a couple of years later I was at home 0.98
00:10:25.200 we like we were living together and then I was going through I was on laptop and we used to download
00:10:30.520 you know like we had limer or whatever then so you download shows and as I was going on um a show to
00:10:36.120 watch the profile a folder came up and it said please insert usb and her name was a show that we
00:10:41.940 used to watch so I won't say the show because obviously it will disclose who she is but it was
00:10:46.500 she had so I thought it's the show that he was watching right it was on his recently viewed so I've
00:10:50.900 gone to click it and it says oh please insert the usb so he used to always have usb on his keys so I've
00:10:56.440 now inserted the first one and it wasn't showing so I inserted the second one and it came up with a
00:11:01.180 folder and it had all her pictures oh wow so I've now gone onto my computer to go see what like what's
00:11:07.880 on what else is on there and there was no folders like no files and I was like this is so confusing
00:11:12.600 and I was I'm not tech savvy like I don't do technology so I've had to now go on google find how
00:11:17.800 to unhide folders I've gone to unhide folders and there was about 60 folders of girls pictures that he
00:11:24.660 must have been chatting to over the time and he was saving them wow wait so he just had a file
00:11:31.620 oh were they like naked explicit yeah whatever like whatever folders he had like so so when so
00:11:39.660 when was that that was that was the end of our relationship okay that then it actually ended yeah
00:11:43.940 okay yeah then I found out that he was actually then cheating on me with his ex oh so that's when
00:11:49.720 how many how many girls total a lot I I still wouldn't he'll still deny but I what did you
00:11:55.800 with the weights wait wait let me get this straight so so you found you found a picture like a whole
00:12:03.180 folder of naked girls multiple pictures not even just naked the some might have been just oh okay 0.98
00:12:08.260 innocent ones but it was a part of his collection he said and he said that this is nothing yeah he
00:12:13.960 told me that he she only like the girl the flatmate only sent him pictures because he was giving her
00:12:20.080 advice on what to wear I was like what you got like what do you mean you're advising her but yeah
00:12:24.980 there was it was obviously you know um he tried lying as much as he could okay and then that was the end
00:12:30.460 of the relationship yeah yeah okay um I can't I can't even was there wait wait actually was there
00:12:37.220 anything we missed in the story okay so basically I just felt sorry I'm gonna I just felt like you
00:12:42.760 had more to say
00:12:43.460 so basically his girl his ex at the time I used to see messages from a girl called S coming up and I
00:12:51.580 had doubts it was his ex right and he was like no no no it's not anyway when I found that them pictures
00:12:56.340 he then said you know what I can't do this anymore like I'm done you're always doubting me I said
00:13:00.400 yeah because there's reasons cool then obviously he broke up with me then the next day I had taken
00:13:05.780 the number S's number and I called it the next day and I said oh hey so and so is you know who with
00:13:12.540 you and I heard him start laughing in the background oh dear and he had a very specific laugh so it
00:13:18.660 confirmed that he was with her but obviously she denied it she was like why would I be with him
00:13:22.740 but yeah so so you kind of had like red flags like all four years would you say
00:13:27.280 pretty much yeah pretty much yeah okay and I stayed like a dumb girl yeah okay but the first
00:13:33.440 instance you caught him cheating you stayed well obviously I had the doubts over the four years
00:13:37.800 yeah yeah yeah go ahead um no I've never had an experience like that um or I don't know if a man's
00:13:45.760 cheating on me I don't know about it I don't search you know many of you know I was just banned on
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