JustPearlyThings - Girl Goes Through the Most Toxic Break Up

00:00:00.400 can i say something um tom brady so if you've specified it's a high profile breakup then i'm

00:00:05.600 guessing we're talking about money here most of the time i talk about popularity yeah um can i

00:00:11.200 ask when they actually got divorced do you know when um officially october 2022. okay okay right

00:00:20.080 because i was gonna say because as an athlete tom brady's spotlight the reason why he's in

00:00:25.680 spotlight is always going to constantly change like when he when he said he was going to retire

00:00:30.720 the spotlight was on just retiring ain't nobody mentioned about him breaking up but i don't it

00:00:36.800 was all over the like my youtube feed yeah like it was it was just on um right kelly just did a special

00:00:42.960 on it yeah right so i think my main part so i'm trying to say here is that the spotlight as an

00:00:46.800 athlete for tom brady is going to change constantly so people are gonna eventually forget that he's

00:00:52.160 been divorced if he moves on with another person so i think for the female it's more so like she's

00:00:57.360 the one that broke up with tom brady is such a big deal and i think the hate that's gonna come for the

00:01:02.640 women is more than it is for the men just considering the fact that he's such a high profile athlete would

00:01:07.280 you say in society men are valued more for what they build where women are more valued for the

00:01:12.480 relationships they can keep a hundred percent a hundred percent because tom brady can now do

00:01:18.000 sign crazy and invest in this many stuff invest like a billion dollar company maybe that's what's

00:01:23.440 going to be that's what he's going to be in the spotlight for or it's like elon musk i mean how

00:01:26.720 many baby mothers does he have but no one each to their own isn't it but no one really talks about it

00:01:33.440 right but if the roles were reversed and it was a woman and she had the same company but she had 0.81

00:01:38.640 like three i don't know how many he has but like three four baby fathers people would still look at

00:01:42.400 her funny no matter how successful she is it's going to be long for her and that's just how it is

00:01:46.400 unfortunately bar have have any of you ever looked at an ex's instagram or facebook to see how they're

00:01:54.400 doing after a breakup yeah all the time has anyone ever done that anyone two okay so the majority oh

00:02:04.240 what are you what are you i shouldn't put my hand up really because nobody i've been out

00:02:07.280 because i don't know if i should say too much i'm joking i'm joking anybody that's watching i'm joking

00:02:17.280 i promise i think you promise but um yeah i haven't do you guys get mad if the girl you feel like is

00:02:24.800 prettier than you or better looking not just happy you're you're happy for them i feel like for me

00:02:30.800 personally it depends on how soon after yeah break up yeah so how how soon would would piss you off

00:02:37.760 versus how soon would make you happy for them after she's moved on yeah if i haven't moved on you can't

00:02:47.600 or you can just not someone better looking than me does it depend on the ex too like how much you

00:02:55.280 liked the ex whether you're happy for them or mad no no just happy to move on yeah so i i kind of look

00:03:02.720 at life as lessons so for me not to be with someone i mean it's taken me a while to get here to be fair

00:03:08.080 but it's my stance now it wasn't previously possibly maybe before but i think everyone there's a reason

00:03:16.160 behind everything and a why and i think if we're not meant to be together then we're not meant to be

00:03:21.200 together be happy good luck to the next person i mean i'm still kind of mad i mean i don't wish you

00:03:28.080 the best it's taken me a long while to get here but yeah i just think yeah i don't think that at all

00:03:36.160 i think if it's a bad breakup you think you see with somebody else you think yeah she i'm glad she's got

00:03:41.040 you i ain't got you yeah i was gonna say the same it works both ways but then if it was a good breakup

00:03:49.360 you know you just spit you just think to yourself okay i got you there you deserve her because she 1.00

00:03:55.120 ain't gonna be as good as me but well done because women are bitches and they're always gonna say things 1.00

00:03:59.760 like that anyway you're not gonna say you're gonna be happy for someone you split up with them come on 0.96

00:04:03.120 but it's a bad breakup better than a good one i don't know is it bad what do you mean it's a bad like

00:04:08.560 if i if i and i was to break up with someone there's either two ways i can break up one we 0.98

00:04:12.880 have like the most craziest fight and i say fuck you and i leave or it could be right we're gonna 0.99

00:04:18.160 sit down and talk we're gonna figure this out why it didn't work out by the end of the day i just don't 0.99

00:04:22.080 want to be with you and it's both on both parties it's the same what's going to help me like in which

00:04:26.640 circumstance am i going to be like yeah you know what if you moved on to another girl i'll be like

00:04:30.240 yeah good for you do you get it because either way if if we end up in a fight and you left i'll be like good

00:04:35.760 for you you know which would you prefer the the bad breakup or the i think i prefer amicable okay

00:04:43.600 sit down and talk like i that's what i'd prefer anyway well sometimes if it's a bad breakup it's

00:04:49.680 just like it makes you get over it faster you think so that's why i'd prefer the bad ones because it's

00:04:54.560 just like done and out of the way i mean it's like you don't because you don't want to deal with the drama

00:04:59.200 of it but at the same time then you're just over it you've got things to say oh no no what's a bad

00:05:05.200 breakup what entails a bad breakup it sounds all crazy can i hear what everybody's what's your worst

00:05:09.760 breakup ever been like um because it sounds like you's like they do some crazy my ex broke into my

00:05:16.880 flat after i ended it two months i think two months after i ended it he broke into my flat and hid in my

00:05:21.520 wardrobe oh my god wow stop waiting wow that is okay okay okay let me is this she spoke oh she

00:05:31.520 you're looking over there okay wait so so okay what who broke up with you i so it was quite bad i ended 0.75

00:05:43.040 it with him but he had nowhere to go and i said oh i will support you you live to get was he a bum 0.96

00:05:47.920 um was he living with you yeah okay i was paying the rent okay okay so um i should just put clown 0.97

00:05:54.960 on my forehead was he hot how tall was he damn a bit taller just a couple of inches you don't say 0.97

00:06:02.000 that pearl you say was he good in bed i was better in bed i was better in bed no wonder he broke in 0.97

00:06:12.080 okay okay so you break up with him then what happened um so i supported him

00:06:18.080 through the breakup obviously so he could get his own place because i knew if i kicked him out

00:06:22.080 he'd turn back up on my doorstep don't want that so he moved out everything was fine i was even

00:06:28.480 praying to god like please just let this go nicely he left about two a month later i'm hearing my name

00:06:36.240 outside my house i'm thinking what the hell calling my family everyone's saying are you sure you're not

00:06:41.120 having a mental breakdown they actually believed i was losing my my mind um and then on my birthday

00:06:48.320 which was like a month after that he'd broke into my house he was hiding in my wardrobe and um

00:06:56.160 yeah it just went like he didn't come out but i could smell him in my house how long was he there

00:07:02.240 i don't know no seriously because he was outside and i run up the like i took my heels off and run up four

00:07:07.760 flights of stairs and then i've gone in shut the door behind me and everyone's trying to get in

00:07:12.880 and i was just like when i find you it's over um i could just smell him in my flat and i couldn't

00:07:19.040 find him and then i left and he broke out afterwards oh my gosh i've heard of a woman breaking into a man's 1.00

00:07:29.040 house i've heard of a woman breaking into a man's but it's the first time i've heard of a man breaking 1.00

00:07:33.920 into auntie what are you doing if someone stands out your house like that and comes inside into your

00:07:37.840 way now you're inside your mind that's the law that's the law isn't it my property you're inside

00:07:46.160 i never invited you you know i'm i'm not leaving you have to get past me are we fighting them i'm not

00:07:53.280 fighting i'm defending myself because i'm at the door there's a difference okay legally that's what 0.98

00:07:58.720 i mean i know what i'm saying i know what i'm saying what else what who else anyone you're crazy

00:08:05.040 worst breakup is it worse breakup or is it worth the person if the person is bad yeah the worst breakup

00:08:11.280 i want to hear yeah i want to hear that i'd say are there nice breakups are they ever nice breakups

00:08:16.800 has anyone had a nice breakup i've had a nice breakup have you yeah most of them have been nice yes there

00:08:21.600 is there is such a nice breakup guys so tell me tell me about the one that wasn't nice what happened

00:08:29.680 uh do i really want to go into that um just move over it you do yeah so

00:08:36.160 way back in my past i'm not going to go to my recent way back in my past um i had someone that

00:08:44.960 was a bit obsessive actually he left he finished the relationship and then he thought he could go

00:08:52.320 away for the weekend mess around a bit and come back and i'd had enough and i said no and then um

00:08:59.600 he was finding me in the streets on his hands and knees crying begging you know yeah it's a bit messy

00:09:08.240 and he would try and break in but he didn't ever succeed he was trying to break it yeah he put a

00:09:12.880 ladder up to the window and also there was a lot there was a lot there was a lot yeah he didn't get

00:09:19.120 in but it was weird so he put a ladder onto your door and tried to or up to the second yeah and then

00:09:31.920 tried to get get to get in yeah did you call the cops did i call it do you know it was a long time

00:09:38.480 no i don't think i did i think i just got out of the way of the way he couldn't get in so what was 1.00

00:09:42.960 he gonna do it's just stupid it was just such a stupid thing to do okay you go up a ladder go back 0.99

00:09:47.200 down again see ya yeah all right have fun wow that's i can't believe there's two people in here 0.99

00:09:53.200 yeah he didn't succeed though and he didn't hide in a wardrobe i mean he did do some weird things

00:09:58.400 over the years but i'm not gonna go into stuff okay um is dating a younger more attractive man

00:10:05.840 than your ex considered a win why or why not doesn't it depend on how he treats you and what person he is

00:10:13.840 um how he carries himself whether he's holding doors open for you whether all those nice things

00:10:20.000 that you like from a man to be treated like a woman um is he doing those things does age really matter

00:10:29.120 can i just say if i was to date a younger guy than i am like was dating or i'm dating whatever the

00:10:34.560 situation may be i'd probably catch a case yeah you're young now you're at that 17 is crazy i've

00:10:42.160 got a bit of leeway you've got no leeway i've got some leeway sorry the question's based on the um

00:10:48.960 tom brady and giselle so okay let's catch your case she was dating a 24 year old what do you mean

00:10:54.080 catch your case how old is she she's 40 something i mean i don't know if i'd want to date a man that's 1.00

00:11:00.800 that much younger because it takes a man it takes men a while they have to get some things out of

00:11:05.760 their system before they settle down and yeah they mature a lot slower i don't know if i'd want to do

00:11:12.160 that no but then you've got to look at is are you actually looking to have a are you for this younger

00:11:16.960 person you're actually looking to have a relationship i don't i don't date without having a relationship i

00:11:21.840 don't get involved with anyone unless i see a relationship potential i don't do that sorry one thing

00:11:27.600 that i would point out is women typically don't want younger men and second attractive is somewhat

00:11:33.440 secondary um i think for men if they had a you know a younger more attractive um new person than 0.83

00:11:41.600 their ex then it would be a win for them because that is kind of their dating metric that's what they 0.60

00:11:45.440 look for whereas with women i would typically look for someone that's older like my partner's a little 1.00

00:11:50.720 older than me um and attraction you know a lot of times women can replace that with for example 1.00

00:11:58.720 you know status or money whereas with men if you're not attractive they won't even give you the time 0.99

00:12:03.600 of day so it's the question was kind of asked in reverse it wouldn't be you know a win for women 0.99

00:12:09.360 but definitely for men i think i think that would be a win for women if the younger person oh it's a 0.98

00:12:15.680 younger person if the younger person was um more mature because sometimes you get a younger man he's

00:12:23.520 more mature than the other man you've left is it rare it's rare though isn't it i'm a rarity

00:12:30.960 yeah but is the man rare i know you're a rarity but no sometimes no there's a lot of good young men

00:12:36.480 out there no but then if you're actively going out seeking a younger guy saying oh yeah this is

00:12:40.960 going to make my husband thought like i'm going to go that he's going to be like oh he's probably

00:12:46.160 more sexually active probably more good looking probably has better things coming for him i think

00:12:50.400 that's kind of that's kind of low key tapped like high key in fact like if you're thinking about getting

00:12:55.840 with someone to degrade someone that you've been with before it kind of just shows your character and

00:12:59.600 i don't think that's how we should be approaching it especially right now and as women i don't think

00:13:03.600 that's how we should approach it before we get there with our stuff we don't want to so i agree

00:13:07.680 for the different reason that's slag behavior if it's if it's like a 40 year old woman and a 25 1.00

00:13:15.600 year old man what could what future could there be no matter how nice of a young man he is she'll get 0.51

00:13:20.880 good sex for about 10 years before he leaves her i'll i'll be up for that

00:13:30.000 but no i mean okay would you say that's a win then for her it's a win for her good on her 0.99

00:13:42.320 they talk about equality in it and that younger man well good on him he's out there of an older

00:13:47.360 woman who's got a bit of dosh why not i think some men like older women and i don't know whether 0.71

00:13:54.160 it's mummy issues but i feel like they like to be mothered and i think older women tend to wrap them 1.00

00:14:01.120 up and look after them yeah no i just think that older women and knows how to look after a man rather 1.00

00:14:07.120 than young people nowadays so what you might see as mother it might be just a traditional woman looking 0.99

00:14:11.680 after a man and that's what it is because if you get an older woman now and she decides to go and 1.00

00:14:17.440 give her man dinner on a go and cook dinner and put it on the tray you'd be like see what i mean and 1.00

00:14:23.040 you might think oh she's mothering him but that's what women do well and younger guys like the guys 1.00

00:14:28.080 that i know that will go for older women is typically because they want casual sex and they just think 0.82

00:14:33.120 it's easier to get it from them yeah that's what i said good sex for 10 years and if it lasts longer

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JustPearlyThings - April 03, 2023

Girl Goes Through the Most Toxic Break Up

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