JustPearlyThings - April 21, 2023


Given This Option, Every Man Would Cheat


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

216.42468

Word Count

2,385

Sentence Count

36

Misogynist Sentences

28

Hate Speech Sentences

25


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.580 I saw something a podcast the other day where a man said if a man cheats women shouldn't take it personal
00:00:05.580 Or should they should just suck it up. Do you agree?
00:00:08.300 Because I don't think well, so I don't like that idea of just sucking it up if you if you if she's like truly truly hurt
00:00:14.180 By I think you need to sit in it with her and be there for like I look a real man
00:00:19.400 Can slit a throat and hold a baby in the same day. That's my definition of a man
00:00:23.980 So you have to be able to do both
00:00:25.860 You know, you need to be hard hard hard and loving
00:00:29.240 And there's no problem being vulnerable with a woman or like hey being there for
00:00:32.840 There's no problem at all because if you're really strong if anybody takes if it tries to take advantage of your vulnerability
00:00:37.480 You fucking crush them. So wait, you don't there's not one woman on this. Not one woman commit to
00:00:43.320 No, no, no, no, no, no. Yes. There are there are women that I can fully commit to as in
00:00:49.480 Sexually no, there's no no and there's no man that would want to
00:00:53.680 If you lined up every man on the planet and you said hey listen, I got this red button
00:00:58.100 I've said this on podcast before
00:01:00.900 Nobody's looking nobody's gonna judge you truly. Nobody's here every man in the world
00:01:04.980 They said you can be a great husband a wonderful father. You can go home tuck your kids at night
00:01:11.060 possibly sleep sleep with other women and then go home and hold your wife and tuck in your babies and
00:01:15.540 Provide and be a good husband and father every man on the planet would look left
00:01:18.420 They'd look right and they'd hit that button. Do you think cheating is a good thing?
00:01:22.420 No, but it is just naturally part of the male psyche
00:01:26.500 It's it's what I think the point the point is it's it's it's he can absolutely love the woman
00:01:32.180 You know, she can be his absolute queen. She is like the the top
00:01:36.100 Um, but he's always gonna have that that propensity to what variety that's what it comes down to and like justin said
00:01:42.580 That the other the other woman doesn't even need to be that good
00:01:45.540 She doesn't even need to be as attractive. She could be ugly. Yeah, I think girls really miss that and that whole time
00:01:52.740 The one he actually loves has the ability probably to break his heart. Yeah
00:01:56.820 And girls often ask well, what's the difference because I always thought that if a man cheats he truly doesn't love. Oh, no, that's not true at all
00:02:04.340 That's not true at all. That's not true at all
00:02:06.340 You know you look I'm tell you right now honey hungry and horny to a man is the same thing you have filet mignon at home
00:02:11.940 But sometimes you just eat a corn dog because it's different. So would you say a hole is a hole?
00:02:17.380 Do you if it's female like well, I got certain standards, right? So
00:02:22.740 You know, no a hole is not a hole but at the same time
00:02:28.500 You would be surprised at how far down the totem pole a man would go for variety
00:02:33.700 And they don't love what I don't love these women. I don't even want them in their bed
00:02:37.380 What if a dude got another girl pregnant?
00:02:39.940 Do you think that the girl should leave?
00:02:42.500 No, no, because because it's really about him showing up the way he's supposed to show up women
00:02:47.700 No, men are this way all women in their gut truly. No men are this way and a lot of times it's acceptable man
00:02:54.060 There's so many rap songs out there talking about infidelity and fucking hoes and bitches and the girls are in the club
00:02:58.780 Just dancing. What do you what do you think are valid reasons for women ending relationships?
00:03:03.120 A man not holding the correct frame not being the man of the house being weak
00:03:08.720 Being in a position where he's not being a leader not taking responsibility not stepping up not being a man
00:03:14.080 specific like example
00:03:15.680 I'm just like in a day-to-day relationship of how that would play a day-to-day relationship
00:03:20.720 I'll give you a great example
00:03:22.720 Men get married every weekend in america
00:03:25.360 They stand in front of the church god and both families and commit to the woman
00:03:29.680 They tell her they're gonna basically saying they're gonna give her the best life
00:03:33.440 They've made an agreement for that man to work his ass off. He comes home
00:03:36.800 He's complaining about his job
00:03:38.640 But instead of getting out there and hustling and create a better life for them and to be a better father and a better husband
00:03:44.080 He pops open a beer smokes a jay and turns on the xbox
00:03:48.720 and he's just
00:03:50.720 Emotionally vomited all over his wife which puts her in a position of feeling fearful like this guy
00:03:55.600 He's coming home
00:03:57.760 Complaining about his job not doing a fucking thing about it and then dumping it on me
00:04:02.800 Now I have to work so we can make the mortgage
00:04:05.280 Now our kids not might have to go to a lesser school than they would have
00:04:08.720 Our whole situation is fucked because this guy didn't make a commitment
00:04:11.840 And he's fine with that because he's gonna trade off sex, right?
00:04:14.480 But here's a news flash
00:04:16.080 He's ass will cheat on you, too
00:04:17.920 And when you find out you're gonna leave him
00:04:19.680 But the guy that's taking care of business every way
00:04:21.520 Making you feel safe giving you a life that you would have never had otherwise it's committed to you
00:04:26.480 And your happiness and even is there when you're emotionally upset or feeling pain. That's the kind of man you want
00:04:33.840 A man
00:04:34.960 Again, my definition is a man is somebody that can slit a throat and hold a baby in the same day
00:04:39.360 And that really sums it up because he's got to be hard
00:04:41.360 He's got to be strong
00:04:42.640 But he can still be delicate if if it needs to be because he's so strong that he knows
00:04:47.360 That he can snap out of that really really fast
00:04:49.360 And that's it
00:04:51.360 I still think cheating is disgusting
00:04:53.280 Of course agreed
00:04:54.720 If a woman cheated on you, would you stay?
00:04:56.720 Fuck no
00:04:58.000 No, it's a complete double standard. It's not fair at all
00:05:00.480 I agree
00:05:01.040 It's a complete double standard
00:05:02.560 It's not fair at all
00:05:03.440 But you know what I know?
00:05:04.560 What?
00:05:05.120 If a woman truly loves a man, she doesn't even see other men
00:05:08.640 She can't even see them
00:05:09.680 Not true
00:05:10.400 I think it's true
00:05:11.280 I agree with that
00:05:12.080 Because there's been times when I've really liked someone and doesn't matter how attractive another person is
00:05:16.640 See straight through them
00:05:17.600 That just I'm not interested
00:05:19.760 But a man that creates an atmosphere
00:05:22.400 Of being a real man creates real genuine desire
00:05:25.680 And it takes genuine desire to make other men invisible
00:05:28.640 When other men are invisible, that's when you're doing it right
00:05:31.680 When I have a Facebook account full of wives sliding in my DMs
00:05:34.960 I know all those dudes aren't doing it right
00:05:37.200 Oh yeah
00:05:37.840 Facebook's the worst
00:05:41.680 Facebook
00:05:42.240 Can I ask you a question quickly?
00:05:45.040 So obviously you mentioned online
00:05:47.920 But I genuinely feel like a lot of men are looking for wives in whole houses, right?
00:05:53.120 In whole houses?
00:05:54.160 Yeah
00:05:54.480 Figuratively
00:05:55.840 Yeah, basically you're picking the wrong women
00:05:57.680 You're looking for
00:05:59.040 A lot of men are kind of like going for women
00:06:01.360 Just bumping into them like in the club
00:06:03.440 Or they're looking for where they can find an easy woman
00:06:06.000 Because it makes the chase a lot easier
00:06:08.320 What is the best physical place for a man to meet a wife in your opinion?
00:06:14.160 Physical place?
00:06:14.800 Yeah, as in like real life not online
00:06:16.800 Ideally it would be in the gym for me
00:06:18.320 I'm real big on fitness
00:06:19.440 Like gym
00:06:20.160 Okay
00:06:20.960 But what I'll say about those guys that are shopping in whorehouses is
00:06:23.920 It kind of goes back to they didn't do the work to be in abundance
00:06:26.960 So
00:06:29.760 I've slept with a bunch of Instagram models, right?
00:06:32.080 I would never never never take them seriously
00:06:35.440 Why?
00:06:36.640 Because their titties are all over the internet
00:06:38.560 And that's that is a problem
00:06:39.840 It's a big problem. Yeah
00:06:41.280 I get that
00:06:41.920 Because she didn't keep that sacred
00:06:43.360 Yeah, but you could cover her up
00:06:45.680 If she changed the whole account immediately, maybe
00:06:47.760 But that's a big maybe
00:06:48.960 But if you could do it, that means that the guys probably did it as well, isn't it?
00:06:51.840 Like in itself
00:06:52.800 Right, exactly
00:06:53.680 But but the thing too is this is like so that the more simp guy
00:06:56.960 The more the guy that didn't take care of his business the guy that's not in abundance in his life
00:07:00.480 He'll take her immediately because that's the hottest girl he can get
00:07:03.840 But he's picking the wrong cloth
00:07:05.520 It goes back to what we talked about earlier about like what makes a woman look
00:07:09.360 Good for a high-level man online. It's being the right cloth
00:07:12.720 You can show that you're built well without showing the assets themselves
00:07:16.400 Yeah, it's interesting that you said that he could cover her up though
00:07:19.680 Because if sneaker had said that said all I could I'll just cover her up you'd have said he was misogynist
00:07:26.960 But you're right
00:07:28.960 Maybe maybe and maybe they got off on the on the wrong foot
00:07:31.280 I think some men have unrealistic standards though
00:07:34.560 In what way?
00:07:36.400 Because you said that you would meet your ideal partner in a gym
00:07:40.960 So she could be like a gym or work or anywhere normal
00:07:45.120 I think what not a club
00:07:46.480 I think it's not the venue
00:07:47.520 I think it's not the venue so much. I mean, yeah, I'd agree not a club
00:07:50.560 But I think it's not beyond that. It's not the venue so much. It's it's does the guy have a decent vetting
00:07:55.840 System in place like is he and and you're right if you don't have
00:08:00.640 Any abundance, you know if this girl that you've met who may be you know
00:08:04.160 She's got some questionable morals or she's not ideal for you
00:08:07.520 But she's the best that you've ever got you're going to cling on to that like it's your life depends on it, right?
00:08:12.640 And actually what you need to do is have the power not to do that
00:08:16.240 You know to let a woman go even if she's incredibly beautiful, you know
00:08:20.480 Like with the instagram models, you know just let her go because she's not right for you
00:08:23.520 Okay, so you and you've got to you've got a vet you've got to know what you're looking for and you've got to stick to those
00:08:28.880 Those boundaries that you have for yourself. So another question for you to other than
00:08:33.760 Obviously the physical appearance. What other ways do you spot red flags in a woman?
00:08:39.040 What's your trick? How do you filter through?
00:08:41.680 What you say is this and what is not in terms of like the mentality the things you can't actually see you've got to look at their behavior
00:08:47.360 I think yeah
00:08:48.480 Like if he's if she's if she slept with you on the first date. Are you not going to take her serious?
00:08:53.520 I'm not that's yeah
00:08:55.840 That's the real thing because we've I think women feel like a real attraction and a pull to someone that you really like like
00:09:02.640 Because in that time is that is it in an innate behavior? I can tell you this
00:09:06.640 I have felt women not sleep with me on a first date knowing they wanted to
00:09:12.400 Just to try to defend against that and then and I think it's a smart move. I respect it
00:09:17.520 But what what attracts me just as much as beauty well, not as much as beauty
00:09:21.520 I don't think that's fair, but a woman that's level-headed and based
00:09:25.040 What do you mean by that by base?
00:09:27.760 Okay, cool
00:09:28.880 So I just said something that you don't like right
00:09:31.280 But you're intelligent enough to have a real conversation and not go boom off the wall
00:09:36.000 Can't hear what i'm saying anymore. We can have a real conversation. That's intellectually attractive. That's a smart thing to do
00:09:41.920 You know what i'm saying?
00:09:42.640 Like that's how a woman can like you sit in it
00:09:45.600 It's the combative women the ones that want to argue with you and everything's a problem and then you're like, dude
00:09:50.720 I'm not arguing with you. I'm an adult
00:09:53.520 I'm gonna act like an adult
00:09:55.120 If we can have a conversation about if you can have hard conversations with men about hard subjects
00:09:59.600 And really step back and even and kind of separate the emotion
00:10:03.760 Because here's the thing
00:10:05.200 Let's say you agree to that and you stay with a man
00:10:07.600 And you suspect he's doing something behind your back, right?
00:10:10.000 You think you're not gonna cry you're gonna fucking cry and you're gonna be upset
00:10:13.360 Hopefully there's enough trust and love in that relationship that you can bring that pain to him
00:10:17.920 And he's there to foster you through it
00:10:20.160 You look to him to help you through it because you look up to him because he's there for you because you trust him because he has proven himself to you
00:10:27.760 If you can get there with a man dude, I I truly believe that
00:10:31.680 The chances of divorce at that point are almost next to nothing
00:10:34.800 Also, by the way, if you are that type of woman and i'm not trying to
00:10:38.720 Do a campaign for promoting women to let men cheat but he ain't gonna leave your ass either
00:10:43.920 He definitely probably not gonna leave you
00:10:45.680 You know, I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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