JustPearlyThings - Given This Option, Every Man Would Cheat

00:00:00.580 I saw something a podcast the other day where a man said if a man cheats women shouldn't take it personal

00:00:05.580 Or should they should just suck it up. Do you agree?

00:00:08.300 Because I don't think well, so I don't like that idea of just sucking it up if you if you if she's like truly truly hurt

00:00:14.180 By I think you need to sit in it with her and be there for like I look a real man 0.87

00:00:19.400 Can slit a throat and hold a baby in the same day. That's my definition of a man 0.60

00:00:23.980 So you have to be able to do both

00:00:25.860 You know, you need to be hard hard hard and loving

00:00:29.240 And there's no problem being vulnerable with a woman or like hey being there for 0.99

00:00:32.840 There's no problem at all because if you're really strong if anybody takes if it tries to take advantage of your vulnerability 0.99

00:00:37.480 You fucking crush them. So wait, you don't there's not one woman on this. Not one woman commit to 0.97

00:00:43.320 No, no, no, no, no, no. Yes. There are there are women that I can fully commit to as in

00:00:49.480 Sexually no, there's no no and there's no man that would want to

00:00:53.680 If you lined up every man on the planet and you said hey listen, I got this red button

00:00:58.100 I've said this on podcast before

00:01:00.900 Nobody's looking nobody's gonna judge you truly. Nobody's here every man in the world

00:01:04.980 They said you can be a great husband a wonderful father. You can go home tuck your kids at night

00:01:11.060 possibly sleep sleep with other women and then go home and hold your wife and tuck in your babies and 0.99

00:01:15.540 Provide and be a good husband and father every man on the planet would look left

00:01:18.420 They'd look right and they'd hit that button. Do you think cheating is a good thing?

00:01:22.420 No, but it is just naturally part of the male psyche

00:01:26.500 It's it's what I think the point the point is it's it's it's he can absolutely love the woman

00:01:32.180 You know, she can be his absolute queen. She is like the the top 1.00

00:01:36.100 Um, but he's always gonna have that that propensity to what variety that's what it comes down to and like justin said

00:01:42.580 That the other the other woman doesn't even need to be that good 1.00

00:01:45.540 She doesn't even need to be as attractive. She could be ugly. Yeah, I think girls really miss that and that whole time 1.00

00:01:52.740 The one he actually loves has the ability probably to break his heart. Yeah

00:01:56.820 And girls often ask well, what's the difference because I always thought that if a man cheats he truly doesn't love. Oh, no, that's not true at all

00:02:04.340 That's not true at all. That's not true at all

00:02:06.340 You know you look I'm tell you right now honey hungry and horny to a man is the same thing you have filet mignon at home

00:02:11.940 But sometimes you just eat a corn dog because it's different. So would you say a hole is a hole? 0.95

00:02:17.380 Do you if it's female like well, I got certain standards, right? So 1.00

00:02:22.740 You know, no a hole is not a hole but at the same time

00:02:28.500 You would be surprised at how far down the totem pole a man would go for variety

00:02:33.700 And they don't love what I don't love these women. I don't even want them in their bed 1.00

00:02:37.380 What if a dude got another girl pregnant? 0.90

00:02:39.940 Do you think that the girl should leave? 0.59

00:02:42.500 No, no, because because it's really about him showing up the way he's supposed to show up women

00:02:47.700 No, men are this way all women in their gut truly. No men are this way and a lot of times it's acceptable man

00:02:54.060 There's so many rap songs out there talking about infidelity and fucking hoes and bitches and the girls are in the club 1.00

00:02:58.780 Just dancing. What do you what do you think are valid reasons for women ending relationships? 1.00

00:03:03.120 A man not holding the correct frame not being the man of the house being weak 0.96

00:03:08.720 Being in a position where he's not being a leader not taking responsibility not stepping up not being a man

00:03:14.080 specific like example

00:03:15.680 I'm just like in a day-to-day relationship of how that would play a day-to-day relationship

00:03:20.720 I'll give you a great example

00:03:22.720 Men get married every weekend in america

00:03:25.360 They stand in front of the church god and both families and commit to the woman

00:03:29.680 They tell her they're gonna basically saying they're gonna give her the best life

00:03:33.440 They've made an agreement for that man to work his ass off. He comes home

00:03:36.800 He's complaining about his job

00:03:38.640 But instead of getting out there and hustling and create a better life for them and to be a better father and a better husband

00:03:44.080 He pops open a beer smokes a jay and turns on the xbox

00:03:48.720 and he's just

00:03:50.720 Emotionally vomited all over his wife which puts her in a position of feeling fearful like this guy

00:03:55.600 He's coming home 0.99

00:03:57.760 Complaining about his job not doing a fucking thing about it and then dumping it on me 0.99

00:04:02.800 Now I have to work so we can make the mortgage 0.98

00:04:05.280 Now our kids not might have to go to a lesser school than they would have 0.97

00:04:08.720 Our whole situation is fucked because this guy didn't make a commitment 0.99

00:04:11.840 And he's fine with that because he's gonna trade off sex, right? 0.99

00:04:14.480 But here's a news flash 1.00

00:04:16.080 He's ass will cheat on you, too 1.00

00:04:17.920 And when you find out you're gonna leave him 0.99

00:04:19.680 But the guy that's taking care of business every way

00:04:21.520 Making you feel safe giving you a life that you would have never had otherwise it's committed to you

00:04:26.480 And your happiness and even is there when you're emotionally upset or feeling pain. That's the kind of man you want

00:04:33.840 A man 0.98

00:04:34.960 Again, my definition is a man is somebody that can slit a throat and hold a baby in the same day 0.72

00:04:39.360 And that really sums it up because he's got to be hard

00:04:41.360 He's got to be strong

00:04:42.640 But he can still be delicate if if it needs to be because he's so strong that he knows

00:04:47.360 That he can snap out of that really really fast

00:04:49.360 And that's it 0.65

00:04:51.360 I still think cheating is disgusting

00:04:53.280 Of course agreed

00:04:54.720 If a woman cheated on you, would you stay? 1.00

00:04:56.720 Fuck no 1.00

00:04:58.000 No, it's a complete double standard. It's not fair at all 1.00

00:05:00.480 I agree

00:05:01.040 It's a complete double standard

00:05:02.560 It's not fair at all

00:05:03.440 But you know what I know?

00:05:04.560 What?

00:05:05.120 If a woman truly loves a man, she doesn't even see other men 0.96

00:05:08.640 She can't even see them

00:05:09.680 Not true

00:05:10.400 I think it's true

00:05:11.280 I agree with that

00:05:12.080 Because there's been times when I've really liked someone and doesn't matter how attractive another person is

00:05:16.640 See straight through them

00:05:17.600 That just I'm not interested

00:05:19.760 But a man that creates an atmosphere

00:05:22.400 Of being a real man creates real genuine desire

00:05:25.680 And it takes genuine desire to make other men invisible 0.59

00:05:28.640 When other men are invisible, that's when you're doing it right 1.00

00:05:31.680 When I have a Facebook account full of wives sliding in my DMs 1.00

00:05:34.960 I know all those dudes aren't doing it right

00:05:37.200 Oh yeah

00:05:37.840 Facebook's the worst 0.80

00:05:41.680 Facebook

00:05:42.240 Can I ask you a question quickly?

00:05:45.040 So obviously you mentioned online

00:05:47.920 But I genuinely feel like a lot of men are looking for wives in whole houses, right?

00:05:53.120 In whole houses?

00:05:54.160 Yeah

00:05:54.480 Figuratively

00:05:55.840 Yeah, basically you're picking the wrong women 1.00

00:05:57.680 You're looking for

00:05:59.040 A lot of men are kind of like going for women

00:06:01.360 Just bumping into them like in the club

00:06:03.440 Or they're looking for where they can find an easy woman 1.00

00:06:06.000 Because it makes the chase a lot easier

00:06:08.320 What is the best physical place for a man to meet a wife in your opinion? 0.84

00:06:14.160 Physical place?

00:06:14.800 Yeah, as in like real life not online

00:06:16.800 Ideally it would be in the gym for me

00:06:18.320 I'm real big on fitness

00:06:19.440 Like gym

00:06:20.160 Okay

00:06:20.960 But what I'll say about those guys that are shopping in whorehouses is 1.00

00:06:23.920 It kind of goes back to they didn't do the work to be in abundance

00:06:26.960 So

00:06:29.760 I've slept with a bunch of Instagram models, right?

00:06:32.080 I would never never never take them seriously

00:06:35.440 Why? 0.99

00:06:36.640 Because their titties are all over the internet 0.99

00:06:38.560 And that's that is a problem 0.99

00:06:39.840 It's a big problem. Yeah

00:06:41.280 I get that

00:06:41.920 Because she didn't keep that sacred

00:06:43.360 Yeah, but you could cover her up 0.60

00:06:45.680 If she changed the whole account immediately, maybe

00:06:47.760 But that's a big maybe

00:06:48.960 But if you could do it, that means that the guys probably did it as well, isn't it?

00:06:51.840 Like in itself

00:06:52.800 Right, exactly

00:06:53.680 But but the thing too is this is like so that the more simp guy

00:06:56.960 The more the guy that didn't take care of his business the guy that's not in abundance in his life

00:07:00.480 He'll take her immediately because that's the hottest girl he can get 0.99

00:07:03.840 But he's picking the wrong cloth

00:07:05.520 It goes back to what we talked about earlier about like what makes a woman look 0.98

00:07:09.360 Good for a high-level man online. It's being the right cloth

00:07:12.720 You can show that you're built well without showing the assets themselves

00:07:16.400 Yeah, it's interesting that you said that he could cover her up though

00:07:19.680 Because if sneaker had said that said all I could I'll just cover her up you'd have said he was misogynist

00:07:26.960 But you're right

00:07:28.960 Maybe maybe and maybe they got off on the on the wrong foot

00:07:31.280 I think some men have unrealistic standards though

00:07:34.560 In what way?

00:07:36.400 Because you said that you would meet your ideal partner in a gym

00:07:40.960 So she could be like a gym or work or anywhere normal 1.00

00:07:45.120 I think what not a club

00:07:46.480 I think it's not the venue

00:07:47.520 I think it's not the venue so much. I mean, yeah, I'd agree not a club

00:07:50.560 But I think it's not beyond that. It's not the venue so much. It's it's does the guy have a decent vetting

00:07:55.840 System in place like is he and and you're right if you don't have

00:08:00.640 Any abundance, you know if this girl that you've met who may be you know

00:08:04.160 She's got some questionable morals or she's not ideal for you 1.00

00:08:07.520 But she's the best that you've ever got you're going to cling on to that like it's your life depends on it, right?

00:08:12.640 And actually what you need to do is have the power not to do that

00:08:16.240 You know to let a woman go even if she's incredibly beautiful, you know 1.00

00:08:20.480 Like with the instagram models, you know just let her go because she's not right for you 1.00

00:08:23.520 Okay, so you and you've got to you've got a vet you've got to know what you're looking for and you've got to stick to those

00:08:28.880 Those boundaries that you have for yourself. So another question for you to other than

00:08:33.760 Obviously the physical appearance. What other ways do you spot red flags in a woman? 1.00

00:08:39.040 What's your trick? How do you filter through?

00:08:41.680 What you say is this and what is not in terms of like the mentality the things you can't actually see you've got to look at their behavior

00:08:47.360 I think yeah

00:08:48.480 Like if he's if she's if she slept with you on the first date. Are you not going to take her serious?

00:08:53.520 I'm not that's yeah

00:08:55.840 That's the real thing because we've I think women feel like a real attraction and a pull to someone that you really like like 0.99

00:09:02.640 Because in that time is that is it in an innate behavior? I can tell you this

00:09:06.640 I have felt women not sleep with me on a first date knowing they wanted to 1.00

00:09:12.400 Just to try to defend against that and then and I think it's a smart move. I respect it

00:09:17.520 But what what attracts me just as much as beauty well, not as much as beauty

00:09:21.520 I don't think that's fair, but a woman that's level-headed and based 1.00

00:09:25.040 What do you mean by that by base?

00:09:27.760 Okay, cool

00:09:28.880 So I just said something that you don't like right

00:09:31.280 But you're intelligent enough to have a real conversation and not go boom off the wall

00:09:36.000 Can't hear what i'm saying anymore. We can have a real conversation. That's intellectually attractive. That's a smart thing to do

00:09:41.920 You know what i'm saying?

00:09:42.640 Like that's how a woman can like you sit in it 1.00

00:09:45.600 It's the combative women the ones that want to argue with you and everything's a problem and then you're like, dude 1.00

00:09:50.720 I'm not arguing with you. I'm an adult

00:09:53.520 I'm gonna act like an adult

00:09:55.120 If we can have a conversation about if you can have hard conversations with men about hard subjects

00:09:59.600 And really step back and even and kind of separate the emotion

00:10:03.760 Because here's the thing

00:10:05.200 Let's say you agree to that and you stay with a man 0.99

00:10:07.600 And you suspect he's doing something behind your back, right? 0.90

00:10:10.000 You think you're not gonna cry you're gonna fucking cry and you're gonna be upset 0.59

00:10:13.360 Hopefully there's enough trust and love in that relationship that you can bring that pain to him 0.92

00:10:17.920 And he's there to foster you through it

00:10:20.160 You look to him to help you through it because you look up to him because he's there for you because you trust him because he has proven himself to you

00:10:27.760 If you can get there with a man dude, I I truly believe that

00:10:31.680 The chances of divorce at that point are almost next to nothing

00:10:34.800 Also, by the way, if you are that type of woman and i'm not trying to 0.99

00:10:38.720 Do a campaign for promoting women to let men cheat but he ain't gonna leave your ass either 1.00

00:10:43.920 He definitely probably not gonna leave you 0.99

00:10:45.680 You know, I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform

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JustPearlyThings - April 21, 2023

Given This Option, Every Man Would Cheat

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