JustPearlyThings - Good Conversation On Dating Market in 2023

00:00:00.000 Only funny to me, like, I can see you, that's the messenger. 0.99

00:00:08.980 It's dumb, right? 0.96

00:00:12.020 It's a good thing you're engaged now. 0.99

00:00:13.440 Yeah, yeah, yeah, trust, I'm out of the game.

00:00:15.340 If you tried that on me, that would not work.

00:00:17.760 I'd be like, is this a mistake?

00:00:19.160 Like, is this an error?

00:00:20.480 But, but, but, look, you responded.

00:00:25.860 That's all you wanted.

00:00:26.960 That's all we needed.

00:00:27.600 We needed a door to be open, and from there,

00:00:29.320 you can figure out, I'm only kidding, blah, blah, blah,

00:00:31.920 you can find it, but, like, you see that?

00:00:33.360 It worked right there.

00:00:34.560 I can see you.

00:00:35.400 The gifs, you know the gifs, the little, um, the gifs, gifs, gifs,

00:00:39.160 they're the best way to slide in, I think.

00:00:41.760 Oh.

00:00:42.340 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:00:43.040 You know what's funny?

00:00:43.640 I've never DM'd anyone before they DM'd me.

00:00:47.040 Sorry, big man.

00:00:47.980 Come on, never messaged anyone in my life.

00:00:50.100 Sorry, man.

00:00:50.880 No, I didn't, I didn't know it was a thing.

00:00:52.540 Go on.

00:00:52.940 I didn't know it was a thing.

00:00:54.040 Go on, king.

00:00:54.780 I literally waited for someone to message me,

00:00:56.140 and then I just kind of react,

00:00:58.040 and then the vibe of it.

00:00:59.440 What's your back signal?

00:01:00.240 What, you like a couple pictures?

00:01:01.440 You like the story?

00:01:02.240 So, if I like your pictures more than one,

00:01:04.040 you know what it means.

00:01:05.920 Then he knows what time it is.

00:01:06.640 And if you don't, he or she, 0.90

00:01:08.160 let's not go fully gay yet. 0.66

00:01:09.680 Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay.

00:01:12.120 And then we kind of, then obviously,

00:01:14.520 if you get a private message or something like that,

00:01:16.720 then I kind of react to that.

00:01:18.120 Whether it's a female or a male,

00:01:19.960 but a female is very different where, 1.00

00:01:22.440 I'm very, it's very different with a female, 1.00

00:01:24.600 because I'm kind of more romantic type.

00:01:26.400 I'm a face-to-face person anyway.

00:01:28.800 I'm old school, like pretend social media didn't exist.

00:01:33.480 So, with a female, I'd be like, 1.00

00:01:35.080 let's go catch a bite, let's go to a cocktail bar.

00:01:38.780 And I think, as time go on,

00:01:41.380 I'm kind of the same thing with guys.

00:01:43.220 It's not just a thing where I just want to talk.

00:01:44.660 Anyone can be anyone on social media or on the phone.

00:01:47.980 I want to feel your vibe by the way you talk,

00:01:50.020 the way you hold yourself as a person,

00:01:51.660 your body language, and that's it.

00:01:53.860 Because that's what wows me, and that's what gets here.

00:01:56.100 And if you've got me here,

00:01:58.300 so girl or female, you've got me.

00:01:59.940 You obviously know what kind of girls or guys 0.99

00:02:03.740 that you need to take on a date,

00:02:04.680 and you know which ones you can just bring back.

00:02:07.880 Like, what-

00:02:09.380 Guys are different though, right?

00:02:10.780 Because guys be more brazen.

00:02:13.140 Are there any, like, tests you guys do 0.99

00:02:15.300 to see how slutty a girl is? 1.00

00:02:18.440 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 0.96

00:02:19.440 If you say the word, this should be outdated now,

00:02:21.880 so I'm gonna throw this out there, but you know,

00:02:23.720 if he says, uh, trouble,

00:02:25.980 and you're responding a certain type of way,

00:02:27.520 it's game over for you.

00:02:28.660 It's there, you guys know that.

00:02:30.320 If he says, uh, trouble, and you're like,

00:02:31.960 oh, do you mean trouble?

00:02:33.660 Nah, nah, nah, just ignore the whole trouble thing, innit?

00:02:36.100 Because I think trouble, you guys be using trouble, yeah.

00:02:38.740 It's kind of the same vibe of, um,

00:02:40.700 if I hear the words come out of your mouth,

00:02:42.180 that's just who I am, you know that girl is tapped. 1.00

00:02:47.020 What do you mean?

00:02:47.880 Because any time you hear,

00:02:49.080 oh, that's just who I am,

00:02:49.960 people just don't understand who I am,

00:02:51.220 and they just don't-

00:02:52.060 That person is someone who argues for fun,

00:02:55.460 that's someone who, who light your car on fire

00:02:58.460 because you told her that you were two pence off,

00:03:00.300 that's someone, that's someone that will have a fight with you

00:03:04.140 because their cousins were upset at you.

00:03:06.240 What do you think about the girls that say that 0.96

00:03:08.160 they just get along with guys more than girls?

00:03:10.160 Mmm, she ain't for me. 0.52

00:03:12.160 She ain't for me. 0.98

00:03:13.940 That's interesting coming from you, sir.

00:03:15.940 I know, she ain't for me.

00:03:18.940 She ain't for me. 0.98

00:03:21.440 I need you just with me.

00:03:23.280 Okay.

00:03:23.980 Just with me.

00:03:24.740 How about people's girlfriends can't do with you? 0.98

00:03:26.020 No, that's cool, I'm cool though, I'm a good guy.

00:03:28.620 Nah, nah.

00:03:29.240 You're giving vibes that she can't have friends.

00:03:30.880 What are other tests you guys do?

00:03:33.160 Um, I kind of just look at, I just, I just observe, man.

00:03:36.420 You gotta observe, like people will tell on themself eventually.

00:03:39.420 So you just observe what kind of stuff they're posting.

00:03:41.300 If they're posting a lot of like indirect quotes to,

00:03:44.100 that means that they need to heal.

00:03:45.700 Mm-hmm.

00:03:46.800 You know what I mean?

00:03:48.500 If they're, yeah, just depend on what you post.

00:03:51.440 It's true.

00:03:52.440 I met a girl, like if I met someone, girl or female,

00:03:55.080 and they tell me there's come out of a relationship,

00:03:56.900 I'm not fussed with you.

00:03:58.540 But if we're just talking on a sexual situation,

00:04:02.140 I have needs.

00:04:03.140 Okay.

00:04:03.720 But if it's something where you want it to go,

00:04:06.460 like in a relationship or whatever,

00:04:07.800 you need, you need time to heal.

00:04:09.660 If it's just, if you just want to have fun or whatever,

00:04:11.560 then yeah, I can't take you seriously.

00:04:13.560 If you told me you just broke up with your partner.

00:04:17.000 To your point.

00:04:17.700 A month or whatever, or a few weeks ago,

00:04:19.600 I can't take you seriously.

00:04:21.100 If she posts a hundred quotes, then you're right.

00:04:23.440 She does have a hundred issues that she needs to sort out 1.00

00:04:25.480 at some point.

00:04:27.840 There's a specific page that begins with-

00:04:30.580 I don't know what these pages are.

00:04:31.580 I'm not going to give them clout right now, but-

00:04:33.580 Do you guys-

00:04:34.580 The one that begins with a J, and ends with a Y. 0.67

00:04:36.820 Like that one, if they post that, red flag, Trinidad.

00:04:40.220 Do you guys look at who girls follow?

00:04:42.160 Sometimes, yeah.

00:04:42.580 You have to sometimes.

00:04:43.580 No, no, no, no, no, no.

00:04:44.920 Because you know, if they follow Sam Smith, I'm joking.

00:04:48.660 Do you guys look at who guys follow?

00:04:51.840 No.

00:04:52.840 No.

00:04:53.840 No.

00:04:54.840 If I'm interested, yeah.

00:04:55.840 I'll go through who they follow.

00:04:57.840 And what if he follows a bunch of Instagram models?

00:05:01.840 Does that bother you?

00:05:02.840 Not really, because guys are going to be guys, aren't they?

00:05:05.840 They're all going to be attracted to Instagram models,

00:05:07.840 but it doesn't really bother me too, too much, to be fair.

00:05:10.840 So what do you look for when it comes to their following?

00:05:12.840 Well, say if a girl's commented on their page,

00:05:17.840 I'll go through that specific girl, if that makes sense.

00:05:21.840 Oh, OK.

00:05:22.840 Yeah.

00:05:23.840 Oh, interesting.

00:05:24.840 I care about the mutuals.

00:05:25.840 I care about the mutuals. 1.00

00:05:26.840 Oh, damn. 1.00

00:05:27.840 Yeah. 1.00

00:05:28.840 I care about the mutuals.

00:05:29.840 Yeah.

00:05:30.840 I need to know which one of my friends know me.

00:05:31.840 If we've got mutuals, there's certain people that if we're mutual friends,

00:05:34.840 Yeah, I know why he knows me.

00:05:36.840 It's crazy, because I trust women.

00:05:39.840 Whenever I'm dating with a girl or talking to a girl,

00:05:42.840 I don't do any research on you whatsoever.

00:05:44.840 It's the guys that I know are just out there in the streets.

00:05:47.840 Guys are completely different.

00:05:49.840 The guys that I want, I'm just like, I watch your mutuals.

00:05:51.840 That's interesting.

00:05:52.840 Because everyone in London, guy-wise, in the whole gay world, 1.00

00:05:55.840 be sleeping with everyone. 0.95

00:05:56.840 The women. 0.81

00:05:57.840 Yeah.

00:05:58.840 I don't know, man.

00:05:59.840 With women, I kind of just trust you.

00:06:00.840 I don't think I've ever had a girl play out on me.

00:06:02.840 I, the younger version of me, like, okay, for example,

00:06:08.840 I think any guy that's under the age of 25 or like 20 years old,

00:06:12.840 if they've cheated, sorry, I know you're going to disagree with me.

00:06:15.840 Like, it's not really a cheat.

00:06:17.840 We're not a man.

00:06:18.840 We don't really know what we're doing.

00:06:19.840 Um, so I think like, if you're under the age of 25 and you cheat,

00:06:24.840 look at you looking at me.

00:06:26.840 I'm so excited.

00:06:27.840 We're under 25 and I've done it and I think a lot of us here have done it.

00:06:32.840 Um, I don't take it.

00:06:33.840 Sleep for yourself.

00:06:34.840 You might try to drag a horse.

00:06:38.840 I thought I had a team.

00:06:40.840 I thought I had a team, bro.

00:06:42.840 You're on your mind, bro.

00:06:44.840 Okay.

00:06:45.840 I've never cheated.

00:06:46.840 Black men don't cheat, remember?

00:06:48.840 Let's move on. 0.98

00:06:49.840 Bro.

00:06:50.840 What I'm trying to say is I think if a woman takes a guy seriously 0.99

00:06:53.840 under the age of 21 and he's cheated, that's on you.

00:06:57.840 Because we're not.

00:06:58.840 Our mentality, women to me, mature far more than men at a different age.

00:07:04.840 Who's more, who's more childish, men or women? 0.89

00:07:06.840 Men, there's men that still like 40, 50 still playing PlayStation and still doing silly crazy. 0.96

00:07:11.840 You know what I'll say?

00:07:12.840 You know what I'll say?

00:07:13.840 With, um, generally speaking,

00:07:15.840 with women that have kids, yeah, I feel like they learn a certain sense of responsibility 0.98

00:07:20.840 and that no one's coming to save them because they have a responsibility.

00:07:24.840 Because they've had to, yeah, yeah.

00:07:25.840 You know what I mean?

00:07:26.840 Up until then, I think they can be a bit childish in society.

00:07:28.840 They're playing a step that no one wants to do.

00:07:30.840 I think, I don't actually think that men are more mature than women.

00:07:33.840 You don't think?

00:07:34.840 No, I think men are more mature than women.

00:07:36.840 I don't say that.

00:07:37.840 Really?

00:07:38.840 I see it.

00:07:39.840 I see that.

00:07:40.840 You know, um, my, there's this saying that's like,

00:07:43.840 right when a woman starts to receive attention from men, she like doesn't age mentally.

00:07:47.840 Mm-hmm.

00:07:48.840 So like, she's like whatever age it was, so 13, 14, 15.

00:07:52.840 And I went out and I had this like red pill moment a couple years ago.

00:07:55.840 My mom, I got in trouble in high school, so she sent me to my grandma's house.

00:07:58.840 And I was at, um, and it was weird because a lot of the grandmas were like widows, right?

00:08:03.840 So their grandmas all went like to this like karaoke bar. 1.00

00:08:06.840 Yeah.

00:08:07.840 And it's like a weird small town.

00:08:08.840 And the way they were talking, I was like, this sounds like me and my friends.

00:08:11.840 And we're like 14, 15. 0.97

00:08:14.840 But I think like in media, they always paint women as the smart ones and men as the dumb ones. 0.99

00:08:21.840 And I think that like, if you think of the Simpsons, it's always, you know, Marge is smart, Bart is dumb. 0.99

00:08:26.840 Yeah, Homer's dumb, Marge is smart. 0.99

00:08:29.840 Family guy is this fat guy that can't be trusted with anything. 1.00

00:08:33.840 I think like in general, women play way more childish games than men do. 1.00

00:08:37.840 Mm-hmm. 0.98

00:08:38.840 But women are a lot smarter and a lot smarter. 1.00

00:08:40.840 And same thing like when women cheat, because women cheat, I think- 1.00

00:08:42.840 That's because women know how to manipulate them. 1.00

00:08:44.840 That's why you're better at it.

00:08:45.840 That's our power.

00:08:46.840 Because we don't have physical power.

00:08:47.840 We have manipulatives.

00:08:48.840 You're better at it.

00:08:49.840 Men, we're not that good.

00:08:50.840 Like women would do smart things. 1.00

00:08:51.840 My ex-partner used to do stuff like when I was sleeping, would just do the fingerprint thing

00:08:55.840 and go through my messages.

00:08:57.840 That's a smart thing to do.

00:08:58.840 She knows I'm a deep sleeper.

00:09:00.840 So she knows she can pick up my finger and go through my messages.

00:09:05.840 Which got me in a lot of trouble.

00:09:06.840 That's smart.

00:09:07.840 Like for us, as men, we ain't really trying to do that.

00:09:12.840 We ain't even thinking that.

00:09:13.840 Because I think that question is a very nuanced question.

00:09:15.840 Because there are a lot of areas in society where women are like a lot more mature than men in certain areas. 0.88

00:09:21.840 Like when it comes to like emotional, like how to do with one's emotions.

00:09:24.840 Women have got their pats from today one because that's literally most of what they do from today. 1.00

00:09:29.840 I disagree.

00:09:30.840 What?

00:09:31.840 Women love emotions. 1.00

00:09:32.840 Women are in control of their emotions. 1.00

00:09:35.840 I didn't say in control.

00:09:36.840 I said you.

00:09:37.840 I said you.

00:09:38.840 No.

00:09:39.840 I didn't say get down pat.

00:09:40.840 I just said have the ability to look at their emotions and be one with their emotions.

00:09:44.840 Oh, accept.

00:09:45.840 Accept it.

00:09:46.840 Accept it.

00:09:47.840 Yeah.

00:09:48.840 Accept it.

00:09:49.840 I'm not saying that they've mastered it.

00:09:50.840 Yeah.

00:09:51.840 But like the fact that women have gone through this emotional turmoil and they go through it all the time.

00:09:54.840 And like if they see a dog dies, it's just like the worst thing in the world.

00:09:59.840 Have you guys ever gone through a guy's phone?

00:10:02.840 No.

00:10:03.840 Tell the truth.

00:10:04.840 Tell the truth.

00:10:05.840 No, you haven't.

00:10:06.840 Really?

00:10:07.840 My ex has gone through mine though.

00:10:08.840 Zoinks. 1.00

00:10:09.840 I appreciate it.

00:10:10.840 Cap.

00:10:11.840 Cap.

00:10:12.840 Cap.

00:10:13.840 Cap.

00:10:14.840 Alright.

00:10:15.840 Why'd you go through his phone?

00:10:17.840 Because I knew he was doing something dodgy.

00:10:20.840 Yeah.

00:10:21.840 I wouldn't do it unless I had a suspicion.

00:10:23.840 And I had a suspicion and I was right.

00:10:25.840 And every time I've done it, I've been right.

00:10:27.840 But now I've got to a point where I will never do it.

00:10:30.840 Because every time I've done it, I've found something and I actually really like my boyfriend.

00:10:34.840 So even if I get the feeling, I'm like, I don't even want to leave it at this point.

00:10:41.840 What did you find?

00:10:43.840 Naked pictures from other girls. 0.78

00:10:45.840 Oh, wow.

00:10:46.840 But like how?

00:10:47.840 I used to get that all the time.

00:10:49.840 How?

00:10:50.840 What do you mean?

00:10:51.840 My ex-girlfriend, like girlfriends I've had, one specific partner has gone through my phone

00:10:55.840 and woke me up at like three in the morning and been like, oh, blah, blah, blah.

00:10:59.840 I'm like, but how did you know?

00:11:00.840 And I've been like-

00:11:01.840 I don't know.

00:11:02.840 I don't know.

00:11:03.840 I don't know.

00:11:04.840 It's really weird.

00:11:05.840 It's like a feeling.

00:11:06.840 Not continuous, but my younger days, like I would just be like, but how did you even

00:11:07.840 know I was talking to her on Facebook or how did you know?

00:11:10.840 Well, I can answer that one for you.

00:11:11.840 What made you think?

00:11:12.840 And you've been like, oh, a woman always knows. 0.70

00:11:14.840 And I'm like, what is this?

00:11:15.840 How?

00:11:16.840 How does a woman know? 1.00

00:11:17.840 Your behavior probably changes.

00:11:18.840 But I'm a really good actor.

00:11:19.840 Clearly not.

00:11:20.840 Not even that.

00:11:21.840 Because there's a lot of subconscious things that you would do.

00:11:24.840 Yeah.

00:11:25.840 Okay.

00:11:26.840 So it's like, we pick up on little social cues that like men don't.

00:11:29.840 So like, okay, we'll see.

00:11:32.840 We'll notice, let's say, if you don't like text us around the time you normally text us.

00:11:37.840 Yeah.

00:11:38.840 Or like, or if you don't do something you normally do that you wouldn't like think anything of.

00:11:41.840 Like women, we notice. 1.00

00:11:42.840 Yeah.

00:11:43.840 We notice everything.

00:11:44.840 Or if like you have a certain interaction with a girl and you think, well, that's how

00:11:47.840 he used to interact with me.

00:11:48.840 Yeah.

00:11:49.840 Or like when we first met.

00:11:50.840 Because the thing is, the thing is, guys have this as well.

00:11:53.840 And guys, you know the whole thing of like guys knowing that one guy friend who's actually 0.99

00:11:58.840 going to fuck. 0.99

00:11:59.840 Guys also see this as well. 1.00

00:12:00.840 So we all, we understand.

00:12:01.840 It's just very, it's just kind of different how we go about dealing with it.

00:12:05.840 So guys will go around and be like, oh, that one friend.

00:12:08.840 We'll just say it directly because guys are way more direct than women. 1.00

00:12:11.840 We'll be like, yo, that friend Zeke or whatever his name is Zach.

00:12:14.840 Or I'm trying to think of random names. 1.00

00:12:16.840 Zach's trying to fuck you. 1.00

00:12:17.840 Like there's going to be the ones where guys will tell their girlfriend, no, he's not. 1.00

00:12:21.840 He's just like a brother to me.

00:12:22.840 Blah, blah, blah, blah.

00:12:23.840 A girl will do, will look at the same information. 1.00

00:12:26.840 And instead of just saying it outright, like, yo, Sarah's trying to have sex with you, bro. 0.87

00:12:30.840 They'll be like, they'll go around and be like, get you to see it through their words 0.97

00:12:36.840 type of thing.

00:12:37.840 You know what I mean?

00:12:38.840 It's very different approaches that guys can go through.

00:12:40.840 The approach that we take sometimes as guys is like, we think that that's going to repulse

00:12:44.840 the girl. 0.96

00:12:45.840 The girl likes sex, bro. 1.00

00:12:46.840 And she likes to take attention. 1.00

00:12:47.840 If you say, you know, you know that male friend. 1.00

00:12:49.840 He wants to fuck you. 1.00

00:12:50.840 You know he wants to fuck you. 1.00

00:12:51.840 He wants to fuck you. 1.00

00:12:52.840 She's not going to be like, oh, no. 1.00

00:12:53.840 She might be like, oh, is it?

00:12:54.840 You know what I mean?

00:12:55.840 She probably knows already.

00:12:56.840 But you know, at the end of the day, that's why I think that with male friends,

00:12:59.840 with women and guys, like having that friendship, it's very much, it works in a woman's favor 1.00

00:13:05.840 a lot of the time.

00:13:06.840 So you wouldn't let me be friends with your girl?

00:13:07.840 Sorry?

00:13:08.840 You wouldn't let me be friends with a girl?

00:13:09.840 You wouldn't let me be friends with a girl?

00:13:10.840 You?

00:13:11.840 You know.

00:13:12.840 I don't think you're a friend.

00:13:13.840 We're good, bro.

00:13:14.840 We're good.

00:13:15.840 But I would treat you like a male friend that she has in it.

00:13:18.840 So the boundaries will be there.

00:13:19.840 Ain't no, let's get changed together.

00:13:20.840 You can't come in one day and you're in there changing.

00:13:23.840 All right.

00:13:24.840 Listen to this.

00:13:25.840 Yeah.

00:13:26.840 I once had a girl.

00:13:27.840 What was she? 0.85

00:13:28.840 She wanted to come around my yard and work or something. 1.00

00:13:29.840 And she was like, oh, her boyfriend won't allow her because it's just me and her.

00:13:33.840 I was like, but why though?

00:13:34.840 It's just me and her.

00:13:35.840 She's working from, instead of working from home, she's working from my life.

00:13:38.840 It's about not putting her, so her boyfriend said no.

00:13:42.840 Yeah.

00:13:43.840 It's about her not being in a space or in a situation where something could happen.

00:13:47.840 There should be boundaries in place if you're in a relationship.

00:13:50.840 She's just a friend of mine.

00:13:51.840 She's a good friend.

00:13:52.840 She was a good friend of mine.

00:13:53.840 Yeah.

00:13:54.840 But put it like this.

00:13:55.840 I was in a situation where I hope to go do her assignment, but by the end of the night,

00:13:58.840 did we finish your assignment?

00:13:59.840 No.

00:14:00.840 No.

00:14:01.840 No.

00:14:02.840 You finished another or something?

00:14:03.840 No.

00:14:04.840 No.

00:14:05.840 Because the situation, like one-on-one in those type of situations and those type of times,

00:14:09.840 I can 100% understand that the guy being like, oh, I feel a bit of whatever.

00:14:14.840 Look at your face.

00:14:15.840 You were even scheming.

00:14:16.840 I can see your face.

00:14:17.840 Bro, Wayne is that guy that cheats on you and then he will say to me.

00:14:21.840 No.

00:14:22.840 Before 25 don't count.

00:14:23.840 Before 25 don't count.

00:14:24.840 You know you have the man that will be like, yo, my girl's trying to say I was cheating on 0.50

00:14:27.840 her.

00:14:28.840 But you were.

00:14:29.840 It's me.

00:14:30.840 It's me you're talking to, bro.

00:14:32.840 Like, wait, it's us.

00:14:33.840 Yeah, it's us.

00:14:34.840 It's fine.

00:14:35.840 We get in.

00:14:36.840 We understand.

00:14:37.840 You just don't want to put yourself in a situation where something could come back.

00:14:40.840 Let's say the girl lies and you can't really defend yourself.

00:14:43.840 It's her word against yours.

00:14:45.840 I think that there should be boundaries in place.

00:14:47.840 Like, I don't think it's okay.

00:14:49.840 If you are, if she's in a relationship, it's not okay for her to be bopping up to your room 1.00

00:14:53.840 to work.

00:14:54.840 Like, why?

00:14:55.840 I don't understand.

00:14:56.840 No, but you're just chilling.

00:14:57.840 You're working from home.

00:14:58.840 You usually work from home.

00:14:59.840 Did you, when she said that to you, did you say, you know what?

00:15:02.840 I understand.

00:15:03.840 That's a really, like, that's great.

00:15:04.840 Your boyfriend had boundaries.

00:15:05.840 Or did you say, oh, that's horrible.

00:15:07.840 I said to her, but he knows I'm Bino.

00:15:10.840 That doesn't help.

00:15:12.840 Have you and her been intimate before?

00:15:15.840 Like, back in the day?

00:15:16.840 No, we haven't.

00:15:17.840 We got in a situation where I knew she had feelings for me.

00:15:20.840 Oh.

00:15:21.840 In me.

00:15:22.840 No, no, no.

00:15:23.840 No, no, no.

00:15:24.840 Two plus two is wrong.

00:15:25.840 No.

00:15:26.840 No.

00:15:27.840 No.

00:15:28.840 No.

00:15:29.840 No.

00:15:30.840 I'm a nice guy.

00:15:31.840 This is how we don't trust you, bro.

00:15:33.840 This is how I don't trust you.

00:15:35.840 Come on.

00:15:36.840 Come on.

00:15:37.840 I just wanted that friendship.

00:15:38.840 That's all I wanted.

00:15:39.840 Whatever.

00:15:40.840 Whatever.

00:15:41.840 Whatever.

00:15:42.840 Do his Instagram.

00:15:43.840 Yeah.

00:15:44.840 Let's check your Instagram, my man.

00:15:46.840 I don't know my glasses.

00:15:47.840 Okay.

00:15:48.840 I want to know if you guys, I know you're not single, but when you were single, if you guys

00:15:52.840 would respond or not, and what you would think of him.

00:15:55.840 Oh, jeez.

00:15:56.840 Man's a model still.

00:15:57.840 You know, I can't really see.

00:15:59.840 Is that your car?

00:16:00.840 I feel like if I saw this Instagram, I would think problems.

00:16:03.840 That's the one that the gage, yeah.

00:16:05.840 That's the one that the gage respond to you.

00:16:07.840 Yeah.

00:16:08.840 Yeah.

00:16:09.840 I don't think this is, I don't need these type of problems.

00:16:14.840 You've got blue ticks coming into yours as well.

00:16:16.840 Wow.

00:16:17.840 You see?

00:16:18.840 It's too big.

00:16:21.840 Oh, yeah.

00:16:22.840 Definitely.

00:16:23.840 Yeah.

00:16:24.840 Yeah.

00:16:25.840 Is that a Magnum?

00:16:26.840 Your type.

00:16:30.840 Okay.

00:16:31.840 What do you guys, what do you guys think?

00:16:32.840 What would you?

00:16:33.840 Like the last picture and this picture is fine.

00:16:36.840 There was a couple pictures that I would be like, mm.

00:16:38.840 I'm a PT, but yeah, I hear you.

00:16:41.840 Mm.

00:16:42.840 You need to show the merchandise, innit?

00:16:44.840 Yeah, fair.

00:16:47.840 So would you guys respond?

00:16:49.840 Yeah, probably.

00:16:50.840 Yeah.

00:16:51.840 To be fair.

00:16:52.840 Yeah.

00:16:53.840 What about you two?

00:16:54.840 Would you respond?

00:16:55.840 No.

00:16:56.840 I don't know.

00:16:57.840 I think you're a good looking guy, but I don't know.

00:17:00.840 Because of course you had your, you were flexing.

00:17:03.840 That's him.

00:17:04.840 Oh, is he?

00:17:05.840 That's him.

00:17:06.840 That's him.

00:17:07.840 That's him.

00:17:08.840 That's him.

00:17:09.840 That's him.

00:17:10.840 That's him.

00:17:11.840 That's him.

00:17:12.840 That's him.

00:17:13.840 That's my glasses.

00:17:14.840 I was like, like, trying to see.

00:17:17.840 Someone get us some glasses. 0.98

00:17:18.840 Someone get us some glasses. 0.98

00:17:20.840 What a mess.

00:17:21.840 That's him.

00:17:22.840 No, yeah, no.

00:17:23.840 I mean, you're a good looking guy, but I think, yeah, there was a couple of pictures that

00:17:25.840 I'm, but I can't judge you.

00:17:26.840 But you said you don't like the whole top thing off.

00:17:29.840 It's just, yeah, there's just something I.

00:17:31.840 I'm on holiday.

00:17:32.840 But yeah, talk.

00:17:33.840 That's all good.

00:17:34.840 But it's just, I mean, I think I have that view in general though.

00:17:37.840 Like, even if a girl is like, and I'm not going to say I haven't done this in the past, 0.93

00:17:41.840 but if you're out there like bikini, like tits, like tits in the camera, like showing off your body in a certain type of way, you want a certain type of attention. 0.97

00:17:48.840 To like, I can't take you seriously. 0.99

00:17:50.840 No, I hear.

00:17:51.840 I hear that.

00:17:52.840 I agree.

00:17:53.840 See, my answer is PG clean.

00:17:55.840 PG 30.

00:17:56.840 I was like, I just have like, I would think, because when you see a profile like that, I would just assume you get so much attention.

00:18:05.840 Yeah.

00:18:06.840 Which you're saying is true.

00:18:07.840 And so I'm like, I am not.

00:18:08.840 That's a headache.

00:18:09.840 I don't want to deal with that.

00:18:10.840 No, I'm not too jealous.

00:18:11.840 You don't want to be competitive, man.

00:18:13.840 You've got to go for it.

00:18:14.840 You know what I mean? 1.00

00:18:15.840 You're a demon. 0.99

00:18:17.840 What was my other question? 1.00

00:18:20.840 Yeah.

00:18:21.840 Have you guys ever gone through a girl's phone?

00:18:23.840 Yeah.

00:18:24.840 I mean, businesses do audits, right? 1.00

00:18:26.840 Damn. 0.99

00:18:27.840 What did you find? 1.00

00:18:29.840 Did you find anything?

00:18:30.840 Most of the time, you know, guys, we're a bit, we're just, we don't go for the right things.

00:18:34.840 I think women know exactly where to look. 1.00

00:18:36.840 Guy's going to look for random shit. 1.00

00:18:39.840 To be fair. 0.99

00:18:40.840 You're not going to find nothing.

00:18:41.840 I've done it.

00:18:42.840 I'll be honest though.

00:18:43.840 I think once, once you're in that place where it becomes a thing where you need to, then

00:18:50.840 and there's difference.

00:18:51.840 Like someone going, someone opening up your phone in your sleep is different to like someone

00:18:55.840 leaving you with their phone and then you might just, you know, okay, that pop up came

00:18:59.840 up.

00:19:00.840 What was that?

00:19:01.840 Like it's a bit of a difference.

00:19:03.840 If you're like waking people up or like trying to do all that kind of stuff, I think there's,

00:19:06.840 there's other problems there.

00:19:07.840 I think sometimes there's a curiosity thing where that people have, where it's just open

00:19:12.840 and you just, you might just, or like, cause there's even times where I'll put it down

00:19:16.840 to someone being on their phone next to you.

00:19:18.840 And how many times, like, let's say someone's typing their password in front of you.

00:19:21.840 How many times do you, man don't want to be guys.

00:19:23.840 So we do this.

00:19:24.840 I mean, what are you doing, man?

00:19:26.840 Look at that, bro.

00:19:27.840 Like, look at it.

00:19:28.840 You know what I mean?

00:19:29.840 But we do that.

00:19:30.840 Cause your women will look at it easy, but you know, guys, you want to feel secure.

00:19:33.840 So you're just like, no, I'm not even going to look because you don't want problems in

00:19:36.840 it.

00:19:37.840 But sometimes you, you just look and see, cool.

00:19:38.840 What's going on?

00:19:39.840 Everything cool.

00:19:40.840 All right.

00:19:41.840 Cool.

00:19:42.840 I think I've checked in the same way of like being that one, like person who's very worried

00:19:46.840 and had to check through the phone.

00:19:47.840 The check in that check in quote unquote is one of those ones. 0.98

00:19:50.840 Like you said, you're on her phone, you're playing fucking fruit ninja or whatever. 0.80

00:19:54.840 And like a text comes up, you know, I'm like, I don't go through anyone's phone. 0.99

00:19:59.840 That's your private thing.

00:20:00.840 That's your private space.

00:20:01.840 But you see the name and you see what the message is.

00:20:03.840 And you're like, okay, you just keep a mental note of like, all right.

00:20:06.840 I think yeah, if you don't trust your partner, then I think that that is already.

00:20:10.840 Life is too short for me to go through your phone.

00:20:13.840 It's like, why am I even with you?

00:20:15.840 I think for me.

00:20:16.840 There's a question from the chat.

00:20:17.840 They want to know from the girls.

00:20:20.840 Is cheating, which would you prefer?

00:20:24.840 You go through his phone and you find him. 0.80

00:20:26.840 He has naked pictures from another girl.

00:20:29.840 Or he was buying her things.

00:20:32.840 But there is nothing physical.

00:20:35.840 It's both cheating.

00:20:37.840 Why is he buying?

00:20:38.840 No, you gotta, that's not the question.

00:20:40.840 You gotta pick one.

00:20:41.840 You have to pick one.

00:20:42.840 Um.

00:20:43.840 Oh, that's difficult.

00:20:46.840 I think, I think, I think naked pictures is definitely worse.

00:20:52.840 Okay.

00:20:53.840 I think, yeah.

00:20:54.840 So if he bought her a bunch of clothes or something, that wouldn't be as bad as naked pictures.

00:20:59.840 Yeah.

00:21:00.840 Yeah.

00:21:01.840 I'm the same, to be fair.

00:21:02.840 Naked pictures worse.

00:21:03.840 Yeah.

00:21:04.840 No, I have to disagree because, like, let's be real.

00:21:09.840 Some of the stuff that girls post on Instagram, does it really make a difference if you're sending nudes privately on Snapchat or if you're just posting that on Instagram?

00:21:16.840 Like, you're gonna have people doing what they do.

00:21:21.840 Mm-hmm.

00:21:22.840 Either way.

00:21:23.840 I agree with you.

00:21:24.840 I'm like, if I found out-

00:21:25.840 I think it's more personal if it's- 1.00

00:21:26.840 If I found out a dude was buying some random Instagram girl, a bunch of shit. 0.99

00:21:29.840 Yeah. 1.00

00:21:30.840 I'd be like, what?

00:21:31.840 What? 1.00

00:21:32.840 Like, that's a whole mind fuck. 1.00

00:21:34.840 Like, the nudes, it's like, okay, a man's a man, a man has a penis, like, he's gonna do what he's gonna do. 1.00

00:21:38.840 But it's like, the buying things, it's like, that's the effort. 0.99

00:21:41.840 And is it-

00:21:42.840 Yeah.

00:21:43.840 Is it different than, like, corn?

00:21:44.840 Do you know what I mean?

00:21:45.840 Yeah.

00:21:46.840 Like, if a guy gets a picture from a girl.

00:21:47.840 Yeah.

00:21:48.840 Versus looks up corn online, is it that big of a-

00:21:50.840 How much difference?

00:21:51.840 Yeah.

00:21:52.840 Yeah, exactly.

00:21:53.840 Because it's all just, like, I mean, it's just flesh.

00:21:56.840 Like, the act of buying someone a gift takes thought and effort.

00:22:02.840 Like, a guy getting nudes, he's getting that for one thing.

00:22:05.840 Yeah, but it's also about the intentions-

00:22:07.840 A gift is like-

00:22:08.840 The intentions of why he's buying her something as well.

00:22:11.840 Like, he's probably buying her something so that he can sleep with her eventually.

00:22:15.840 That's why we said it was worse.

00:22:16.840 Yeah, that's why it's worse.

00:22:17.840 I know, but-

00:22:18.840 That's why it's worse.

00:22:19.840 You know the detectives in the movie that say, yeah.

00:22:20.840 They say, follow the money.

00:22:21.840 Yeah.

00:22:22.840 Yeah, he's emotionally invested.

00:22:24.840 Would you guys break up if zero contact happened?

00:22:30.840 Yeah.

00:22:31.840 Yeah.

00:22:32.840 Cause, you know what's funny when you asked that first question?

00:22:36.840 We gave each other a look.

00:22:37.840 We gave each other a look, cause we both know if he buying someone else a gift-

00:22:41.840 Yeah.

00:22:42.840 Bro.

00:22:43.840 That is worse.

00:22:44.840 He's trying to cheat.

00:22:45.840 He's trying to leave.

00:22:46.840 He's really having a conversation with this girl.

00:22:48.840 He's finding someone else.

00:22:49.840 He's looking to have a conversation with this girl and he's like, he's talking to her enough

00:22:53.840 that he knows her well enough to think that he can buy her things and know what she likes.

00:22:58.840 Yeah.

00:22:59.840 That means he's been talking to her for a while.

00:23:00.840 Which means he's down to book a ticket if she drops the address.

00:23:03.840 No, that's the difference between like a fling and a fair.

00:23:07.840 Yeah.

00:23:08.840 A fair is, you know, you follow the money, you'll find the affair.

00:23:10.840 Fling is any news you're gonna find or whatever.

00:23:12.840 The news is whatever, because you can, if he's a cheater, he can be getting news from 11 people, whatever.

00:23:17.840 If he's like a serial cheater, then he's getting news from everyone.

00:23:20.840 But if he's sending, if he's got to a point of messaging this person to a point where he's sending the gifts on a somewhat regular basis.

00:23:26.840 Yeah, you're done.

00:23:27.840 What about OnlyFans subscription?

00:23:28.840 If you find it.

00:23:29.840 Ooh, tough.

00:23:30.840 That would just, that would turn me off massively. 1.00

00:23:33.840 You're an idiot. 1.00

00:23:34.840 You're an idiot. 1.00

00:23:35.840 That's the only fans. 1.00

00:23:36.840 No, no, no.

00:23:37.840 OnlyFans can be, can be used in different ways though.

00:23:40.840 Cause there's people that do OnlyFans that don't, you don't need to fully do the whole.

00:23:44.840 Does he, wait, he subscribed to one, right?

00:23:46.840 That's what you're saying?

00:23:47.840 He subscribed to OnlyFans.

00:23:48.840 I think that's like sad, like I'd almost, I'd almost rather he cheat than subscribing.

00:23:56.840 Yeah, because of like, nobody wants you to the point you have to get like.

00:24:00.840 You have to pay just to see pictures.

00:24:02.840 And then I would wonder, I'm like, did I do something wrong?

00:24:07.840 I've had this conversation though.

00:24:09.840 It's the same with like, um, like maybe escorts and stuff in it.

00:24:11.840 So let's say for instance with OnlyFans, it makes it more personal.

00:24:13.840 So let's say you can have OnlyFans and you don't probably, but if you do,

00:24:17.840 and someone really wanted, they couldn't really bother to wine and Daniel

00:24:20.840 and talk with you like that, but they really were like sexually attracted to you.

00:24:24.840 They could just go through the OnlyFans, pay that little subscription.

00:24:28.840 See everything.

00:24:29.840 In their head, you're a boy now.

00:24:31.840 Yeah.

00:24:32.840 They've, you know what I mean?

00:24:33.840 You've done whatever.

00:24:34.840 And then they can go on with their life.

00:24:35.840 Do you know what I'm saying?

00:24:36.840 Same thing with like escorts or whatever.

00:24:38.840 Instead of doing a whole dating situation, they paid for an escort.

00:24:41.840 They've got that out of the system and they've moved on.

00:24:43.840 So it's like, I think with OnlyFans, the only difference between OnlyFans and

00:24:46.840 Pornhub is that they have, they might know the person.

00:24:52.840 They might know who the person is.

00:24:54.840 It's within reach.

00:24:55.840 That's why I think OnlyFans is growing because it's more personal.

00:24:58.840 But is that Beryl?

00:24:59.840 You ain't got to do nothing though.

00:25:00.840 You know, there's people like there's female escort. 1.00

00:25:03.840 Yeah.

00:25:04.840 The guy with like, oh, the guys.

00:25:05.840 No, I hear you.

00:25:06.840 They won't do nothing.

00:25:07.840 Same thing with OnlyFans.

00:25:08.840 Same thing with OnlyFans.

00:25:09.840 Like you haven't got to sexually do anything.

00:25:11.840 There's a super chat.

00:25:12.840 Never go through a girl's phone. 1.00

00:25:13.840 If you believe that you need to go through her phone, all you're doing is looking for

00:25:16.840 anything to confirm what you already believe is happening.

00:25:19.840 Mm-hmm.

00:25:20.840 Um, sorry, but.

00:25:21.840 That is true.

00:25:22.840 Only, that's a violation.

00:25:23.840 OnlyFans.

00:25:24.840 Like, okay, because I would genuinely look at myself and say, what did I do to drive

00:25:30.840 this man?

00:25:31.840 Like, that he has to pay?

00:25:35.840 He can't just go online?

00:25:36.840 Paying someone else.

00:25:37.840 Because paying for porn in 2023 is wild in and of itself.

00:25:44.840 But it's the same as a, I agree.

00:25:46.840 I'm just saying it's the same as a date.

00:25:48.840 Remember this.

00:25:49.840 Remember this.

00:25:50.840 A lot of people, it's the fault of having something that they can't have.

00:25:53.840 And it's an attraction where all we might get caught.

00:25:55.840 Everyone can have it for $5.99.

00:25:57.840 $5.99.

00:25:58.840 $5.99.

00:25:59.840 But I mean, that's a sexual drive because I can't, I'm not physically having you.

00:26:03.840 You're just someone that's on a computer screen.

00:26:05.840 It's the same thing like we're an affair.

00:26:07.840 A lot of people, an affair is sexy and they love it and it's an attraction until it becomes

00:26:12.840 something that's like allowed, you know, like people leave their wives for their mistress.

00:26:17.840 And they get with their mistress.

00:26:18.840 And they get with their mistress.

00:26:19.840 And they're like, all of a sudden it's like, it's not as fun anymore.

00:26:22.840 It's not the same.

00:26:23.840 We all want something that we can't have.

00:26:25.840 It doesn't really happen often.

00:26:26.840 You might get left by the wife and end up with the mistress, but you don't leave the 0.93

00:26:31.840 wife for the mistress. 1.00

00:26:32.840 You're a dummy in that situation. 1.00

00:26:33.840 Come on. 1.00

00:26:34.840 You're a dumbass. 1.00

00:26:35.840 Dumbass. 1.00

00:26:36.840 Has social media ever caused an argument in a relationship? 1.00

00:26:41.840 Yeah.

00:26:42.840 Oh my God.

00:26:43.840 Yeah.

00:26:44.840 What have women argued with you or men about?

00:26:47.840 The liking game.

00:26:49.840 Back when that was a feature, man.

00:26:51.840 I used to get me in heated discussions all the time.

00:26:54.840 But I would, I was like, I would do it for like algorithm things.

00:26:58.840 So if I know I'm about to post, I'll just like anything on my timeline.

00:27:01.840 Cause I know they're going to look and they're going to go and like my thing back.

00:27:04.840 Yeah.

00:27:05.840 That was like, that was the vibe.

00:27:06.840 I would like picture of your grand, your ankle, whatever, dogs, anything on that timeline

00:27:11.840 at that time.

00:27:12.840 I would just, I would just think.

00:27:13.840 And they'll be next to me when I do it.

00:27:14.840 It's not like I have to do it in secret, but I understand it looks crazy.

00:27:17.840 Yeah.

00:27:18.840 It looks crazy.

00:27:19.840 Anything you pop up.

00:27:20.840 Cause as well, it puts it onto their newsfeed as well.

00:27:22.840 Remember when you can see what other people are like.

00:27:23.840 No, that's what I'm talking about.

00:27:24.840 That's when it was an issue.

00:27:25.840 That's when it was an issue.

00:27:26.840 Yeah.

00:27:27.840 So I used to get into, into situations about that.

00:27:30.840 But I think on the flip side, if your girl only follows 90 people, let's say for instance,

00:27:34.840 and then, you know what I mean?

00:27:35.840 And then she follows that one guy.

00:27:37.840 You could be, you might be, you see 91.

00:27:40.840 Who's that?

00:27:41.840 Who's that 91?

00:27:42.840 She haven't been there.

00:27:43.840 You know what I mean?

00:27:44.840 So I think it works both ways though.

00:27:46.840 What have you gotten into arguments?

00:27:47.840 My situation was different where a girl slid into my DMs on Facebook. 0.98

00:27:53.840 I like went the extra mile on Facebook to find out that she went to college with my girl.

00:27:58.840 And then how that went was Facebook.

00:28:00.840 You know, like when you're in a relationship, it says you're in a relationship with this person.

00:28:04.840 I wasn't that smart when I was below 25, like I said.

00:28:08.840 So what happened was, she was like, oh, when we started having a conversation, she was like,

00:28:14.840 oh, but you're in a relationship with this person.

00:28:16.840 Hold on a minute.

00:28:17.840 I think I went to the same college.

00:28:18.840 Oh, I did go to the same college.

00:28:20.840 See, screenshot it.

00:28:21.840 My whole conversation with the girl and send it to my, my then girlfriend, man.

00:28:26.840 And that obviously caused an issue.

00:28:27.840 Oh, that argument is because you were cheating?

00:28:29.840 Yeah.

00:28:30.840 I was below 25.

00:28:33.840 I was below 25.

00:28:34.840 I was below 25.

00:28:35.840 I was below 25.

00:28:36.840 I was below 25.

00:28:37.840 It wasn't take seriously.

00:28:38.840 That's a fair enough argument.

00:28:40.840 What did you get into an argument about?

00:28:43.840 It's essentially, like you said, it's one of those, like, back when you can see who you liked and what you liked.

00:28:50.840 Back when that was a thing, it was like, back then, again, we were young. 0.96

00:28:56.840 We were dumb. 0.84

00:28:57.840 We didn't know where the social media was. 0.98

00:28:58.840 We grew up with social media essentially at the same time.

00:29:01.840 So you would see your partner liking all these things.

00:29:04.840 And then there would be an argument because for those who don't know, who are too young to know, Instagram is to show people who you liked.

00:29:12.840 Like the pictures you liked on like his own separate feed.

00:29:15.840 So that feed will get you.

00:29:16.840 All the girls know this.

00:29:17.840 Yeah, that feed will get you in trouble.

00:29:19.840 Did you know that, I'm not sure if it's the same now, but before on Instagram, if you were following under 200 people, it wouldn't show what order you followed people in.

00:29:29.840 Did you know that?

00:29:30.840 Did you know that?

00:29:31.840 So like, let's say your man goes out on a night out and he starts following someone new.

00:29:35.840 Then you know.

00:29:36.840 You might click on their page and you'll be like, all right, cool.

00:29:39.840 She was at the same party.

00:29:40.840 He obviously had an interaction.

00:29:41.840 However, if he was following, if he's following on, if they're following under 200, I don't know if it's still the same feature and I don't know, updates and stuff.

00:29:50.840 But yeah, man, those kind of things get into, you get into arguments over that.

00:29:54.840 But wait, let me ask you something, right?

00:29:55.840 Because what you just said, bro, I weren't cheating.

00:29:58.840 It was a conversation through Facebook.

00:29:59.840 Bro, I don't want to hear anything.

00:30:00.840 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:30:01.840 I'm not trying to air it, my boy.

00:30:02.840 I don't understand.

00:30:03.840 I'm trying to air it.

00:30:04.840 I'm trying to air it.

00:30:05.840 I'm trying to air it.

00:30:06.840 I'm trying to air it.

00:30:07.840 I'm trying to air it.

00:30:08.840 I'm trying to air it.

00:30:09.840 I'm trying to air it.

00:30:10.840 Like, I see cheating as a physical situation.

00:30:11.840 What?

00:30:12.840 It's not physical.

00:30:13.840 No, I don't agree.

00:30:14.840 No.

00:30:15.840 It can be emotional.

00:30:16.840 No, you can emotionally cheat.

00:30:17.840 All right, let me ask you this.

00:30:18.840 Let me ask you this, because I don't know.

00:30:19.840 I like to hear that coming from women, though. 1.00

00:30:20.840 Can I ask you something?

00:30:21.840 Devil's advocate.

00:30:22.840 Is it really the end of the world if he's messaging another girl?

00:30:25.840 Thank you.

00:30:26.840 Oh.

00:30:27.840 I agree.

00:30:28.840 It's not the end of the world, but it's not the start of the eyeball.

00:30:31.840 I just think, like, if we have open social media profiles, can we really, like, get off our high horse sometime?

00:30:40.840 Because I think that attention is to women as sex is to men.

00:30:45.840 Do you guys agree with that?

00:30:46.840 Yeah.

00:30:47.840 Okay, so I'm like, if we, most of us have open Instagrams and relationships, meaning we can get attention from high status men.

00:30:53.840 Yeah.

00:30:54.840 And that's always on the table.

00:30:55.840 But if he sends a message, like, it's the end of the world.

00:30:58.840 No.

00:30:59.840 But if he does what he was doing.

00:31:02.840 She messaged me first.

00:31:03.840 I was just responding.

00:31:04.840 It's rude not to respond.

00:31:05.840 What kind of message are we talking about?

00:31:07.840 If it's, like, you know, emojis and stuff like that, then it's a bit mad.

00:31:11.840 And I mean, if it's general conversation, then, you know, you might be able to bust case.

00:31:16.840 It's crazy.

00:31:17.840 I think I just look at things, like, differently.

00:31:19.840 I just...

00:31:20.840 No, I'm with you.

00:31:21.840 You pick the problems, innit?

00:31:22.840 You pick, like, battles and wars, I guess.

00:31:23.840 Yeah, you gotta pick battles.

00:31:24.840 Because if you're the type of person to, like, date for, like, a long-term relationship or marriage, right,

00:31:30.840 then it's, like, in the grand scheme of things, is a message gonna make or break your life?

00:31:36.840 Yeah, exactly.

00:31:37.840 It's the intention about...

00:31:38.840 You know, I think most of it becomes that gray area of the unknown.

00:31:41.840 So it's the intention behind the message.

00:31:43.840 All right, let me ask you a question, because I don't feel like you're on my side.

00:31:46.840 I'm not.

00:31:47.840 Okay.

00:31:48.840 All right, cool.

00:31:49.840 You're with your girl.

00:31:50.840 You've been with her a little while.

00:31:51.840 You're on a break, yeah?

00:31:52.840 Break.

00:31:53.840 You mean she's single?

00:31:54.840 Okay, but...

00:31:55.840 Okay, she's single, she's single. 1.00

00:31:56.840 Okay, so you might agree with me on this, yeah?

00:31:59.840 You've been with each other for a while.

00:32:01.840 Now, I was in a situation...

00:32:02.840 Okay, you have a girl.

00:32:04.840 She's not your girl, but you know, like, you have not...

00:32:07.840 It sounds bad, like a backup, not a backup.

00:32:09.840 You have people on your phone that you know like you.

00:32:11.840 Right.

00:32:12.840 Now, I was in a situation where I was always with someone from, like, 16,

00:32:16.840 so when I wasn't with someone, I used to just grab a girl that I knew liked me

00:32:20.840 because I wanted to feel like it was a fulfilled thing, right?

00:32:23.840 Yeah, man.

00:32:24.840 So if I'm not with you and we've broken up for, like, a week

00:32:27.840 and we have a sexual situation, I didn't cheat on you because we were on a break.

00:32:32.840 Hey, mind them fingers, bro.

00:32:38.840 What I was agreeing with me on this one, though.

00:32:39.840 No, I hear you.

00:32:40.840 What I'll say here is the moment you are on a break, you fed her to the wolves, bro.

00:32:46.840 You can't...

00:32:47.840 And vice versa, bro.

00:32:48.840 You're single.

00:32:49.840 You're two single people.

00:32:50.840 It's no longer...

00:32:51.840 I know it may feel like, you know, okay, cool.

00:32:53.840 We were in a relationship, but...

00:32:55.840 Boy, you're not under that covenant.

00:32:57.840 You're not under that contract, that obligation, that verbal commitment anymore, innit?

00:33:01.840 So whatever you do, it might be frowned upon.

00:33:03.840 It might be whatever.

00:33:04.840 But some people just move on quicker than others.

00:33:06.840 That's all.

00:33:07.840 I feel like you're like 20% on my side now.

00:33:09.840 There we go.

00:33:10.840 There we go.

00:33:11.840 Would you guys work through a message?

00:33:14.840 Yeah, she would.

00:33:16.840 I think, no, I think the intentions matter.

00:33:21.840 And I think that if he's messaging somebody else, he's already checked out.

00:33:24.840 And I'm...

00:33:25.840 I think I'm very strict when it comes to that.

00:33:27.840 Like, I think that if you're going to be in a relationship with me,

00:33:29.840 I think that you have to put some boundaries in place.

00:33:31.840 I think that you have to be...

00:33:32.840 What if you're on holiday?

00:33:33.840 What if you're on holiday and then you come back and you find that he messaged another girl because you were away?

00:33:38.840 I'm leaving him.

00:33:39.840 That'd be a few minutes.

00:33:40.840 Yeah, no.

00:33:41.840 No, I'm leaving him.

00:33:42.840 I think I don't tolerate anything that...

00:33:45.840 Because to me, it seems a bit much to break up over a message.

00:33:48.840 It depends what the message is, though.

00:33:49.840 Yeah, it depends what the message is.

00:33:50.840 If it's blurry, then the intention's quite clear.

00:33:52.840 How old are you guys again?

00:33:54.840 You're what?

00:33:55.840 I'm 29.

00:33:56.840 29.

00:33:57.840 How old are you two?

00:33:59.840 He's 22, though.

00:34:00.840 I'm 22.

00:34:01.840 29, 22.

00:34:02.840 How old are you?

00:34:03.840 I'm 24.

00:34:04.840 Okay, she hasn't got time to waste.

00:34:05.840 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:34:06.840 It's true.

00:34:07.840 You're in a different lane.

00:34:08.840 You're in a different lane.

00:34:10.840 Different lane.

00:34:11.840 I'm just thinking, because you're 29, if you're in a relationship,

00:34:14.840 like, do you want kids?

00:34:15.840 Yes.

00:34:16.840 You don't have any kids?

00:34:17.840 No.

00:34:18.840 So, you know, if you're single by 30, your chance of having a child drops below 50%.

00:34:22.840 Wow, that's pretty scary.

00:34:23.840 So you're actually more likely to not have a kid than have one.

00:34:25.840 And by 34, your chance of having, like, any kids at all, like geriatric pregnancy, working,

00:34:30.840 is like nothing.

00:34:31.840 Wow.

00:34:32.840 It's pretty scary.

00:34:33.840 It's pretty scary.

00:34:34.840 So it's like, am I not-

00:34:35.840 I know the God I serve, though.

00:34:36.840 What?

00:34:37.840 I said, I know the God I serve.

00:34:38.840 Amen, amen, amen.

00:34:39.840 Like, real talk.

00:34:40.840 I'm just thinking, because I'm assuming you're picky, right?

00:34:43.840 Uh, define, like, picky, like, I think I have my standards.

00:34:48.840 I don't think I ask for anything too crazy.

00:34:50.840 I just want a guy that's, like, serious about me, has pure intentions for me, and will be loyal.

00:34:54.840 Well, I'm just thinking, because you've been dating since, what, 18?

00:34:57.840 Yeah, 20.

00:34:58.840 Yeah.

00:34:59.840 Right, 20?

00:35:00.840 Okay, so, like, I'm just thinking of nine years.

00:35:02.840 If none of the guys that approached you, you like enough to marry, like, you're probably picky.

00:35:07.840 Oh, right.

00:35:09.840 And this is just me, like, usually that women that are single over the age of, like, 25. 1.00

00:35:14.840 It's not an insult, you know?

00:35:15.840 No, no, no.

00:35:16.840 I think, to be honest, I'm a Christian, and I think that that makes things a bit harder for me,

00:35:21.840 because there's certain things that I'm, like, that I want to do to please God,

00:35:26.840 or there's some views that I have that are more, like, biblical than, like, the world.

00:35:31.840 And I think that now, I used to date guys that were non-Christians, 1.00

00:35:34.840 but the things that I was passionate about, the values that I had, they didn't share those same values.

00:35:38.840 Mm-hmm.

00:35:39.840 And I want to be with someone that shares those same values as me and has the same world.

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JustPearlyThings - October 23, 2023

Good Conversation On Dating Market in 2023

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