JustPearlyThings - He's An 8 But He's A BROKIE

00:00:00.000 all right let's ask the ladies all right he's an eight but he doesn't have a job 0.52

00:00:08.720 you're in the bin mate what you're in the bin oh gone gone dunzo what about what if they have

00:00:14.160 ambition or goal he's applying for jobs he just doesn't have one has he it depends on what is

00:00:20.640 earth what earth weffy he i mean he applied at mcdonald's you know what i mean um yeah no i i

00:00:29.040 feel like me as an individual i'm quite highly ambitious and i just don't find it attractive

00:00:36.640 in a gentleman that if they don't if they just if they haven't got that sort of ambition and that

00:00:41.280 drive to get up and actually want to go and do and yeah you're in the bin okay negative 10 what about

00:00:48.560 you if they have the ambition and the goal and they're putting their mind towards something or

00:00:53.680 they're trying to find a job in a certain sector and i can see you're trying hard and you're going

00:00:58.880 to interviews and you know like that i'll give you seven so my just minus one yeah as long as he's

00:01:12.480 as long as he's going to some interviews yeah like i have to see you ambitious and going out every day

00:01:18.640 how ambitious like what does he have to be applying to um so if he's got his mind and his goal towards

00:01:25.840 something like this set job that he wants and he's doing his research he's continuously going on

00:01:31.680 interviews then that's different if you're just being a bum when you're staying at home and you're

00:01:36.640 not trying to look for work or not trying to focus on your career or try and elevate yourself then so

00:01:44.080 negative negative negative for that one yeah then negative 10 all right negative 10 no job okay

00:01:56.640 he's an eight but he has a kid depends on what the baby mom's saying um

00:02:03.040 that's quite a hard question do you think that guys leave their baby mums

00:02:14.800 what do you mean like so do you think like the baby mom would be completely out of their life

00:02:19.840 no and i would never expect them to be um do you feel like there's a chance to going back sorry no

00:02:26.640 well i don't know i'm single to be honest so i wouldn't know myself i've never been put in that

00:02:29.600 situation so i wouldn't know but but if their baby mom was a bit a bit crazy you know okay 1.00

00:02:38.320 probably okay let's do a good baby mom and a bad baby mom so he's got a kid with a good baby mom 0.94

00:02:43.680 negative what wouldn't bother me wouldn't bother you no okay bad baby mom you you're done yeah

00:02:50.560 dunzo minus 10 minus 10. okay he's an eight but but he's got a bit of a beer belly

00:03:00.160 is it a beer belly or money belly so you say money belly so i know exactly what you mean

00:03:14.000 are you eating my or are you drinking beer i know what you mean a beer belly minus 10 minus 10

00:03:22.240 probably like minus eight yeah minus eight yeah for a beer belly do you know what i don't really

00:03:31.120 i'm not a big drinker and i yeah it's just the whole idea of just yeah oh it's because he's a

00:03:37.520 drinker yeah it's not the look no so no the look wouldn't probably about yeah six or an eight do tattoos

00:03:43.680 add or subtract for you add add add in the middle and neutral yeah what about you guys tattoos on a

00:03:54.320 woman add or subtract i love add add add how much 0.99

00:04:02.400 um i'll say that i look for it i don't supposed to be look for females with tattoos but it's definitely 0.99

00:04:08.080 add some pointers so maybe like a one or two points so if i got like a sleeve i'd get a point

00:04:12.480 yeah one one add minus five to start and then the that's the that's the minus starting point and

00:04:21.280 then drops from there depending on location and size what about you yeah subtract at least like two

00:04:27.440 three two three yeah i think tattoos i don't like tattoos on a guy i prefer none but i don't really care

00:04:37.920 that much i feel like it doesn't really make a difference okay he's an eight but but but

00:04:49.520 he has a horrible relationship with his mom do you guys care yeah yeah why yeah why have you had

00:04:55.120 bad experience with a guy that like doesn't get along with his mom yeah once once yeah i didn't i i'm such a

00:05:03.200 family person and for me family is most important thing and if someone doesn't get on with their mom

00:05:09.040 then there's obviously a reason behind that and for me that's like quite a big red flag because

00:05:14.960 yeah no i just wouldn't if they didn't get on with their mom i'd be like i don't know i just i i'm where

00:05:20.320 i'm such a family person and i adore my family around me 24 7 like i've not got kids but if i had a kid

00:05:26.080 i know my kid could kill someone blue-blooded murder and i'd turn a blind eye to it and i'd still love

00:05:30.400 them no matter what so if someone doesn't speak to their mom then that is a big big red flag

00:05:37.040 so you don't care too much about their family like relation at the same i agree oh you agree

00:05:41.840 what about you guys do you guys look at her family background me 110 definitely definitely what do you

00:05:47.680 look at in her family background dynamic is a big thing like with mom dad like what are you both both 0.89

00:05:58.880 parents and how the how the family functions together what's a bigger red flag if she doesn't 1.00

00:06:05.920 get along with her mom or her dad father for sure what about you dimitri yeah of course so

00:06:14.720 you know there's this there's this crazy thing right now we're like you know the jonah hill text

00:06:18.320 i'm sure you guys discussed it here it's like he sets out some boundaries which are pretty right 0.99

00:06:22.320 like they're not crazy boundaries it's like hey i don't want you going out with your 0.72

00:06:25.120 slutty friends like like because you've broken my trust people like it's controlling and i kind of

00:06:29.840 read that i was like okay i think a lot of women say that's controlling because they just never had 1.00

00:06:34.800 proper boundaries set in their life and like i'm a dad i got four kids you know what a dad's role is in

00:06:38.720 a in a child's life in a girl or boy's life is to set boundaries like you know if you look at like

00:06:43.600 when how kids go to bed if mom puts kids to bed they tend to extend going to bed by like half an hour to

00:06:49.440 an hour but when dad puts kids to bed they go to bed right away dad's word is firmer kids oblige

00:06:54.400 and test the dad they oblige more to the dad they test the dad less so if she doesn't have a like a

00:06:58.720 good relationship with her father she's grown up without a dad there's no boundary set for her so

00:07:02.960 she perceives boundaries as emotional abuse but are boundaries necessary in relationships

00:07:07.840 yeah especially explicit boundaries like we have to understand what exactly works for us and what

00:07:12.800 doesn't and that's okay so no one of the best pieces of advice i ever received when i was about 22 from

00:07:18.560 mentors he said look at that woman's relationship with her father and it'll tell you how she treats

00:07:23.840 you yeah you guys look at like how much makeup she wears yes how much can that subtract or add to a

00:07:31.920 girl make or break yeah like what is it what does it do at least four points three to four subtraction yeah 0.97

00:07:41.840 why because i mean it's a preference thing but also it's you're almost dealing with a different

00:07:48.720 person at that point like you can look like two completely different people so it's just a little

00:07:54.880 bit inauthentic in my opinion have you guys ever gone on a date with a girl and you like woke up and

00:08:00.640 she looked completely different no no i think seeing seeing people with or without uh makeup

00:08:08.800 can be night and day difference yeah unrecognizable a lot of the time really yeah you're nodding really

00:08:14.400 hard no i mean look like women are going to wear makeup like that's just how it is and there should 1.00

00:08:18.640 be a level that you take care of yourself but obviously you know the trend right now and like

00:08:22.160 every time i come to england i see these weird puffer face like it's just fake eye they shave their i 0.58

00:08:26.560 don't know what the hell's going on drawn on eyebrows well i don't know i like i it was crazy

00:08:32.400 doing the show for so long because girls would follow me after the show and a lot of times i'll

00:08:36.800 follow people back but like sometimes i wouldn't recognize them i'm like wait is that the girl that

00:08:43.280 was on because they'll tag me in their stories and i'm like oh my god i didn't even notice but then i

00:08:48.080 was like this is why the guys are complaining on the dating apps huh have you guys ever gone on like

00:08:53.120 a date with a girl from a dating app and she looked different no i've been on a date with a guy on a

00:08:58.720 dating app and he looked hi was it hi do you know what no he said he was like six foot three and he

00:09:03.760 was about six foot three so that i was quite pleased with but he didn't look nothing like his five

00:09:08.080 sides like at all like there's catfishing and then there's that like they were him but i don't know

00:09:15.280 why i don't know what he does but it was like from like 10 years ago he was a bit older as well

00:09:19.360 he said to me he was 24 this is when i was like 22. he lied about his yeah he was about 35 36 and

00:09:25.360 obviously that each to their own do you know what i mean everyone has their own preference and and

00:09:29.680 whatever i completely understand i completely respect that but i was just do you know when

00:09:33.360 you're just a bit shocked you're like what do you god what am i gonna do here like i'm too nice to run

00:09:38.240 away and then no i am oh i was i had to sit there and withstand like the whole two hours and you're

00:09:43.440 gonna go for a drink after i'm like yeah i've got to go home i've got work somewhere and see

00:09:47.360 i've done that before where you're like oh i want to leave but you're like you don't want to

00:09:51.920 yeah you don't want to hurt someone's feelings like and it's like because i know i wouldn't like

00:09:55.600 someone to do it to me personally but and so i just couldn't do it to someone else and like

00:09:58.800 that look of like disheartened like just being someone just disheartened and they've been

00:10:02.240 together for eight years now what is the perfect age to date for you guys

00:10:07.840 two years two years older two years older two maybe a year younger two years older okay three

00:10:17.440 years maybe four that's no more than that okay what about you um yeah i'll say two years older okay

00:10:27.680 to say plus minus two but i think uh issue with my age range is a lot of people

00:10:35.280 have a little bit maturity differences so yeah i'd say plus minus two well i'm married for 10 years

00:10:42.400 we're the same age we're both 40 yeah if you were to date again what age would would you do um

00:10:48.560 be careful dimitri no that's actually that's fine like no like that's actually a really interesting

00:10:53.680 question there's some depth to it you know i'll tell you you could even say if you had a friend

00:10:57.120 dating at your age no no i would say i would say this like when i was when i was let's say 25 26 and i

00:11:02.080 was to be asked if i find 40 year old women attractive i would have said no like it was just 1.00

00:11:06.080 it'd be weird to think that way but i've noticed myself now like uh my like i still find my wife

00:11:11.440 very beautiful i like i do and if i didn't like we'd have a problem um and and i and i think like

00:11:17.600 for me like as i've gotten older i found like now i look at a 20 year old chick and i'm like that just

00:11:22.080 looks like a teenager to me it's like you know when you're in high school and you see a college kid

00:11:25.360 they look massive it becomes the opposite when you get older i just look at 20 i'm like are you like 15

00:11:29.440 like i can't really tell that well anymore it's crazy um but i mean if i mean realistically as a

00:11:35.440 40 year old man probably anything 24 let's say and up is is pretty reasonable like chicks it's a lot 1.00

00:11:43.760 of it's like the chicks still go for it yeah they do so they're pretty wide range i mean look at

00:11:48.720 pacino he just had a kid with a 27 year old he's like 77 78 80 he's 80 i'm curious how how old would you

00:11:56.080 guys maybe he looked good would you date a 45 year old no no 40 no 35 no 30 oh she's yeah you're not

00:12:04.960 35 yeah like 32 probably 33 32 no come on like the most beautiful women in the world are like 1.00

00:12:12.240 look at anthony heaters from the from the red hot chili peppers he's like 60 and i would i wouldn't

00:12:17.440 have a problem 40 year old schwarzenegger's girlfriend's like 38 or something he's 76 like like

00:12:22.400 like like but you say no because you want a virtue signal but come on these guys aren't dating ugly

00:12:26.480 30 year olds they're dating beautiful 30 year olds yeah but is it because of their status obviously it

00:12:30.880 is obviously it is i'm not so why would it not be of course it is so if a man is high status enough

00:12:36.000 you're going to be like no i'm sorry like schwarzenegger like it's like no you're going to be like cool

00:12:42.400 but i do not think it depends on what someone or what depends on the individual wants

00:12:46.800 in the relationship probably yeah so but but again we're looking at high status very old men

00:12:53.600 that are like pushing 80 or are 80 and they still have seemingly have no problem getting 26 and 30

00:12:59.920 year old women to want to be with them so like i'm just looking at the big data right but then like 1.00

00:13:04.000 say if you were to bring like a gold digger situation oh sorry i know you're okay uh you know

00:13:07.760 what um age men peak on dating apps for plenty of fish probably around 42 would be my guess

00:13:14.240 say late 30s 37 it's crazy i was so surprised when i saw this

00:13:20.160 about 35 i'd say probably 40 45 50 really yeah i know guess what age women peak 22 28 0.85

00:13:31.600 i'll bet it's older but it's actually i'll probably say the same 18 18 18 yeah

00:13:38.480 i didn't know yeah yeah well they've done smell they've done smell tests for men and men will

00:13:44.000 still pick younger women just based on smell yeah wow but for the men the 50 year olds that are on

00:13:50.720 there has to be like a selected amount like has to be all silver foxes or a higher percentage because

00:13:57.440 you wouldn't assume there's that many average or below average 50 year olds on tinder you know

00:14:01.920 i i mean there aren't most people on it was plenty of fish but i think like didn't you say 80 of

00:14:10.000 people on dating apps like don't get any yeah 50 of people like if you get one match on like tinder

00:14:15.440 then you're in the top 50 percent you're like like half of men never get a match ever i think i read

00:14:20.960 this or i see this somewhere online and it's true like if you're most compatible you will show up to

00:14:27.120 more people whereas if you don't get swiped so you're not gonna go you're not gonna women only

00:14:31.840 swipe right five percent on the time so if you go on a date with a guy from a dating app it's it's

00:14:37.120 probable that he like basically he has a ton of options because if you got on the date that means

00:14:42.240 like he's part of the five percent that women are swiping on most likely scary isn't it yeah and you 0.98

00:14:48.160 think of it yeah but that's why relationships are so fucked up because i feel like that's the number 0.94

00:14:52.240 one way people are meeting under 30 nowadays that's the number one way yeah is dating apps so 0.93

00:14:57.520 it's like all the girls are going on the same dates with the same guys i mean haven't you seen those

00:15:01.520 stories on like tick tock where the girls are like oh my god we went on the date with the same guy 0.81

00:15:05.840 you know you know what a great opportunity though like for a man that is a little bit more brave a

00:15:10.400 little bit more cunning like to to learn how to approach and talk to women in real life that like the 0.99

00:15:16.240 premium on that now the amount of points you get for doing that now because so few because when i was

00:15:20.000 growing up right like again i'm from i'm the pretender generation like i met my wife in real

00:15:23.920 life that's how people dated we'd walk around with blue balls and we'd have to like be desperate and

00:15:27.520 approach women no but i grew up in a time too like we didn't have high-speed internet when i was like

00:15:31.360 18 that was just coming in right and so there was no visual stimulation to get yourself off so you're

00:15:36.560 just always horny and that like that desperation you're just like i'm just going to approach and talk 0.83

00:15:40.880 to women because otherwise i'm never going to see a boob so it's like now you know that's been 0.58

00:15:44.640 completely like destroyed right men are just destroying their own testosterone and drive

00:15:48.400 and risk-seeking behavior but for a guy that's like a little bit more ambitious if you learn

00:15:52.720 that skill to like approach women the premium you get in status is insane because nobody's doing it

JustPearlyThings - July 17, 2023

He's An 8 But He's A BROKIE

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