JustPearlyThings - He Said This When Asked About Dating A Single Mom

00:00:00.720 so i'm curious from the guys if a girl is an eight but she's got a kid what is she 1.00

00:00:12.000 what is a kid minus how much invincible

00:00:17.040 she's an eight but she's got a kid what is she i literally had this dinner conversation with

00:00:21.360 one of my colleagues like just now he's like knowing what you know about your wife like

00:00:25.920 everything she's the same person looks the same acts the same exact person but you meet her when

00:00:29.360 she has a kid i'm like yeah i would not even know her name what about you guys she has a kid she's

00:00:35.360 an eight with a kid what is she i mean purely aesthetically i don't think it would take

00:00:40.400 anything no no i'm saying like in terms of like dating it's okay we don't gotta be pc you know

00:00:48.480 for sure maybe brother you're 22 if you say anything but a zero we're gonna have a talk

00:00:53.840 after the show and i'm gonna i'm gonna give you some old man wisdom i'll say a four or five

00:01:00.000 okay so minus four a kid all right we're gonna have a talk if you were my kid i'd be like sun

00:01:05.840 sit down what do you guys say minus what she's got a kid for me it doesn't really make a difference

00:01:11.280 minus zero yeah all right we'll average your minus minus everything zero points don't care zero

00:01:18.480 points sorry do you want to okay do you want to again i don't i don't want to stack myself on here

00:01:23.680 but like dude like so did you know did you know that once a woman has a kid she carries that kid's

00:01:28.880 dna forever and it doesn't just go into the womb it goes straight to her heart there's actual science

00:01:33.200 to show that that kid's dna which means another man's dna is living inside that woman and now you're

00:01:37.840 producing kids with a woman who's like dna is like mixed with another dude that's is that even 0.79

00:01:42.960 uh no but it's life it's life though yeah but you can make choices yeah okay look no no no no no no

00:01:54.080 it's life you can get pregnant like three days a month i am so tired of like oh it just happened

00:02:02.560 in as much as i'm talking about like the choices of being with somebody that's got a child or not

00:02:07.840 like i think it's just down to preference at the end of the day um i'm an older man so i don't see

00:02:12.720 so kid no kid they're exactly the same to you yeah like if you're beautiful and like my intention

00:02:18.320 with yourself is the same we've got pure intentions and it is what it is no but i'm saying like you

00:02:22.240 have two girls they're exactly the same both equally hot one has a kid one doesn't you're picking

00:02:27.280 which one if if there's a choice between two they have to be the one without the child okay so it does

00:02:32.960 subtract something if it's a choice between two people yeah but that's what i'm saying like like

00:02:38.240 you're saying it wouldn't make a difference but it would you because you just admitted it would

00:02:43.600 oh okay you know okay don't lie no no no no i'm saying come on like you know it makes a difference

00:02:52.640 like i said for myself it hasn't made too much of a difference like in in my past relationships but

00:02:57.520 maybe maybe a four maybe maybe moving forward if i had two females that i deemed to be eight 1.00

00:03:05.760 one had a child and one didn't i would go for the one that didn't have a child okay so minus one

00:03:11.360 maybe maybe minus one thank you honestly what about you two girls exactly the same one has a kid one 1.00

00:03:18.960 doesn't depends depends the person that treats you right and they know they treat you the same just

00:03:24.080 one has a kid one doesn't i'll go for another kid okay so so minus one minus one yeah thank you

00:03:31.200 thank you i'm gonna do an average of three because you said infinity what's like what's the intent

00:03:38.320 right like for example if you're a single guy and you're just hooking up whatever you might not

00:03:41.440 consider it right but like at some age you become a more serious man and you want to you know you want

00:03:45.520 to take the danger that you've built on yourself and turn it into like a sagacious commitment and become

00:03:50.240 a more virtuous man like there is age appropriate problems you have to solve right and it's like

00:03:55.040 you work really hard gents you know and and this guy here told me he's an entrepreneur before it's

00:03:59.040 like yeah you're gonna risk 50 of everything you've ever earned before and after you're you're through

00:04:04.800 with that relationship you're gonna risk it on somebody that gave her genetics to somebody else

00:04:08.720 at the beginning like that's a dangerous i didn't say i would risk it oh well you didn't say you would

00:04:12.240 marry her maybe right yeah so what at 22 maybe it doesn't make a difference but as you get older and you

00:04:16.800 start solving older men problems you look for a long-term relationship somebody to raise your

00:04:20.480 children yeah that's a that's a more difficult choice no it would definitely be a harsh knock for

00:04:24.880 sure but i was speaking purely aesthetically yeah and your perception okay okay high bot oh and only

00:04:32.640 fans is minus what so what was that a girl she's an eight but she's got an only fans what is she now oh wow

00:04:41.280 for me it's not really a conversation she's done yeah donzo donzo okay so negative 10 yeah okay what

00:04:53.680 about you negative 10 as well negative 10 minus 10 000 a month you're paying my lifestyle sugar mama

00:05:00.080 all right what about you say four minus all right so we'll do minus eight for only fans

00:05:07.920 all right she's an eight but she slept with two of your friends oh what is she you're coming with him now 1.00

00:05:22.400 um

00:05:28.800 as far as the rankings negative 100 they're putting in the chat yeah it's pete now oh it's donzo i wouldn't

00:05:35.520 say it's done because yeah sometimes the it's good for the gang is so she might be now like a five 1.00

00:05:44.160 baby all right so minus three for two of your friends what about you one minus one zero go away

00:05:52.000 no chance no chance zero are you dude i'm not that's like that's mean to my friends oh okay like

00:05:56.960 that's like come on like like that's so scarce to think that a dude would pick up like no

00:06:01.520 all right so we got negative 10 negative one i think you guys have a very wide range here let

00:06:06.880 me see we're gonna do negative oh what about you yeah mine's mine's zero as well we're gonna do

00:06:13.040 negative five for two friends

00:06:17.440 okay

00:06:21.520 she's an eight but she slept 0.99

00:06:25.200 she slept what number do i want to do today she slept with 15 guys what is she now oh wow

00:06:37.280 15 guys she's not an option donzo donzo zero zero zero zero zero say

00:06:48.720 four or five purely aesthetically all right we're gonna do negative eight for 10 bodies or 15 bodies

00:07:03.360 are you noticing the trend

00:07:06.880 what are you noticing the trend man just wants to bust nuts he's 20 he's 22

00:07:14.160 being being generous perception wise yeah but he's 22 we can like we've all been 22. yeah we've dipped

00:07:22.000 in the pool you know we've scraped the bottom some barrels all right let's ask the ladies all right 1.00

00:07:29.680 he's an eight but he doesn't have a job you're in the bin mate what you're in the bin oh gone

00:07:38.080 gone donezo what about what if they have ambition or a goal he's applying for jobs he just doesn't

00:07:44.240 have one that has it it depends on what is earth what earth we think he i mean he applied at mcdonald's

00:07:50.640 you know what i mean um yeah no i i feel like me as an individual i'm quite highly ambitious and i

00:08:01.280 just don't find it attractive in a gentleman that if they don't if they just if they haven't got that

00:08:06.400 sort of ambition and that drive to get up and actually want to go and do and yeah you're in

00:08:12.000 the bin okay negative 10 what about you if they have the ambition and the goal and they're putting

00:08:18.240 their mind towards something or they're trying to find a job in a certain sector and i can see you're

00:08:23.280 trying hard and you're going to interviews and you know like that i'll give you

00:08:29.920 seven so my just minus one yeah as long as he's as long as he's going to some interviews

00:08:41.040 yeah all right you ambitious and going out every day how ambitious like what does he have to be

00:08:46.320 applying to um so if he's got his mind and his goal towards something like this set job that he wants

00:08:54.400 and he's doing his research he's continuously going on interviews then that's different if you're just

00:09:00.720 being a bum when you're staying at home and you're not trying to look for work or not trying to focus 0.51

00:09:06.960 on your career or try and elevate yourself then so negative negative for that one yeah then negative 10.

00:09:16.720 all right negative 10 no job okay he's an eight but he has a kid depends on what the baby mom's saying

00:09:32.640 it's quite a hard question do you think that guys leave their baby moms

00:09:40.880 how do you mean like so do you think like the baby mom would be completely out of their life

00:09:45.280 yeah no and i would never expect them to be um do you feel like there's a chance to going back

00:09:51.120 sorry no well i don't know i'm single to be honest so i wouldn't know myself i've never been put

00:09:55.440 in that situation so i wouldn't know but like if their baby mom was a bit a bit crazy you know okay 1.00

00:10:04.400 probably okay let's do a good baby mom and a bad baby mom so he's got a kid with a good baby mom 0.94

00:10:09.760 negative what wouldn't bother me wouldn't bother you okay bad baby mom you're done yeah

00:10:16.640 dunzo minus 10 minus 10. okay he's an eight but but he's got a bit of a beer belly

00:10:26.240 is it a beer belly or money belly so you say money baby so i know exactly what you mean

00:10:40.080 are you eating right or are you drinking beer i know what you mean a beer belly minus 10 minus 10

00:10:48.320 probably like minus eight yeah minus eight yeah for a beer belly do you know what i don't really

00:10:57.200 i'm not a big drinker and i yeah it's just the whole idea of just yeah oh it's because he's a drinker

00:11:04.080 yeah it's not the look no so no the look wouldn't probably about yeah six or an eight do tattoos add or

00:11:10.320 subtract for you add add add in the middle and neutral yeah what about you guys tattoos on a woman 0.99

00:11:20.800 add or subtract i love add add how much

00:11:28.480 hmm i'll say that i look for it i'm not supposed to be look for females with tattoos but it's definitely 0.94

00:11:34.160 at some point so maybe like a one or two points so if i got like a sleeve i'd get a point

00:11:38.560 yeah one add minus five to start and then the that's the that's the minus starting point and

00:11:47.360 then drops from there depending on location and size what about you yeah subtract at least like

00:11:57.280 i think tattoos i don't like tattoos on a guy i prefer none but i don't really care that much i feel

00:12:05.120 like it doesn't really make a difference okay he's an eight but but but

00:12:15.520 he has a horrible relationship with his mom do you guys care yeah yeah why yeah why have you had

00:12:21.120 an experience with a guy that like doesn't get along with his mom yeah once once yeah i didn't i i'm such

00:12:29.120 a family person and for me family is the most important thing and if someone doesn't get on

00:12:33.440 with their mom then there's obviously a reason behind that and for me that's like quite a big red 0.71

00:12:39.280 flag because yeah no i just wouldn't if they didn't get on with their mom i'd be like i don't know i just

00:12:46.000 i'm where i'm such a family person and i adore my family around me 24 7 like i've not got kids but if

00:12:51.760 i had a kid i know my kid could kill someone blue bloody murder and i'd turn a blind eye to it and

00:12:56.000 i'd still love them no matter what so if someone doesn't speak to their mom then that is a big

00:13:00.960 big red flag so you don't care too much about their family like relation at the same i agree oh

00:13:07.280 you agree what about you guys do you guys look at her family background me 110 definitely definitely

00:13:13.360 what do you look at in her family background dynamic is a big thing 0.86

00:13:18.640 like with mom dad like what do you both both parents and how the how the family functions

00:13:28.480 together what's a bigger red flag if she doesn't get along with her mom or her dad father for sure

00:13:38.400 what about you dimitri yeah of course so you know there's this there's this crazy thing right now

00:13:43.120 we're like you know the jonah hill text i'm sure you guys discussed it here it's like

00:13:46.160 he sets out some boundaries which are pretty right like they're not crazy boundaries it's like hey i 0.80

00:13:50.320 don't want you going out with your slutty friends like like because you've broken my trust people 1.00

00:13:54.240 like it's controlling and i kind of read that i was like okay i think a lot of women say that's 0.99

00:13:59.200 controlling because they just never had proper boundaries set in their life and like i'm a dad

00:14:02.880 i got four kids you know what a dad's role is in a in a child's life in a girl or boy's life is

00:14:07.120 to set boundaries like you know if you look at like when how kids go to bed if mom puts kids to bed

00:14:12.960 they tend to extend going to bed by like half an hour to an hour but when dad puts kids to bed they

00:14:17.600 go to bed right away dad's word is firmer kids oblige and test the debt they oblige more to the

00:14:21.920 dad they test the dad less so if she doesn't have a like a good relationship with her father she's

00:14:26.080 grown up without a dad there's no boundary set for her so she perceives boundaries as emotional abuse

00:14:31.520 but are boundaries necessary in relationships yeah especially explicit boundaries like we have to

00:14:36.240 understand what exactly works for us and what doesn't and that's okay so no one of the best pieces of

00:14:41.920 advice i ever received when i was about 22 from a mentor he said look at that woman's relationship

00:14:47.680 with her father and it'll tell you how she treats you yeah

JustPearlyThings - July 20, 2023

He Said This When Asked About Dating A Single Mom

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