Heated Debate Between Pearl And Modern Woman
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Summary
In this episode we discuss modern dating vs. old fashioned dating, traditional dating, modern women vs. traditional men, modern men vs traditional women, what is a woman s role in a relationship and why is it important that a woman wears the pants in the relationship?
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what do you think what do you think works modern dating or old-fashioned dating old-fashioned
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i personally i like old-fashioned okay so but why do you wait wait wait let me let me let me
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let me stop you let me stop you how how do you expect old-fashioned outcomes and traditional
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courting and traditional outcomes if you don't want to act like a traditional women and traditional
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women submit i don't know do i if it works it works no but it's like say for example like
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obviously like an older woman she's not really like she's gonna dress a bit more maturely you're
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like she's gonna be more modest and stuff i feel like in today's generation yeah when we're young
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we always want to be skin out and like wear these little booty shorts and like yeah why not look at
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me right now if you got it show it off yeah but that's the mindset of like the modern day generation
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like back in the day like the housewives without going to the club and being skin out and stuff
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like they're not gonna get i will say that you're not gonna get like a you say traditional outcome
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yeah with the of course it clashes with the new like you don't know of course it is because you
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guys even when you're saying oh i'll question him and ask him about the if your boss gives you an
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order at work you can't and your boss says hey this is the uniform do you question him so why do we
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question like why do we question we not question our bosses but we're going to question the person
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that we want to make a family with i do question my boss that i usually do i question my boss why do
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i need to and i'm sure you're his favorite employee i am i actually am because i'm honest i feel like
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that all depends on the title that you give him as in you can actually make your own definition of what
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a boyfriend or a friend or a family or a mom or dad could be yeah explain that again it all depends on
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the title that you give them what depends on how you see them as in you can make your own rules as
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you go um yeah like i'm saying it's a good thing if you want to lead the relationship sure but like
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do women typically end up happy when they're making the decisions and making the rules and leading the
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relationship because we allow our emotions to rule so so it's kind of like you guys are saying you want
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your cake and you also want to eat it too doing it both i can't do both i know but okay okay
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i mean how that goes for you i could juggle both the thing is i'm not saying making the rules and
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follow how do you how do you lead and follow at the same time you can compromise yeah so so do you
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want every every single decision you guys have a conversation about yeah like you said every single
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does that seem like an efficient way to do things marriages aren't going to be perfect the same way
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being boyfriend girlfriend ain't gonna be perfect so it's like that is leading up to it that's the
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whole i'm not i'm not saying it's gonna be perfect but at the end of the day when you guys disagree
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someone has to make a decision and there's always someone someone has to give right there's always
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gonna be someone who's gonna give there's always right and who should and and typically what i see
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nowadays is is the man gives more he gives up more and then we say the woman wears the pants in the
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relationship no i agree with that and so but the woman usually hates the man when she's in a
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relationship where she has to wear the pants that depends on what type of woman we could we could
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we're talking in general yeah in general women that are ball busters that wear the pants in their
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relationship they're you know you you're thinking of someone i can see it in your face like the ones
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that make all the decisions in their relationship that are where their boyfriends whipped they hate
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their boyfriends yeah they shouldn't even be in a relationship in the first but they need to go
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fix themselves what i'm saying the mentality the mentality you guys have that's where you're going
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yeah no do you know what though i feel like when you really love a man and you fall into it
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when you like fall in love with someone and you get into a relationship with them
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you do naturally as women become more submissive i don't know like it's not for every woman
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that's the same with me like because you tap into your feminine side right yeah and you become more
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feminine it's only natural do you think that men are feminine until they meet the right woman no so
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i feel like i become feminine afterwards after they meet the right woman because you're with the
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woman all day and you are who you're surrounded by actually going back to what you said i feel like
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the only reason why a woman put up that old toxic masculinity is by them protecting themselves so
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they don't get hurt yeah i agree with that's true it's a protection time yeah so like explain that
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again so people um girls act bad and the reason why they act like a guy is is because they're literally
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protecting themselves i don't know how else to like yeah because they don't want to feel that hurt again
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you don't want to feel that it's like there's a barrier
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that goes to the concept it's like you're making the men of the future pay for the mistakes of your past
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that's if you carry it with you yeah if you're acting like a dude so you don't get hurt
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i mean like how many times do guys act like girls so they don't get hurt
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i'm not saying it's a good thing i'm not saying it's a good thing i'm just saying what it is
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like hence why i said it yeah but you've gone through that those past um experience relationships
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to shape who you are who are meant to become so when you meet the right person you're not going
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to be able to fall into the same trap hence why do you know what i'm trying to say that's why
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yeah yeah no it makes sense i mean there's a difference between being naive and being traumatized
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so so it's one thing if you're naive right you can i can understand that maybe not being so naive
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but it's a different thing when you're bringing your trauma into your
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yeah i don't i don't like the word trauma i don't like the word trauma
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nonsense your relationship issues your baggage yeah your baggage into your future but it's like
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you know how how do we move forward with men and like actually get together and get along with them
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if we don't trust them well i think again like if you have a lot of baggage that self-reflection and
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self-healing that you have to do in order for you to be in a situation because if you get into a
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relationship and you have a shit ton of baggage and then you're pushing all of that baggage onto
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that person who wants a relationship with you and now they're carrying your baggage as well as
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you it becomes an unhealthy environment what does healing look like oh i think no one's fully healed
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okay but i think i think through life everyone is healing constantly constantly things are going
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on in life and people heal from things every single day you're never fully healed like there's
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no definition of being oh i'm healed like i'm a healed person if you wanted to take steps to heal
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i would definitely look at self-reflection self-reflection see the things that have
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triggered me or things that have caused me issues in the past and how can i grow from that and how
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can i work towards improving them so these triggers don't affect me anymore and i don't bring this
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baggage into future relationships or push my own insecurities and issues onto other people because of
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my past experiences what about therapy therapy is good but therapy only works if you're willing to do
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therapy if you go to therapy and you don't want to do therapy then it's not going to work for you
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i've just i've done a lot of these shows and i just found when girls say self-reflection it's like
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nothing it's like listen to some read some books put on some candles listen to some i think self-reflection
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i think journaling is really important to write down how you feel so then you can look back on it and
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reflect on it be like okay i felt like this today yeah this is what i did i might have acted out of
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character or done this because again like looking inwards it's difficult it's difficult to realize
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and you see it from another perspective almost yeah yeah like you're reading the story but it's
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your story yeah you know i mean i also feel like allow yourself to go through whatever has hurt you
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in the past yeah you have to feel the most painful thing you could ever do allow yourself to go through
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that again feel those emotions that you felt when you went through that you know so then you could
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reflect from it grow from it and acknowledge it and see it for what it is like how much you've
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changed i'm sure you must have grown from that moment as well so it's nice to sometimes look back
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and think all my days i used to be like this but now i'm like this john from the same so again
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journaling in that aspect is good yeah to overcome uh blessing did you have any more questions about
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submission for them i feel like you had another one but i kind of cut you off uh yeah now i'm just gonna
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conclude and say that we look for submission because submission brings peace and if you guys
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are not gonna submit to us we're not gonna have peace and i'm in one piece and he's snoring
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