JustPearlyThings - Heated Debate Between Pearl And Modern Woman

00:00:00.000 what do you think what do you think works modern dating or old-fashioned dating old-fashioned

00:00:05.100 i personally i like old-fashioned okay so but why do you wait wait wait let me let me let me

00:00:13.220 let me stop you let me stop you how how do you expect old-fashioned outcomes and traditional

00:00:18.620 courting and traditional outcomes if you don't want to act like a traditional women and traditional 0.99

00:00:23.080 women submit i don't know do i if it works it works no but it's like say for example like 1.00

00:00:31.820 obviously like an older woman she's not really like she's gonna dress a bit more maturely you're 0.99

00:00:35.720 like she's gonna be more modest and stuff i feel like in today's generation yeah when we're young

00:00:39.600 we always want to be skin out and like wear these little booty shorts and like yeah why not look at

00:00:44.800 me right now if you got it show it off yeah but that's the mindset of like the modern day generation

00:00:50.280 like back in the day like the housewives without going to the club and being skin out and stuff

00:00:54.620 like they're not gonna get i will say that you're not gonna get like a you say traditional outcome

00:00:59.820 yeah with the of course it clashes with the new like you don't know of course it is because you

00:01:05.000 guys even when you're saying oh i'll question him and ask him about the if your boss gives you an

00:01:09.440 order at work you can't and your boss says hey this is the uniform do you question him so why do we

00:01:16.460 question like why do we question we not question our bosses but we're going to question the person

00:01:20.880 that we want to make a family with i do question my boss that i usually do i question my boss why do

00:01:27.200 i need to and i'm sure you're his favorite employee i am i actually am because i'm honest i feel like

00:01:33.040 that all depends on the title that you give him as in you can actually make your own definition of what

00:01:37.880 a boyfriend or a friend or a family or a mom or dad could be yeah explain that again it all depends on

00:01:44.900 the title that you give them what depends on how you see them as in you can make your own rules as

00:01:50.460 you go um yeah like i'm saying it's a good thing if you want to lead the relationship sure but like

00:01:57.200 do women typically end up happy when they're making the decisions and making the rules and leading the 1.00

00:02:01.580 relationship because we allow our emotions to rule so so it's kind of like you guys are saying you want

00:02:05.720 your cake and you also want to eat it too doing it both i can't do both i know but okay okay

00:02:11.280 i mean how that goes for you i could juggle both the thing is i'm not saying making the rules and

00:02:16.040 follow how do you how do you lead and follow at the same time you can compromise yeah so so do you

00:02:21.660 want every every single decision you guys have a conversation about yeah like you said every single

00:02:26.940 does that seem like an efficient way to do things marriages aren't going to be perfect the same way 0.94

00:02:31.080 being boyfriend girlfriend ain't gonna be perfect so it's like that is leading up to it that's the

00:02:35.780 whole i'm not i'm not saying it's gonna be perfect but at the end of the day when you guys disagree

00:02:39.720 someone has to make a decision and there's always someone someone has to give right there's always

00:02:44.940 gonna be someone who's gonna give there's always right and who should and and typically what i see

00:02:49.260 nowadays is is the man gives more he gives up more and then we say the woman wears the pants in the 0.96

00:02:54.800 relationship no i agree with that and so but the woman usually hates the man when she's in a 1.00

00:02:59.980 relationship where she has to wear the pants that depends on what type of woman we could we could 1.00

00:03:04.680 we're talking in general yeah in general women that are ball busters that wear the pants in their 1.00

00:03:09.780 relationship they're you know you you're thinking of someone i can see it in your face like the ones

00:03:15.320 that make all the decisions in their relationship that are where their boyfriends whipped they hate 1.00

00:03:19.740 their boyfriends yeah they shouldn't even be in a relationship in the first but they need to go

00:03:22.540 fix themselves what i'm saying the mentality the mentality you guys have that's where you're going

00:03:27.120 yeah no do you know what though i feel like when you really love a man and you fall into it

00:03:31.420 you naturally do become submissive

00:03:33.820 when you like fall in love with someone and you get into a relationship with them

00:03:41.580 you do naturally as women become more submissive i don't know like it's not for every woman 0.99

00:03:45.680 that's the same with me like because you tap into your feminine side right yeah and you become more 0.92

00:03:50.820 feminine it's only natural do you think that men are feminine until they meet the right woman no so 0.95

00:03:59.100 i feel like i become feminine afterwards after they meet the right woman because you're with the

00:04:02.380 woman all day and you are who you're surrounded by actually going back to what you said i feel like

00:04:06.140 the only reason why a woman put up that old toxic masculinity is by them protecting themselves so 1.00

00:04:11.240 they don't get hurt yeah i agree with that's true it's a protection time yeah so like explain that

00:04:16.880 again so people um girls act bad and the reason why they act like a guy is is because they're literally

00:04:26.100 protecting themselves i don't know how else to like yeah because they don't want to feel that hurt again

00:04:30.700 you don't want to feel that it's like there's a barrier

00:04:32.740 that goes to the concept it's like you're making the men of the future pay for the mistakes of your past

00:04:39.640 that's if you carry it with you yeah if you're acting like a dude so you don't get hurt

00:04:45.100 i mean like how many times do guys act like girls so they don't get hurt

00:04:48.340 i'm not saying it's a good thing i'm not saying it's a good thing i'm just saying what it is

00:04:53.060 like hence why i said it yeah but you've gone through that those past um experience relationships

00:04:58.420 to shape who you are who are meant to become so when you meet the right person you're not going

00:05:02.980 to be able to fall into the same trap hence why do you know what i'm trying to say that's why

00:05:07.540 yeah yeah no it makes sense i mean there's a difference between being naive and being traumatized

00:05:13.120 so so it's one thing if you're naive right you can i can understand that maybe not being so naive

00:05:20.140 but it's a different thing when you're bringing your trauma into your

00:05:22.620 yeah i don't i don't like the word trauma i don't like the word trauma

00:05:26.040 nonsense your relationship issues your baggage yeah your baggage into your future but it's like

00:05:35.580 you know how how do we move forward with men and like actually get together and get along with them

00:05:40.360 if we don't trust them well i think again like if you have a lot of baggage that self-reflection and

00:05:45.940 self-healing that you have to do in order for you to be in a situation because if you get into a

00:05:50.000 relationship and you have a shit ton of baggage and then you're pushing all of that baggage onto

00:05:54.880 that person who wants a relationship with you and now they're carrying your baggage as well as

00:05:58.800 you it becomes an unhealthy environment what does healing look like oh i think no one's fully healed

00:06:05.360 okay but i think i think through life everyone is healing constantly constantly things are going

00:06:10.400 on in life and people heal from things every single day you're never fully healed like there's

00:06:14.320 no definition of being oh i'm healed like i'm a healed person if you wanted to take steps to heal

00:06:19.440 i would definitely look at self-reflection self-reflection see the things that have

00:06:23.920 triggered me or things that have caused me issues in the past and how can i grow from that and how

00:06:28.640 can i work towards improving them so these triggers don't affect me anymore and i don't bring this

00:06:34.080 baggage into future relationships or push my own insecurities and issues onto other people because of

00:06:39.120 my past experiences what about therapy therapy is good but therapy only works if you're willing to do

00:06:45.360 therapy if you go to therapy and you don't want to do therapy then it's not going to work for you

00:06:49.520 i've just i've done a lot of these shows and i just found when girls say self-reflection it's like

00:06:53.440 nothing it's like listen to some read some books put on some candles listen to some i think self-reflection

00:06:58.960 i think journaling is really important to write down how you feel so then you can look back on it and

00:07:03.840 reflect on it be like okay i felt like this today yeah this is what i did i might have acted out of

00:07:08.880 character or done this because again like looking inwards it's difficult it's difficult to realize

00:07:15.360 and you see it from another perspective almost yeah yeah like you're reading the story but it's

00:07:20.000 your story yeah you know i mean i also feel like allow yourself to go through whatever has hurt you

00:07:25.840 in the past yeah you have to feel the most painful thing you could ever do allow yourself to go through

00:07:30.960 that again feel those emotions that you felt when you went through that you know so then you could

00:07:36.640 reflect from it grow from it and acknowledge it and see it for what it is like how much you've

00:07:41.440 changed i'm sure you must have grown from that moment as well so it's nice to sometimes look back

00:07:45.760 and think all my days i used to be like this but now i'm like this john from the same so again

00:07:50.240 journaling in that aspect is good yeah to overcome uh blessing did you have any more questions about

00:07:55.600 submission for them i feel like you had another one but i kind of cut you off uh yeah now i'm just gonna

00:08:02.960 conclude and say that we look for submission because submission brings peace and if you guys

00:08:07.600 are not gonna submit to us we're not gonna have peace and i'm in one piece and he's snoring

00:08:16.000 well

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JustPearlyThings - March 20, 2023

Heated Debate Between Pearl And Modern Woman

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