JustPearlyThings - Heated Debated on CHEATING

00:00:00.000 cheating yep yep so yeah yeah okay so so my first question is have you ever been cheated on and

00:00:09.840 have you ever cheated um yes i've been cheated on and i never cheat you never cheat how'd you

00:00:18.480 find out he cheated uh painful uh well i find out i don't know it's just like sometimes

00:00:29.920 god loves me too much and they just show me little things you're right god god brought you cheating

00:00:41.520 it just happened and i knew he was cheating because i think men when they are cheating they

00:00:46.720 their way um they they feel guilty and then try to make it up to you oh so he was he was like buying

00:00:54.000 you stuff and treating you well yeah out of nowhere okay and so then how how do you get evidence or

00:01:00.320 well i just i'm not a person that go into someone's phone okay so phone but yeah but it just it just

00:01:07.920 happened for me to see okay you saw like a message yeah and i i saw a message and then from there

00:01:13.280 obviously i checked and yeah and then like what it was him like messaging come over or something

00:01:19.920 no it was more i can't really say it because it's a bit inappropriate so oh it was like some sexual

00:01:27.520 stuff okay i feel like we've got to qualify the question what do you mean by cheating as in going

00:01:31.600 the whole way or what's cheating is such a loose that's a good that's a good question when i think

00:01:37.520 of cheating i think of like stuff that's like sexual you know i would say kissing someone else

00:01:44.240 is cheating yeah unless you're in like an arrange it's not cheating if you guys agree to the you

00:01:49.440 know what if it's like a just a flirty text message yeah like text messages like instagram like you

00:01:54.880 replied to something yeah but from there it's starting right premeditated not necessarily not necessarily

00:02:00.160 because for me there's also emotional cheating like if you invest your emotion emotional energy in

00:02:04.160 someone else that's also cheating because i could be with a guy and then i'm investing my emotional

00:02:08.400 energy into another guy you're still i think that emotional cheating that's that's a woman thing i 1.00

00:02:12.800 think you know like you don't really care it's a man isn't it see men men when it comes to men men

00:02:18.240 cheat for different reasons from when women cheat you understand what i mean yeah that's why when women 1.00

00:02:23.600 cheat people say that it hurts more it hurts the man more you know what i mean because men it's like our 0.99

00:02:29.280 penises kind of talk for us you know what i mean yeah like our penises are the ones that are making 0.93

00:02:35.440 the decision certain times you know and once you've bust that knot you're like you you snap back to 0.98

00:02:41.120 normal you could go back to love her i still love her though yeah yeah after you bust that knot you're

00:02:45.920 like oh you come what am i doing here yeah you come to your senses you come to your senses your senses

00:02:50.960 no pun intended so that's why you're saying man do it just to go bust their knot and then after they come 0.94

00:02:54.960 now i feel like guys guys can have sex with our emotions but what with females it's different they 0.88

00:03:01.840 need emotions very much different yeah men men can can have full-blown sex with a woman and feel

00:03:06.800 less than a woman sending a flirty text message exactly like we can be more upset over them sending 0.97

00:03:12.720 a text message yeah than us having full-blown sex with my mom yeah my mom broke it down from a 1.00

00:03:17.200 practical standpoint right this is genius if you let someone into your home that's slightly more personal

00:03:22.480 than you going into someone's home and women from a practical standpoint they are allowing you access 0.99

00:03:28.880 to their insides yeah you're just visiting you can visit a hundred houses in a day not that i recommend

00:03:33.920 you do that i don't do that by the way just to comment so big up my mom for that and um but i don't condone

00:03:41.920 it i don't i don't i don't suggest you do it that's it i'm trying to there's some study i'm trying to find

00:03:48.400 it that like backs up what you guys are saying where they asked like married men that cheated if they

00:03:52.320 still love their wives and it was like 85 or 85 80 roughly still said they did i mean it's not like

00:03:59.520 they don't they don't love them anymore it's like maybe they want to try something different maybe

00:04:05.040 bro so true have you guys cheated have you guys cheated yeah i've been a serial cheater man

00:04:10.720 come on any man says that that every guy can't that you just said of um married men i remember

00:04:21.520 being in the lift i went to go clubbing with the guys who was in the um lift and we seen an older

00:04:25.760 guy must have been around about say about 65 years old and he was like oh lads you're gonna enjoy like

00:04:30.800 have a good night tonight was like yeah then he was like yeah i'm gonna prom looking for for a woman

00:04:35.360 tonight and we're like okay he was i'm married by the way but i'm i'm bored he was like she don't do

00:04:40.800 nothing for me but i love my wife a friend of mine once said behind every great looking woman is a 0.82

00:04:45.600 man sick of shagna and i'm sorry to like i know women don't want to hear that but like and it's not 0.51

00:04:51.760 all true like obviously there's exceptions there's all good there's good guys out there but i do feel

00:04:55.680 like men we are programmed to want to multiply that is like not it's not a choice we wake up every

00:05:02.480 morning with a full sack and we're ready to go and unfortunately for women if you're not there 1.00

00:05:07.520 like that's why women unfortunately have to be on their a game because it's not fair but it's just the 1.00

00:05:12.560 way it is yeah i beg to differ on that one for the simple fact of you can be that woman or that man

00:05:21.920 absolutely you could be everything that he dreams of i agree and yet still somehow some way i can be

00:05:30.000 submissive i can give it to you as and when you want it multiple times out of the day but the truth

00:05:36.480 is if you want to go out and do that you're going to that works both ways though no no and i was going

00:05:42.720 to get to that point um you know it to me it's like i've always looked at cheating i've been on the

00:05:50.080 receiving end of that and i've been there multiple times now it does two things it makes you look

00:05:58.640 inside yourself and think okay have i done something in order to not satisfy him what drove him to

00:06:08.640 look at me but you're telling me that you love me you care for me oh you know you're my world okay

00:06:14.720 show me that i'm your world but then you still show me that but then you still feel all right i'm

00:06:19.920 going to go out and demand him yeah different area cold they ain't gonna know no it's not about

00:06:25.360 that do you get done something i'm saying it's the same with women as well women i believe if you 0.99

00:06:30.800 feel that you have to get to that point where you're cheating why are you still in that relationship

00:06:36.960 why haven't you sat down and had that a and b okay well i could flip it on you and say why did you

00:06:41.840 choose the wrong men multiple times in a row then okay no no no no disrespect no no no and that's

00:06:47.280 a fair yeah because they're all good guys out there no no no and that is a very fair question

00:06:51.360 every man cheats no i said every man has the urge in them they're programmed to want to

00:06:55.760 fun every day that's well generally i'll answer because women in general like men that cheat 0.52

00:07:02.240 like it's not like a good thing that makes women look good but look at who women pick 1.00

00:07:21.680 like more two women have always reproduced for every one man and while there have been there have been 0.53

00:07:26.400 monogamous like throughout the last two million years there have been monogamous societies um and the

00:07:30.880 majority like of the population has been monogamous but the top 15 of men um have never been monogamous

00:07:38.400 ever and now what's the difference today women um now are completely in control of sex which has never 1.00

00:07:43.200 happened in all of history right and what has happened since we've gotten in control of sex we

00:07:47.840 have been sleeping with a smaller and smaller percentage of men so what does that mean we could

00:07:51.760 have the monogamous guys but none of us pick them so and we don't when we have the most youth and the

00:07:57.040 most beauty because usually like we do go into monogamous relationships but we do it in our 30s 0.91

00:08:02.240 because the average age of first marriage isn't 31 so that means we're non-monogamous in our 20s

00:08:06.400 i have a question for the ladies if this is okay have any of you ever knowingly like deep deep down

00:08:12.560 inside been a booty call knowingly have you ever been have you ever knowingly been a booty call like

00:08:18.880 a guy who's just you're you're a side piece you're not serious but you're turning up and you know he's

00:08:24.080 calling you at 11 o'clock for good reason like he ain't taking you out he ain't doing all the nice

00:08:28.400 things you're turning up knowing what this is really about he may be lovely to you he may say all the

00:08:34.560 nice things to you but you deep down in your i'm just i'm just gonna say no no i haven't okay i personally

00:08:40.960 haven't been in that situation um but each people or persons or people that are in that setup yes what

00:08:49.280 about situationship anyone raise your hand situationship never whatever every you every

00:08:54.000 guy you've slept with you've been in a relationship with 100 plus okay okay wow yeah yeah yeah you have

00:09:00.160 been in a situation no of every person i've okay fine these recruiters need to step their game

00:09:07.360 they're similar they're too nice get some holes in the panel please wait what can we get some you

00:09:21.440 you see what he's saying though because a situationship is the same thing no i i understand

00:09:26.640 that you are both single yeah and if you both agree it's like if you know what the setup is and you're

00:09:33.280 like okay look i've got an itch i need you to scratch i'll call you if that's the setup then

00:09:38.720 fair enough each of their own but personally i've never been in that situation

JustPearlyThings - May 21, 2023

Heated Debated on CHEATING

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