JustPearlyThings - April 24, 2023


Her Boyfriend Got Cancer And She Broke Up With Him

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Jell Frensen Diane
This Was The Most Honest Interview Ever The Reason Men and Women CAN'T BE Friends

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Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

194.41

Word count

1,624

Sentence count

175

Harmful content

Misogyny

14

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Toxicity

2

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Hate speech

11

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Summary

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A woman running the London Marathon for her ex-boyfriend has admitted she left him because she couldn t cope with his cancer battle. She said she was still figuring out her friendship with him, adding, I felt like an awful person leaving somebody because they have cancer. But it was damaging my mental health.

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00:00:00.000 We're going to talk about how women are really making society completely delusional and crazy. 1.00
00:00:06.680 And I really do blame women for this. 1.00
00:00:08.760 So my first thing that we're going to talk about. 0.95
00:00:11.980 So we're just going to go through some things about the clown world that we live in.
00:00:16.080 All right.
00:00:16.300 So I'm going to read this to you guys.
00:00:17.220 And I just want to hear your thoughts.
00:00:19.420 Maybe the woman was in the right. 0.99
00:00:21.380 I don't know.
00:00:22.100 You guys can tell me.
00:00:23.420 Right?
00:00:24.780 We can go through it together as a class.
00:00:27.800 My boyfriend's cancer battle was ruining my mental health.
00:00:32.320 So I left him.
00:00:33.760 Now I'm running a marathon in his honor.
00:00:36.480 No, that's not.
00:00:37.160 A woman running the London Marathon for her ex-boyfriend has admitted she left him because she couldn't cope with his cancer battle.
00:00:44.080 Danielle, 32, was buying a house with Jell Frensen in London last year when he was diagnosed with a rare form of brain tumor at just 37.
00:00:53.680 He needed a complex operation, radiotherapy, and chemotherapy and had to learn how to walk again.
00:00:59.320 While all this was going on, the physics teacher, Danielle, began having panic attacks and her mental health plummeted.
00:01:04.600 So she ended the relationship.
00:01:06.860 She moved to Thailand but remained friends with him and is now running a marathon for a brain tumor charity.
00:01:12.160 She said she was still figuring out her friendship with him, adding,
00:01:15.940 I felt like an awful person leaving somebody because they have cancer, but it was damaging my mental health.
00:01:23.160 I'm going to read the rest.
00:01:24.880 The couple was buying a house together in Palmer's Green, North London, where Jell, who worked as a Google software engineer, began vomiting and having dizzy spells.
00:01:33.120 After numerous consultations with GPs and ineffective treatments for an ear infection, he began vomiting and getting much worse.
00:01:39.400 He went to a private MRI using his health insurance with Google.
00:01:43.280 Doctors found a grade 4, I'm going to say this wrong, grade 4 melidoblastoma tumor, normally a cancer that affects children, and he was booked for surgery in September.
00:01:54.200 Danielle said,
00:01:54.840 We are on a certain path to a certain future.
00:01:57.800 Within one day, we knew it wasn't going to work out like that anymore.
00:02:00.800 I was so worried and devastated I couldn't sleep or eat.
00:02:03.600 I was having panic attacks and was on so much medication to sort out myself I just couldn't function.
00:02:08.320 Realizing they had to split up, she moved to Thailand with her father, but she stayed friends with Jell and kept up to date with his recovery.
00:02:16.460 Following his operation, he had nerve damage and paralyzed the right side of his face, leaving to a squint that causes double vision.
00:02:22.220 He also can't fully close his eyes and must use drop ointments, eye drops and ointments.
00:02:27.640 Explaining her decision to run the marathon, in his name for brain tumor research, she said,
00:02:33.160 I felt so helpless watching all this unfold, so I knew I had to do something.
00:02:40.740 Like leave him?
00:02:41.700 Question mark.
00:02:42.400 That's a little bit deep.
00:02:43.740 Yeah, so that's the article that started to get.
00:02:46.860 That's a lot.
00:02:47.360 Yeah, so I think from the headline, that was, that's disgusting.
00:02:53.800 They must have written that to get, like, they must have written it like that to get a reaction.
00:02:57.900 I think it's still quite terrible.
00:02:59.840 Was it untrue?
00:03:02.140 What was it?
00:03:03.380 What was it true?
00:03:05.480 I don't know.
00:03:06.300 I guess you don't know the details of her panic attacks and not eating and those details just from reading that.
00:03:12.540 I don't understand how this made news.
00:03:15.520 Like that's somebody's personal situation.
00:03:19.260 She talked to the news.
00:03:21.460 If that's what I'm saying, that's weird.
00:03:22.940 Like, why would you speak to the news about how you're having panic attacks because your ex-boyfriend had cancer?
00:03:30.260 Maybe she's trying to feel awareness.
00:03:32.280 Awareness to the marathon.
00:03:34.080 But what awareness though?
00:03:35.460 But putting that aside, it's not something that I personally would do.
00:03:39.340 If I was with someone that was terminally ill, I would stay by them.
00:03:44.040 I think I would.
00:03:44.620 It's a no-brainer.
00:03:45.780 I think if she was in his position, what would she like him to do?
00:03:51.720 Maybe she didn't really love him from the beginning as well.
00:03:54.700 But then you've got to understand, it must have been a lot for her to do, to take on.
00:03:58.180 Yeah, for sure.
00:03:59.500 You know, she might have had to be catering to him or looking after him 24-7. 0.98
00:04:06.520 It does take a toll on somebody.
00:04:08.240 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:08.960 As much as it's easier to say, I mean, it's easy to say, I can't do it.
00:04:15.500 But at the same time, it shows true love in my eyes that you're able to support that somebody that you know, that you love at the lowest point of their life.
00:04:27.740 You know what I mean?
00:04:28.120 So for me, it kind of shows character, in my opinion.
00:04:32.040 If she was to stay.
00:04:33.120 If I was the guy and I was going through it, I'd be thinking, I'd want my loved ones.
00:04:39.360 I want the people that say that they love me or it was there at my best times to be there, you know, the last day of my life.
00:04:46.880 I don't know, life is short.
00:04:48.600 So you've got to look at every moment and embrace life as a whole.
00:04:52.580 You can't look at the best moments and think, oh, I love you because, you know, we did this and you was like this with me.
00:04:57.800 But what happened when I'm ill?
00:04:59.320 You know, when you get married, it's sickness.
00:05:01.660 We've been sickness and health.
00:05:03.180 Death to worst part.
00:05:03.900 You know, you know, I feel like that should play a big part in a lot of relationships and even in like friendships.
00:05:11.560 If you love somebody, you love them to death.
00:05:14.280 Otherwise, how can you love them?
00:05:16.060 You know what I mean?
00:05:16.420 But that isn't taking away the stress that the other person would have to go through to look after that person.
00:05:24.180 Don't you think it says a lack of loyalty in society today?
00:05:26.960 100%.
00:05:27.360 Because it's like, what percent of women really would stick around? 1.00
00:05:31.300 Not many.
00:05:32.200 In this generation, I don't know.
00:05:33.680 Do you not think?
00:05:34.560 Nah, not many.
00:05:35.100 I don't know.
00:05:35.700 Women divorce their husbands over like damn near nothing. 1.00
00:05:38.500 Yeah.
00:05:39.660 Because I lost their job.
00:05:41.140 Empty pockets.
00:05:42.220 I didn't feel like myself anymore.
00:05:46.700 You've changed.
00:05:47.880 I need to define myself as my favorite one.
00:05:50.480 I'm like, Diane, you have two children.
00:05:52.720 What about the kids?
00:05:53.700 Well, I need to define my, what, your children.
00:05:56.340 This is the thing though, yeah.
00:05:57.780 Go out with your boys.
00:05:58.960 But this is the thing, yeah, with love, yeah.
00:06:00.880 You have to work with love.
00:06:02.760 You've got to work with your partner.
00:06:04.100 It's not something that you just think, oh, okay.
00:06:06.680 Like, you know, like, like my parents, they were married for years.
00:06:09.880 And I'm thinking, how was you, how did you stay married?
00:06:12.100 They work together.
00:06:13.260 You go through every single storm.
00:06:15.220 You, you grow through what you go through.
00:06:17.940 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:06:18.540 That's love.
00:06:19.100 If you can do it together, that's the partnership.
00:06:21.580 But I feel like, you know, in this generation, a lot of people don't see, they just see them.
00:06:27.340 They just seize the moment.
00:06:28.560 They just, you know what I'm saying?
00:06:29.500 They want the fairy tale.
00:06:29.980 Yeah.
00:06:30.180 They don't actually want the real nitty gritty.
00:06:32.580 They don't understand what it takes to actually maintain a relationship.
00:06:36.480 That's what this generation is about.
00:06:37.640 I think men understand it.
00:06:38.620 I think women don't. 1.00
00:06:40.240 Some men understand it.
00:06:41.740 Some men, some men, some men.
00:06:43.260 I wouldn't say all men.
00:06:44.440 Yeah.
00:06:44.600 Yeah.
00:06:44.800 Because if we look at the numbers, the women are the ones that are leaving. 1.00
00:06:48.880 True.
00:06:49.060 If the men didn't understand it.
00:06:50.800 True.
00:06:51.260 It would be leaving.
00:06:52.320 The women are leaving. 0.99
00:06:53.700 But is it because.
00:06:55.900 Of what did he do?
00:06:57.540 Like a woman wouldn't necessarily stay around if there's no love there. 0.98
00:07:00.860 Like you say, for instance, the guy stays and he's just cheating.
00:07:03.420 He doesn't love his wife, but he's just there because he's there.
00:07:06.020 So he's going out doing his thing.
00:07:07.840 Is it because women are like, no, I'm actually not putting up with the disrespect. 1.00
00:07:11.820 Women cheat more than men nowadays. 1.00
00:07:14.060 Do you think?
00:07:14.440 I've heard that.
00:07:14.940 I've heard the statistics are pretty high when it comes to women. 1.00
00:07:17.720 Really?
00:07:18.180 Yeah.
00:07:18.420 What percent of men can get laid? 0.98
00:07:20.560 Like what percent of men can?
00:07:21.760 It's harder for guys.
00:07:23.240 Yeah.
00:07:23.940 Women have the control when it comes to sex. 1.00
00:07:26.560 I mean, for us, we really have to be out.
00:07:28.340 We're like, you know, I look at it as like the safari.
00:07:32.100 We're the predators.
00:07:33.720 Yeah.
00:07:34.600 We've got to get our prey, but we've got to be strategic with it.
00:07:37.100 You've got to be like, okay, you know, you know what I mean?
00:07:41.200 So you have to be very like smart with it.
00:07:43.540 And at the same time, it's not easy.
00:07:45.960 Whereas, you know, no disrespect.
00:07:47.960 And, you know, tomorrow you could sleep with the next guy and whoever you want.
00:07:53.360 You know what I mean?
00:07:53.720 It's a lot easier.
00:07:54.360 But that's what I mean where women have control over like sexual relations. 1.00
00:08:00.080 Like you could go out and pick a guy and nine times out of ten, you probably will.
00:08:05.220 Do you think I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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