JustPearlyThings - November 11, 2023


Her Humiliation Attempts BACKFIRED MISERABLY

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Troy Francis
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9 minutes

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1,678

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Misogyny

31

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Toxicity

10

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11

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In this episode, I am joined by my good friend, Troy Francis, who is a dating coach and content creator. We talk about what it means to be a housewife, why women deserve to be housewives, and what it takes to be one.

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00:00:00.000 Troy Francis, I'm 49 years old.
00:00:03.540 I am incredibly single and I'm a dating coach and content creator.
00:00:09.180 And a fun fact about me is I'm still a bit jet lagged because I was just in Miami, Mexico City, Bogota, Colombia and then New York City.
00:00:15.500 So I got back the other day.
00:00:17.140 No one's going to book you.
00:00:19.040 Why?
00:00:19.580 Because you're single and you're dating.
00:00:20.480 No, no, no, that's a good point.
00:00:23.400 I get criticism from both sides because you'll get criticism from people saying, oh, well, Troy hasn't got a girlfriend.
00:00:28.060 So therefore he doesn't know what he's talking about.
00:00:29.640 And then when you do have a girlfriend, people will say, oh, he doesn't know what he's talking about because he's not in the trenches.
00:00:33.580 He's not dealing with with those women because he's already married off.
00:00:36.880 So either way, either way, you're going to get haters.
00:00:40.580 It's like going to a hairdresser and her hair looks a hot mess. 0.98
00:00:42.960 But what if I'm catering to people who don't want a relationship?
00:00:47.060 They just want to have a bit of the old, you know, dating.
00:00:50.680 Yeah, dating.
00:00:51.500 But that covers a multitude of.
00:00:53.340 There's no endgame then.
00:00:54.660 There's no endgame.
00:00:55.200 Does that have to be?
00:00:56.460 What's the endgame for any of us?
00:00:57.720 Well, yeah, to be fair, if you look at the numbers, the future is bleak for everybody.
00:01:05.340 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:06.340 Most of us will die alone.
00:01:08.980 Anyways, anyway.
00:01:09.880 So speaking of that.
00:01:11.160 So today's topic, we I wanted to talk about.
00:01:15.340 So I saw this study, right, that talked about what percent of women do you think get to be housewives?
00:01:23.020 Don't cheat and look.
00:01:25.800 What percent do you think?
00:01:27.420 I'm going to say 60.
00:01:28.700 60 percent?
00:01:29.620 Yeah.
00:01:30.820 I'm going to say 30.
00:01:31.800 30 percent.
00:01:32.880 40.
00:01:33.640 Okay.
00:01:34.400 What do you mean?
00:01:36.020 Specify housewives as in married? 1.00
00:01:38.040 Get to stay home with their children. 0.59
00:01:41.160 Oh.
00:01:42.060 Oh, can I change it?
00:01:42.860 Yeah, yeah, go ahead.
00:01:43.840 30.
00:01:44.440 30 percent?
00:01:45.060 50.
00:01:45.700 50 percent?
00:01:48.160 Of women. 0.52
00:01:49.640 40, I said.
00:01:50.480 40?
00:01:50.860 Okay, go ahead.
00:01:53.440 35.
00:01:54.480 Okay, 35.
00:01:55.520 40.
00:01:56.380 Okay.
00:01:57.040 38.
00:01:57.740 38?
00:01:58.480 27.
00:01:59.000 So the question is, what percent of women want to be housewives? 1.00
00:02:03.760 No, get to be housewives. 1.00
00:02:06.420 That means their man can afford for them to be a housewife. 1.00
00:02:09.280 Maybe 30 percent.
00:02:10.280 30 percent?
00:02:11.040 I'd say 22.
00:02:12.680 22 percent, Troy?
00:02:14.060 20 percent.
00:02:15.360 It's like 1 percent.
00:02:17.720 So I hate to burst your bubble, everybody.
00:02:20.680 9.2 percent of women in the UK.
00:02:23.300 In the UK.
00:02:24.460 Oh, I thought we were like including, you know, Africa.
00:02:29.000 No, no, this is Western stuff.
00:02:32.660 If you said UK, I definitely would have said UK.
00:02:34.580 So I thought to myself, and I guess we'd have to, you know, agree on this first.
00:02:40.720 I would say that the best position to be in as a woman is to be married to someone that 0.99
00:02:46.380 you want to be with the rest of your life and able to stay home with the kids if you
00:02:51.220 so want to.
00:02:52.000 Would you agree?
00:02:52.900 If you so want to, yeah.
00:02:54.440 Okay, so let's bring it up.
00:02:55.200 If you want to, yes.
00:02:55.800 Yeah, so this is, so it kind of question, it brought me to the question, who qualifies
00:03:01.100 to be a housewife? 1.00
00:03:03.480 Like if you were going to apply for a job, let's say like the men, only 10 percent of 0.65
00:03:07.640 men get a housewife. 1.00
00:03:08.740 They take a housewife. 0.98
00:03:09.960 And they basically say, ladies, ladies, ladies, here's the application.
00:03:15.200 What should it say on it?
00:03:16.940 So I have a PowerPoint here.
00:03:18.480 Do you deserve to be a housewife? 1.00
00:03:22.400 So wait.
00:03:22.920 And then number two, go to the second slide. 0.98
00:03:26.820 I thought it would be fun to put what you guys think housewife, like what you think you
00:03:31.660 should bring to the table in order to be a housewife. 1.00
00:03:34.340 And being able to sew.
00:03:37.200 I would do one each.
00:03:38.700 Yeah, one each.
00:03:39.420 One each, yeah.
00:03:39.940 Okay.
00:03:40.040 That's a very nice, old-fashioned, because back in the day, you couldn't buy clothes.
00:03:46.660 So your wife had to be able to make the clothes. 1.00
00:03:48.680 Okay, I just want to try this.
00:03:49.640 A show of hands, who can sew?
00:03:51.620 Sew, yeah. 0.99
00:03:52.260 All right, all right.
00:03:53.320 You can really sew your own clothes?
00:03:55.760 Yeah, I make my own clothes.
00:03:56.820 I can customize.
00:03:58.080 Oh, I'm actually impressed.
00:04:00.760 Okay, go ahead.
00:04:05.480 A housewife. 0.61
00:04:06.460 You've already failed.
00:04:07.280 What do you mean?
00:04:10.460 Just be human.
00:04:11.420 What would you mean?
00:04:12.880 Okay, okay, okay.
00:04:14.320 Just have a post.
00:04:15.320 So women are human, women are human, but only 10% get to do it. 1.00
00:04:22.260 So there's something special about those 10%, right? 0.95
00:04:25.860 There's got to be something different about them.
00:04:27.900 They get it.
00:04:29.500 Okay, so cook. 0.97
00:04:30.200 Okay, this is going to be very controversial.
00:04:31.460 How many meals?
00:04:32.460 Okay, go ahead.
00:04:32.940 So I'd say, and don't crucify me for this, but I'm going to say be a actual, be a female.
00:04:41.980 Female.
00:04:43.040 You mean?
00:04:44.000 Be a female. 0.99
00:04:44.860 A born female.
00:04:45.480 You mean anatomically?
00:04:47.220 Anatomically.
00:04:47.840 You mean it's this gendered woman? 1.00
00:04:49.320 Excuse me?
00:04:49.820 But why would anyone crucify you?
00:04:54.080 I would think so.
00:04:55.840 We said housewife, not househusband.
00:04:58.780 So all right.
00:04:59.380 All right.
00:04:59.720 What about you?
00:05:00.540 I would say to be a good housewife, you'd have to be very good in bed to keep your husband. 1.00
00:05:06.660 All right. 0.99
00:05:07.080 So good at sex. 0.99
00:05:09.000 Good at sex. 0.95
00:05:09.720 I think good with routine and structure.
00:05:16.140 So if they're doing like a hard nine to five, whatever, when they come back, they know they've got all the clothes are clean.
00:05:23.700 They've got the meals.
00:05:26.060 Nice massage.
00:05:27.260 Structure.
00:05:28.060 All right.
00:05:28.340 Clothes.
00:05:29.060 Structure.
00:05:29.760 All right.
00:05:30.060 Clothes, meals, massage, basically.
00:05:33.680 Structure.
00:05:34.820 You're taking everyone's alters in one. 0.81
00:05:36.780 Sorry.
00:05:37.300 She did well in school.
00:05:40.720 She's an overachiever. 0.64
00:05:43.260 Go ahead.
00:05:43.900 I would say to be very supportive.
00:05:46.220 Supporting.
00:05:48.040 Supportive.
00:05:48.600 Okay.
00:05:49.800 Supportive.
00:05:50.760 I'm putting them in the Google Doc.
00:05:52.280 Just, you know.
00:05:53.600 Go ahead.
00:05:54.560 I would say mine is to like be caring.
00:05:56.880 Like, I don't know if you actually need to be the one doing all the sewing, cooking, cleaning, and massaging, but you need to care that somebody's taking care of it.
00:06:03.980 Okay.
00:06:04.220 That's actually good.
00:06:07.560 The nanny.
00:06:09.540 Okay, wait.
00:06:10.220 Let me get this straight.
00:06:12.240 10% of women qualify for this, and they don't need to cook or clean. 1.00
00:06:17.220 They just need to care.
00:06:18.320 Not necessarily.
00:06:18.740 Yeah, not necessarily.
00:06:19.680 Like, if there is somebody who can cook and clean, you need to make sure they're doing it to the standard that makes everyone in the house happy, right?
00:06:25.300 Okay.
00:06:25.620 So, so they manage the cookers and the cleaners.
00:06:28.100 You make sure it's done.
00:06:29.420 Okay.
00:06:29.880 Okay.
00:06:30.340 Go ahead.
00:06:30.560 Yeah.
00:06:31.680 Be their peace.
00:06:33.480 Good one.
00:06:34.260 That's a very good one.
00:06:35.240 What does that mean?
00:06:36.120 Like, can I, can I have some specifics?
00:06:37.600 Because I hear this a lot, but I never know what it means.
00:06:40.880 Yeah.
00:06:41.120 So he comes home, and I say, I am peace.
00:06:45.540 That's me.
00:06:47.620 You meditate together.
00:06:49.140 No unnecessary headache.
00:06:50.820 Like, just when they come home, they want a place to relax.
00:06:56.160 Everyone wants a place to relax and retreat.
00:06:59.720 So, yeah, a lot of women, where have you been? 1.00
00:07:04.960 What time did you call this?
00:07:06.860 Unnecessarily.
00:07:07.580 Okay.
00:07:07.980 So not, you can't argue.
00:07:09.900 No arguing.
00:07:10.740 Well, you can argue, but within reason.
00:07:13.680 Yeah.
00:07:15.440 There's a lot of gray area in that.
00:07:17.280 I know, but I'm super chilled.
00:07:18.720 You come home.
00:07:19.240 Yeah, I'm probably too much.
00:07:21.280 I would just think the peace is no arguing, right?
00:07:26.220 Not nagging.
00:07:27.600 No nagging.
00:07:28.260 Not being nagging.
00:07:29.240 Yeah, no nagging.
00:07:30.700 Okay.
00:07:31.740 What do you think?
00:07:32.640 A loyal woman deserves to be a housewife. 1.00
00:07:35.460 That's all you got to be, loyal?
00:07:36.860 Yeah, you have to be. 1.00
00:07:37.700 Damn. 1.00
00:07:38.060 Damn. 1.00
00:07:39.120 I was definitely almost a housewife until just now. 0.99
00:07:46.080 Okay.
00:07:46.940 What do you think?
00:07:47.700 Uh, patient.
00:07:50.000 You need patience.
00:07:51.200 So much. 1.00
00:07:52.300 For the damn kids. 1.00
00:07:54.580 You got about free kids. 1.00
00:07:55.740 I've been waiting for someone to say, give you kids.
00:07:59.440 Oh, you don't have to do that.
00:08:00.280 You need to be patient.
00:08:01.360 Okay.
00:08:01.860 Wait, who says you?
00:08:02.660 Fatile.
00:08:03.300 You don't have to.
00:08:04.500 Fatile.
00:08:05.180 I don't think you have to do that to be a housewife. 0.96
00:08:07.820 You have to be patient.
00:08:08.700 You don't have to give them kids.
00:08:10.320 Yeah, not everyone wants, not every man wants kids.
00:08:12.920 You can still be a housewife.
00:08:13.940 Okay, do men typically.
00:08:16.640 I got, I got production cutting me off.
00:08:19.440 Yeah.
00:08:20.300 I think it was like, I want to give you this.
00:08:22.160 Remember, remember, remember.
00:08:24.800 You might already have kids.
00:08:26.000 This is only 10% of women get this. 1.00
00:08:28.220 So this is cream of the crop.
00:08:30.120 The best of the best.
00:08:31.760 Right?
00:08:32.660 So I would think they would give you kids, you know.
00:08:35.400 I thought we just said who qualifies, not who's like the best one.
00:08:40.160 Well, the best ones qualify.
00:08:43.260 I mean, 50% of them end up not having the job at the end of the day, right?
00:08:47.760 Yeah, because they're not the best.
00:08:49.560 Because none of us go home.
00:08:50.360 They still qualify to initially become.
00:08:52.540 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, if you qualify for things, you get them.
00:08:57.400 So if you don't get it, then you don't qualify.
00:08:59.580 Not necessarily.
00:09:00.560 But if 9% of women are becoming housewives in the UK and 50% of marriages fail,
00:09:06.240 then half of those women didn't quite do a good job, right? 1.00
00:09:09.260 Yeah.
00:09:09.500 No.
00:09:10.100 Well, I would say they didn't qualify for the housewife role. 1.00
00:09:14.800 So there are men that can afford housewives. 0.99
00:09:16.880 There's just a very small percentage of them.
00:09:19.000 You know, prices are going up.
00:09:21.000 You know, most people need two incomes.
00:09:23.360 So, you know, only 10% of women could qualify. 1.00
00:09:27.920 I think a big part of that percentage is women that turn a blind eye to a lot of things. 1.00
00:09:34.440 Yes.
00:09:34.760 That's quite right.
00:09:38.400 Yeah.
00:09:39.020 Yeah, a lot of them.
00:09:39.880 We need to take all the advice from him.
00:09:42.960 He knows.
00:09:43.680 I know.
00:09:44.200 Right, right.
00:09:44.840 Can that be my answer?
00:09:46.960 They turn a blind eye.
00:09:48.760 If they turn a blind eye to a lot of stuff, then they're ideal to be a housewife. 1.00