How Fat Shaming Saved Her Friend's Life
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss body positivity in regards to women and our opinions on it. We have a special guest, Lizzo, join us to talk about her struggles with weight gain and how she deals with it.
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Okay, big butt with a small waist that's not
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But this one here she's got a great shape she's she's got big butt small waist naturally
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Is it depends on your state? You wouldn't say she's fat though, so
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But I mean most women like to be bigger now nowadays rather than deem skinny
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Maybe they pretend they're happy because there's body positivity. I'm happy big girl's life
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One to ten what do you rank Lizzo one to ten ten?
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Do you really think she's cries on instagram why oh, I don't know that much about
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Do you genuinely okay? Do you genuinely think she's happy at like 300 pounds?
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How could one be happy does she not look happy or no?
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So I but from what I can see I look she's looks wise. What do you what do you rank?
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Okay, okay, so so one to ten you would trade your body with hers
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Like why do you why let me let me finish let me finish you said she had a good figure yeah
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She would be offended if you said she looks like Lizzo
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Would you be offended if I said you look fat like Lizzo?
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But do you think that's what it's that's like she has a good figure because she's skinny
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Who's skinny who's really really skinny? I think women trying to be nice
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I would prefer Lizzo than a really skinny skinny woman
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Okay, no I would I would take no but I would take no but no boobs
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No, but Lizzo could if she would really wanted to she couldn't
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No, I think if she wanted to she'd do it she had those she was on tiktok like on the treadmill
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Oh, that's why then I'm not ready to get tiktok
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Because I was different and I couldn't I don't go gym
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Do you not think there's universal standards of beauty?
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So when everyone walks into the room where everyone can kind of
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Okay, when when everyone walks into the room, you don't think everyone has a general
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Wait blessing can you finish the sentence and then and then you can pause it
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Perception of who's more beautiful and less beautiful
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You don't think most of us like they could say who's more beautiful and less beautiful
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And I'm not I'm not trying to put us against each other. I'm not saying to be rated
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But like I'm saying like you don't think in general, you know who the pretty friend in your friend group is
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Why is it so hard for women to admit that lizzo is not a 10?
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And why don't we see the same body positivity for men?
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It's all about the women's empowerment like women want to feel so empowered
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through I guess years under under the patriarchy that anything goes there is
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There's women can do no wrong in anyone's eyes you can be fat you can be whole you can do this you can slap up
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Slap up a guy don't matter as long as you're a woman
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So now you just delude yourselves you just lie to each other
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At your own detriment because to say someone like lizzo is attractive and healthy and
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Homegirl said myself like I don't like gym. I don't like to do anything healthy
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But again to say that you might be misogynistic or blah blah blah like anything a woman does nowadays
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Yeah, we like even when talking about guys and relationships
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It's always I feel like it's filled with excuses. Oh, no, he does like you. It's just
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No, he just don't like you. You just need to be straight up about certain things
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Um, it's a bit harsh telling your friends. I'll uh, you're overweight
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Nah, that's that's actually a lot easier than saying um, you're ugly, but yeah, definitely
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You can change your weight. You can't change your if your face looks like like looks like you got smashed in with a baseball bat
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What do you think tiana? I don't know. I feel like like you said like
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It's easier to judge ones like to judge yourself
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and to judge someone else because then you're kind of like
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You're projecting what you view as beauty onto somebody else
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Which isn't really important. I don't know. I feel like it's very uncomfortable place to sit in
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You don't think there's subjective standards of beauty. No, I do believe in them. Okay. I do think that like
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A lot of models are really tall. They're very thin
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It depends where you are but like the certain metrics that we can use or even if we take like modeling out of it
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Like there's certain girls that men find more attractive
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Because it's not always necessarily the models. You know what I mean?
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Like there's just some girls that are like
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There's an unspoken rule like I do think like we know who the pretty friend is
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but then why the girls try and take out the
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The general view and try and make it based on the individual because you'd be like for me or this that when generally speaking
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So why do you feel like why do women take out the the more objective view and try to make it as subjective as possible?
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I think maybe I'm just gonna go for what I think very it's a very feminine to be
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Like straight slaying down the facts is a very masculine trait
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So i'm not going to go to these two girls and tell them that they look a certain way
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I'm not going to rate them objectively from my perspective because I just like to what end?
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What does that bring either one of us here you asked the question someone asked you a question though?
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I'm not gonna lie, but I just feel like okay after the show
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Yeah, and then say it's feminine to be empathetic you can you can you know kindly say to somebody the truth
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I've done it so many times. I think there's a friend's ugly
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No, I'm talking about like if their character is ugly
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If they are overweight, we're not asking about character
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Look straight at your face. I know but okay if we're talking about weight
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I did have a friend who's having difficulty putting up having a child and I told her it's because you're fat
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And I'm her closest friend and she took it and she but because of I
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I'm not just some stranger like saying yeah, you're fine. Yeah, go girl and stuff. I apologize
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But um, I I told her no, it's because you're fat
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And you have to take responsibility. I as a friend i'm not going to sit here like I have my own life and my time
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If you're going to sit there telling me the whole the same circular argument
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Like if you're if you really genuinely want to get pregnant sort your diet out and now guess what she's doing great
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You know, I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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