JustPearlyThings - May 12, 2023


How Long Is TOO LONG


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Length

11 minutes

Words per minute

214.32419

Word count

2,387

Sentence count

306

Harmful content

Misogyny

26

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Hate speech

20

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How long should it take to get a woman pregnant? How long should a woman wait to get pregnant? Is it too long to wait for a woman to have a baby? How many months should you wait before you commit to a woman?

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00:00:00.000 Take on a coffee date for a first date.
00:00:04.120 Date as many women as possible to tell the difference. 0.99
00:00:07.960 Make sure she's not on birth control. 0.58
00:00:11.120 And figure out what her relationship's like with her family and her dad.
00:00:15.180 What do you agree with, disagree with, and what would you like to add?
00:00:23.360 There's loads I need to add to that, man.
00:00:26.000 It's not that simple.
00:00:26.860 I don't know.
00:00:30.000 Yeah, start that again.
00:00:31.040 Tell me that list again, man.
00:00:32.880 We can keep going.
00:00:34.420 So you got to see her for three months.
00:00:36.680 For three months?
00:00:37.820 Yeah, cool.
00:00:38.960 I think three months.
00:00:39.540 Do you think that's enough?
00:00:40.460 You can marry a girl three months? 0.99
00:00:41.800 No.
00:00:42.260 No, you can't.
00:00:43.080 In three months.
00:00:44.860 You know why you come here?
00:00:46.160 A lot of women are chameleons. 1.00
00:00:47.380 No, 100%.
00:00:48.280 Trust me, they can shapeshift.
00:00:51.780 Have you ever dated a girl for three months and she changes completely? 0.99
00:00:54.880 Yes.
00:00:56.100 You know when the biggest change of a woman happens? 1.00
00:00:59.560 What?
00:00:59.800 When she has a baby.
00:01:00.960 For me, that's when I see the biggest change in a woman. 1.00
00:01:03.920 So you won't even really know your woman until she has a child properly. 0.87
00:01:07.060 That's what I believe.
00:01:07.680 So in order to find a good woman, you have to get her pregnant? 1.00
00:01:10.360 No, you don't have to.
00:01:11.400 But I'm saying...
00:01:11.760 Don't worry about that.
00:01:14.480 No, you don't have to.
00:01:15.480 Because there's certain things you'll see.
00:01:16.700 But I'm saying, from my experience, I have three kids, innit?
00:01:19.880 So I saw the biggest change when the woman had a child. 1.00
00:01:23.520 Okay.
00:01:24.300 So how long should you see her before you marry her, knock her up, whatever? 0.99
00:01:28.760 I don't know about marry or knock her up. 1.00
00:01:30.300 Three months is a good time to determine whether she's being genuine.
00:01:33.280 If she's wearing a mask or not.
00:01:34.420 So you got to see her for three months in order to date her?
00:01:37.580 Like, what's the...
00:01:38.220 I mean, I don't think, as he said, you can't really determine anyone as the true person
00:01:42.700 as they're being genuine as they say they are for, like, the first three months, genuinely.
00:01:46.620 If you've lived with someone, that's different.
00:01:49.280 If you move in with someone, you can see the truth, like, a lot quicker.
00:01:51.760 Actually, can I...
00:01:52.960 Can I...
00:01:53.260 I'm sorry.
00:01:53.900 I'm a little ADD sometimes.
00:01:55.200 No, go on.
00:01:55.540 When do you guys expect to sleep with her? 0.94
00:01:58.920 You know what?
00:02:00.280 That's subjective.
00:02:01.440 You see that question there, yeah?
00:02:02.900 It is very subjective, yeah?
00:02:05.260 In general.
00:02:06.140 Are you saying expect?
00:02:07.060 Yeah, expectation is a big word.
00:02:08.400 I don't have an expectation.
00:02:09.460 I don't have an expectation.
00:02:10.620 They expect straight away.
00:02:11.380 On the first date.
00:02:12.120 You know what it is?
00:02:13.000 Fourth date.
00:02:13.480 I'll be honest, yeah.
00:02:14.500 I don't think there's too much of...
00:02:16.620 It's not a problem if you sleep with a woman the first night 1.00
00:02:18.780 or you sleep with a woman two months down the line.
00:02:21.240 Because man can move different.
00:02:22.240 Man can wait...
00:02:22.940 Sleep with her as soon as you can.
00:02:25.760 Yeah, but...
00:02:26.500 You know what it is?
00:02:27.420 Because you can sleep with a woman straight away 0.99
00:02:29.900 and have a great connection and a great relationship with her.
00:02:32.440 Or you can...
00:02:33.320 A woman can hold out for six months and whatever 1.00
00:02:35.460 and there's a man out here that will sit there for six months.
00:02:37.660 How many years?
00:02:38.100 Clark and bust out.
00:02:39.120 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:02:39.980 All right.
00:02:40.320 How long is too long?
00:02:41.900 I'm just going to...
00:02:42.620 I need hands, okay?
00:02:43.700 How long is too long?
00:02:45.520 No matter how good the girl is, you ain't waiting.
00:02:47.980 Like, this is ridiculous.
00:02:48.620 I think three months is the max to wait.
00:02:51.120 That's why I want hands for the max.
00:02:53.140 Are you waiting one...
00:02:54.200 All right.
00:02:54.560 Wait, wait, wait.
00:02:55.800 He's cupping.
00:02:56.620 He's cupping.
00:02:57.420 I need hands.
00:02:58.620 Are we waiting a week?
00:02:59.940 Is that okay?
00:03:00.980 All right.
00:03:01.400 Yeah, I'll wait a week.
00:03:02.480 Okay, I need you to go...
00:03:04.640 Put your hand up when it's too long.
00:03:06.280 Yeah, yeah.
00:03:06.700 All right.
00:03:07.820 Two weeks.
00:03:09.340 Three weeks.
00:03:11.300 So you're putting in three weeks?
00:03:12.920 It depends on the context.
00:03:14.440 I mean, has she made other people wait?
00:03:17.100 You don't know.
00:03:18.040 You never know that.
00:03:19.220 Yeah, that's a stupid one.
00:03:19.840 You never know that.
00:03:20.480 You don't know.
00:03:20.940 You don't know.
00:03:20.960 You don't know.
00:03:21.700 I'm not going to be the one that waits.
00:03:22.960 Because I'm not going to be the one that waits.
00:03:24.800 So, I mean, like, how old is she?
00:03:28.860 I mean, she's some kind of born-again virgin.
00:03:31.700 I don't know.
00:03:32.220 But then I'm not...
00:03:33.720 You're getting a girl from first date. 1.00
00:03:37.460 So you don't know.
00:03:38.320 You've just met her off the street, whatever, dating app, whatever.
00:03:41.460 So you have to determine.
00:03:42.740 All right.
00:03:42.920 So three weeks, you can wait.
00:03:44.240 You're not...
00:03:45.240 He's...
00:03:45.920 Okay.
00:03:46.140 Four weeks.
00:03:47.160 Four weeks too long for anyone?
00:03:49.080 No.
00:03:49.460 Five weeks.
00:03:50.880 Okay.
00:03:51.200 Two months.
00:03:52.180 Too long to sleep with her?
00:03:54.520 The two months is the max.
00:03:56.400 All right.
00:03:56.760 After that.
00:03:57.660 Yeah.
00:03:57.980 I'm going to go with two months.
00:03:59.320 Two months for me.
00:04:00.460 Yeah.
00:04:00.760 I get bored easily.
00:04:01.640 So after two months, I might...
00:04:02.800 Two months.
00:04:04.000 Yeah.
00:04:04.040 I'll go with two to three months.
00:04:05.480 Two to three months.
00:04:06.300 All right.
00:04:06.600 So three.
00:04:07.240 All right.
00:04:07.420 So you guys too.
00:04:08.120 You said she could have three.
00:04:08.740 But I don't know.
00:04:09.420 But the thing is, I've done three months when I was young.
00:04:11.880 Maybe when I'm older now, I don't know.
00:04:14.060 That's why I'm in...
00:04:15.740 But when I had the three months, that relationship lasted.
00:04:18.820 Now you meet a nice woman. 0.57
00:04:21.660 You think you're looking for a good woman. 1.00
00:04:22.960 If she's the one, then I could wait like a year.
00:04:25.640 But I have to be convinced.
00:04:26.740 Yeah.
00:04:27.220 Yeah.
00:04:27.660 If she's the one.
00:04:28.220 If she's the one.
00:04:28.840 How do you know she's the one, though?
00:04:30.140 But then you have to know.
00:04:31.280 You have to know Ra.
00:04:32.900 You have to be in her life for that whole time.
00:04:35.460 I understand her.
00:04:36.200 How old are you again?
00:04:37.400 I'm 29.
00:04:38.200 Okay.
00:04:38.620 You're 29.
00:04:39.380 So how old women do you usually date? 0.99
00:04:41.680 Around my age.
00:04:42.640 So if she's not a virgin, will you wait for a year for her?
00:04:45.880 She's not a virgin, but I wait for a year.
00:04:47.820 If I was...
00:04:49.220 Yeah.
00:04:49.580 I could do.
00:04:50.300 I could do.
00:04:50.940 It's not likely.
00:04:51.840 I could do.
00:04:52.520 Are you sleeping with other people at the time?
00:04:54.140 You're waiting.
00:04:54.660 Yeah.
00:04:54.900 Yeah.
00:04:54.980 Yeah.
00:04:57.180 I'm kidding.
00:04:58.840 I don't know what she's waiting for.
00:05:05.140 I'm saying I don't know what...
00:05:05.960 That's a good question.
00:05:06.880 Okay.
00:05:07.140 Okay.
00:05:07.540 So you got a year.
00:05:09.000 You went from two months and to a year.
00:05:11.340 Yeah.
00:05:11.560 But I'm saying it depends how much...
00:05:13.560 All right.
00:05:13.880 The average, the nice, I don't know, your favorite girl that you've been on a date with.
00:05:20.760 Let's just take her. 1.00
00:05:21.600 You guys can think of.
00:05:22.620 Whoever your favorite ex is, whatever.
00:05:24.900 All right.
00:05:25.140 Would you have waited a year for her?
00:05:28.060 Yeah, I did.
00:05:28.920 Oh, you did.
00:05:29.580 Okay.
00:05:30.960 So you'll wait a year.
00:05:32.520 You'll wait...
00:05:32.940 Two months.
00:05:33.520 Two months.
00:05:34.180 You'll wait what?
00:05:35.860 When you're saying...
00:05:36.500 Now you're saying favorite, yo.
00:05:39.340 He says you're looking for a wifey. 0.99
00:05:41.580 I'm just...
00:05:42.000 I was just trying to get it out of your visual.
00:05:43.680 I would wait.
00:05:44.360 But one of the...
00:05:45.020 If you're talking about favorites, it didn't last...
00:05:47.140 It didn't take long.
00:05:48.440 It was first time.
00:05:49.480 No, but how long would you wait for a girl you liked?
00:05:51.880 That's what I'm saying.
00:05:53.420 I just used that as...
00:05:55.300 I don't know.
00:05:55.940 I can't answer that question.
00:05:57.340 Please answer the question.
00:05:58.340 It's hard for me to...
00:05:59.340 You're here to answer my question.
00:06:00.700 No, 100%.
00:06:01.740 This is what you're here for.
00:06:02.800 How long would I wait?
00:06:03.960 Just give me an answer, please.
00:06:05.200 It doesn't have to be set.
00:06:06.360 I would wait two months.
00:06:07.060 Yeah, two months.
00:06:07.500 Okay.
00:06:07.980 Thank you.
00:06:08.340 Thank you so much.
00:06:10.000 You're like three weeks, roughly a month, a month.
00:06:12.920 Yeah, three weeks.
00:06:13.380 So one month, two months, a year.
00:06:15.400 We got to...
00:06:16.140 A year, yeah.
00:06:16.900 Okay, so step one.
00:06:18.960 Sleep with her as soon as possible and wait up to... 0.66
00:06:25.320 A year?
00:06:25.700 Up to one month to a year, depending on the guy.
00:06:33.620 Because what if you wait a year and you don't like it?
00:06:35.820 Mm-hmm.
00:06:36.760 Good point.
00:06:37.460 I wasn't only in that one, into that one.
00:06:40.400 So you know what I'm saying?
00:06:41.480 Yeah.
00:06:43.840 Okay.
00:06:44.400 Well, okay.
00:06:45.040 So don't wait.
00:06:45.700 Now we're going back.
00:06:46.660 Don't wait.
00:06:47.400 I don't...
00:06:47.960 Just for him, though.
00:06:49.000 He's waiting.
00:06:49.580 Yeah, he's waiting.
00:06:49.920 Okay, so next step.
00:06:51.420 Okay, so when should you ask her to make you a coffee?
00:06:54.900 That's what we have.
00:06:56.620 I don't even drink coffee.
00:06:58.420 Okay, so what else?
00:06:59.580 How else do you vet for a good woman? 1.00
00:07:02.620 You know what?
00:07:03.820 To vet a good woman, yeah, I think you need... 1.00
00:07:06.960 It depends on the communication and the conversation that you have.
00:07:09.340 So going coffee is...
00:07:11.460 I agree.
00:07:12.420 And the maddest thing is, the girl that I'm seeing now, this is the first time I've ever
00:07:16.140 gone coffee and we had a mad conversation in Costa over coffee.
00:07:19.520 And I've never done that before, which is mad.
00:07:22.220 I'm telling you.
00:07:23.220 But once you have a good...
00:07:24.340 Through conversation and through certain things, a man would get an idea.
00:07:28.560 So adding on to what Rome's the same with family values, traditional, maybe even fair
00:07:33.700 or God, like conversation with her, you will understand a lot more about her.
00:07:37.480 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:07:37.840 If she could...
00:07:38.400 Can she even conversate? 0.71
00:07:39.400 Can we have a proper conversation together?
00:07:41.200 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:42.740 Okay, so take on coffee date, sleep with her as soon as possible. 0.99
00:07:47.340 Coffee date after I finish waiting.
00:07:50.040 Oh, so that...
00:07:51.420 Okay.
00:07:52.440 You're getting on coffee date after you finish waiting.
00:07:54.720 That's a waste of time.
00:07:55.560 Nah, man.
00:07:56.020 You've got to go first.
00:07:56.740 Go on coffee date, either before or after you sleep with her.
00:08:05.780 Can I just say really quickly, I promise.
00:08:08.240 The reason why you could say that now is because you're in a position to be open, to be receptive
00:08:15.860 to her as well.
00:08:16.980 You know, some guys would be like, what?
00:08:18.620 You know, like we're going clubbing or, you know, it depends on the man as well.
00:08:23.060 Yeah, 100%.
00:08:23.740 I'm not putting blame on the man, but it's a two-way street.
00:08:26.740 A lot of Purley's list man has, so I've probably gone through dating women, gone through this,
00:08:31.980 gone through that.
00:08:32.900 So now when I meet someone, I can analyse a good woman, do you get what I'm saying? 0.99
00:08:36.900 Yeah.
00:08:37.080 And it's through action.
00:08:38.200 I feel like, to your question of where's all the good women gone yet, I feel like a lot
00:08:41.900 of good women don't have the values of back in the day. 1.00
00:08:45.220 So women, I don't know back in the day because I wasn't born back in the day, but I think
00:08:48.360 a lot of women don't want to show wife credentials before they're a wife. 1.00
00:08:52.180 So they will hold things back expecting you to put a ring on their finger.
00:08:55.760 Because it's like, oh, I can do this, but I'm not going to do these until I'm your wife.
00:09:00.820 But man, I'm thinking, man, I'm thinking, bro, all right, if you're going to, cool, there's
00:09:04.660 other girl out here that's going to show me what a wife is. 1.00
00:09:07.460 But imagine acting like a wife and doing full throttle, like cooking's different, but full 0.99
00:09:10.820 throttle acting like a wife for you to go and see someone else or play around. 1.00
00:09:13.820 But if you don't do that, the man's gone.
00:09:16.080 So do you want to show him that you're a wife?
00:09:19.380 Because a man coming into it is showing you're ready.
00:09:21.500 I'm a husband.
00:09:21.780 If you want a promotion, don't you do the job that he gives you first?
00:09:25.260 All right.
00:09:25.280 Girl, come on. 1.00
00:09:26.100 Or do you say promote me with no work experience?
00:09:28.860 Because you know what?
00:09:30.260 Okay, one second.
00:09:31.120 Me and you are in a relationship or we're building up a relationship and then we go out
00:09:35.420 and then, I don't know, a gal beat you up or something happens, right, right.
00:09:39.840 I'm here to protect you, but I just stand there and just watch you.
00:09:42.920 When we go home now, what are you going to say to me?
00:09:44.460 But no one would, I mean, if no one would do that, you can't say no one because there's
00:09:49.440 man out here that's not going to protect you.
00:09:50.940 So our job is to protect someone.
00:09:53.700 A stranger would jump in and protect someone.
00:09:55.400 Okay, forget the semantics.
00:09:56.920 My job is to protect and provide for you.
00:09:58.700 If I don't protect you when I'm out with you and you're rolling out with me, when we
00:10:02.080 go home, what are you saying to me?
00:10:03.160 As in a fighting situation, that's not a good example.
00:10:07.920 Okay, whatever the situation where you need protecting and I don't protect you in that
00:10:12.140 situation, what are you doing after that situation?
00:10:14.780 I can't answer that question because I don't know what you mean by protecting.
00:10:17.580 You're deciding that he's not the one.
00:10:20.000 That doesn't make sense.
00:10:20.540 It's happened to me before.
00:10:21.920 There was like an accident in Costa Rica.
00:10:23.800 There was like a canoeing thing and a kayak thing and he didn't show up.
00:10:28.140 And I really questioned my future with this guy.
00:10:30.900 For me, it was done.
00:10:32.020 Done.
00:10:32.480 Cool.
00:10:32.660 Of course it's done.
00:10:33.460 Of course it is.
00:10:33.960 Yeah.
00:10:34.220 That's different.
00:10:34.720 He didn't show up.
00:10:35.400 I was polite about it.
00:10:36.480 But if you don't show your wife credentials to the man, what do you think he's going to
00:10:40.400 do?
00:10:40.560 The thing is, there's an extent, there's a limit.
00:10:42.620 You can't do everything because you don't know if that man's serious yet.
00:10:45.520 You don't know what's going on.
00:10:46.520 So you can't do everything.
00:10:47.700 And I'm not, you're not out here proofing that.
00:10:49.200 He's serious when he approached you.
00:10:50.360 Listen, he needs to prove to you that he's a good...
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