JustPearlyThings - April 30, 2023


How Single Mothers DESTROY their KIDS

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
King Rich Michael Mandana Madonna Girl Neda
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Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

191.88

Word count

1,811

Sentence count

231

Harmful content

Misogyny

18

sentences flagged

Toxicity

3

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Summary

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In this episode, the lads discuss what they would give up in exchange for a guy, and how they would treat a guy they were in love with. They also talk about the dangers of plastic surgery, and what they'd do if they had to give up their favourite things in order to be with someone they loved.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Girl's trips, would you give up girl's trips? 1.00
00:00:02.180 100%.
00:00:02.780 Yes, but I love my girl's trips.
00:00:06.640 Actually, tonight when I go home, I'm going to ask that.
00:00:10.560 Is it like going on a holiday?
00:00:12.000 I'm going to ask him if there's one thing he wants me to give up on,
00:00:16.680 what would it be?
00:00:17.840 I don't know, I should ask him tonight.
00:00:19.440 I think you should.
00:00:20.200 Exactly.
00:00:21.640 What if he came back and said, now that you asked.
00:00:24.780 Yeah, I've been thinking this and this.
00:00:27.940 Oh, well, no, it's actually interesting.
00:00:32.920 You make me kind of like aware of what's going on.
00:00:35.260 What about plastic surgery?
00:00:36.200 Would you get plastic surgery for a guy?
00:00:38.260 If, like I did my boob job because after I had Neda,
00:00:42.340 I just lost the fat because I lost weight.
00:00:44.920 And I did it for myself because I hated it and I wanted to do it.
00:00:49.020 But if I had to do it because of him, no, not really.
00:00:56.040 No, I'm scared of plastic surgery.
00:00:57.940 I mean, I did this 10 years ago, but now I'm getting older.
00:01:00.740 I'm scared of that sort of thing.
00:01:02.720 Okay.
00:01:03.640 Did you say what you would give up for a guy?
00:01:06.220 You know what?
00:01:06.700 This actually, this conversation made me think when I was younger,
00:01:10.380 we actually, we women, we do that. 1.00
00:01:12.720 We do give up things.
00:01:13.840 We, why do we dress a certain way to, for men to look at us?
00:01:19.340 And I think, you know, I think there was times when I was too conscious of,
00:01:24.740 I want to be a certain way so I can get the attention from men.
00:01:28.580 But now that's not the case anymore.
00:01:31.520 That's why I can speak freely about this.
00:01:33.960 If I would get plastic surgery, no.
00:01:37.800 Giving up things like my social media, my career.
00:01:42.020 Yes.
00:01:44.700 But when it comes to, I don't know, this is, it's just.
00:01:48.840 Well, I think it's the age as well.
00:01:50.500 Because I know I'm thinking when it was about 20, 25,
00:01:53.600 and I had a boyfriend and I fell in love with him.
00:01:55.840 And to be honest, I would have done anything.
00:01:58.340 But not now.
00:01:59.780 Were you more in love then?
00:02:01.600 Probably.
00:02:02.700 Okay.
00:02:03.160 So, so it sounds like for the, like the right guy, you would give up more.
00:02:09.500 Yeah.
00:02:10.620 I mean, I don't know.
00:02:12.020 Is it the age or am I wrong?
00:02:14.080 Is it the age?
00:02:15.060 I don't know.
00:02:15.600 It's just the love.
00:02:16.600 It's got to be the right guy.
00:02:17.580 It can't be only the guy.
00:02:20.020 It should be your age as well.
00:02:21.680 Yeah, but I think for me it was the opposite.
00:02:23.180 It was, I don't know, maybe like I was raised by a feminist mom and he was like,
00:02:27.700 don't get married, don't have kids, go and do what you want.
00:02:30.500 I know.
00:02:31.960 No, but she's very happy.
00:02:32.940 She's got a granddaughter. 0.65
00:02:34.260 I'm the only one out of her four kids who's given her a grandchild.
00:02:37.520 Could it be because when you get older, when you get more experience and you get more confident,
00:02:42.360 you kind of feel like, why do I have to do that?
00:02:44.940 Maybe because, maybe because he don't love you that much.
00:02:47.380 If I did have that mindset.
00:02:48.540 I don't call it, I don't, I don't think it's love only.
00:02:51.740 No.
00:02:52.060 I don't think I should do something because I should do my boob job because I love him
00:02:56.260 and he wants me to do it.
00:02:57.200 I don't call it love.
00:02:58.300 If he would really, truly love me, he would love me the way I look.
00:03:02.800 Yeah.
00:03:03.420 I'm not going to lie.
00:03:04.140 I've got a second there still.
00:03:04.520 That wouldn't be my ideal man.
00:03:05.980 I've got a second there, you know.
00:03:07.160 Would not want me to have a...
00:03:08.420 I just don't like any of that stuff anyway, but so...
00:03:11.360 I think I call it, I'm more mature in terms of making decision rather than just because
00:03:19.140 someone...
00:03:19.460 Like a cougar.
00:03:19.760 Maybe I would have...
00:03:21.180 Like, I have...
00:03:22.360 Maybe I would have told him...
00:03:23.880 Wait, wait, wait, blessing.
00:03:25.360 I have to give a statement.
00:03:29.640 Okay, is King...
00:03:30.720 Is Michael here?
00:03:33.520 Can you see if he'll take the show for like, while I go do it?
00:03:36.620 I have to give a police statement, I guess, for the lady. 0.76
00:03:38.640 She called the police.
00:03:39.460 Oh, I'm so sorry, pal.
00:03:41.680 Serious?
00:03:42.300 Yeah, but...
00:03:43.380 Guys, we're going to get King Richie's to take over the show.
00:03:47.060 Yes, King. 0.97
00:03:47.560 Um, it's ridiculous. 0.96
00:03:50.800 Seriously? 0.96
00:03:51.440 Did she call the police?
00:03:52.140 Yeah, I guess.
00:03:53.300 She couldn't just...
00:03:53.760 A lot of mercy.
00:03:55.480 Are you sure it's not a crackhead in a police outfit?
00:03:57.560 No.
00:04:01.240 Ah, what's going on?
00:04:02.520 What's going on?
00:04:03.720 I was right when I told her, calm down, when she spoke to me in a certain time.
00:04:06.940 I saw her and it was getting a bit spicy.
00:04:09.460 She was drunk already.
00:04:10.020 I've got to say.
00:04:10.760 She came here drunk. 1.00
00:04:11.640 Not from my side, I just said, calm down.
00:04:13.480 And she went...
00:04:14.180 No, no, I'm just saying, but the environment was just real spicy.
00:04:16.720 Don't you tell me like that, don't you?
00:04:17.580 Well, she just... 0.99
00:04:19.920 Yeah, she went off, man.
00:04:20.780 And then she was trying to say that I said that domestic abuse was okay.
00:04:24.460 I didn't even say anything.
00:04:25.360 I don't know where she got these ideas.
00:04:28.000 I think she was late on.
00:04:29.340 It's in my head.
00:04:30.760 She was saying a lot of crazy things.
00:04:32.320 And going off on random tangents as well.
00:04:34.600 And just not even just listening.
00:04:35.880 So how tall are you?
00:04:36.960 I wanted to hear, before I go, I wanted to hear.
00:04:39.220 So you said you had a feminist mother. 1.00
00:04:41.020 When did you...
00:04:41.760 Because you seem actually pretty based.
00:04:43.300 Like, so I'm like, you don't scream like feminism to me. 1.00
00:04:47.980 No, because I rebelled against my mom, finally.
00:04:51.540 Well, yeah, I was born 1980.
00:04:55.320 So I grew up in the 90s.
00:04:57.220 And yeah, moving from Iran to Sweden, my mom was like, woohoo, freedom.
00:05:03.620 Do what you want.
00:05:05.000 Was your mom a single mother?
00:05:07.380 Yeah, they split up when I was 12.
00:05:09.160 She divorced my dad and had two jobs, two, three jobs. 1.00
00:05:12.720 And, you know, really tried to provide for us.
00:05:14.560 Really good mom.
00:05:15.300 Amazing.
00:05:15.740 I love her.
00:05:16.940 But she really...
00:05:18.300 I said to her, my only complaint was like, you raised me based on ideologies that you had.
00:05:22.780 You know, I never really got you.
00:05:25.400 It was more what you believed in about, you know, being a feminist, being an atheist.
00:05:29.660 And so, yeah, and I, yeah, I'm definitely not a feminist.
00:05:37.880 So I'm curious, do you feel, did your mom ever get remarried?
00:05:41.960 No, she was with someone for like 20 years, but not, she didn't get remarried.
00:05:46.260 Oh, okay.
00:05:46.840 So I was just wondering if she had a better outcome or not.
00:05:50.080 I've always wondered about that when, sorry, my goodness.
00:05:52.800 No, and that's not direct to you personally, but because I grew up single parent home, but
00:05:57.220 I've always wondered where they told her, they were out there working two, three jobs
00:06:01.420 as a single mother and then telling her daughter to go out and do the same. 0.94
00:06:04.800 I just, I don't understand how.
00:06:06.920 Okay, guys.
00:06:07.440 I just didn't get it, man.
00:06:08.540 Did not make sense.
00:06:08.980 I mean, I've worked two, three jobs before and it's not fun.
00:06:11.840 Guys, I have to go give a police statement, so.
00:06:14.800 Real mystery.
00:06:15.860 I have to go give a police statement, so I'm going to let you host for a second.
00:06:18.720 Oh, wow.
00:06:19.060 Okay, yeah, this is King Rich's, he's one of the most talented.
00:06:26.160 Hello.
00:06:28.920 He has a show, anyways.
00:06:31.820 We're talking about what would you give up for the right guy.
00:06:34.540 Oh, light work.
00:06:35.980 Okay.
00:06:36.160 Light work.
00:06:37.780 Okay.
00:06:40.400 Wow.
00:06:41.800 What's going on, people?
00:06:43.040 What are you saying?
00:06:43.660 I don't see you, all right?
00:06:44.440 So, where am I picking up?
00:06:47.280 Like, what was the current conversation?
00:06:49.800 What's she going to give up? 0.95
00:06:51.460 Mandana was saying about how her mother raised her based on ideologies and she never really
00:06:57.680 got her.
00:06:58.700 But then we was talking, this lady, right here, this young lady, was talking about her experiences
00:07:03.380 with her mother.
00:07:04.800 Being raised, yeah, as a feminist, so. 1.00
00:07:07.820 Oh, your mum was a feminist? 1.00
00:07:10.100 Yes.
00:07:10.740 And she tried to install that programming into you? 0.53
00:07:13.460 She did.
00:07:14.080 Did you accept it or reject it?
00:07:16.040 Well, I went along with it and growing up, like I was saying, I was, you know, born 1980
00:07:19.620 and then being a teenager in the 90s, Madonna and, you know, all of that.
00:07:24.040 She's a high material girl.
00:07:25.840 Yeah.
00:07:26.440 Vogue in the material world.
00:07:28.440 Yeah.
00:07:29.340 Yeah.
00:07:29.820 Went along with that.
00:07:31.300 And then, you know, someone mentioned Neo, independent woman, you know, the music kind of huge.
00:07:36.360 Yeah.
00:07:36.540 Carmen mentioned that had a huge impact.
00:07:38.460 And yeah, I thought that was the right way.
00:07:41.520 So I worked hard.
00:07:43.040 I mean, literally in my 20s, I worked like 78 hours a week.
00:07:47.240 I loved my job.
00:07:48.000 Absolutely loved it.
00:07:49.960 And then I did settle down with the guy, but I didn't get married because that wasn't a value.
00:07:55.940 Like my mum was like, don't worry about getting married. 1.00
00:07:58.160 I have kids.
00:07:58.660 Just live your life.
00:07:59.720 Maybe not like that.
00:08:00.700 So your mum was like, yeah, just go out there, get money and live your movie.
00:08:05.040 Yeah.
00:08:05.960 So like, how do you feel about that now?
00:08:07.860 Do you feel like she might have steered you in the wrong direction?
00:08:16.200 You can be real, man.
00:08:17.420 She's not here.
00:08:18.000 It's okay.
00:08:18.680 I know.
00:08:18.960 She might have seen it.
00:08:20.000 No, I love my mum.
00:08:21.520 And, you know, she's a... 0.99
00:08:23.100 You can love your mum, but your mum still can be wrong, you know?
00:08:25.640 Yeah, absolutely.
00:08:26.380 And I do tell her that every day.
00:08:28.340 Bless her. 0.97
00:08:29.200 If you had your time again, would you?
00:08:30.940 No, I would get married.
00:08:34.500 I would have gotten married.
00:08:36.300 But, yeah.
00:08:38.460 Stayed married?
00:08:39.460 And stayed married.
00:08:40.300 Would you have married after your daughter's husband?
00:08:41.700 I was with my daughter's dad for, what, 12 years.
00:08:45.940 Do you think he should have been your husband?
00:08:48.640 Do you know, like in the beginning, like when he mentioned marriage, I was like, oh, I don't
00:08:51.340 want to get married.
00:08:52.000 Forget that.
00:08:52.840 Oh, snap. 0.99
00:08:53.500 Yeah, and I never really understood like the value in getting married.
00:08:59.140 But I think like actually giving your word, giving your word that you are going to stick
00:09:03.700 with this person, I think that will make a bigger difference in actually making it work.
00:09:09.840 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on
00:09:16.640 this platform.
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